Saying I love you?

The plot: Leo girl txt virgo guy most nights good night. Never expecting or really wanting a reply. One night leo girl gets txt from virgo guy saying "good night and i love you". Leo girl doesn't know what to do or even how to respond so she sends him a sweet smile back. Next morning leo girl and virgo guy talk and he informs her that he was drunk as hell the night before. Leo girl is glad that she didn't let her real feelings show on that night.

Fast forward in time leo girl and virgo guy start having a cold war with each other (currently still doing battle). Leo girl ask virgo guy if he remembers sending her a good night txt and he replies "no". He ask her what is so special about the txt that she keeps asking him about it ( leo girl doesn't mention the txt says I love you). Finally as a battle tactic she forwards him his txt...from that night to the present no communication from virgo guy.

Last night leo girl sends virgo guy that she does love him, even though they don't understand each other. However she ask that if he will respond back with anything stupid that he not respond...leo girl got no response.

Now leo girl is confused. Did she make the wrong play? Should she have called virgo guy that night to discuss the txt even though she knew and felt that he was out drinking and sent the txt while drunk. Leo girl didn't want to be put in a box when she herself is still playing the field. But she also does love her virguy. Now I feel like the cold war isn't going to end and that we are really finally over. Although he started the cold war because he is stupid. Please advise as leo girl is still open to getting this guy but also realizes that maybe he really isnt for her.

LOL...does it matter if I am the leo girl? The question still remains? What should have been done and was the right or wrong choice made.

I was in a similar situation and as I was told it's all in your head, little signs you make out to be more than they are becasue you want him. He hasnt and wasnt responding to you and all your texts goodnight. He did when he was drunk and put down some words that obviously he regrets texting becuase he hasnt even offered up an apology for it. He still chooses to ignore you or not do anything to give you hope that he wants you, that says he wants nothing more than a friendship with you...you are making all the advances.

If a guy is really into you, he will move like lightening...I know it's not what you want to hear, as i didnt and went down that path and learnt the hard way, but it seriously appears that "he is just not that into you"

^^^^ wot he said

I find writing in the third person allows me to take a step back from the situation in order to bring the big picture to the reader.

I have yet to read, hear or otherwise experience a Leo/Virgo match that didn't end in total destruction.

The fact that you are trying to make this work is noble, but insane.

Face the facts, folks.

Virgo/Leo matches do NOT work, and if they do, it's usually forced and ugly!

Posted by lovelyleo

Now leo girl is confused. Did she make the wrong play?

Play?

Why do you sound familiar to me? Are you the same Leo who, about 6 months ago or so, tried to "play" on the Virgos feelings by throwing another man up in his face?

I bet if I research, you are indeed this same person.

You like to exaggerate and inflate molehills into mountains, don't you?


I'm not sure what is more arrogant ... the fact that you're talking about yourself in the third person, or the fact that you think this man should love you when you regard communication with him as a play.

I'm just tryin' to put myself in his shoes! If I texted someone I love you (for the first time) and got a smiley back...I don't know. It wouldn't feel so great! Now, if it were me I'd live with the embarrassment, but isn't is possible the guy is just tryin' to save face by telling you he was drunk? Does this guy drink a lot or what? Does he often drunk text you or was this the first time?

I don't really understand though why you brought this all up during an argument. What point were you trying to make...was it relevant to the conversation you were having at the time?

"I'm just tryin' to put myself in his shoes! If I texted someone I love you (for the first time) and got a smiley back...I don't know. It wouldn't feel so great! Now, if it were me I'd live with the embarrassment, but isn't is possible the guy is just tryin' to save face by telling you he was drunk?"

I agree with Shadows here...^^ The Virgo guy I am dating does that when he thinks I've rejected something he asks me to do. For Ex: We were driving home from the movies on one of our first few dates, and he asked if I wanted to get something to eat, and I said no, it was kinda late. So he responds" Well, my stomach hurts anyway", which was an odd answer but then I realized later that he was trying to save face because I said no to dinner. (Which I wanted to slap myself afterwards).

So, you told him (although he might not believe it), instead of baiting him, maybe just text him something sweet in a couple of days and see if he responds. You don't have anything to lose.

Nicely said, Wineaux.

Posted by EmotionalMoon

Posted by wineaux
here's the (my) problem...SOME people throw that word around without any genuine feeling behind it. if you are truly IN love, then when you say it to someone, it should be special. while you're looking at them, no distractions, into their eyes, into their souls - not in a text message, where you can blame liquid courage or short term amnesia. that's chicken shit. i tell my male friends i love them all of the time, because i care about them deeply as friends. it certainly doesn't mean i'm in love with them. the sad part is that not everyone sees or feels the difference between love and being in love. hearing it for the first time in a relationship when it's done right should be cathartic. the sentiment and spirit behind putting yourself out there to someone, so raw and stripped amazes me to this day. maybe i follow the old romantic sentiment of 'you don't want to be in love, you want to be in love in a movie.' yes, i want THAT and i'm a firm believer that it exists because i see it everyday around me. love is not trivial, it is powerful.

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To answer a few of the questions I sent the smiley because I didn't know what to say back. I have been unsure if I should let myself feel love for him. His words and actions contridict which throws me off my game. Everytime I think that things are starting to become normal he acts a damn fool. It was the first time he had said I love you and we where arguing because he was being a stupid. I brought up the text because I was trying to understand how he could say that to me one day and then treat my life a week later.

I did txt him today and no response. It was a simple good morning baby but I got nothing back. So I think I am done. I am just really tired and yes I am the same leo chick that told the virgo dude that another man wouldn't act so stupid. I don't see why that was wrong to say. I didn't say I had another man or even wanted one. All I wanted was for him to act normal like anybody does when they are feeling "love".

Like the OP said people do throw around I love you. I wanted to be sure that my feelings where genuine and I wanted to see if he bought it up again. I wasn't playing games with him I was protecting my heart from someone that had the power to hurt me.

But its whatever. I don't see whats wrong with a woman wanting to be showed that a man loves her for real and isnt just saying it for the hell of it. I need the words and the actions to match. Thats all I ever wanted from him was for the words and the actions to match. Maybe I was fooling myself. Dang