PISCES AND CANCER HELP!
This topic was created in the Cancer and Pisces Compatibility forum by piscesgrl on Sunday, May 7, 2006 and has 8 replies.
Hello all, Im new but I would like a little advice if you all could help!
Im a pisces girl and i just fell in love with the most wonderful cancer man! And I think we are (or were unfortunately) perfect for eachother! At first he was the one that was so intense, he would tell me he cared about me so much he wanted to marry me, meet my parents, elope, move with me where ever my career took me after college...you name it! One of the biggest things he loved was that Im still a virgin waiting until Im married and he "claims" he's okay with it and can wait also.
But we live in different cities, only about 2 hours a part. But one weekened I was staying with him overnight. We hand't established we were "official" yet and I wanted to ask him about it. We got in after dinner, about 11:30 and while I was getting ready to get in his bed I overheard him in his living room talking to his friend about another girl! asking who she was or something of the sort! My heart just dropped! But when he came back I didnt say anything to him about it except asked where me and him were going and he wanted a relationship with me and he told me "he didnt know" and that he wanted to keep things simple.
Well the next morning I was so upset but I pretended I wasnt, like the typical pisces I am. He took me to breakfast and started talking to me like the night before never happened and started asking me what I was going to do after I graduate from college. I was little short with him b/c now Im like why do you even care! you dont want to be with me! I was so confused. Now I dont know what is going on with him! I want to be with him so bad, but do these guys typically just change their minds like that about someone they care about??
Im a pisces girl and i just fell in love with the most wonderful cancer man! And I think we are (or were unfortunately) perfect for eachother! At first he was the one that was so intense, he would tell me he cared about me so much he wanted to marry me, meet my parents, elope, move with me where ever my career took me after college...you name it! One of the biggest things he loved was that Im still a virgin waiting until Im married and he "claims" he's okay with it and can wait also.
But we live in different cities, only about 2 hours a part. But one weekened I was staying with him overnight. We hand't established we were "official" yet and I wanted to ask him about it. We got in after dinner, about 11:30 and while I was getting ready to get in his bed I overheard him in his living room talking to his friend about another girl! asking who she was or something of the sort! My heart just dropped! But when he came back I didnt say anything to him about it except asked where me and him were going and he wanted a relationship with me and he told me "he didnt know" and that he wanted to keep things simple.
Well the next morning I was so upset but I pretended I wasnt, like the typical pisces I am. He took me to breakfast and started talking to me like the night before never happened and started asking me what I was going to do after I graduate from college. I was little short with him b/c now Im like why do you even care! you dont want to be with me! I was so confused. Now I dont know what is going on with him! I want to be with him so bad, but do these guys typically just change their minds like that about someone they care about??
Are you sure that this isn't just a misunderstanding? Maybe this other girl has nothing to do with your relationship at all? Myself being a cancer I can say that cancers are usually pretty discreet about something like this. i.e. if he was talking about another girl knowing that you could most likely hear what he said, it probably wasn't serious. An explanation for why he reacted to your question the way he did is that he may have thought that you did misunderstand and were questioning him on it. Cancers can get very defensive if they feel someone is trying to pressure or corner them. And no, cancers don't just up and change their mind if it is someone they really care about.
Thanks so much SG! You're probably right about the other girl not meaning anything and the fact that I overheard him...I get that too!
But I never brought up his conversation at all b/c I didnt think it was my place to do that, It just really confused me on why he said he didnt know if he wanted to be in a relationship with me and that he wanted to keep us simple..I didnt think I was backing him into a corner by asking him that. This happened a couple of weeeks ago, now Im the one making all the calls and he keeps telling me he is really busy with work.
Do you guys do that when you're losing interest in a girl? just start ignoring them period? or maybe he's just scared that he liked me too too much? if there really is such a thing as that!
But I never brought up his conversation at all b/c I didnt think it was my place to do that, It just really confused me on why he said he didnt know if he wanted to be in a relationship with me and that he wanted to keep us simple..I didnt think I was backing him into a corner by asking him that. This happened a couple of weeeks ago, now Im the one making all the calls and he keeps telling me he is really busy with work.
Do you guys do that when you're losing interest in a girl? just start ignoring them period? or maybe he's just scared that he liked me too too much? if there really is such a thing as that!
it's possible your friend took it as pressure from you and now appears defensive and withdrawn. Personally, I wouldn't have made such a big deal out of it. It just seems strange that after he said all those things to you that he would react so hard when you asked him a simple question..? I guess there is such a thing as being over-sensitive.
Cancers need space and it may look like we're losing interest but in most cases it's not true. Give him some time and he should come around on his own.
Cancers need space and it may look like we're losing interest but in most cases it's not true. Give him some time and he should come around on his own.
I think he may want to keep it simple because he KNOWS you are not ready for sex and he doesn't want to pressure you about it...but at the same time, he wants to have sex so he uses the other girl for that. He's being honest though, so that says ALOT about him...
"Maybe he's just scared that he liked me too too much? if there really is such a thing as that!"
Well, it is possible that he's losing interest because YOU like him too much.
Dating a cancer can be pretty interesting. I read somewhere that "Cancer wants what it cannot have, then loses interest when it finally gets it." Ok, I found it...http://www.bobmarksastrologer.com/PlanetsignCancer.htm
Quoting from his site:
"If you are in love with a Cancer...always play hard-to-get, even if you?ve been married to them for years."
For what it's worth...I've found it to be true. They (Cancer men) like the chase and the excitement that goes with it. But they'll settle down, eventually.
Well, it is possible that he's losing interest because YOU like him too much.
Dating a cancer can be pretty interesting. I read somewhere that "Cancer wants what it cannot have, then loses interest when it finally gets it." Ok, I found it...http://www.bobmarksastrologer.com/PlanetsignCancer.htm
Quoting from his site:
"If you are in love with a Cancer...always play hard-to-get, even if you?ve been married to them for years."
For what it's worth...I've found it to be true. They (Cancer men) like the chase and the excitement that goes with it. But they'll settle down, eventually.
LOL Yes...tis true, tis true...
With all the bitching I did about my Pisces coming to visit me, whe he finally started coming everyday, it was like "Why are you all in my grill?" But I liked it at the same time..???? WHY? Maybe Cancers are crazy!
But I always thought it was my Venus in Gemini!
With all the bitching I did about my Pisces coming to visit me, whe he finally started coming everyday, it was like "Why are you all in my grill?" But I liked it at the same time..???? WHY? Maybe Cancers are crazy!
But I always thought it was my Venus in Gemini!
"if you are in love with a cancer, always play hard to get, even if you've been married to them for years..."
that is so true for me, and that is why i work well with my aqua boyfriend. he is so hot and cold, one minute all over me, the next not even showing interest. at first i didn't know what to think about that, but now i realize that if it wasn't that way i would be completely bored with the relationship. it keeps me on my toes! not that his intention is to play games, but in a way he is playing hard to get...even though we have been together for 2 years!
that is so true for me, and that is why i work well with my aqua boyfriend. he is so hot and cold, one minute all over me, the next not even showing interest. at first i didn't know what to think about that, but now i realize that if it wasn't that way i would be completely bored with the relationship. it keeps me on my toes! not that his intention is to play games, but in a way he is playing hard to get...even though we have been together for 2 years!
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