Been with this man for almost 2yrs we have a 3mo old together. I broke it off 7 mos ago due to his immaturity & cheating lying ways. It pained me to do so but I couldn't keep allowing myself to get hurt. I longed for him the whole time but tried to block him out of my life. Contact stopped & he disappeared. Finally 2 mos ago he pops up looking for me & our baby. Me still being brutally hurt refused to meet with him for 1 not knowing his intentions we fought very bad & 2 cuz I wasn't completely over him. So I ignore him for a month but yearn for him even more since I know hes looking for me. Christmas comes & I get in touch with him we finally meet up & its like we were never separated. He's back to calling me bae holding me telling me he loves me but still saying he doesn't want to hurt me again he doesn't want a relationship. I completely pour my heart out to him which as a Capricorn was the hardest thing I've ever done & he barely acknowledged it. Then I get pissed cuz he doesn't even speak on it so I start an argument over his insensitivity to my feelings. He says he's got too much stuff going on right now he's not ready to talk about his feelings yet. So we argue some more he keeps telling me he loves me but doesn't want to discuss his feelings right now then blocks me from contacting him. So here I sit broken hearted again & confused cuz how does his actions of acting like he did before we broke up & him telling me he loves me go with him not wanting a relationship & him not being ready to express his feelings???? I feel like a fool!
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May 25, 2012Comments: 122 · Posts: 5590 · Topics: 41
I'm sorry you're experiencing this and its a tragedy. This really isn't an issue of astrology but more about maturity.
My advice to you is to try to keep it on a friendship level for your child. That's first and foremost. Hopefully one day he will step up and be responsible. Put aside any feelings of wanting a relationship because he's unlikely to change until he chooses to and you don't have time to wait. But talk to him about helping you with your child first and foremost. Focus on that only.
Good luck
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Jan 25, 2012Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685
I agree with LetitB.
Why did you pour your heart out after being told he didn't want a relationship? That's not normally a risk a capricorn would take. You should have expected the result wouldn't be what you wanted it to be. But, oh, well. It is what it is. The guy is very, very young and immature. He's not ready to grow up yet and now he's a father with responsibilities he's just not ready for and not mature enough to handle. Was the baby an accident or planned?
Does he have a job? Does he pay child support?
Focus on raising your child and giving that baby all the good things it deserves. Be friendly, but not romantic, with the father for the sake of the baby. Give your child a drama free and secure life.
Good luck!
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Jan 25, 2012Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685
Wait. I take that good luck back. You're 27 and he's 20 and you've been together for two years?
So, you were 25 messing with an 18 year old boy. If a 25 year old was messing with my 18 year old, we'd would have us a come to Jesus meetin' out behind the wood shed.
He's not even old enough to go to the bar and you're expecting him to act like a grown ass man.
Well, guess what, he's NOT a grown ass man and he's just acting his age.