Throughout our entire relationship my husband has obsessively talked about all of his ex-girlfriends. He's trash talked them and has complained about all of them so much to the point where it makes him appear bitter. He seems to still be caught up about his ex-girlfriend who he was with before me since he's talked about her the most out of all of them. When we were dating all he could talk about was her burdening me with chatter about her. For example, her body, the sex they had together and all the issues they went through. He's even compared me to her multiple times on many occasions in insulting ways towards my looks. Here are some examples, "Your breasts look different than my exes." Yours are saggier than my exes her's sat up more but I like yours better." " Your breasts are tiny compared to my exes yours are like cantoulopes there's were shaoed like watermelons and they use to stuff them in my face but I like yours better." When we first started out he remained friends with her and I found out they were having inappropriate conversations about us having threesomes so I told him to stop talking to her. He even told me that he told her that he missed all the freaky times they had together. Throughout our dating relationship and soon after marriage he repeatedly brought up dreams of us and his ex having a threesome. I told him I didn't want him talking to her and he kept reaching out to her still every once in awhile and it's still continuing. Last month I saw a message between them two when he went through his phone and he messaged her and said, "Do you feel bad about the way our relationship ended?" When I asked him if he's still in love with her, or if he feels guilty about the breakup and if he has closure with her he says yes. He said he thinks she got an abortion while they were together last year but he's scared that she may have kept it and wondered if he had her baby and that's why he said he reaches out to her and asks questions regarding they're relationship. He also told me that he's been trying to reach out to her but can't because she doesn't answer his texts or calls.But the way he talks about her and behaves say something completely different. Alot of the time I bring this concern of mines to his attention he automatically gets defensive, angry, emotionally worked up and ecstatic when I bring her or any of his exes up. But when he talks about them and brings them up it seems fine. As a result of all of this I'm left confused and depressed because I don't know where his mind is. I'm not sure how he feels about me. I'm not sure if he's all that into me. I'm not sure if he loves me. I'm left with constant doubt and suspicion regarding him.
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Jun 20, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 3847 · Topics: 1
And you married this guy???
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Oct 21, 2015Comments: 11066 · Posts: 36034 · Topics: 110
Marriage doesn't make people change. If anything the bad habits get worse because of complacency.
Sounds like you need couples counselling.
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Sep 14, 2018Comments: 224 · Posts: 556 · Topics: 16
Why did the two of you get married to each other in the first place?