Scorpio troubles

This topic was created in the Relationships & Astrology forum by Skybluerose on Sunday, September 11, 2016 and has 3 replies.
Hi!

Me: sun-sag,moon-gem,venus-sag, Virgo rising

Him: sun-scorp, moon-cancer ,venus- virgo, cap rising


Where to begin? This has drug on for so long. I am otherwise attached, and have at times wondered if this guy has feelings for me. I know I shouldn't care, but he is a friend, and I don't want to hurt him, and yes, I am attracted but keep trying to push away the feelings for fear of uncertainty. Sometimes I think he instigates these desires and feelings to have a bed buddy. (Nothing physical has ever happened.) Other times I think I'm delusional and mistaking platonic love for romantic or lustful desires.

In the beginning there was sexual tension through jokes, head games, and whatnot. Now that we've gotten to know each other better, that's been replaced by stares. I can feel his eyes on me, and I love it, but when our eyes met, I was with my SO and astonished at the boldness. Now when my eyes graze to his, he suddenly looks away.

He does sweet kind things for me, like help me with stuff or washing my car for me even though I try to stop him. Small gifts that are meaningful and not just the let me get her something kind that I am used to. I mentioned his wardrobe (all black) once and he always adds color when we plan to hang out now.

He has even said the words, "I love you." I was so shocked that I gawked at him and said, "Well WE love you too!" He said it once after that and I responded more or less the same out of respect for my SO. Now he retreats to using the words only when we are all three together. And he says, "I love you guys."

I love his presence. We get along great usually. He spends about half of his free time with me, but now I feel like we are mirroring each other. I don't even know whose feelings are whose anymore. All I know is being around him makes me happy, and I feel like a better person when we are in each other's presence. But he won't tell me how he feels. I don't trust that he isn't playing me. He is always making me jealous, anyway. And we communicate so differently. And when I look at it from the outside in, I guess my fears and mistrust in him makes me send him mixed signals with my actions. Maybe I should cut ties? Is he trying to accept and respect that I am attempting to fix my empty relationship? Platonic love? Lust? Playing with me?

Any help?
Posted by Skybluerose
Hi!

I am otherwise attached...

I can feel his eyes on me, and I love it, but when our eyes met, I was with my SO

I love his presence.... he won't tell me how he feels. I don't trust that he isn't playing me. ... I guess my fears and mistrust in him makes me send him mixed signals with my actions.

Playing with me?



You're joking right? He's not trustworthy, but you are? So basically, you want to know if he's worth leaving your current relationship for. If not, you'll continue your "attempt" to work on it?

Posted by Skybluerose

Is he trying to accept and respect that I am attempting to fix my empty relationship?
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You clearly lack the ability to take responsibility. If you're "attempting" to fix your empty relationship then focus on that. Not sure how you can do that when you're spending time questioning another man---that's isn't your "SO" actions, so let's not pretend. Point blank, his actions are no better than yours so don't mistake what I'm about to write as targeting you alone....

The hypocritical nature of this (immature) Scorp will soon rise if you do leave your boyfriend for him. He will never trust you, because you lack the ability to show loyalty to his friend. Loyalty along with honesty is pretty high on a Scorp's list when considering any potential mate (hence my comment about the hypocrisy).

It will start off nice, and slowly fall apart because he will question, pick apart and poke holes at your relationship (if it gets that far) because he will be stuck on the idea that you will do the same to him----even if he initiated this whole thing.

No trust, no foundation with a Scorp. Ever.

Get yourself sorted and deal with your man. Fix it or leave. Don't engage the Scorp in any more eye f*cking and put some distance between the two of you.

Not Today Satan