Ariangirl
@Ariangirl
12 YearsAries
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Players, I wanna understand your game.
It's usually upbringing that makes a player. Usually...or peer pressure.
if their mothers never showed them how to RESPECT women...well, you get the picture.
Players usually know how to find the type of women that they need.
Try to watch some Dr.Phil shows if you don't understand, or read up on it.
if their mothers never showed them how to RESPECT women...well, you get the picture.
Players usually know how to find the type of women that they need.
Try to watch some Dr.Phil shows if you don't understand, or read up on it.
It is really a sad reality that people are capable of doing this , especially that I hadn't done anything wrong to hurt him. I mean, I told him when I broke up with him that he could've spared me from all the game he played since the beginning..he knows I wouldn't do anything like that to him. Whenever he needed me, I was there. I've always dropped whatever it is that I was doing for him.
And he said, he doesn't spare anyone.
He doesn't have a family. He never grew up in a 'home'. It's what I was willing to make him feel, to belong in a family. But he just wasted all the effort I have exerted on him. Perhaps, you are right. It has something to do with your upbringing. Cos someone who grew up with love and appreciation would know how to give them back and he doesn't. He doesn't know how to appreciate.
And he said, he doesn't spare anyone.
He doesn't have a family. He never grew up in a 'home'. It's what I was willing to make him feel, to belong in a family. But he just wasted all the effort I have exerted on him. Perhaps, you are right. It has something to do with your upbringing. Cos someone who grew up with love and appreciation would know how to give them back and he doesn't. He doesn't know how to appreciate.
Posted by feby16aquaPosted by Ariangirl
It is really a sad reality that people are capable of doing this , especially that I hadn't done anything wrong to hurt him. I mean, I told him when I broke up with him that he could've spared me from all the game he played since the beginning..he knows I wouldn't do anything like that to him. Whenever he needed me, I was there. I've always dropped whatever it is that I was doing for him.
And he said, he doesn't spare anyone.
He doesn't have a family. He never grew up in a 'home'. It's what I was willing to make him feel, to belong in a family. But he just wasted all the effort I have exerted on him. Perhaps, you are right. It has something to do with your upbringing. Cos someone who grew up with love and appreciation would know how to give them back and he doesn't. He doesn't know how to appreciate.
I'm sure he made you feel bad more than just this time. What are you taking away from this for yourself?click to expand
What do you mean, exactly?
Posted by feby16aqua
I mean, you said that he was playing games from the beginning. I suspect that you put up with a lot of "not feeling great" in this relationship. Is that true?
Now that you can look back on it and see it more and more for what it is / was, what are you taking as lessons from it? Your conclusions...
Yes. Since the beginning, he was putting up with all these drama.. About his illness, about his family, about his job, about where he is. about what he does, about why he didnt message, about pretty much everything I knew him for. He just WASNT. But I put up with it before cos I promised him I'm not gonna leave him no matter what happens, and that I told him to stop lying to me. He said yes. But still, he was continuously lying to me until I got this evidence. I was supposed to surprise him for his birthday and he said he is in this hospital. So, I called the hospital and found out that no patient under that name is registered. I was so mad that I looked stupid right on. That's when he got mad as well and then he told me that he was just playing all this time..blah blah.
He's a total jerk and I am this idiotic girl who refused to see that for a long time just because I believed there's still something good in him.
This time, I know that there's no one that I should trust and that I should guard my heart twice as much. People in this world are very dangerous. I need to see that now. And that I Shouldn't settle for anything less anymore, I deserve way better.
That's true. It's been a push-pull relationship. Honestly, the times I have been hurt when I was with him are greater than the times he made me happy..I even have a feeling that he's the only one who benefited in it. Lol! What a charity.
I wish this is the last one. I actually remember a friend I met here before who warned me everything about the guy but then I didn't listen. Lol.
And thank you so much. Yeah, OTTNO. Hihi!!!
And thank you so much. Yeah, OTTNO. Hihi!!!
Posted by kalin
well, i put up with a player for a long time because on our first date, he told me after he told most women what he's been thru, they just left, so I decided I was not like them, I won't just leave... what a stupid mistake and what a fucking trap. i wasted 2 whole years on that mother-fucker, serial cheater!!
That's one of the reasons why I didn't wanna leave either. Cos he said that his ex just left him when he had nothing etc etc..and I told myself I'm not gonna be like that. Bastards!
Posted by kalinPosted by AriangirlPosted by SugarAries
What was his sign? Curious
He's a VIRGO!!!!!!!!!!
Never dated one... Hmmmclick to expand
I suggest don't even think about dating one. Most of them are fuck ups and very hard to please. Some even admit that they are. Some even wonder if they even find true love because of their characteristics. Dating a Virgo requires A LOT of patience, patience that is almost impossible for a man. LOL.
Yeah. All they want is to be chased and be appreciated, but cannot reciprocate! Also, very fond of mind games. I swore to myself I and that Virgo guy won't work, I will not date another Virgo, ever. They just take away all your energy. LOL!
Players are exceptional at detecting a willing participant.
Posted by aquapiscescusp
Players are exceptional at detecting a willing participant.
Yeah..I guess I was that stupid before.
Posted by AriangirlPosted by aquapiscescusp
Players are exceptional at detecting a willing participant.
Yeah..I guess I was that stupid before.click to expand
We have all been there 🙂
Posted by aquapiscescuspPosted by AriangirlPosted by aquapiscescusp
Players are exceptional at detecting a willing participant.
Yeah..I guess I was that stupid before.
We have all been there 🙂click to expand
*nods*
Try not to REPEAT the mistake over and over again. We live and we learn. There are alot of women that will repeat and rinse, repeat and rinse.
Posted by starlover
Gotta keep guys in line
No nonsense from the start...tell them if they want to play, you are gone!
Like children, they need to be shown how to behave
+1
Posted by Ariangirl
Whenever he needed me, I was there. I've always dropped whatever it is that I was doing for him.
But he just wasted all the effort I have exerted on him.
Posted by Ariangirl
... I promised him I'm not gonna leave him no matter what happens ...
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The issue wasn't him, it was you.
You have failed to realize that you put yourself on the ground to be walked on, and any person would probably not respect you because nobody wants a doormat.
You said things like, you can never trust again, or, you've wasted your effort .. and in saying this, it indicates that you are clueless to the fact that YOU fucked up, and so you think that you did it all right, and it was him that was wrong.
In that case, you will fuck up again and do the same fucking thing ... because a person cannot grow past their mistakes if they refuse to believe they made one.
It's irrelevant if he's a Virgo .... the only thing relevant is that you told him and showed him that no matter what he did, or said ... you put up with it.
Someone has already stated that you have to teach a person how to treat you ... and you taught him that you have no values, and he can do whatever the fucks he wants and you'll run to his side.
You did that. Not him === YOU
A person doesn't want a partner who has no standards or terms of treatment .. nobody !!
And I don't see anywhere in here where you even remotely suggest that you have accountability in this, on the contrary, you say you didn't do anything wrong, and you believe that he wasted your efforts.
What utter bullshit .... YOU wasted YOURSELF.
period
Posted by Ariangirl
I just wanna know what's going on inside a players mind.
How do you feel whilst you're playing?
And after that?
Don't you feel guilt at all?
I haven't read anything in here that even hints towards him being a player .. in fact, it seems to me that he's been treating you the same way since day one .. which means you knew all along that he's asshole.
Just because someone is an asshole, doesn't mean he's a player.
You are labeling him because you can't face the fact that YOU fucked up by not having any standards.
What did you feel while playing at that?
And after that?
Don't you feel guilt, at all?
No matter which sentence of yours I re-read in here or analyze, it all comes back to the same thing .... you have zero clue that you did this to yourself.
And so long as you refuse to believe that you are responsible for how people treat you, there will be no learning lesson here for you .... no matter how much these others fools try to pretend that you see the light. You don't see the light, you think you did nothing wrong ... and he was the total fuck up here.
I know for a fact because you said, "he just wasted all the effort I have exerted on him." .... and that means that you believe you have not erred at all, and he forsook everything you did.
These fools can tell you until their blue in the face that you deserve better and that you're learning something here .... but, you're not. Because a person has to recognize they failed, before they can put it in perspective for growth.
Of course, then this becomes another issue ... in where these women just want to sound good, and not really be good. In other words, they want to sound supportive for their own sakes, because if it was for your sake, then they would be telling you that you were in error.
:::: shakes head ::::
Here's the reality, if you think you can handle it ..... you got exactly what you deserved.
Now, instead of getting your panties wadded up your ass ... fucking do something about it, so you don't do it to yourself again.
Posted by feby16aqua
Well you did your charity case. We've all done one. Just keep it to one and it's all good. Life is just a series of experiences; you take what you can from each one and grow with it.
The best thing you can do is to never speak to him again lol. Cut, gone, later sucka. OTTNO
This THE BEST ADVICE I HAVE READ ALL NIGHT. Pure and simple. Well said.
Posted by starlover
Women take time to learn this though ~~ the lady is still quite young, but it seems she
is willing to learn and strengthen herself, that is the main issue ~ seeing and acting on it
We live, we learn, right?
@ the rat angel: ALZHEIMER'S KICKING IN MUCH—!!! Didn't I keep on telling you I DON'T NEED ANY OF YOUR ADVICE..good or bad. I just need you to leave me.
Posted by kalinPosted by Ariangirl
@ the rat angel: ALZHEIMER'S KICKING IN MUCH—!!! Didn't I keep on telling you I DON'T NEED ANY OF YOUR ADVICE..good or bad. I just need you to leave me.
I think the rat doesn't have a daughter, or if she does, daughter doesn't listen to her. Therefore, she has to pick up on young girls on here and "mother" them to feel complete.
I think the rat just wanted to adopt you (and you made've it clearly it's not going to happen). Don't take it personally. Hugs!!click to expand
Hi. If you look at most of my every post, she just buts in and give her unsolicited advice which makes everything worse. I come here because I feel bad and I know I messed up and what she does is come straight to my face and bully me. Haha! I also says in one post she commented on that girls nowadays rant about same things about guys because mothers these days don't have time for their children or something like that.. Lol Talk about good parenting coming from her. If I was her kid, I won't even listen to her if that's the way she talks to me. She may have a point but I will just grow up full of negativity and hatred.
Thank you for the hug. Hugs you back. 🙂
Posted by May31BabyPosted by kalinPosted by Ariangirl
@ the rat angel: ALZHEIMER'S KICKING IN MUCH—!!! Didn't I keep on telling you I DON'T NEED ANY OF YOUR ADVICE..good or bad. I just need you to leave me.
I think the rat doesn't have a daughter, or if she does, daughter doesn't listen to her. Therefore, she has to pick up on young girls on here and "mother" them to feel complete.
I think the rat just wanted to adopt you (and you made've it clearly it's not going to happen). Don't take it personally. Hugs!!
Lol something is wrong with this poor rat!
Hey p angel im not stalking you, i swear. But ive been jumping around the board and i keep seeing post from you. Even as far back as 2010. And you always have the same negative ass comments. Always always. I havent seen one semi nice thing come from you. Not saying that you have to, but are you ok honey? Do you have a issue with something in your life? Do you hate yourself? Because that much negativity is going to eat you alive girl. I feel sorry for you.click to expand
Maybe this is her outlet. Lol
Hugs.
Posted by AriangirlPosted by kalinPosted by AriangirlPosted by SugarAries
What was his sign? Curious
He's a VIRGO!!!!!!!!!!
Never dated one... Hmmm
I suggest don't even think about dating one. Most of them are fuck ups and very hard to please. Some even admit that they are. Some even wonder if they even find true love because of their characteristics. Dating a Virgo requires A LOT of patience, patience that is almost impossible for a man. LOL.click to expand
The man was not interested in you in the first place. He just knew you were desperate so he just used you for whatever and whenever. Now youre mad.
Well thank god there are mature Rams in this world .... you are not one.
Maybe you need to get kicked around a bit more before you are able to actually grow up ... or maybe not. Some women actually like being trash.
Posted by GeorgiaPeachPosted by AriangirlPosted by kalinPosted by AriangirlPosted by SugarAries
What was his sign? Curious
He's a VIRGO!!!!!!!!!!
Never dated one... Hmmm
I suggest don't even think about dating one. Most of them are fuck ups and very hard to please. Some even admit that they are. Some even wonder if they even find true love because of their characteristics. Dating a Virgo requires A LOT of patience, patience that is almost impossible for a man. LOL.
The man was not interested in you in the first place. He just knew you were desperate so he just used you for whatever and whenever. Now youre mad.click to expand
Lol...
Posted by P-AngelPosted by Ariangirl
We met a year ago online. Lost touch and talked again last February.
He wanted Friends with Benefits kind of relationship and I didn't want it.
We still talked and flirted though.
One day, after reuniting for weeks, I made him admit he loves me and so he
started to distance himself and ignore me.
But while he is supposed to be ignoring me, I did all the begging and all.
He still tried to distance himself until he said he cannot do it.
Now, we are 'in a relationship' but I just don't get him.
He isn't like any other man who sends good morning text messages and all.
What he sends me everyday is : Hi How are you? I love you. I miss you.
... as a girl, I'm looking for more that sweeps me off my feet. But I am settling for that because I love him.
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This is from April of this year, on the Virgo board.
When you first started talking about this Virgo, you said that he only wanted a fwb relationship with you ... but, you begged him to take you as a girlfriend.
Seriously .... how pathetic
And from that day forward, he has treated you like a piece of shit .... and still, you are eagerly at his beck and call.
You have no honor whatsoever .... and so long as you insist on refusing to have any ... you render yourself a piece of shit.
Didn't I say I am learning on my own pace now? And didn't I say that you back off from my business? Just get hold of your opinions of me. I DO NOT NEED IT! You don't know my business, not even half of it!!! Stop obsessing.
You are talking about growing up..ha! You think you're acting grown up by talking shit like this? You think yourself as overly smart, which clearly, you're not. You are just as fucked up as me and you appear as diverting your frustrations in life on girls like me. Haha!!! Obviously, you are a very very sad person.
I do not know you, and I seriously do not care about your life! You might as well do the same. There must be a reason why I hate rats even in real life. No matter what you tell me (pointless or not), I am not going to listen to you cos YOU GOT A PSYCHIATRIC PROBLEM YOURSELF. Go drown your sadness in alcohol!
Posted by Ariangirl
When I ask him what he wants to talk about he just says 'you tell me'.
Makes me feel he's not really interested. And when I start telling him things, it'll end up with 'ok'. I tell him I'm annoyed when he does that and he just laughs.
Of course, he's laughing at you .... you were nothing more than his piece of ass. Just because you begged him for more, and so he decided to throw you a few bones doesn't mean he cared about you.
You were told this shit 5 months ago in here and who knows how many of your people in RW tried to tel you ... but, of course, you're a Ram, so that means you won't listen to shit .... and so probably continued to beg him to want you more.
lol ... look I'm laughing at you too.
You really are that stupid, aren't you? He tells you he only wants you as a piece of ass, and you actually beg him to let you believe you're more to him ....
::: shakes head :::
How pathetic
Well, laugh all you want. Who cares?
I will finally move on with my life and be truly happy.
But you will still be here, wrinkled, gray and stuck in bitterness and sadness.
Who's more pathetic? Haha.
I will finally move on with my life and be truly happy.
But you will still be here, wrinkled, gray and stuck in bitterness and sadness.
Who's more pathetic? Haha.
Posted by May31BabyPosted by Ariangirl
Well, laugh all you want. Who cares?
I will finally move on with my life and be truly happy.
But you will still be here, wrinkled, gray and stuck in bitterness and sadness.
Who's more pathetic? Haha.
Lol truthclick to expand
I usually have high respect to elders..but just as love begets love, respect is earned as well and this rat clearly do not know how to show respect to people.
Posted by Ariangirl
He wanted Friends with Benefits kind of relationship and I didn't want it.
I made him admit he loves me and so he started to distance himself and ignore me.
But while he is supposed to be ignoring me, I did all the begging and all.
"the" begging .... the
lol, what an idiot
Roflmao!!!! Everyone on Earth has moved on..but one old rat.
I guess that's what boredom in the home care does to a person..be stuck on dxpnet, stalk and dig old posts.. A lot of spare time eh, granny?
I guess that's what boredom in the home care does to a person..be stuck on dxpnet, stalk and dig old posts.. A lot of spare time eh, granny?
Posted by P-Angel
Posted by Ariangirl
He wanted Friends with Benefits kind of relationship and I didn't want it.
I made him admit he loves me and so he started to distance himself and ignore me.
But while he is supposed to be ignoring me, I did all the begging and all.
"the" begging .... the
lol, what an idiot
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Bitch you have the nerve to try and correct someone's spelling/punctuation when you're the main one fucking up. Digging up old posts to make someone look bad when you're the one who's pathetic & worthless. She doesn't give a fuck about you, why do you care so much about HER life? Dumb ass Pisces bitch.
Posted by May31BabyPosted by RealTalkPosted by P-Angel
Posted by Ariangirl
He wanted Friends with Benefits kind of relationship and I didn't want it.
I made him admit he loves me and so he started to distance himself and ignore me.
But while he is supposed to be ignoring me, I did all the begging and all.
"the" begging .... the
lol, what an idiot
Bitch you have the nerve to try and correct someone's spelling/punctuation when you're the main one fucking up. Digging up old posts to make someone look bad when you're the one who's pathetic & worthless. She doesn't give a fuck about you, why do you care so much about HER life? Dumb ass Pisces bitch.
Get her!
Haha i really dont know why i care so much but p angel you are just a sad little bully. And i think its funny that you are so mean to other people, usually young girls who dont know better and have put their business out there for you to exploit. But ive been calling you out and you dont respond. Typical bully. How long have you been doing this on here? Smh. So lameclick to expand
She's a punk bitch. She knows who to fuck with. She doesn't respond to users who call her out, she only taunts people she thinks is weaker than her...right bully. Digging up this girls past, but she calls her pathetic?
Yeah, real smart P-Angelina...you're taking the time out to find out about her life when she could careless if you'd choke on your own spit.
She's been doing this for years. I believe she works for DXP.
Posted by P-Angel
Posted by Ariangirl
He wanted Friends with Benefits kind of relationship and I didn't want it.
I made him admit he loves me and so he started to distance himself and ignore me.
But while he is supposed to be ignoring me, I did all the begging and all.
"the" begging .... the
lol, what an idiot
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BAHAHAHAHA!! Guys, let's just not mind the attention seeker here. She's worse than any confused younger person who posts their shit on this site. Actually, her narrow mindedness clearly shows that anyone else on here is more emotionally mature than her. No one, no matter how stupid you feel about herself, is lower than an aged and mature woman (supposedly) who cannot do anything in her life but to bully someone weaker.
Let's leave her alone for we know better. Shame on her!
Let's leave her alone for we know better. Shame on her!
Posted by P-Angel
He wanted Friends with Benefits kind of relationship and I didn't want it.
I made him admit he loves me and so he started to distance himself and ignore me.
But while he is supposed to be ignoring me, I did all the begging and all.
You rendered yourself a piece of shit .... and too stupid to know it, even when you're told.
uote>Posted by Ariangirl
.... he's just not that into me. Maybe I should leave him alone as I don't know what to do.
That ^^^^^^^^^^ was in April. Several ladies on the Virgo board told you to move on ... but, being the hard-headed dumbass you are .... you begged him to let you please be his girlfriend instead.
Posted by P-Angel
.... I did all the begging
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lol
Posted by feby16aquaPosted by starlover
Women take time to learn this though ~~ the lady is still quite young, but it seems she
is willing to learn and strengthen herself, that is the main issue ~ seeing and acting on it
and this is true. We all get there eventually, some much slower than others, but the point is is that we're all on the same road so take as much help from others as you can and repeat for others.
I sometimes wish that there was someone to help me sort through the bullshit when I was younger. I'm getting there but the past 15 years have been quick moving lol.click to expand
And I am getting there now with the help of friends who have been patient with my stubbornness. All of us had gone through some confused and idiotic phase, only hypocrites would say they did not.
Again, we live we learn.
Posted by starlover
...and sometimes women still get drawn back into being cheated on! you would
think after the first couple of times (or for me the first time) they would
learn. no wonder men are confused when they can just have their cake and eat
a few others too
lol
BE FIRM!!
+1. Thanks!
Posted by starlover
...and sometimes women still get drawn back into being cheated on! you would
think after the first couple of times (or for me the first time) they would
learn. no wonder men are confused when they can just have their cake and eat
a few others too
lol
BE FIRM!!
+1. Thanks!
Posted by feby16aquaPosted by Ariangirl
Got it, hun! 🙂
And I am getting there now with the help of friends who have been patient with my stubbornness. All of us had gone through some confused and idiotic phase, only hypocrites would say they did not.
Again, we live we learn.
That's good 🙂 I'm pming you so look out 😛click to expand
Posted by cunninglinguist
With the next guy, insert your boot up his ass from day one. (figuratively)
You should be having guys *begging* to be your bf. They should be falling over themselves moving mountains for you to win u over. You should be borderline overwhelmed by all the attention and love.
And it should be a consistent thing.
The very minute a guy starts taking u for granted, bounce. It means they're finally showing his true colors. Next!
Because why waste time stuck with some jerk, when u can be getting to know better prospects?
Yes, that's spot on. Thank you!!!
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