my cap confuses me!!! CAP MEN HELP

Well, I won't talk ur head off. First I will say cap and I have been in a relationship for 9 mos. Long distance. He tells me he loves me everyday, sends me money when I need it, always asking me will I marry him, sings love songs to me over the phone, always calls me Mrs. Jones, yet and still he poofs sometimes!!! I hate it, I've told him that I hate it. And he says he goes through depression and one day he'll really explain it to me. But he still will disappear with no phone calls for a few days. It makes me second guess his love for me. I'd hate to walk away but it is hard enough dealing with the distance and when he avts like that I start thinking all kinds of stuff. Then he says I think toooo much. How can cap men be so distant to the lady they love— He says he loves me a whole lot more than me. Right now he's been off the radar for 5 days. What tha!!!!!!! CAP MEN HELP A SISTA OUT!I don't want to leave if he truly loves me and want to marry me because I truly love him.

Thing with Caps is that when they are depressed / upset, they become very withdrawn and prefer to bottle things up and keep it to themselves - its almost as if we are ashamed, and feel that we are burdoning others by revealing the problems. But then again, we also get over things almost as quickly as we become depressed about them - your cap man sounds like he is maybe quite insecure about himself - if i were you I would just let him know you are there for him if he needs you, but give him space when he is in one of his moods - he may feel intruded otherwise. We are a sulky bunch, and need lots of re-assurance!

It's not so easy to keep giving him space. You know us gemini's, it is hard to keep backing up when you love someone. I'm not sure if the poofing means he's not interested or he is really depressed. I've been on a roller coaster with him. Oh he also don't mind working hard and have sex later. And I mean LATER!! Capripants, is it normal for a cap to be in love but act cool about it? Are they honest about there feelings for you?

Well it definitely sounds like he loves you ? the fact he mentions marriage to you, no man would mention marriage if they weren?t interested!
How often do you actually see eachother? Also, what does he do for a living? With the work and sex later thing, one of caps most prominent traits is ambition, especially the guys, most are workaholics!
Again, the disappearing act when he?s depressed is typical and I don?t really think there is anything you can do but wait until he feels that you have reached the point the point in your relationship where he feels comfortable in sharing them with you. I don?t think this will be any reflection on you so try not to take it personally, easier said than done I know.

To me, it sounds as though he is doubting he is good enough for you, and doesn?t want you to think he is weak, therefore hiding these problems he is having.

Okay I understand what ur sayin because I feel that way alot. But, I always want to talk to him, We're a couple and it's hard to go along with him being quiet without any warning. I don't want to be a fool either. He wanted this relationship, he openly asked for it, persued me and all. But I afraid to keep going with him because I never know when he will vanish. Everything would be great, he calls alot to say I love you, great conversations, and then poof. He really expects me to understand him. Cap men want you to understand them without helping you understand. When I start to understand he vanishes and ignore my calls, then I don't understand him anymore. 9 Mos of this, I love him yall but I am scared as he@#!!! He keeps coming back sayin "BABY i NEVER LEFT YOU"oooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhh Goooodddddddd!!!!

We see eachother every two mons for now until he starts back working on the east coast, which will be soon. He says he feels bad about not seeing me enough. I'VE NEVER been with a guy who worked so hard and puts money first. I guess I never looked at him as being insecure cause he never had a problem with getting a women before. This is just a weird situation. I guess I am really afraid that when he's missing, he's with someone.I am hoping and praying he's not telling me he love me and he don't. That would me cold blooded!!!!!!!!I try to keep my mind clear of negative things but when he gets quiet I think he's having a change of heart and I get nervous and think of a way out before I get hurt. I am a believer of actions speaks louder than words. I don't want to leave him if he loves me, soooo how do you really know if a cap man wants you? How will a cap man ever make it to the alter when he poofs so much—

I guess the only way he is gonna make it to the altar is-if you do a permanent poofing.
He will only know how bad it feels if he gets a taste of his own medicine. Only if u scare him that u are gonna quit; is he gonna get serious abt u. Sad but thats the way it works with 'em.

Thanks bittertaurus. It is sad but that's about it. That 's the only way