Single & Accepting It - So DONE!

This topic was created in the Relationships & Astrology forum by Xin on Tuesday, May 7, 2013 and has 45 replies.
I'm not going to lie.
I'm beyond annoyed today. Normally I flit along not really caring what happens but lately this Gemini is pissed off and at wits end with just males in general regardless of their sign.
As much as I love Astrology I cant seem to find my niche. I'd really like to find me an Aries, maybe a Leo, something with some kind of Earth thrown in, maybe someone like me? Air and earth elements?
Either way I have to get this out because I am completely at my wits end. I think I've come to terms with being single and maybe this is how it's supposed to be. I get that everyone wants someone else whether it be for companionship, love, sex, etc. But at this crossroad in my life I find myself much more annoyed than anything else.
Those of you that know me know I've had a volatile last 3 years with a Scorpio. I love him and I hate him. I feel like placing all the blame on him right now for pretty much everything. From the smallest things like me being pissed off in the morning time because people are driving to fucking slow to having to talk to people I can't even stand now. I understand the complaining, bitching, whining I'm doing right now but I don't give a shit.
So hum let's go over a few things since im in a rather ripe mood this morning.
Recently I made a post about a shitty ass Sagittarius. Im so glad I didn't invest more than I did. You know I find it amazing how so many people want FIVE fucking star treatment (caviar included) on a macaroni and cheese diet. Trying to get anything from you from your time, to sex, to just listening to them whine about their ex gf's. Apparently a girl he was with for like 6 years left him outta no where. I guess she got cold feet when he asked her to marry him. Now hes trying to talk to me. I can't do it. Then OH THEN. His best friend who just happens to be a Sagittarius (same birthday December 11th, weird I know right) tries to hit on me too and hes completely clueless about females.
Seriously WTF! Why cant the universe send me some guys that aren't caught up with exes, liars, jaded, no job ass bums, or completely retarded with it comes to women? Don't hit on me shit! Im way too much for your ass. I even warn people. Im like I expect a certain type of treatment you know? Like just do the right thing, treat me right. BUT NOOOOOOOO that's way too fucking hard. TOO MOTHERFUCKING HARD!
I guess I'm going to have to just accept that cold hard fact that fuck yeah I'm single.
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So I don't know what my problem is. Maybe it is me? Maybe it's fucking not and I just end up barrel rolling into massive fucking train wrecks. Stop sending me crap! I keep turning people away constantly.
This Sagittarius is driving me bat shit. I seriously want to kick his ass for just irritating me. And I mean this for good reason. Like let me give you an example of what pisses me off.
We will be talking and out of no where he will get up and just leave. Mid conversation. Mostly on the phone or just chatting through texting or like on skype, etc. Mid fucking conversation. He shows back up and says nothing about it. I find that REALLY fucking rude. REALLY rude. Things like that. I mean how hard is it to tell someone "Hey ill bbl, something came up". Oh but nooooo. Don't wanna do that because its too fucking hard to be a man and talk with your mouth, and form a fucking sentence. Oh yeah let me just use my telepathy because yeah im some kind of fucking psychic. Oh maybe I should have done that and waved my magic wand too *boop* oh gee nope still a fucking asshole.
Ok ok....Im getting off the path here but. Who the hell is my type? No one?!
As much as I like Scorpios it just seems they dont bridge that conversational gap.
Sagittarius cant make a commitment for shit and also is scared of us Gemini's (figures).
Aquarius PFF. I got broken up in a text message by one 6 years ago cause I think he was scared of me.
I mean COME ON!
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Sorry about that LOL! But id like to see how the rest of you singles feel about this too. I know I cant be the only one having a shit time too.
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Your not alone, I choose to be single instead of dealing with Bullshit and so far its going good...
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Posted by jessgoogoo
Your not alone, I choose to be single instead of dealing with Bullshit and so far its going good...


Yeah I guess it really is a choice though just because there is only so much im willing to compromise with you know?
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Posted by xdimplez
i've accepted my life into being single and started a collection of cats. cats will never leave me. lol jp
The way i see it, every person that i had encountered who wasn't 'The One' is just another person who is bringing me closer to finally meeting him, the person i am destined to be with. They are mean't to be lessons to learn from to help me grow and mature so that when i do finally meet the man i am suppose to be with, i would have already resolved past emotional damages so i can live life peacefully with this person.
see it as an educational experience. Every person you encounter you realize what you like and dislike about a person and what makes you happy. why settle for anything less?


Collection of cats? ME TOO! LOL!
But no I totally understand what you mean. Sometimes I try to look at it like that but it can be so frustrating. In less than a month ill be hitting my 25th *cough 34th cough* birthday and Im thinking "Wow how long do you want me to wait?" (Speaking to the Universe)
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Posted by sewdope
Posted by Xin
so many people want FIVE fucking star treatment (caviar included) on a macaroni and cheese diet.


BOOM!
Yes! So there with ya. I'm single and not really that upset about it. I refuse to deal with bullshit.
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I know right. I tried to think of an analogy that might sum it up I think I hit the nail on the head. It's not that Im upset about being single per se, it's more of being irritated with the dates and just the quality of the people lately.
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Single & liking it so far. Zero drama. I was actually talking to my ex the other day about relationships & he said I'm not bad, but I need to lose the mouth lol. Sounds like guys dont like females that talk too much. Tough tit cause I find it nearly impossible to keep quiet when somebody does something I dont like, I just have to let them know..otherwise it drives me nuts. And I'm sorry, but I wont change myself just to have a relationship. My belief is that, if a guy is The One then he'll accept me as I am, warts & all. Still waiting...
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Posted by WaterCup
Single & liking it so far. Zero drama. I was actually talking to my ex the other day about relationships & he said I'm not bad, but I need to lose the mouth lol. Sounds like guys dont like females that talk too much. Tough tit cause I find it nearly impossible to keep quiet when somebody does something I dont like, I just have to let them know..otherwise it drives me nuts. And I'm sorry, but I wont change myself just to have a relationship. My belief is that, if a guy is The One then he'll accept me as I am, warts & all. Still waiting...


+1
Omg so meeeeee! That's why you're on my favorites list bbcakes!
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Posted by pssymonstaa
*walks in naked
Xin, sweetie, do you need a dick hug?


PFF too many people trying to do that in the first place. Get outta here perv! Go to the Scorpio board LOL! smile
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Posted by xdimplez
how long do you usually date these people for?


Well thats the thing, don't even make it to the second date. Im getting to know them and all the while I keep finding more and more things I don't like and I'm like ok DONE. NEXT! Annoyed with the fact that so many people have so much baggage. Why even look for someone if you aren't ready to move on? Or get over that part of your life whatever it may be?
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Posted by Xin
Posted by xdimplez
how long do you usually date these people for?


Well thats the thing, don't even make it to the second date. Im getting to know them and all the while I keep finding more and more things I don't like and I'm like ok DONE. NEXT! Annoyed with the fact that so many people have so much baggage. Why even look for someone if you aren't ready to move on? Or get over that part of your life whatever it may be?
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I understand this...I dated a guy not to long ago that was just looking for a gf, well i couldnt go all in at once, so I met up with him on friday while out with a few friends, he introduced me to his new gf....Why Da Fuck do I care, move outta my way...Where Do I find these Losers...Done with Dating...
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Posted by xdimplez
and i absolutely hate that just because i am single people automatically think that it means i am unhappy and try to set me up with all these dates! just stop! just dont!
single means you are alone but it most def. does not indicate that you are lonely


Exactly!!
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Posted by pssymonstaa
Posted by Xin
Posted by pssymonstaa
*walks in naked
Xin, sweetie, do you need a dick hug?


PFF too many people trying to do that in the first place. Get outta here perv! Go to the Scorpio board LOL! smile


Hey now, thats no way to treat the only gentleman in the room!
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Gentlemen don't slang the dang-a-lang. Mmm hum.
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Posted by xdimplez
and i absolutely hate that just because i am single people automatically think that it means i am unhappy and try to set me up with all these dates! just stop! just dont!
single means you are alone but it most def. does not indicate that you are lonely


+1
I get that a lot too or you get the "look" like maybe it's a pity look? Or oh maybe we should set her up cause she will feel like the third wheel? Shit id rather deal with myself than deal with someone I can't stand all night long, and have to fake my way through pretending to be interested in sports quips or lamenting about his ex gf while he guzzles down beers.
Noooo thank you.
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Posted by jessgoogoo
Posted by Xin
Posted by xdimplez
how long do you usually date these people for?


Well thats the thing, don't even make it to the second date. Im getting to know them and all the while I keep finding more and more things I don't like and I'm like ok DONE. NEXT! Annoyed with the fact that so many people have so much baggage. Why even look for someone if you aren't ready to move on? Or get over that part of your life whatever it may be?


I understand this...I dated a guy not to long ago that was just looking for a gf, well i couldnt go all in at once, so I met up with him on friday while out with a few friends, he introduced me to his new gf....Why Da Fuck do I care, move outta my way...Where Do I find these Losers...Done with Dating...
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I know right? Oh you get the guy that is like SO super jaded about his ex gf or ex wife and you go on a date with him and all he does is like let you know how guarded he is while snarling. Then you find out a week later on his FB that he's reconciled with "said devil". Im like REALLY?
Or Mr. I don't have a job you take me out and pay for everything, listen to me talk about crap that you hate, look at chicks but then ask you for a piece of ass later at YOUR place not mine cause chances are I still live with my mom.
The one I've been getting a lot lately is the infamous "Im such a nice guy". PFF. So many pretend "nice guys" are like I'm so nice I always finish last. But then you find out they are like the worlds biggest fucking douche bags and their exes just didn't wanna put up with it "but they are so nice!" Yeah by whose opinion? Guess what? THEIR OWN.
Or hey the great "Helen Keller's" you know the mutes thats sit there all night looking at you. You try to keep the conversation going and they just have zero to say but they REALLY like you and can't figure out why you don't want to talk to them. Oh gee cause THEY DON'T TALK TO YOU ANYWAYS. It's like having a staring contest with a rock.
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Ooo ooooo! Or this one the guy that you tell him that you prefer guys to have their own place instead of living with their parents or like guy roomates, their own car, job, some type of solid foundation and you're all the sudden labeled as a GOLD DIGGER. Oh yeah LOVEEEEE THAT ONE.
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Speak of the devil. Right when I was typing this out that Sagittarius #1 just signed on Skype at his job (which he never/hates to use) because since yesterday I've been ignoring his ass. I know he's sitting there hoping ill say something to him. Biggest reaction is NO ACTION. I'm not about to chase this guy. I don't think it's my job as a female to initiate contact every single fucking time. Noooo sir. He wanted to leave mid conversation yesterday fuck that. I'm going to let him sit there and stare at his screen hoping ill say something to his stupid fucking ass cause im not. NEXT!
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Oh I had Mr I`m such a nice guy not to long ago, BONUS was he was living with his mom and was scared I would hurt him...Well treat me like crap and I will show you How shit looks...It really helps going on DXP and seeing other peoples problems, kinda makes you realize how bad you don`t have it trying to figure these men out...NEXT.....
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Posted by jessgoogoo
Oh I had Mr I`m such a nice guy not to long ago, BONUS was he was living with his mom and was scared I would hurt him...Well treat me like crap and I will show you How shit looks...It really helps going on DXP and seeing other peoples problems, kinda makes you realize how bad you don`t have it trying to figure these men out...NEXT.....


See that's what I don't understand. Why even date at all? I mean yes we are all taking the risk, but FFS.
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I've been single a while.
@Cunninglinguist
what's so bad about being single?
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@Cunninglinguist
ha! You are still a baby! I dun wanna hear talk bout getting old... LOL I don't have room to talk about that even though I am 30...
I can understand why you feel that way. BUT, have you ever asked yourself why women think the way they do? You ever ask why you should you have to settle? You know the only person saying it is you after all. I think jumping from relationship to relationship like how most people do is actually rather weak-minded and shows insecurity. Everyone is different of course... lol I get carried away sometimes don't mind me I'm just a stupid idealistic Aquarius.
And so what if you the longer you stay single the better chance you have at staying that way!?... you would rather be married to someone or at the very least in a relationship with someone you don't love?
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Or Mr. I don't have a job you take me out and pay for everything, listen to me talk about crap that you hate, look at chicks but then ask you for a piece of ass later at YOUR place not mine cause chances are I still live with my mom.
The one I've been getting a lot lately is the infamous "Im such a nice guy". PFF. So many pretend "nice guys" are like I'm so nice I always finish last. But then you find out they are like the worlds biggest fucking douche bags and their exes just didn't wanna put up with it "but they are so nice!" Yeah by whose opinion? Guess what? THEIR OWN.


SO many of this type!
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I'm 23 and I already feel like I'm getting old. :/
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Aaaand that 'splains your answer.
Shame on you for perpetuating bullshit.
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Man, amen to this post.
I was fine with being single. I liked the lack of drama. I was also ready to pursue something if it happened.
Now it's nothing but a bunch of bullshit added to my life. Dating sucks, the quality sucks, and all that unknown bullshit sucks. It's maddening and makes you wonder how anyone finds anyone decent anymore. You've got a bunch of fucknuts out and about dating, mostly for purely selfish reasons, and all in all, it's polluting the dating pool. It makes it all a headache and encourages any sane people to stay single.
But all this bullshit of decoding behavior, playing your cards right, etc is just fucking ridiculous. None of it should be this difficult.
Such is life when you have a society that's raised generation after generation of selfish, emotionally retarded assholes.
The current situation I'm in, I've been fed up with for awhile and don't even consider it dating at this point. I think I'm more annoyed with the situation just because it's just more of the same bullshit. It's like why the fuck do people do this shit? I mean really, how hard is it to know what you want? And what's so hard about staying the fuck away from people if you don't know what you want?
When I knew I wasn't down for anything and wanted to be left alone, I turned guys down. I didn't bother. I knew where my head was and basically wanted them to fuck off. Once I had my shit together and knew what I'd want out of dating, THEN I went for it.
All this bs where people don't even get their shit together when jumping in, total disregard for others' feelings, and doing it only for their own selfish reasons is just fucking stupid. I've known of so many people who leave a ton of bs in their wake because they bounce around like it's everyone's problem but their own. People like this need to be sterilized. This dna is not good to pass on.
Also, mac and cheese? Blame the entitlement instilled in most people anymore.
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
Man, amen to this post.
I was fine with being single. I liked the lack of drama. I was also ready to pursue something if it happened.
Now it's nothing but a bunch of bullshit added to my life. Dating sucks, the quality sucks, and all that unknown bullshit sucks. It's maddening and makes you wonder how anyone finds anyone decent anymore. You've got a bunch of fucknuts out and about dating, mostly for purely selfish reasons, and all in all, it's polluting the dating pool. It makes it all a headache and encourages any sane people to stay single.
But all this bullshit of decoding behavior, playing your cards right, etc is just fucking ridiculous. None of it should be this difficult.
Such is life when you have a society that's raised generation after generation of selfish, emotionally retarded assholes.



+1, all these fucks should be castrated
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Posted by ianthepisces
Why cant the universe send me some guys that aren't caught up with exes, liars, jaded, no job ass bums, or completely retarded with it comes to women?

you need a pisces sun, taurus moon, capricorn venus guy..
only thing lacking on my part from your rants would be verbal communication...
*shrugs*
ive always got along well with gem women... they can be feisty, but thats some of the appeal..


Didn't think you liked me much yesterday smile But thanks for the comment. We tend to be VERY fiesty.
My sun is in the VIII house which makes me even more of a force to deal with, when it comes to my smart ass mouth.
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Man, amen to this post.
I was fine with being single. I liked the lack of drama. I was also ready to pursue something if it happened.
Now it's nothing but a bunch of bullshit added to my life. Dating sucks, the quality sucks, and all that unknown bullshit sucks. It's maddening and makes you wonder how anyone finds anyone decent anymore. You've got a bunch of fucknuts out and about dating, mostly for purely selfish reasons, and all in all, it's polluting the dating pool. It makes it all a headache and encourages any sane people to stay single.
But all this bullshit of decoding behavior, playing your cards right, etc is just fucking ridiculous. None of it should be this difficult.
Such is life when you have a society that's raised generation after generation of selfish, emotionally retarded assholes.
The current situation I'm in, I've been fed up with for awhile and don't even consider it dating at this point. I think I'm more annoyed with the situation just because it's just more of the same bullshit. It's like why the fuck do people do this shit? I mean really, how hard is it to know what you want? And what's so hard about staying the fuck away from people if you don't know what you want?
When I knew I wasn't down for anything and wanted to be left alone, I turned guys down. I didn't bother. I knew where my head was and basically wanted them to fuck off. Once I had my shit together and knew what I'd want out of dating, THEN I went for it.
All this bs where people don't even get their shit together when jumping in, total disregard for others' feelings, and doing it only for their own selfish reasons is just fucking stupid. I've known of so many people who leave a ton of bs in their wake because they bounce around like it's everyone's problem but their own. People like this need to be sterilized. This dna is not good to pass on.
Also, mac and cheese? Blame the entitlement instilled in most people anymore.


RR - I know right! Everything you just said I agree with entirely, thats what I am going through. I feel like there is so much quantity but NO quality. None at all.
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Posted by sewdope
@cunninglinguist
As much as I hate to admit you're right about the timer, it does apply in some circumstances. If you look half decent though, age really won't factor much in to how much you date. I'm 33 and I get approached all the time by men. When I was on dating websites, I got tons of hits and messages. It's possible to date in your 30s/40s. Don't get discouraged. smile The trick is to not scare men off with talk of marriage and kids like most women do. My problem has never been getting men, just getting the right men.


+1? More like +Infinity!
Amazing post. Couldnt have said it better myself!
Totally 100% right!
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Posted by Xin

RR - I know right! Everything you just said I agree with entirely, thats what I am going through. I feel like there is so much quantity but NO quality. None at all.


In my case, I blame age. The last two guys that I actually got involved with were younger. I don't think they're bad guys per se, they just have no idea what they want and shouldn't be dating until they get their shit together, tbh.
Another one was like 2 years younger, and even his age showed when it came to anything relationship (friend, romance, etc). Yet here he was, going out and wreaking havoc on the dating population.
Two others that attempted had really freaking strange ways of showing it- one was just an oddball to begin with, but his talk of how he'd secretly kill someone by feeding them some poisonous food and then tried to hit on me by offering to give me a massage since he looked up how to do them on Youtube. I'm like ..whaaaa?
The other feigned being friends. Went on and on about how he enjoyed our friendship and thought I was a really good friend. He attempted to hit me up for sex on several occasions. His last ditch effort was using the terminology of "making love," as if that would change my mind from the first 3 times.
A friend of mine had been going through a break up and latched on to me since we were both going through break ups and were eachother's coping system. Then he started to get a little strange in planning things together and leaving our friends out when the intent was to make it a group thing. His advice to me in regard to my ex started to become a little self serving. It's like dude, go be single for awhile. Rebound status ain't cool. We're still friends now, but it's like you're kidding, right? Go be single for awhile!
This last lot here I never was even interested in romantically, but the ways that they pursued were kinda wtf worthy. :/
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@RR - I have to admit I laughed really loud in my office reading this especially the part where the guy Youtubed the massage video. I mean wtfbbqnshit!?! I get those too. Here let me list mine, lately.
#1 Scorpio - So this guy is married right. To ANOTHER Scorpio tries to hit me up and ask me "skilled" questions like a thief in the night or just a terrible rendition of Zorro trying to be a bad ass but still looked like a fag with a mask on. Anyways, hes like so *enter strategically placed magical question on seeing if im single* IE: So there has to be a MR. X, that's pissed off cause all you do is work and go to school. Um first off you're married, second you're a man bitch. He sits at home playing video games while his nurse wife calls the shots and makes all the money. I ignore him. Scorpios LOATHE that. So it just sent him charging in slinging his stinger around like he was gunna hit something HA! Too bad this Gemini comes with butterfly wings dumb ass. So he asks me about my sex life, trying to be sneaky thinking ok the better I do this and the more smooth my wife won't find out! BOOP NOPE NEXT. Put him in a box with rocks, shook it, and threw it into the motherfuckin' ocean. DELETE!
#2 Sagittarius - Super socially awkward programmer hitting on me via technology. Tries to talk about cool things like Google crap that I don't care about. Also wanted to give me a massage and made some references to his big hands and feet thing *blinks* Lame.

#3 Cancer - Past time is Guitar Hero3 (hes in his late 20's) I went to his house to meet up after two dates for a small get together and he was already shit faced with his boxers on (no shirt), super pasty pale, hip thrusting to rock you like a hurricane when I came into the house. He had his legs wide open in the "rock stance" you know the one that was made popular by AC/DC almost like doing a split and fist pumping in between "riffs". No one but his brother was there yet who was already beyond drunk. Oooookay....LOL. Nope.
#4 Taurus - Took me to dinner and whined all night about his exes. Tuned him out and got a free meal never called him again.
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OK I think its working now...
AS I WAS SAYING: Wish I could do this to that MISERABLE SOUL, then I'd feel better Winking
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ughh nevermind! WTfuck! Its where she's beating the shit outta him with the shovel, anywhoo, gotta learn how to clip vids right lol
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Posted by Chance11
you can tell how close you are by what you're attracting. an accurate personal assessment is more important than recycling the same characters and hoping for a different outcome. sure, you could win the lottery but there's not substitute for hard work. some things shouldn't be left to chance.
and it only takes one to change your mind/perspective.


Thanks for the state the obvious tidbit. My life will now be complete with this sudden revelation.
Also, if you think this is the cure all solution to the crazies in the dating pool, you clearly don't know what it's like to be a female in dating.
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Posted by Chance11
you can tell how close you are by what you're attracting. an accurate personal assessment is more important than recycling the same characters and hoping for a different outcome. sure, you could win the lottery but there's not substitute for hard work. some things shouldn't be left to chance.
and it only takes one to change your mind/perspective.


Thanks for the state the obvious tidbit. My life will now be complete with this sudden revelation.
Also, if you think this is the cure all solution to the crazies in the dating pool, you clearly don't know what it's like to be a female in dating.



doesn't sound like it's obvious to you as you're the one that's always crying about not being able to find anyone decent. anyone decent wouldn't be attracted to you..so what does that tell you? doesn't matter whether it's a male of female in dating..you either know the difference or you don't. was more talking to the OP..gemini can see things in a little less of a black and white fashion than one track mind aries.
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I understand where you're coming from, but lately I've seen way too many guys giving advice in how to be a woman in dating, when guys are NOT women in dating.
Input as to why a guy's behavior is what it is? Fine. A male telling a female how to approach dating and assuming they know what it's like? No.
The problems in the dating pool are not just in the individual with the complaints, but the quality in the dating pool- as I've said before, is a big result of our shitty society that breeds insecure, selfish, and clueless people. In turn, you meet a lot of trolls when dating.
But hey, if you want to continue to absolve your kind of any responsibility, by all means.
And me crying about what? Are you following me around DXP? Because I haven't come in contact with your old man ass in awhile. Gtfo creeper.
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Wow...LOL! Rude.
So. That Sagittarius I was kind of talking to the one that I got all mad about in that one post I posted about my Taurus friend and him.
You know I dont understand what this is about Sag people but like Ive noticed anything you might mention that you don't like ends up being like SO DRAMATIC to them. Tonight I was talking to him on the phone then all the sudden he gets majorly distracted, dominates the conversation, mumbles and hangs up on me. WTF! I found that well unacceptable and very, very rude. Especially to us Gemini's we take our conversations seriously. Well I text him and I go "Why did you just hang up on me?" He goes "I explained myself" I go "No that was mumbling not talking and yes you hung up on me." Then apparently im SO DRAMATIC because I told him I don't appreciate it and I found it extremely rude. Then later 40 texts messages later and one missed call because I won't speak to him HE becomes dramatic, and starts slinging rude comments. Thats when I just said ok you need to just stop. I mean what is with that? You say ONE thing that isn't acceptable as in like hey be respectful and let me know if you need to leave and tell me like a human being and its OMG SHES SO DRAMATIC I DONT NEED THIS STRESS IN MY LIFE. Thats actually what he texted to me. I don't need this stress. And started comparing me to his ex. Really? REALLY....
A girl ive known who is also Sag did this. Id tell her id be like you know I don't appreciate it when you x, y, z and shes like WHY ARE YOU SO DRAMATIC! I CANT DEAL WITH THIS OK! LOL! WTF.
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Wow...LOL! Rude.
So. That Sagittarius I was kind of talking to the one that I got all mad about in that one post I posted about my Taurus friend and him.
You know I dont understand what this is about Sag people but like Ive noticed anything you might mention that you don't like ends up being like SO DRAMATIC to them. Tonight I was talking to him on the phone then all the sudden he gets majorly distracted, dominates the conversation, mumbles and hangs up on me. WTF! I found that well unacceptable and very, very rude. Especially to us Gemini's we take our conversations seriously. Well I text him and I go "Why did you just hang up on me?" He goes "I explained myself" I go "No that was mumbling not talking and yes you hung up on me." Then apparently im SO DRAMATIC because I told him I don't appreciate it and I found it extremely rude. Then later 40 texts messages later and one missed call because I won't speak to him HE becomes dramatic, and starts slinging rude comments. Thats when I just said ok you need to just stop. I mean what is with that? You say ONE thing that isn't acceptable as in like hey be respectful and let me know if you need to leave and tell me like a human being and its OMG SHES SO DRAMATIC I DONT NEED THIS STRESS IN MY LIFE. Thats actually what he texted to me. I don't need this stress. And started comparing me to his ex. Really? REALLY....
A girl ive known who is also Sag did this. Id tell her id be like you know I don't appreciate it when you x, y, z and shes like WHY ARE YOU SO DRAMATIC! I CANT DEAL WITH THIS OK! LOL! WTF.


Because they're self absorbed dicks and hate it when you call them out on their self absorbed bs. I deal with it all the time with my freaking brother. He's not a bad kid, but still a selfish douche all too often. That whole "How DARE you" bullshit is old meme.
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@RR - I know right tell me about it.
This Sag guy is getting on my nerves though. I think Im pretty much done talking to him. With that happening last night, coupled with him telling me about another girls boobs today (even though he talked shit about her) hes like "Yeah but I guess I could deal with her talking about stuff I don't care about cause she has nice tits". This was in a text message about some girl that was brought along when he and his brother and his brother's girlfriend went out together.
I just sat there with my mouth open like WTF did I just read? I mean this guy likes me. But apparently not. Is this some kinda jealousy game? The second he said that I go "...." then I said "Alright well hey I GTG ill TTYL". Look this is the kind of behavior I expect from guys straight out of high school but this man is my age. Im almost 34 hes 32. I mean SERIOUSLY? Come on.
Then he gets mad at me for getting pissed off at this stupid ass behavior. And not to mention that hes STILL hung up on his exgf. Yeah not having this shit anymore. Next. Im so glad I didnt invest much more than I did. Especially giving him my ace card. You know I wasnt about to give him any ass with behavior like that. Acting like a damn fool. I dont get guys sometimes. Like doing all that shit and expecting us to be like oh yes take me all day and night even though you hang up on me, talk about other women, and still are in love with your ex! I HOPE YOULL BE MY MAN RIGHT NOW OMG! LMFAO. Fucking bullshit.
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damn lol
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Posted by Xin
@RR - I know right tell me about it.
This Sag guy is getting on my nerves though. I think Im pretty much done talking to him. With that happening last night, coupled with him telling me about another girls boobs today (even though he talked shit about her) hes like "Yeah but I guess I could deal with her talking about stuff I don't care about cause she has nice tits". This was in a text message about some girl that was brought along when he and his brother and his brother's girlfriend went out together.
I just sat there with my mouth open like WTF did I just read? I mean this guy likes me. But apparently not. Is this some kinda jealousy game? The second he said that I go "...." then I said "Alright well hey I GTG ill TTYL". Look this is the kind of behavior I expect from guys straight out of high school but this man is my age. Im almost 34 hes 32. I mean SERIOUSLY? Come on.
Then he gets mad at me for getting pissed off at this stupid ass behavior. And not to mention that hes STILL hung up on his exgf. Yeah not having this shit anymore. Next. Im so glad I didnt invest much more than I did. Especially giving him my ace card. You know I wasnt about to give him any ass with behavior like that. Acting like a damn fool. I dont get guys sometimes. Like doing all that shit and expecting us to be like oh yes take me all day and night even though you hang up on me, talk about other women, and still are in love with your ex! I HOPE YOULL BE MY MAN RIGHT NOW OMG! LMFAO. Fucking bullshit.


I had a Sag try to pursue me. Said all this fucked up shit about his girlfriend, said he'd date me as soon as he dumped her, etc. Then he didn't understand why I wasn't remotely interested. Demanded to be told why.
...you're kidding, right?
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So, not only are you NOT taking responsibility for the direction of your own life choices ... you come in here to project it all onto as many people as you can contaminate.
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Posted by P-Angel
So, not only are you NOT taking responsibility for the direction of your own life choices ... you come in here to project it all onto as many people as you can contaminate.


Get outta here with that mess. For real. LOL! Ain't nobody got time for your ass right now.
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Posted by P-Angel
So, not only are you NOT taking responsibility for the direction of your own life choices ... you come in here to project it all onto as many people as you can contaminate.


And to be fair you're projecting right now and contaminating everyone else with your negative attitude. Figures.
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Anyways so I have even more of an update.
Well I think im just entirely done speaking to this guy. The fact that his ex is still in the picture they broke up about 6 weeks ago and shes calling him to bail her out of like situations she got herself into (which is weird), then her mom calls him crying about it. Im like oh my god. What is going on here? I figured this would be something you would deal with if the man was in his teens but he's in his early 30's I shouldn't have to even be dealing with this kind of drama.
Then I guess he decides to tell me about this other girl a friends with benefits he had only two weeks after they broke up and she's calling him because she knows he and his fiance are over but he told me "I want to keep her around for the benefits" ok well at least he's honest right? Shit kudos for that. But you cannot talk to me while you got your dick in someone else. It just doesnt work like that. And to top it all off he compares me to his ex and hangs up on me after he gets pissed off that im not ok with him doing that! Hes like you dont trust me. Um gee I wonder why. LOL! You just told me you want to keep a FWB around and the whole ex thing isnt over yet, maybe in your mind it is but its not over. Holy crap. So youre mad at ME! Im not the one with fuck buddies around and baggage left over from an ex. Im available.
So not only does he get pissed off he 1. hangs up on me after all this crap 2. tries to backpeddle from it and recover from what he just said and 3. gets mad at me for also not "giving him the trust he needs" I mean really?
What the hell? Am I crazy or something? Where did I go wrong LOL!Cause I know im not the crazy one here.
*Sigh*
Anyways I think im done for now.
And oh @Rockyroad I like you im going to add you to my favorites list! Actually there are a few people in here im going to add smile
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Posted by oldskoolflavor
in reaction to the whole "life keeps sending unworthy guys down my road"
- your predominant thoughts are about traits you dislike in people .. you have like 8 "I can't stand" type of thoughts and 3 "I like" thoughts .. at least that's the impression I'm getting
- the more you (choose to) focus on a person's flaws, the more apparent they become
basically, you're setting yourself up to attract what you don't like
train yourself to think about traits you appreciate in a male most of the time, and you may encounter the type of man you're really looking for
I'm not trying to dismiss your *feelings* or right to vent .. I picked this up from a book I read and thought I'd share (nope, it isn't The Secret) .. hopefully, you'll read this when you're in a better mood LOL


I got the email! Thank you for that ill definitely read it smile
Always open to suggestions!
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@LadyAries - I know right. I feel like just lately Ive been approached by a lot of toxic type people. I know there is something to learn from each one but as more and more are approaching I am getting better and better at putting my foot down at the first red flag (and its not just an small red flag its like a big honkin' in your face like 1000x1000 flag) LOL!
Anyone know what is going on in the cosmos right now? Today has been a crazy day.
It just happens to be my moms birthday and already the family is fighting. For once it's not my drama but everyone elses.
Could someone list the transits?
Today so far for me:
Had a guy that hasnt talked to me in two months (Leo) come back from no where expecting me to talk to him and give him a chance. I said no we can be friends. Thats that.
Crazy Sagittarius hasnt contacted me and I will not contact him at all and all of you know about this right now oh and the ex he was engaged to is a Virgo/Libra cusper.
Leo boss is going crazy in his office yelling (probably one of the worst episodes Ive heard in a year) at his right hand sales person.
My Cancer sister I got mad at cause today is my Taurus mom's bday who takes holidays/celebrations/birthdays/anniversaries, etc., VERY seriously has NOT gotten her a present. And my Leo step dad didnt buy her a cake either and my mom texted me this morning saying she was making her own cake and I got pissed and texted my step dad like WTF you need to buy her a cake. Then he proceeded to turn around and tell on me to my mom who texted me going "be nice to dad right now" UM NO! Why what the hell you know? Taurus mom had a meltdown a few years ago because my dad is just selfish when it comes to being thoughtful.
Aqua/Capricorn co-worker has some MAJOR drama with her family going on right now too and her shitty Pisces boyfriend isnt being very emotionally there for her. Hes a no job bum the least he could do is be there during it seeing he lives with her and doesnt do a damn thing.
UGH!
Ok ok! END RANT! LOL
Someone tell me what the cosmos is doing! Cause something is going on. Its not me with the drama its like everyone else I know!

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Update: On Sag. I swear it's getting crazier and crazier.
Ok so I didnt talk to him for like almost 2 days now since this happened. And I get this text this morning. Well about 8 of them telling me he completely ended it with his ex and thanks for giving him the boost of confidence, then further down he then rejects me LOL! He goes yeah its been fun but it would never work with us. Im like ?!!! Did you just reject me when I havent talked to your ass in TWO DAYS!?! Um? How does that even work! LOL! So....*LMAO*
Im like getting REALLY fucking pissed. Like hes doing it to get a rise? I have no idea. But I wont answer it. Im trying so damn hard right now. My sun in VIII right now wants to stomp a mud hole in his ass. Right the motherfucking now.
Hes pulling out all the stops. Things that we talked about that he knows will make me upset he is now texting me now that I won't answer his "rejection" texts.
Literally he's the one that fucked up and I just stopped talking to him. I don't do this type of behavior.
Well I guess hes texting me to let ME know hes rejecting me LOL. Um no its the other way around obviously because I havent talked to your ass.
He goes let me get this: "Its not going to work between us or whatever you want to call it since nothing was technically official". Gee I wonder why. Because YOUR EX WAS STILL IN THE PICTURE.
Right after was: "Past few weeks have been great but it's time for that close too". I mean wtf is all this stupid ass shit. Hes 31. I dont think I should be having to deal with so much drama right now.
Id like some males opinions on this. I know im bitching but ffs really? Rejecting a girl that rejected you cause you acted a damn fool? Yeah ok LOL!
Im going to continue to ignore his ass.
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