Opinions on breaks

This topic was created in the Relationships & Astrology forum by Scorpio72 on Friday, June 21, 2013 and has 78 replies.
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I just wanted to see what you all thought of when someone you're dating or in a relationship asks for a "Break". Guy I've been seeing has asked for a "break" for a few weeks. Keep in mind, I only see him like once a week but EVERY DAY at work (we work together but in different office buildings).
I've heard different opinions, read different articles. Just want your opinions of how you would take someone asking for a "break".
His sign Taurus Sun/Gemini Moon/Venus in Cancer
My sign Scorpio Sun/Aqua moon/Venus in Libra
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Sometimes breaks can be a good thing. It gives the couple a chance to see themselves without each other. Sometimes breaks happen because someone wants space or time to figure out things (which is normal). Other times, a "break" is just a step before the "break-up". Some people will use a "break" as an excuse or an "easy way out". I guess it just depends on the couple; if they know they are meant to be together they will get back together, but more than likely a break happens because someone/both of them feel like they are growing apart. Every relationship is worth the fight. It's just up to them if they want to put on the armor or not.
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Posted by Scorpio72
I've heard different opinions, read different articles. Just want your opinions of how you would take someone asking for a "break".
His sign Taurus Sun/Gemini Moon/Venus in Cancer
My sign Scorpio Sun/Aqua moon/Venus in Libra




Different opinions on why someone they don't know, and have only gotten two sentences about him to actually get where he comes from ... is completely irrelevant, and has no bearing whatsoever on why he wants to do something.
So, asking this question serves no purpose at all, except to fill you with imaginings you haven't thought of yet.
How illogical.
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I've just read that when a guy says he wants a "break" that it means he's just not that into you or that interested anymore. I get that breaks can be healthy, I've just never really had someone take a break from me. There are circumstances that have came up that I'm sure he can not control that has lead him to the "break" but to shut me out like he has is not normal. This was Monday night when he asked for the break and I haven't heard from him since first thing Tuesday morning when we were texting about it. I do think that it was hugely disrespectful that he asked for the break via text and not in person or at least called me. He laid no ground rules for the break as in if there can be contact or if I can see other guys. I just think it's strange that just a week prior to this (the last time I saw him) that he was telling me how crazy he was about me, how much he missed me when we were apart and told me "You ARE mine!". I'm just trying to wrap my head around the wishy washiness of the whole thing. I'm just doing my own thing for now and if he decides to come back around in a few weeks, then it will be my call whether I even want to pursue it again with him. To be honest, guys who do this in the way that he did, is actually a huge turn-off for me. I know he's not doing this to see other women because he is just too busy with work to pursue anything else.
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What you should be doing is asking yourself:

Why didn't I know he needed a break from me? I need to do a serious evaluation to find out how he could want a break from me, and it flew right over my head.
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Posted by Scorpio72
I've heard different opinions, read different articles. Just want your opinions of how you would take someone asking for a "break".
His sign Taurus Sun/Gemini Moon/Venus in Cancer
My sign Scorpio Sun/Aqua moon/Venus in Libra



To clarify, I just wanted peoples' opinions on "breaks". If they agreed with them, if they didn't...that's all. I only put our signs because this is an astrology board...

Different opinions on why someone they don't know, and have only gotten two sentences about him to actually get where he comes from ... is completely irrelevant, and has no bearing whatsoever on why he wants to do something.
So, asking this question serves no purpose at all, except to fill you with imaginings you haven't thought of yet.
How illogical.
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Posted by P-Angel
What you should be doing is asking yourself:

Why didn't I know he needed a break from me? I need to do a serious evaluation to find out how he could want a break from me, and it flew right over my head.


Let's try this again....
To clarify, I just wanted peoples' opinions on "breaks". If they agreed with them, if they didn't...that's all. I only put our signs because this is an astrology board...
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I'm not sleeping around nor is he. I just wanted to know if people here would ACCEPT a "break" or not...it's just that simple.
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Posted by CluelessCancer
My opinion:
Very healthy as long as it's not long term!
it makes you assess your relationship, you, and him.
it's good thing to take a breather.


Thank you for being nice and actually answering the original question. He said "few weeks" instead of just a "break" without a time limit on it. I see him at work which makes it really awkward....
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Posted by CluelessCancer

Also note, Taurus move mad slow, like turtles. Give him time. Be easy. Don't do anything a water sign will do. Just relax. Joke. Be happy.


LOL!!! I believe that about Taurus's and am trying not to do anything erratic. I have left him alone except I did text him saying that I didn't like the awkwardness at work because we both ran into each other at work this morning and everyone could feel the tension from both of us. He never did reply to my text so I'm just going to completely leave him alone. His Gemini moon is what kills me because he flip flops soooo much with me. lol
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Posted by kalin
I'd just get mad if someone says he needs a breakLaughing


My emotions are all over the place right now cause I just don't get it..and to be honest, I'm about tired of trying to understand it. I don't get how you can tell someone how crazy you are about them, how much you miss them when you're not with them and how they are your...to just turn around less than a week later saying you need a break from that very same person!! I just don't feel that he's being very forthcoming with what is actually going on, but the truth will come out soon enough so I'm just going to do my own thing for now and if he decides to come back around, I will then make the decision as to whether I want to continue with someone who seems to think my heart has a revolving door on it. Why do people not understand that when you ask for a break from them, that it changes the whole dynamics of any future the relationship has?? If you want out, just ask and I will open the door that you came in!
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Wont do em
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Posted by Scorpio72
Posted by kalin
I'd just get mad if someone says he needs a breakLaughing


My emotions are all over the place right now cause I just don't get it..and to be honest, I'm about tired of trying to understand it. I don't get how you can tell someone how crazy you are about them, how much you miss them when you're not with them and how they are your...to just turn around less than a week later saying you need a break from that very same person!! I just don't feel that he's being very forthcoming with what is actually going on, but the truth will come out soon enough so I'm just going to do my own thing for now and if he decides to come back around, I will then make the decision as to whether I want to continue with someone who seems to think my heart has a revolving door on it. Why do people not understand that when you ask for a break from them, that it changes the whole dynamics of any future the relationship has?? If you want out, just ask and I will open the door that you came in!
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Because he has NO idea what he wants. He's thinking selfishly here.
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I'm so glad that I'm not the only one who thinks he's being selfish. Ugh!!! I guess it's my Venus in Libra that's always wanting "balance" in relationships which keeps me from being selfish. Actually, I will give and give and give without receiving, but then all of a sudden I begin to resent them for not reciprocating anything.
LOL@CluelessCancer!! Yea, I've thought about it several times of flipping the script on him, even before this whole "break" thing! His ignoring some of my texts, even the stupid and funny ones that I sent just to make him smile...thought about ignoring some of his. BUT OH NO!!!! The times I have taken longer than 5 min to reply, he sends another text with some snide undertone. For instance, when he text me Monday night saying "I need a break. Just for a few weeks. Any chance of that?", I didn't reply initially because I didn't know what to say, then he text me again 5 min later saying "No comment?" WTF??? First, who ASKS for a break?? Didn't seem I had much of a choice, did it?? Secondly, what a hypocrite!! There's times he won't reply to me for HOURS, sometimes never!! But I don't reply within FIVE MINUTES and he's got his panties in a wad!!! Thirdly, who in the hell TEXTS to discuss a break in the relationship??? Isn't that usually done face to face?? And no, I'm not an emotional crazy person that would've wigged out in him face to face. Finally, I only saw him once a week, so what the hell would he need a break FROM??? I didn't smother or chase after him. So when I finally reply and we go back and forth about this whole "break" thing, he made the comment a few times "If you can't want that long, I understand." and "I need some time for me. Don't overthink it. If not, I understand." UNDERSTAND?? Hell, I'm glad one of us understands because it sure isn't me! And I have found that when someone says not to do something like him saying "Don't overthink it." that's when you actually need to do what they are telling you not to do! I'm just baffled. The last time I was physically alone with him, he had my face in his hands kissing me goodbye and saying that he would see me shortly at work. So, yea, I think IF/WHEN he comes back, it will be my turn to "extend" the "break". Oh and I must tell you all that Tuesday and Wednesday (asked for break Monday night), he showed in my office building, which is very small, more times in those two days than he has in the last two months! If you want a break from someone, don't
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Posted by starlover
But dont men go into their cave from time to time (another word for break i guess)? Isnt it healthy to have time away from each other sometimes? Maybe you try and approach it differently, as in it is probably healthy and meant to be?
I have been asked for a break from my lover ~ it usually lasted for a day or two with him ~ no big deal ~ in fact i asked for one from him a while back and it lasted some time, but it didnt affect the relationship.
Just my observations
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I could understand it if we were together all the time but I only see him once a week and there are alot of days that we dont even text. So a break from what?? Plus, the initial reason he gave me for the break was different than the reason he gave me 10 min later afer rhe first reason. Tired of trying to understand it. And why ignore the one texr I had sent after 4 days of the break??
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Posted by Scorpio72
Let's try this again....
To clarify, I just wanted peoples' opinions on "breaks". If they agreed with them, if they didn't...that's all. I only put our signs because this is an astrology board...




You're so full of shit .. you didn't just ask this question to get opinions ... you posed this question to get people to agree with you, in calling this guy out.
In reality, nobody knows this guy and nobody knows the actual story .... we do know that you had no clue to him wanting to leave you.

Posted by Scorpio72
I'm so glad that I'm not the only one who thinks he's being selfish.

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Posted by P-Angel
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Let's try this again....
To clarify, I just wanted peoples' opinions on "breaks". If they agreed with them, if they didn't...that's all. I only put our signs because this is an astrology board...



One thing I have never been is "full of shit". And I DID want peoples opinions on breaks. I can call him out ony own if I need to, I dont need "back up" to do so. And please dont use the word "we" when you seem to be only speaking for you. No one else seems to have your same opinion. If he has left me, then fine. I only elaborated on the situation to give people a better idea of what is going on. I didnt come on here with bitterness. I only wanted opinions of "breaks" and how people viewed them.


You're so full of shit .. you didn't just ask this question to get opinions ... you posed this question to get people to agree with you, in calling this guy out.
In reality, nobody knows this guy and nobody knows the actual story .... we do know that you had no clue to him wanting to leave you.

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I'm so glad that I'm not the only one who thinks he's being selfish.



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It depends. There were a lot of times during my last relationship that I wanted a break but my SO clung tighter. He was extremely emotional over it so I didn't go through with it. I should have. I probably would have dropped him for good which I eventually did.
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Well, I haven't initiated contact with him since he "asked" for the break. He text me last night asking about my weekend but that was about it. Nothing about us or what has been going on. Oh well...
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I have only had a break once, initiated because he was mad at me. It was positive for that particular situation because he was able to work through his anger and come back convinced that he wanted to make us work. Outside of those circumstances I don't buy into them though. There should be enough space between you in a relationship for a break to be completely unnecessary. If there isn't then someone is feeling smothered and that has probably killed any chance of them seeing you as desirable again. At that stage when they request a "break", they really want a "break up" but don't know how to say it.
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Personally I won't ask for a "break" in a relationship if nothing's wrong. What is the sense? A gap in the relationship? If you truly care/love someone you wouldn't want to be separated from that person.??
A "break" for me means "end of relationship". I will never take someone back again into my life if he perfectly knows "break" is a part of the relationship especially if he does not give a valid reason. what else are you capable of doing in the relationship aside from the "break" without valid reason?...??
A breather... That means "suffocation", someone in the relationship is being suffocated (of what? How?) a grown up mind fully realize that having a relationship( a healthy one) is about talking things over together and acting on it together instead of having a single journey to ponder things over and act on it solely which is selfish and immature.??
(that is a broader thought for your original question)??
*just my two cents* smile
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My apologies for taking so long to reply to you all, been busy with work and home.
I don't know why he needed a break. I didn't suffocate him at all. I would let him initiate texting and would see him when he initiated it. I did want more time with him but I never really pushed it. I only saw him like once a week outside of work (we work together). He's super busy with work and has been forced to take in a roommate that is his employee by their company. We are in construction and he is from out of town, so he stays in a company apartment here. This is employee of his requires alot of mentoring which puts stress on my Taurus.
I haven't heard from him since Sunday night when he text me asking how was my weekend. I did text him Monday night something from Facebook that was funny and he never replied. Well, I take his no response, even though we are on a "break for a few weeks" as he put it, as he's done with me and the relationship. So last night I deleted all his texts, pics and contact info. I don't care what kind of break you are on, there is no excuse for ignoring me several times in the past few weeks. He's such a hypocrite because the times he's THOUGHT I was ignoring him, he would send me another text with some bs whininess about me not replying within his "response time" of 10 minutes. For instance, one night about a month ago, he text me out of the blue "Goodnight then" and I could just hear his snippiness in the text and replied "Huh?". He said "OH sorry, thought I had text you earlier." WTF?? He thought I had ignored a text that he actually never sent. He's done that several times of getting all bent out of shape because he thinks I'm ignoring him but I wasn't. I'm just done. He wanted a "break", well he's getting one, just probably not what he wanted, a PERMANENT break! So when he comes sniffing around again, I have nothing for him to smell.
Btw, thank you all for your responses, advice and comments.
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Posted by Scorpio72
I'm not sleeping around nor is he. I just wanted to know if people here would ACCEPT a "break" or not...it's just that simple.


I would not accept a break.
I have done this in the past with an ex boyfriend. I suggested we take a break because I wasn't really sure about him and I was keeping my options open.
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We are not seeing other people. I know for a fact he isn't, he's just really busy with work/training for triathlon. I'm not pursuing anyone else either. He said he just wanted to take a break for a few weeks so he could figure things out. I'm done with it because of his hypocritical ignoring me. I don't deserve to be treated like that, break or not. I haven't bugged him during the break. He's the one who text me out of the blue Sunday night.
Sorry, if that comes across as defensive but that wasn't my intention, just giving you all the full picture. smile
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Posted by ninjutsu
Yeah I wouldn't be into a break if he wanted to use that time to "think about it". It's feasibly endurable if he's sorting himself or something in his life out, but if he wants time away from us to reflect -on us- then he can just cut the cord as far as I'm concerned.


I know he's got alot going on in his life and that's why I was "Ok. Fine, take the time you need." at first. BUT what just did me in was him ignoring two of my texts during this break BUT I know for a fact, from previous times, that he would've gotten his panties in a wad IF I had ignored him Sunday night. NOBODY deserves to be ignored. NOBODY!!!!
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I would tell him to take a break as long as he wanted. Smile and walk away.
When he is finished with his break and he decides to call you, don't pick up.
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Posted by aquapiscescusp
I would tell him to take a break as long as he wanted. Smile and walk away.
When he is finished with his break and he decides to call you, don't pick up.



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Yeah I wouldn't be into a break if he wanted to use that time to "think about it". It's feasibly endurable if he's sorting himself or something in his life out, but if he wants time away from us to reflect -on us- then he can just cut the cord as far as I'm concerned.


I know he's got alot going on in his life and that's why I was "Ok. Fine, take the time you need." at first. BUT what just did me in was him ignoring two of my texts during this break BUT I know for a fact, from previous times, that he would've gotten his panties in a wad IF I had ignored him Sunday night. NOBODY deserves to be ignored. NOBODY!!!!


Yeah, I don't blame you for having an issue with it, sounds as if he's well and truly opting out emotionally. Were they texts that really necessitated a response though?
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Well let's just say this was not the only time he's "ignored" my communications. It's like when it's convenient for him. I would never ignore someone, even if it's just a funny text. I'm just figuring out exactly how selfish he is,,it's all about him.
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Posted by ninjutsu
Well that insight should make it easier for you to let go at least, because that's a pretty unattractive trait in a person imo.. And yeah, you sent two texts over a generous time period so he could have acknowledged them. It's not like you were inundating him every five minutes..


Yea ONLY two texts in a weeks time! One stating I didn't like the awkwardness at work and the other one being funny of which I had sent him the night after he had contacted me on Sunday.
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Posted by PurrrrrrHissssss
Personally, the only time I've asked for a "break" was when a relationship was driving me completely nuts and I knew it wouldn't work out, but just didn't have the balls to permanently end it yet.


I would get that IF he had just said "I need a break" but he said "I need a break. Just a few weeks.". Why put a time limit on the break you're asking for IF you are intending it be a permanent break??? His Moon in Gemini will be the death of him and anyone that gets close to him....
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Personally, the only time I've asked for a "break" was when a relationship was driving me completely nuts and I knew it wouldn't work out, but just didn't have the balls to permanently end it yet.


I would get that IF he had just said "I need a break" but he said "I need a break. Just a few weeks.". Why put a time limit on the break you're asking for IF you are intending it be a permanent break??? His Moon in Gemini will be the death of him and anyone that gets close to him....


I don't know. Did he sleep around much before you got together?
Yeah, Gemini moons scare me a little bit.
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No, he didn't sleep around. His Gemini moon just causes him to be extremely wishy washy! He's actually told me a few times that he loves me but then a day later he retracts it??? WTFE!! He's just confused and has many issues, mental!! Sad
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Thank you. I take full ownership for staying in such a toxic situation for the amount of time I have with him. I don't think he's disloyal, his Taurus sun keeps him loyal in general. I would just he's more of this......

LOL!!!!!
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Posted by lualibra
you have to have GREAT communication and respect for each other to be able to differentiate between taking a break to heal the relationship or taking a break cause you're eyeballing that light at the end of the tunnel


And me being a Libra, I'm the communicator trying to seek balance and justice. I just got tired of trying to get a straight answer out of him. I'm done trying...the ball is in his court now.
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you have to have GREAT communication and respect for each other to be able to differentiate between taking a break to heal the relationship or taking a break cause you're eyeballing that light at the end of the tunnel


And me being a Libra, I'm the communicator trying to seek balance and justice. I just got tired of trying to get a straight answer out of him. I'm done trying...the ball is in his court now.
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I thought you were a Scorp?
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you have to have GREAT communication and respect for each other to be able to differentiate between taking a break to heal the relationship or taking a break cause you're eyeballing that light at the end of the tunnel


And me being a Libra, I'm the communicator trying to seek balance and justice. I just got tired of trying to get a straight answer out of him. I'm done trying...the ball is in his court now.


I thought you were a Scorp?
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I am Scorpio sun, but I have a rising Libra and Venus in Libra plus some other placements in Libra, so I'm alot more like a Libra than a Scorpio..hehehehe
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I would tell him to take a break as long as he wanted. Smile and walk away.
When he is finished with his break and he decides to call you, don't pick up.



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I like this too
Let him break himself Winking
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I'd just get mad if someone says he needs a breakLaughing


My emotions are all over the place right now cause I just don't get it..and to be honest, I'm about tired of trying to understand it. I don't get how you can tell someone how crazy you are about them, how much you miss them when you're not with them and how they are your...to just turn around less than a week later saying you need a break from that very same person!! I just don't feel that he's being very forthcoming with what is actually going on, but the truth will come out soon enough so I'm just going to do my own thing for now and if he decides to come back around, I will then make the decision as to whether I want to continue with someone who seems to think my heart has a revolving door on it. Why do people not understand that when you ask for a break from them, that it changes the whole dynamics of any future the relationship has?? If you want out, just ask and I will open the door that you came in!
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I'm with you, and I don't think I would put it with it, generally speaking.
There might be some situations where that *may* make sense (though I can't think of any), but I think it is callous, and cruel, to boot.
It also implies an assumption that they will be welcomed back into your life, at *their* discretion-- not yours-- and an expectation that you put your life on hold while you wait for them to make up their mind.

Sorry that's happening in your world. Sad
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I'd just get mad if someone says he needs a breakLaughing


My emotions are all over the place right now cause I just don't get it..and to be honest, I'm about tired of trying to understand it. I don't get how you can tell someone how crazy you are about them, how much you miss them when you're not with them and how they are your...to just turn around less than a week later saying you need a break from that very same person!! I just don't feel that he's being very forthcoming with what is actually going on, but the truth will come out soon enough so I'm just going to do my own thing for now and if he decides to come back around, I will then make the decision as to whether I want to continue with someone who seems to think my heart has a revolving door on it. Why do people not understand that when you ask for a break from them, that it changes the whole dynamics of any future the relationship has?? If you want out, just ask and I will open the door that you came in!


I'm with you, and I don't think I would put it with it, generally speaking.
There might be some situations where that *may* make sense (though I can't think of any), but I think it is callous, and cruel, to boot.
It also implies an assumption that they will be welcomed back into your life, at *their* discretion-- not yours-- and an expectation that you put your life on hold while you wait for them to make up their mind.

Sorry that's happening in your world. Sad
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Thank you. I do want to make it clear that I didn't post all this to get sympathy or help in bashing him. I bash him enough in my own head as it is. Sad
I agree that by putting the "just a few weeks" with the "I need a break", just implies that I should wait. I did tell him at that time that I could not make any promises as to how I would feel when he was done with his "break", his response was "I'm not asking you to. I do understand.". I took a huge step the night before by deleting all of his texts, pics and contact info in my phone. I know that if I had the strength to take that big of a step, then I have enough strength to leap forward and leave him behind, permanently!
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I'm with you, and I don't think I would put it with it, generally speaking.
There might be some situations where that *may* make sense (though I can't think of any), but I think it is callous, and cruel, to boot.
It also implies an assumption that they will be welcomed back into your life, at *their* discretion-- not yours-- and an expectation that you put your life on hold while you wait for them to make up their mind.

Sorry that's happening in your world. Sad


Thank you. I do want to make it clear that I didn't post all this to get sympathy or help in bashing him. I bash him enough in my own head as it is. Sad
I agree that by putting the "just a few weeks" with the "I need a break", just implies that I should wait. I did tell him at that time that I could not make any promises as to how I would feel when he was done with his "break", his response was "I'm not asking you to. I do understand.". I took a huge step the night before by deleting all of his texts, pics and contact info in my phone. I know that if I had the strength to take that big of a step, then I have enough strength to leap forward and leave him behind, permanently!
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Yikes! Wasn't bashing him-- lol-- nor did I think you were fishing for sympathy. Winking
Looked like you needed some validation, which in this instance, I was happy to give-- something about a break for a "few weeks" feels-- idk, not quite right.
Unless, like ^ metoo said, above ^, it was mutual.

Geminis, in my experience, aren't fond of confrontation-- but again, my opinion.
How long were you two together? If you mentioned it before, I missed it.

And you have the strength to do any damned thing you want-- that couldn't have been easy. smile
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I'm with you, and I don't think I would put it with it, generally speaking.
There might be some situations where that *may* make sense (though I can't think of any), but I think it is callous, and cruel, to boot.
It also implies an assumption that they will be welcomed back into your life, at *their* discretion-- not yours-- and an expectation that you put your life on hold while you wait for them to make up their mind.

Sorry that's happening in your world. Sad


Thank you. I do want to make it clear that I didn't post all this to get sympathy or help in bashing him. I bash him enough in my own head as it is. Sad
I agree that by putting the "just a few weeks" with the "I need a break", just implies that I should wait. I did tell him at that time that I could not make any promises as to how I would feel when he was done with his "break", his response was "I'm not asking you to. I do understand.". I took a huge step the night before by deleting all of his texts, pics and contact info in my phone. I know that if I had the strength to take that big of a step, then I have enough strength to leap forward and leave him behind, permanently!


Yikes! Wasn't bashing him-- lol-- nor did I think you were fishing for sympathy. Winking
Looked like you needed some validation, which in this instance, I was happy to give-- something about a break for a "few weeks" feels-- idk, not quite right.
Unless, like ^ metoo said, above ^, it was mutual.

Geminis, in my experience, aren't fond of confrontation-- but again, my opinion.
How long were you two together? If you mentioned it before, I missed it.

And you have the strength to do any damned thing you want-- that couldn't have been easy. smile

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Oh, no no no, I wasn't saying YOU were bashing him, it's just that I was accused earlier on this thread of wanting others to help me bash him. :/
I just wanted to make sure I'm not the only one who would be bat shit crazy if this had happened to them. Who puts a time frame on a "break"??? It wasn't mutual, he came from out of the blue with this. I didn't have a choice to give him a break. But I'm still trying to figure out what he ne
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I think actions speak louder than words. My take. He's not spending much time with you on a one-on-one basis and now he's telling you he needs a break. It sounds like he either has real doubts about this relationship or wants out altogether. Giving him space is your best bet. If he comes back and wants to see you, then is the time to have the talk about why he needed the break. Good luck!
Clueless Cancer you're funny: Don't do anything a water sign will do. Just relax.
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Well he text last night saying how much he missed me and explaining how busy he has been with work and what's been going down with one of his employees that's been causing alot of stress on him. We text about work and said it will be awesome to work with me on a new project I have been given that involves him, said he's missed me and is dying to see me but work and his employee situation is preventing him from spending time with me. I didn't go into what he's done via text because things can get misconstrued in texts, this is stuff that needs to be said face to face. So we shall see...
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Posted by Metoo
eh, those are excuses, and lame ones at that. Sorry but IMO when a guy really Is into you, he will part the red sea to spend time together. Theres always gonna be work and employee issues. Hes just not that into you....that is the translation of "busy" otherwise he wouldn't be texting, he would have picked up the phone.
Im so so sorry to be blunt but I would look at him as a platonic coworker, stop intitiating ANY contact and speak WORK only and get real buy with your work and social life and date someone else who can find balance and make you a priority. "Busy" is ridiculous.


Metoo, I completely agree with you here.
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Posted by Scorpio72
Well he text last night saying how much he missed me and explaining how busy he has been with work and what's been going down with one of his employees that's been causing alot of stress on him. We text about work and said it will be awesome to work with me on a new project I have been given that involves him, said he's missed me and is dying to see me but work and his employee situation is preventing him from spending time with me. I didn't go into what he's done via text because things can get misconstrued in texts, this is stuff that needs to be said face to face. So we shall see...


he is full of shit...and only texted to see where your head was at and if you completely moved on...any time a guy made those excuse to me he wasnt that into me. ALso dont rule out that he wasnt or isnt dating anyone because that is a possibility to why he is acting in such a manner.
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Ok, time out. 1. He is not dating anyone else, I know this for a fact. 2. I also know for a fact that he is THAT busy with work. I do work with him so I do know that we have alot going on here that is requiring 18 hours a day of work for him. He is a project manager for a multimillion dollar construction project. All the budgeting and construction falls on his shoulders. Plus, he trains daily for triathlon. The situation with his employee is really complication and he has his hands tied on it by upper management.
I do appreciate your comments and have tried to give the full story, just hard to at times without having to write a full novel. smile
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Wasteoftime dat choo?
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Posted by Scorpio72
Ok, time out. 1. He is not dating anyone else, I know this for a fact. 2. I also know for a fact that he is THAT busy with work. I do work with him so I do know that we have alot going on here that is requiring 18 hours a day of work for him. He is a project manager for a multimillion dollar construction project. All the budgeting and construction falls on his shoulders. Plus, he trains daily for triathlon. The situation with his employee is really complication and he has his hands tied on it by upper management.





lol ... so now you defend him, and support his excuses.

How unloyal of a person you are ... because the reality is, you believe him. So, what likely happened is that he told you he was busy and needed space to get shit done ... and you too offense to it because you're a possessive and obsessive Scorpio.
You even made a thread in the Virgo section talking about how excited you are to be working with him ... I'll have to check dates and see if you were talking out of both sides of your mouth.
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That was a different Scorpio ... but, maybe not.

It seems awfully coincidental that both of you have boyfriends with the exact same job, and has offered a job to you, exactly the same.
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Posted by P-Angel
That was a different Scorpio ... but, maybe not.

It seems awfully coincidental that both of you have boyfriends with the exact same job, and has offered a job to you, exactly the same.




For the record, I was not defending ANYONE. I was merely giving some details to clear up confusion. No, I have not forgiven him or even said I was back with him. But if you REALLY must know, I haven't even really talked to him other than him texting me the other day to tell me how much he missed me.
And as far as you accusing me of being someone else, how about investigating prior to the accusing?? I think it's only courteous, don't you think??? Or do you think?? Because it seems to me that you are running around the forum spreading your bitterness and poison. Sorry if I offend you but I'm only calling it as a I see it, and that's how we Scorpios work, right??? For your information I have alot more Libra in my chart than Scorpio.
Also, he didn't GIVE me a job. We work for two different companies on one project. I didn't even know him until 6 months after being on the job. So, again, investigate prior to accusing..or better yet, why not just ask? It's people like you that make coming here and spilling our personal lives so hard. I would normally just ignore people like you, but when you hijack my thread and try to poison it, then I have a problem. We come here because we seek questions and reassurance, not for cup full of bitterness.
For everyone else that is considerate, THANK YOU!!!
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Will someone check these IP addresses and see if the creator of this thread and this lady ...

http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/virgo/here-s-a-tricky-question-for-you-virgo-s-4047890.asp
... is the same person. I don't know how to check them, but, their resemblance is uncanny, and I'm thinking this is the same Scorpio.
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