Spotting red flags early on?

This topic was created in the Relationships & Astrology forum by Shootmyarrows on Tuesday, December 13, 2022 and has 19 replies.
I have question I am a Sagittarius male and I am dating a Libra woman.

Would you consider this being a red flag or am I just panicking lol...

Well after being together for 3weeks she is already talking about us having a child together even tho we already have our own children with previous partners and then possibly after 6 months moving in together.

Would you say moving too fast too soon is a red flag?

I am just curious what people think.
Is she wants more children, isn't this a discussion that you two should be having "early on"?

Posted by 1917191
I don't think it is necessarily a red flag, but more of how they approach the relationship. I mainly dated air signs; they preferred diving right in and solve problems as they arise.
It's been only 3 weeks, you have the option to leave if values don't align...like having more kids.
Libras do love talking about relationshipy stuff. The libra I dated: met his parents in two weeks and he told me exactly what age he wanted us to marry and the number of kids we are going to have. I am in a relationship with a gem and have been in long term relationships with gem/ aquas, they typically ask me to move in within four months. I guess their thought process is if we are eventually moving in anyway then why not try it out and see if it works.
I am laughing because my Libra daughter is freely bugging her Agua/Agua BF of 4 years for the same things…engagement, marriage, kids…he gave her a golden retriever and she is goofying off and he is doing what he is doing and it’s organically just floating around without causing any harm nor anything unpleasant. She knows they are marrying. Sooner or later. It’s not a good time career wise now. So I do not see it as a red flag and @Undine said - early in rship IS better than wasting time just to decide you should had discussed it earlier…
If you know anything about Libras it’s that they come on strong and move fairly quick because they are love struck at the beginning. As the love haze starts to settle, they start to reel themselves back and look at things more rationally. Buyers remorse is common sentiment they feel for a good reason.
Posted by Undine
Is she wants more children, isn't this a discussion that you two should be having "early on"?

I agree with this. It’s only a red flag cause you op aren’t ready and/or wanting those things.

Time is precious and really she is doing you a huge favor by telling you her end game. But it feels disappointing because your fantasy of who she is, is ending. That’s just how it goes
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Posted by Undine
Is she wants more children, isn't this a discussion that you two should be having "early on"?




I agree with this. It’s only a red flag cause you op aren’t ready and/or wanting those things.
Time is precious and really she is doing you a huge favor by telling you her end game. But it feels disappointing because your fantasy of who she is, is ending. That’s just how it goes
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That is of course what I want with her as I also, see her as long term and maybe having another child but I would want to be married first of all.

I also, agree time is very precious and must not be miss used.

I'm not disappointed in fact happy that we share the same end goal I guess I was just a little taken back by how soon she came out with it.
Posted by Undine
Is she wants more children, isn't this a discussion that you two should be having "early on"?

We have discussed this together and I have said after marriage I will definitely have another child.
Not an red flag but I agree with another user.

It’s good to make sure you’re on the same page early
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Posted by Undine
Is she wants more children, isn't this a discussion that you two should be having "early on"?





I agree with this. It’s only a red flag cause you op aren’t ready and/or wanting those things.
Time is precious and really she is doing you a huge favor by telling you her end game. But it feels disappointing because your fantasy of who she is, is ending. That’s just how it goes
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That is of course what I want with her as I also, see her as long term and maybe having another child but I would want to be married first of all.
I also, agree time is very precious and must not be miss used.
I'm not disappointed in fact happy that we share the same end goal I guess I was just a little taken back by how soon she came out with it.
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Talk with her about timeline then, not us.

She is a definite when it comes to another kid. You are a maybe. Let her know.

Posted by FuManchu
A Libra gonna Libra, man. She done picked out a ring, baby names, and wrote your last name as hers at least 1000 times to see how it "feels". It's new and exciting. Chances are she loves the idea of love more than she actually loves you at this point. And I don't mean that as a negative. It's just a Libra thing. Not a red flag.
Makes sense to me

Everything starts in the mind with air signs

What about when they are bitter bec. of your work?

Ex bf would make comments about how I'm chillin in my office with AC while he's running around all day in the hospital (he was just starting his career as a doctor).

Now this guy I talk to made a bitter comment about how he's much busier at work than I am cause I work from home and it's a "slower pace" (he has no idea about the nature of working in operations, but it's never slow) what's funny is that he said this bec. I didn't text him all day?! lol

What's wrong with the men in my circle .....
OP I don't see it as a red flag. What's the point of being in a relationship anyway? This talk would come sooner or later.. You seem to just be moving at different speeds and it's normal.. you are two different humans. Actually I think being honest about your needs/plans early on is a good chance to express your thoughts without the strong emotional attachment involved.

On another note, I thought it's another thread from a few months ago, hence my previous comment. Thanks to the new dxp now I can't delete it lol sorry abt tht
Posted by TxOgal
OP I don't see it as a red flag. What's the point of being in a relationship anyway? This talk would come sooner or later.. You seem to just be moving at different speeds and it's normal.. you are two different humans. Actually I think being honest about your needs/plans early on is a good chance to express your thoughts without the strong emotional attachment involved.
On another note, I thought it's another thread from a few months ago, hence my previous comment. Thanks to the new dxp now I can't delete it lol sorry abt tht
I have the same wants and needs as her of course I guess I was taken back by how soon she expressed it as I have been use to more distant partners.

She wants me around all the time and I have spend 3 weeks without her by my side we have only twice not had sex in them 3 weeks aswell lol.

Her chart is this

Sun Libra

Moon Pisces

Rising Scorpio

Mercury Libra

Venus Virgo

Mars Scorpio

Jupiter Libra

Saturn Aquarius Rx

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Posted by Shootmyarrows
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Undine
Is she wants more children, isn't this a discussion that you two should be having "early on"?






I agree with this. It’s only a red flag cause you op aren’t ready and/or wanting those things.
Time is precious and really she is doing you a huge favor by telling you her end game. But it feels disappointing because your fantasy of who she is, is ending. That’s just how it goes
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That is of course what I want with her as I also, see her as long term and maybe having another child but I would want to be married first of all.
I also, agree time is very precious and must not be miss used.
I'm not disappointed in fact happy that we share the same end goal I guess I was just a little taken back by how soon she came out with it.
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Talk with her about timeline then, not us.
She is a definite when it comes to another kid. You are a maybe. Let her know.

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I have spoken to with her regarding this and I have expressed that I want to be married first she has told me that she doesn't want anymore children after 32 and she is 29 at the moment so we have time.
Posted by 1917191
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Posted by TxOgal
OP I don't see it as a red flag. What's the point of being in a relationship anyway? This talk would come sooner or later.. You seem to just be moving at different speeds and it's normal.. you are two different humans. Actually I think being honest about your needs/plans early on is a good chance to express your thoughts without the strong emotional attachment involved.
On another note, I thought it's another thread from a few months ago, hence my previous comment. Thanks to the new dxp now I can't delete it lol sorry abt tht




I have the same wants and needs as her of course I guess I was taken back by how soon she expressed it as I have been use to more distant partners.
She wants me around all the time and I have spend 3 weeks without her by my side we have only twice not had sex in them 3 weeks aswell lol.
Her chart is this
Sun Libra
Moon Pisces
Rising Scorpio
Mercury Libra
Venus Virgo
Mars Scorpio
Jupiter Libra
Saturn Aquarius Rx
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It's that pisces moon doing the talk right now. But that virgo venus will very likely have her leaving you in time. :/
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What makes you say this?
Mate, I told my now husband that I want a child and commitment on the 2nd day after swiping on Tinder. I wasn't even in the same country as he was back then 😆 he didn't run. So I think that's normal. Some women like myself just don't want to waste time and beat around the bush. Either you're in or you're out.
Posted by alexscaries
If someone gave me a roadmap for how they want a relationship to go, see you later. If you want to tie me down, hemp rope.


I can see why you feel like that because its much better to just go with it and see what happens what's your sign? 🙂
Posted by 1917191
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Posted by TxOgal
OP I don't see it as a red flag. What's the point of being in a relationship anyway? This talk would come sooner or later.. You seem to just be moving at different speeds and it's normal.. you are two different humans. Actually I think being honest about your needs/plans early on is a good chance to express your thoughts without the strong emotional attachment involved.
On another note, I thought it's another thread from a few months ago, hence my previous comment. Thanks to the new dxp now I can't delete it lol sorry abt tht



I have the same wants and needs as her of course I guess I was taken back by how soon she expressed it as I have been use to more distant partners.
She wants me around all the time and I have spend 3 weeks without her by my side we have only twice not had sex in them 3 weeks aswell lol.
Her chart is this
Sun Libra
Moon Pisces
Rising Scorpio
Mercury Libra
Venus Virgo
Mars Scorpio
Jupiter Libra
Saturn Aquarius Rx
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It's that pisces moon doing the talk right now. But that virgo venus will very likely have her leaving you in time. :/
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What makes you say this?
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My Venus in Virgo placement always makes me see the flaws in the relationship and want to leave.
But maybe mixed with Libra sun she would be more committed and just nag about what bothers her about the relationship all the time. Pisces moon tend to be needy with the emotions. Again that's me talking from my experience.
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I agree with the whole Pisces moon being needy.

I haven't spent a night apart from her since the first date or second date.

I was alone for a while before that so it was abit of a shock at the start.

As soon as I mention possibly spending the night at mine alone she looks at me like she's hurt and feel guilty.

With whole flaws and Virgo to be honest she hasn't once said there is any flaws she keeps talking about us living together and having a child and marriage nearly everyday.
And I feel guilty **

With the whole flaws **