One lover or multiple lovers (what's your style?)

Posted by CherryOnTop
When she reached out for help in the middle of a crisis, NONE of these men came to help her but she still continues to sleep with them. I was speechless. I really didn't know what to say. I felt very sad for her quite honestly.

Posted by HazardousWalk
This idea reminds me of some weird analogies I make up:
Think of large glass of water. OR maybe a gallon of water! That will represent your love/commitment to someone.
Now you have seeds in flower pots. That will be your "lovers"
If you spend all your time, slowly and accurately feeding 1 pot, it will eventually grow into some pretty gorgeous thing of mother nature.
Now if you divide your water up with 7 or so plants, each will get what they want, but eventually, you wont see as much progress or symbolism to your hard work.

Posted by CherryOnTop

Posted by HazardousWalk
This idea reminds me of some weird analogies I make up:
Think of large glass of water. OR maybe a gallon of water! That will represent your love/commitment to someone.
Now you have seeds in flower pots. That will be your "lovers"
If you spend all your time, slowly and accurately feeding 1 pot, it will eventually grow into some pretty gorgeous thing of mother nature.
Now if you divide your water up with 7 or so plants, each will get what they want, but eventually, you wont see as much progress or symbolism to your hard work.

That's a beautiful analogy.

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Posted by TaurusBadGirl
I could not be with more than 1 person at a time, I believe it's plain nasty. if you dont respect yourself, you can't expect anyone else to do it either.

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Posted by RealTalk
Obviously that woman is a nasty whore who doesn't give a damn about herself. She has no morals, values, integrity, or any respect for herself whatsoever. She is obviously very insecure & unhappy with herself. That's just nasty as hell. But anyway. NO. Hell no. I'm not a cheater & prefer to be in a relationship with only 1 person.

That's kind of ironic because your comment reeks of insecurity to me, lol.

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Posted by TasteOfChaosss
Gang bangs FTW

Posted by aliennation
I'd be open to the idea if STD spread wasn't of an exponential nature.
So there'd have to be strict rules. I brought up the idea of an open relationship to my ex Scorp, and he flipped the f.ck out on me.
Anyway. I'm sorry for your friend, but with FWBs, knowing boundaries and expectatiions is key.
I'd never reach out to a f.ck buddy for loyalty/support - f.ck buddies are strictly within the realm of physical pleasure and frivolous play. For true blue support, that's what close friends are for. People who you've been friends with and proved themselves to you *before* you started horsing around, if ever.
Honestly, I'm surprised she still associates with them, after being let down like that. Even if she should've expected it, I'm surprised her own self-respect would allow her to return to those who proved their lack of respect for her.

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Posted by RealTalk
Obviously that woman is a nasty whore who doesn't give a damn about herself. She has no morals, values, integrity, or any respect for herself whatsoever. She is obviously very insecure & unhappy with herself. That's just nasty as hell. But anyway. NO. Hell no. I'm not a cheater & prefer to be in a relationship with only 1 person.

That's kind of ironic because your comment reeks of insecurity to me, lol.

That's kind of ironic because your comment reeks of a bitch who fucked more than one guy at a time, lol.

Wait... Little Miss Naughty... are you saying you're a girl? Then why do you talk like some ghetto gangbanger straight out of Compton? ...classy. And also your name is more than a little hypocritical given your judgemental attitude towards open relationships. Hey, maybe they don't teach consistency down in the ghetto where you obviously hail from

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Posted by Jesse91
one person at a time! mostly cuz i'm the type of dude that wants to assign deep meanings to everything lol if my heart's not 100% into whatever i'm doing, then i'll just feel like a fake. i don't feel comfortable using people for sex and things like that.
and also like ruthless says, time is money and i'm gonna use it wisely. i don't want to go through life half-assing things (especially relationships with other people) cuz life is not a joke. you can still have fun without sleeping around. i mean i don't have anything against those people who wanna juggle multiple lovers at once cuz it's not like what they're doing is affecting my life directly so i got no reason to care lol

Posted by piscesSweetheart
before i got commited i met 2 guys one was taurus and the other 1 was a scorpio
both said they loved me but i wasnt happy with them could not have much feelings for them
but i used to talk with taurus guy on phone and with the scorpio guy i went for a date once.
its because i wasnt sure about both of them actually. i wanted someone who wont leave me soon.
then i found another taurus guy he was actually too good and he made me think as if he was the only guy in the world for me. he is so perfect for me. actually its really great to have one person in life with whom i can share almost everything.

Posted by aquaj
I am anticipating yet another overly-aggressive response which indicates a heightened masculinity. I guess I should let you know now that I probably won't bother to read it or respond. Feel free to vent some more, though. Anything to keep the crime rate lower in your ghetto

Posted by ScorpioHubby
i used to have multiple women, until i met my wife. she made me want to change and she taught me sex is not love. i thought i was giving love to the womem i had; it was just sex. i didnt know about love and giving my all to one person until she came in my life. now since we been together, it's just been her in my life and i've calmed my ways down drastically. im happy and wish for no other.

Posted by missscorps
Scorp here....I can only love one.....very few and far in between. I need that deep connection, the bonding, the spiritual, the emotional, the sharing....its a gift I dont take lighly....fly by nights with no bonding connection simply not my style . I would much rather be alone loving myself, just not my style .

Posted by aquaj
LibNicole I LOVE your new pic!

Posted by Sag89
Sleeping with a bunch of people isn't the only sign of dysfunction. I know plenty people who have had 3 lovers or less and they have the most fucked up relationships.
Cause it's not really about what a person does as much is it is about who they are.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by Sag89
Sleeping with a bunch of people isn't the only sign of dysfunction. I know plenty people who have had 3 lovers or less and they have the most fucked up relationships.
Cause it's not really about what a person does as much is it is about who they are.

That's probably too real for people to get.

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Posted by P-Angel
I am unlike everyone here who posted, and commented on their love being their way, or no way.
Mine is quite the opposite, in that I consider what my partner needs in love.
If s/he has a fantasy that involves another, or others .. then I want to give that, since s/he is a participant in the love.

Posted by P-Angel
I am unlike everyone here who posted, and commented on their love being their way, or no way.
Mine is quite the opposite, in that I consider what my partner needs in love.
If s/he has a fantasy that involves another, or others .. then I want to give that, since s/he is a participant in the love.

Posted by MelanieG

Posted by P-Angel
I am unlike everyone here who posted, and commented on their love being their way, or no way.
Mine is quite the opposite, in that I consider what my partner needs in love.
If s/he has a fantasy that involves another, or others .. then I want to give that, since s/he is a participant in the love.

just because someone is not into having open relationships, it doesnt make them selfish. most people choose to be traditional. there's nothing wrong with that. and those who are into open relationships can just mingle amongst themselves and same goes for those who aren't into that type of arrangement. neither group is selfish so i don't know what you're on about.

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Posted by CherryOnTop
You know how certain people are naturally open to the idea of juggling multiple partners at the same time and might even find it thrilling whereas others might find that idea shocking and perhaps even fickle and immoral? Some people can easily hop from one partner to the next without much pause or thought or anything and are totally fine with superficial relationships whereas others like to stick to just one person and try to cultivate a deep connection with them.
I know this woman who keeps at least 7 lovers at her disposal at all times. She'll choose who to spend time with on any given day/week depending on her mood or who can offer her whatever she needs at the time (be it money, intellect, or good looks). She says she's been this way since she was a teen. I was sort of surprised that she was so nonchalant about all this. The men that she's dating are all like this too. They have other women on the side.
I asked her if she ever felt used or empty and she said no. When she reached out for help in the middle of a crisis, NONE of these men came to help her but she still continues to sleep with them. I was speechless. I really didn't know what to say. I felt very sad for her quite honestly.
But this is the way she chooses to live her life so who am I to openly pass judgement? Especially since she's a grown woman in her 30's who's fully capable of making her own decisions.

So anyhow I'm wondering what separates these two types of people. Which one are you and why?

Posted by PurrrrHissss
Just one for me. I have absolutely no interest in being with more than one person at a time. I could also never "share" someone because I am way too jealous and possessive. Oh, and if I were with someone who suggested an open relationship, I would be enraged and freak out just like aliennation's boyfriend did. I have Venus in Leo and feel that whoever I'm with should love and want me and ONLY me or GTFO, because when I'm with someone, that's how I am.

Posted by Theultra79
Just one. I like passion. It's hard to have that with more than one person at a time. And, I'm too much of a romantic for multiples.
Not that there's anything wrong with that.
Lol