Spouse wants you to be submissive

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How would you react if your spouse wanted you to be submissive in the bedroom AND out of the bedroom? They want you to do whatever they say with no arguments? I had a conversation with a few coworkers and one guy said he was attracted to a lady, but wouldn't take her seriously because she's not submissive enough. I thought, "surely in 2017 this man can't be serious." But he was very serious and went on to explain that he'd be just as submissive to his mate; pleasing her in any way that she wants, BUT she MUST be just as submissive. I think this could be sexy in the bedroom, but outside of the bedroom I'm too dominant for this arrangement. My questions are:


1. Would you, are you, or have you ever been in this type of relationship?

2. If you would... why? If not, why not?

3. If you are or have been how does this work for you?

4. What's you/ & spouse Sun, Moon, Venus, & Mars signs?
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Love submission in the bedroom. Outside, needs to be equal.
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Posted by Shadowcat
Is this only for married couples?


No. I want to hear all ideas. This topic intrigues me.
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Posted by Astrology101
I don't think I could do this out of the bedroom.

And even in the bedroom I'd have reservations.


Submission makes me give in and trust someone .. maybe thats why.


Well never done it... but there were signs he might have been into it... in the bedroom mostly.


Somethings he did turned me on.


This is how I feel too! To be truly submissive... out of the bedroom actually would take a lot of strength for me to bite my tongue and just do what's expected of me... which is hard because I'm even the boss at my job so I'm used to giving directives. BUT in the bedroom there are SOME things I'd like to try as long as it can be a non permanent submissive sexual type thing.
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Posted by PossessionSt
I just wanna get my rocks off


All this Dom Sub thing is too complex for me
Welp that sounds boring!
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I can't be with a women that is submissive outside the bedroom huge turn off. I have a strong blunt type personality and need the challenge and somebody that can stand up for them selfs. In the bedroom tho I have to be control of everything I don't like receiving anything no foreplay nothing. Closest thing to being dominated is letting them on top. im all about giving an being aggressive just don't touch me.
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Posted by Shaniajam
Love submission in the bedroom. Outside, needs to be equal.
I think I agree with you. However, sometimes I want to be in control over my husband outside of the bedroom but he isn't having it! ?
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Posted by Shaniajam
Love submission in the bedroom. Outside, needs to be equal.
I think I agree with you. However, sometimes I want to be in control over my husband outside of the bedroom but he isn't having it! ?
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Have you tried compromising on certain situations? Like in public maybe not but in the car or home when you're not intimate he'll allow it? I think it's an ego thing. But long as the public doesn't see that may be fine?
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Posted by Ellygant
Most of my relationships have revolved around this concept in some way.


My outer personality is that of a dominant and stronger nature. But in relationships I tend to want to give up control immediately. I had mistakenly equated being submissive with being taken care of, two very different concepts that shouldn't be equated lol.


However since I attract other people with control issues, they're normally drawn to me because I seem so strong and they were hoping that'd help control their negative tendencies, ironically. So they typically don't know wtf to do when I keep trying to give up control and struggle with taking too much or none at all as a result. It only gets messier from there lol.


So I'd say no it doesn't work, not for me ha.


The guys underlying concept is sweet, two people who give unconditionally all the time so neither is left without. That's rarely how those situations play out though. Even the kindest and gentlest souls will take without giving if you don't draw lines occasionally.


Sun/Venus in Scorp, Cancer moon, Gemini Mars
Interesting how you explain it makes it sound so endearing. You and the guy from work have similar charts. He's Scorp Sun Cap Moon Gem Mars and I forgot his Venus.



Do you think it's Scorpio related to want to know that themselves and their mates are totally submissive to one another because it removes the fear of being hurt?
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I can't be with a women that is submissive outside the bedroom huge turn off. I have a strong blunt type personality and need the challenge and somebody that can stand up for them selfs. In the bedroom tho I have to be control of everything I don't like receiving anything no foreplay nothing. Closest thing to being dominated is letting them on top. im all about giving an being aggressive just don't touch me.


My reaction is ?Omg &?Ayyyyeeee!!! @ Gcgc what's your sign?
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Posted by Shaniajam
Love submission in the bedroom. Outside, needs to be equal.
I think I agree with you. However, sometimes I want to be in control over my husband outside of the bedroom but he isn't having it! ?
Have you tried compromising on certain situations? Like in public maybe not but in the car or home when you're not intimate he'll allow it? I think it's an ego thing. But long as the public doesn't see that may be fine?
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It's totally an ego thing! I've tried compromising but with him it's no compromise. He's Aries Venus and Aries Moon.
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I can't be with a women that is submissive outside the bedroom huge turn off. I have a strong blunt type personality and need the challenge and somebody that can stand up for them selfs. In the bedroom tho I have to be control of everything I don't like receiving anything no foreplay nothing. Closest thing to being dominated is letting them on top. im all about giving an being aggressive just don't touch me.


My reaction is ?Omg &?Ayyyyeeee!!! @ Gcgc what's your sign?
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Sun Aries

Mars Taurus

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Posted by Wineaux15
How would you react if your spouse wanted you to be submissive in the bedroom AND out of the bedroom? They want you to do whatever they say with no arguments? I had a conversation with a few coworkers and one guy said he was attracted to a lady, but wouldn't take her seriously because she's not submissive enough. I thought, "surely in 2017 this man can't be serious." But he was very serious and went on to explain that he'd be just as submissive to his mate; pleasing her in any way that she wants, BUT she MUST be just as submissive. I think this could be sexy in the bedroom, but outside of the bedroom I'm too dominant for this arrangement. My questions are:


1. Would you, are you, or have you ever been in this type of relationship?

2. If you would... why? If not, why not?

3. If you are or have been how does this work for you?

4. What's you/ & spouse Sun, Moon, Venus, & Mars signs?
Two submissives nothing gets done lol

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So @ Impulsv if someone HAD to be the dominant which should it be... you or your spouse?

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Posted by Wineaux15
How would you react if your spouse wanted you to be submissive in the bedroom AND out of the bedroom? They want you to do whatever they say with no arguments? I had a conversation with a few coworkers and one guy said he was attracted to a lady, but wouldn't take her seriously because she's not submissive enough. I thought, "surely in 2017 this man can't be serious." But he was very serious and went on to explain that he'd be just as submissive to his mate; pleasing her in any way that she wants, BUT she MUST be just as submissive. I think this could be sexy in the bedroom, but outside of the bedroom I'm too dominant for this arrangement. My questions are:


1. Would you, are you, or have you ever been in this type of relationship?

2. If you would... why? If not, why not?

3. If you are or have been how does this work for you?

4. What's you/ & spouse Sun, Moon, Venus, & Mars signs?
Would be glad to do it only by choice.

No orders taken.
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Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxX
In the bedroom is one thing, but outside too? Yeah, no.




Sounds like he wants a doormat and he's disguising what he wants by trying to make it sound like it's supposed to be sexy.



EXACTLY! I felt the same way! I was wondering if he's insecure or something? I don't know many men in this day & age who still feels this way!
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I can't be with a women that is submissive outside the bedroom huge turn off. I have a strong blunt type personality and need the challenge and somebody that can stand up for them selfs. In the bedroom tho I have to be control of everything I don't like receiving anything no foreplay nothing. Closest thing to being dominated is letting them on top. im all about giving an being aggressive just don't touch me.


My reaction is ?Omg &?Ayyyyeeee!!! @ Gcgc what's your sign?
Sun Aries

Mars Taurus

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lol I guessed right! Soooo Aries!
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I can't be with a women that is submissive outside the bedroom huge turn off. I have a strong blunt type personality and need the challenge and somebody that can stand up for them selfs. In the bedroom tho I have to be control of everything I don't like receiving anything no foreplay nothing. Closest thing to being dominated is letting them on top. im all about giving an being aggressive just don't touch me.
I don't know if I can ask... but why don't you want to be touched?


My ex was like this... and sometimes I felt like I was doing something wrong. Left me scarred.
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I like being touched outside the bedroom and inside. What I mean is kissing all over me touching me is fine. It's just I prefer to be the one that does it to you as it turns me on more then anything you can do to me. You don't know how many girls think I'm lieing when I tell them I don't want oral or things like that.

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Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxX
In the bedroom is one thing, but outside too? Yeah, no.




Sounds like he wants a doormat and he's disguising what he wants by trying to make it sound like it's supposed to be sexy.



EXACTLY! I felt the same way! I was wondering if he's insecure or something? I don't know many men in this day & age who still feels this way!
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But then would it make you a true submissive if you only do it by choice?

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I can't be with a women that is submissive outside the bedroom huge turn off. I have a strong blunt type personality and need the challenge and somebody that can stand up for them selfs. In the bedroom tho I have to be control of everything I don't like receiving anything no foreplay nothing. Closest thing to being dominated is letting them on top. im all about giving an being aggressive just don't touch me.
I don't know if I can ask... but why don't you want to be touched?


My ex was like this... and sometimes I felt like I was doing something wrong. Left me scarred.
I like being touched outside the bedroom and inside. What I mean is kissing all over me touching me is fine. It's just I prefer to be the one that does it to you as it turns me on more then anything you can do to me. You don't know how many girls think I'm lieing when I tell them I don't want oral or things like that.

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@Astrology101 my husband is like this too. I think a person who's like this in the bedroom just gets turned on by sexually pleasing their spouse. I personally find it sexy to have a spouse who wants to please me so much. Our sex game is yummy ?.

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How would you react if your spouse wanted you to be submissive in the bedroom AND out of the bedroom? They want you to do whatever they say with no arguments? I had a conversation with a few coworkers and one guy said he was attracted to a lady, but wouldn't take her seriously because she's not submissive enough. I thought, "surely in 2017 this man can't be serious." But he was very serious and went on to explain that he'd be just as submissive to his mate; pleasing her in any way that she wants, BUT she MUST be just as submissive. I think this could be sexy in the bedroom, but outside of the bedroom I'm too dominant for this arrangement. My questions are:


1. Would you, are you, or have you ever been in this type of relationship?

2. If you would... why? If not, why not?

3. If you are or have been how does this work for you?

4. What's you/ & spouse Sun, Moon, Venus, & Mars signs?
Two submissives nothing gets done lol

So @ Impulsv if someone HAD to be the dominant which should it be... you or your spouse?



I have a theory people that are in charge in the outside world want a break n want to submissive. Men in charge n power want to be overpowered in the bedroom. Why some seek domanitrix n submissive.


Taurus ex said he was a submissive

I'm a submissive in bedroom as I want abreak of always being in charge.

I maybe wrong !


Have anyone else experienced sub +sub? Did it work

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I think there may be a lot of truth to your theory.


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Love submission in the bedroom. Outside, needs to be equal.
I think I agree with you. However, sometimes I want to be in control over my husband outside of the bedroom but he isn't having it! ?
Have you tried compromising on certain situations? Like in public maybe not but in the car or home when you're not intimate he'll allow it? I think it's an ego thing. But long as the public doesn't see that may be fine?



It's totally an ego thing! I've tried compromising but with him it's no compromise. He's Aries Venus and Aries Moon.
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Yes that Aries always wants to be in control (the one thing I hate about my zodiac cause I have Aries Venus). That is tough. It's easier for me to suppress it cause I'm a female who likes the man to lead (earth and water elements in my chart) but it's tough for the man. Oh my Hun I wish I knew what else to say.


Cyber hugs.

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Most of my relationships have revolved around this concept in some way.


My outer personality is that of a dominant and stronger nature. But in relationships I tend to want to give up control immediately. I had mistakenly equated being submissive with being taken care of, two very different concepts that shouldn't be equated lol.


However since I attract other people with control issues, they're normally drawn to me because I seem so strong and they were hoping that'd help control their negative tendencies, ironically. So they typically don't know wtf to do when I keep trying to give up control and struggle with taking too much or none at all as a result. It only gets messier from there lol.


So I'd say no it doesn't work, not for me ha.


The guys underlying concept is sweet, two people who give unconditionally all the time so neither is left without. That's rarely how those situations play out though. Even the kindest and gentlest souls will take without giving if you don't draw lines occasionally.


Sun/Venus in Scorp, Cancer moon, Gemini Mars
Interesting how you explain it makes it sound so endearing. You and the guy from work have similar charts. He's Scorp Sun Cap Moon Gem Mars and I forgot his Venus.



Do you think it's Scorpio related to want to know that themselves and their mates are totally submissive to one another because it removes the fear of being hurt?
Yeah Scorpios use boundaries and control in most aspects around them to protect themselves, because the natural inclination is to want to eliminate boundaries.


That some very heavy stuff for most people though. Not everyone is fortified enough for that style of relationship. So upon getting turned down or called crazy the first couple of times scorps learn quick which side is more comfortable to be in when it comes to emotional control of a scenario.
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That is very deep indeed. You're making me have a totally different lens on the outside the bedroom perspective of how he may have meant it. At first I truly thought he was crazy or insecure. I felt like, "good luck finding a woman who will do whatever you ask her to whenever", but what he's saying is that she's his safe spot? Because he knows she'll be there regardless, she knows the personal boundaries within their relationship, he can be vulnerable with her and in return trust her? If this is the case, I guess that very sweet, deep, and even sexy to an extent.
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Love submission in the bedroom. Outside, needs to be equal.
I think I agree with you. However, sometimes I want to be in control over my husband outside of the bedroom but he isn't having it! ?
Have you tried compromising on certain situations? Like in public maybe not but in the car or home when you're not intimate he'll allow it? I think it's an ego thing. But long as the public doesn't see that may be fine?



It's totally an ego thing! I've tried compromising but with him it's no compromise. He's Aries Venus and Aries Moon.
Yes that Aries always wants to be in control (the one thing I hate about my zodiac cause I have Aries Venus). That is tough. It's easier for me to suppress it cause I'm a female who likes the man to lead (earth and water elements in my chart) but it's tough for the man. Oh my Hun I wish I knew what else to say.


Cyber hugs.

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Lol, it's ok. I'm used to it now!


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Haha @ Ellygant & @Impulsv I'm Cap Moon & I love conversations involving control. Hence why I'm intrigued by this conversation. It's very much not just about the sexual aspect as it is me truly wanting to understand the control aspect.
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Haha @ Ellygant & @Impulsv I'm Cap Moon & I love conversations involving control. Hence why I'm intrigued by this conversation. It's very much not just about the sexual aspect as it is me truly wanting to understand the control aspect.
Ha! That's funny. I don't know why I thought you were a water moon lol.


I have these conversations a lot with cap moons. I think all my Scorp combined with having the opposite moon stirs them up and makes them feel at ease to talk about it bluntly.


I notice caps moons fall one way or the other pretty strictly. Very traditional and old school with control. Or super equality oriented perhaps borderline repulsed by certain traditionalism.


I work with an Aries guy and a Sag girl who both have cap moons and watching them argue I'll admit is a rare treat lol. Especially since when I speak with both of them alone they're much less argumentative and very tender in their reasoning and approaches.
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@Ellygant that's so weird you say that. This guy at work and I argue a lot and you'd think we'd get along well being we both have Cap Moons. Maybe we are arguing for control. I must give off the vibe of being watery too because most of my friends & exes are Water Suns with Air Moons/ Venus. My chart is Cap dominated. I'm Aqua sun with Scorp Mars. But everything else is Cap! I've been mistaken for a Scorp before. Oh my Rising is either Libra or Aqua ( it differs depending what sight I use to calculate my chart)

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I would uncontrollably laugh at him and then say dueces!
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Actually, now that I think of it my dad is Scorp Sun Cap Moon... so cold and is such a control freak! He ran away my mother (Sag/ Scorp Cusp & Scorp Moon) because he was so controlling. He never remarried because he still loves my mom. He's always been very vocal that I was his favorite child (not cool) because he says that he loves my ambition and ability to speak my mind and then move on where as my older sister and brother will not speak their mind but don't speak to I'm for a while because he's upset them. Weird dynamic.
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I can't be with a women that is submissive outside the bedroom huge turn off. I have a strong blunt type personality and need the challenge and somebody that can stand up for them selfs. In the bedroom tho I have to be control of everything I don't like receiving anything no foreplay nothing. Closest thing to being dominated is letting them on top. im all about giving an being aggressive just don't touch me.
I don't know if I can ask... but why don't you want to be touched?


My ex was like this... and sometimes I felt like I was doing something wrong. Left me scarred.
I like being touched outside the bedroom and inside. What I mean is kissing all over me touching me is fine. It's just I prefer to be the one that does it to you as it turns me on more then anything you can do to me. You don't know how many girls think I'm lieing when I tell them I don't want oral or things like that.



@Astrology101 my husband is like this too. I think a person who's like this in the bedroom just gets turned on by sexually pleasing their spouse. I personally find it sexy to have a spouse who wants to please me so much. Our sex game is yummy ?.

Lol but sometimes I want to do the pleasing... I think the thought of pleasing my partner is very romantic to me... and when I don't get to do that (if not always, maybe sometimes)... I might feel unhappy.


@Gcgc

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Awwww so sweet! Maybe it's a fire sign thing to want to please. Neither of you @Gcgc or @Astrology101 has any Virgo in your chart do you?

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Good luck getting a feisty Latina to be submissive to you outside of the bedroom.


I can be both submissive and a little dominant in the bedroom, but outside of that ..EH, don't hold your breath. Ask me nicely and let's make some compromises.
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I can't be with a women that is submissive outside the bedroom huge turn off. I have a strong blunt type personality and need the challenge and somebody that can stand up for them selfs. In the bedroom tho I have to be control of everything I don't like receiving anything no foreplay nothing. Closest thing to being dominated is letting them on top. im all about giving an being aggressive just don't touch me.
I don't know if I can ask... but why don't you want to be touched?


My ex was like this... and sometimes I felt like I was doing something wrong. Left me scarred.
I like being touched outside the bedroom and inside. What I mean is kissing all over me touching me is fine. It's just I prefer to be the one that does it to you as it turns me on more then anything you can do to me. You don't know how many girls think I'm lieing when I tell them I don't want oral or things like that.



@Astrology101 my husband is like this too. I think a person who's like this in the bedroom just gets turned on by sexually pleasing their spouse. I personally find it sexy to have a spouse who wants to please me so much. Our sex game is yummy ?.

Lol but sometimes I want to do the pleasing... I think the thought of pleasing my partner is very romantic to me... and when I don't get to do that (if not always, maybe sometimes)... I might feel unhappy.


@Gcgc

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I have a ex that was also a Leo sun Gemini rising and she was like that in wanting to show her appreciation by more of a random spontaneous action in giving. But she was the opposite she loved all the attention and would recieve it with open arms. If someone told me this then I would understand and Go with it.
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I can't be with a women that is submissive outside the bedroom huge turn off. I have a strong blunt type personality and need the challenge and somebody that can stand up for them selfs. In the bedroom tho I have to be control of everything I don't like receiving anything no foreplay nothing. Closest thing to being dominated is letting them on top. im all about giving an being aggressive just don't touch me.
I don't know if I can ask... but why don't you want to be touched?


My ex was like this... and sometimes I felt like I was doing something wrong. Left me scarred.
I like being touched outside the bedroom and inside. What I mean is kissing all over me touching me is fine. It's just I prefer to be the one that does it to you as it turns me on more then anything you can do to me. You don't know how many girls think I'm lieing when I tell them I don't want oral or things like that.



@Astrology101 my husband is like this too. I think a person who's like this in the bedroom just gets turned on by sexually pleasing their spouse. I personally find it sexy to have a spouse who wants to please me so much. Our sex game is yummy ?.

Lol but sometimes I want to do the pleasing... I think the thought of pleasing my partner is very romantic to me... and when I don't get to do that (if not always, maybe sometimes)... I might feel unhappy.


@Gcgc



Awwww so sweet! Maybe it's a fire sign thing to want to please. Neither of you @Gcgc or @Astrology101 has any Virgo in your chart do you?

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Aries - 11th House (12° 21')

Ascendant - 1st House cusp Gemini (27° 38')

Moon Gemini 12th House (1° 26')

Mercury Pisces - 10th House (15° 33')

Venus Pisces - 10th House (5° 55')

Mars Taurus - 12th House (27° 57')

Jupiter Aries - 11th House (7° 25')

Saturn Sagittarius - 6th House (21° 9')

Uranus Sagittarius - 6th House (26° 44')

Neptune Capricorn - 7th House (7° 59')

Pluto Scorpio - 5th House (9° 18')

2nd House Cusp Cancer (16° 7')

3rd House Cusp Leo (5° 1')

4th House cusp - Imum Coeli Leo (28° 6')

5th House Cusp Libra (0° 21')

6th House cusp Scorpio (14° 39')

7th House cusp - Descendant Sagittarius (27° 38')

8th House cusp Capricorn (16° 7')

9th House cusp Aquarius (5° 1')

2nd House Cusp Cancer (16° 7')

10th House cusp - Midheaven Aquarius (28° 6')

11th House cusp Aries (0° 21')

12th House cusp Taurus (14° 39')


No Virgo my brother is a Virgo and he tells me his experiences and dude is selfish asf lol
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i sometimes read that scorpio-cap relationship dynamic would involve power struggle


we don't have that. i guess neither of us sees the point lol. we both are agreeable and cooperative in general. the funny thing is neither of us can be told what to do lol


people who don't know us well usually think i'm the submissive one (my mom one time complained 'r u his slave?' lol because i'd keep filling up his glass, putting food on his plate without him even noticing it lol) until scorpio asks them to ask me for a decision because i'm the boss lol Tongue
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I would ask him to deal with his control freak issues


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I can't be with a women that is submissive outside the bedroom huge turn off. I have a strong blunt type personality and need the challenge and somebody that can stand up for them selfs. In the bedroom tho I have to be control of everything I don't like receiving anything no foreplay nothing. Closest thing to being dominated is letting them on top. im all about giving an being aggressive just don't touch me.
I don't know if I can ask... but why don't you want to be touched?


My ex was like this... and sometimes I felt like I was doing something wrong. Left me scarred.
I like being touched outside the bedroom and inside. What I mean is kissing all over me touching me is fine. It's just I prefer to be the one that does it to you as it turns me on more then anything you can do to me. You don't know how many girls think I'm lieing when I tell them I don't want oral or things like that.



@Astrology101 my husband is like this too. I think a person who's like this in the bedroom just gets turned on by sexually pleasing their spouse. I personally find it sexy to have a spouse who wants to please me so much. Our sex game is yummy ?.

Lol but sometimes I want to do the pleasing... I think the thought of pleasing my partner is very romantic to me... and when I don't get to do that (if not always, maybe sometimes)... I might feel unhappy.


@Gcgc



Awwww so sweet! Maybe it's a fire sign thing to want to please. Neither of you @Gcgc or @Astrology101 has any Virgo in your chart do you?

I have libra venus in 4th house. Might be that. No virgo. Why do you ask?

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I asked because most of the Virgos I know( especially the women) are extremely giving in love. I LOVE that about them. But they're not like that with just anyone.


I have a close Virgo friend who was dating a Canver guy and she really was giving and caring to him and he broke her heart... she was even submissive to him in the relationship. Now it's hard for her to live on!


Now I've dated a Virgo guy before but he wasn'r selfish. It could have been his Libra Moon.



@Gcgc your Gemini Moon AND Aries in your chart boy makes you persistent, aggressive, and dominant! But can you get bored easily if your spouse doesn't intrigue you?

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i sometimes read that scorpio-cap relationship dynamic would involve power struggle


we don't have that. i guess neither of us sees the point lol. we both are agreeable and cooperative in general. the funny thing is neither of us can be told what to do lol


people who don't know us well usually think i'm the submissive one (my mom one time complained 'r u his slave?' lol because i'd keep filling up his glass, putting food on his plate without him even noticing it lol) until scorpio asks them to ask me for a decision because i'm the boss lol Tongue





I've heard this too, but it's an interesting dynamic because I've also seen a lot of Scorp & Cap relationships where both were obsessed in love with one another. They'd argue over control... break away, but couldn't stay away from each other. I can only imagine how a Scorp with Cap has internal struggles within themselves. I can see them bring emotional but going through great lengths to control their emotions in fear of being vulnerable, but wanting and needing s partner who understands their emotional needs without them stating it all the time. I'd think they be the best st needing a submissive lover.


@iCloud9 I thinks that's great that you're catering to your man, but by submissive I mean like can he tell you what to wear, who to hang out with, where to go? Once this same coworker was dating a girl, and he wouldn't bring her around us to meet her. I asked why and he says he doesn't need everyone in his business. I'd think any man in love would like to show off the one he's in love with.

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Yes this is a big problem for me I can sometimes feel like I'm falling fast and month or so later I'm bored and gone. I'm extremely flighty it's why i have stayed mostly single to try and not hurt people.
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i sometimes read that scorpio-cap relationship dynamic would involve power struggle


we don't have that. i guess neither of us sees the point lol. we both are agreeable and cooperative in general. the funny thing is neither of us can be told what to do lol


people who don't know us well usually think i'm the submissive one (my mom one time complained 'r u his slave?' lol because i'd keep filling up his glass, putting food on his plate without him even noticing it lol) until scorpio asks them to ask me for a decision because i'm the boss lol Tongue





I've heard this too, but it's an interesting dynamic because I've also seen a lot of Scorp & Cap relationships where both were obsessed in love with one another. They'd argue over control... break away, but couldn't stay away from each other. I can only imagine how a Scorp with Cap has internal struggles within themselves. I can see them bring emotional but going through great lengths to control their emotions in fear of being vulnerable, but wanting and needing s partner who understands their emotional needs without them stating it all the time. I'd think they be the best st needing a submissive lover.


@iCloud9 I thinks that's great that you're catering to your man, but by submissive I mean like can he tell you what to wear, who to hang out with, where to go? Once this same coworker was dating a girl, and he wouldn't bring her around us to meet her. I asked why and he says he doesn't need everyone in his business. I'd think any man in love would like to show off the one he's in love with.

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my pisces mars is attracted to men who are capable of being vulnerable and emotionally expressive so he does not need to suppress or struggle with being himself


as to telling me what to wear, who to hang out with, where to go? 'thanks for your suggestions. good luck' is what i'd say lol
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i sometimes read that scorpio-cap relationship dynamic would involve power struggle


we don't have that. i guess neither of us sees the point lol. we both are agreeable and cooperative in general. the funny thing is neither of us can be told what to do lol


people who don't know us well usually think i'm the submissive one (my mom one time complained 'r u his slave?' lol because i'd keep filling up his glass, putting food on his plate without him even noticing it lol) until scorpio asks them to ask me for a decision because i'm the boss lol Tongue





I've heard this too, but it's an interesting dynamic because I've also seen a lot of Scorp & Cap relationships where both were obsessed in love with one another. They'd argue over control... break away, but couldn't stay away from each other. I can only imagine how a Scorp with Cap has internal struggles within themselves. I can see them bring emotional but going through great lengths to control their emotions in fear of being vulnerable, but wanting and needing s partner who understands their emotional needs without them stating it all the time. I'd think they be the best st needing a submissive lover.


@iCloud9 I thinks that's great that you're catering to your man, but by submissive I mean like can he tell you what to wear, who to hang out with, where to go? Once this same coworker was dating a girl, and he wouldn't bring her around us to meet her. I asked why and he says he doesn't need everyone in his business. I'd think any man in love would like to show off the one he's in love with.

my pisces mars is attracted to men who are capable of being vulnerable and emotionally expressive so he does not need to suppress or struggle with being himself


as to telling me what to wear, who to hang out with, where to go? 'thanks for your suggestions. good luck' is what i'd say lol
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Actually, now that I think of it my dad is Scorp Sun Cap Moon... so cold and is such a control freak! He ran away my mother (Sag/ Scorp Cusp & Scorp Moon) because he was so controlling. He never remarried because he still loves my mom. He's always been very vocal that I was his favorite child (not cool) because he says that he loves my ambition and ability to speak my mind and then move on where as my older sister and brother will not speak their mind but don't speak to I'm for a while because he's upset them. Weird dynamic.
Yeah Scorp and cap placements are weird about respect. People who cannot voice their concerns, especially where emotions are concerned, are perceived as weak.


Those placements have a tendency of seeking out what we feel would better us. So outspoken, direct people gain respect since it's what we aim for.
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Ok I understand now.

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1. Would you, are you, or have you ever been in this type of relationship?

Nope.

2. If you would... why? If not, why not?

Cause I want to be equals and I want my spouse to love me for who I am

3. If you are or have been how does this work for you?

N/a

4. What's you/ & spouse Sun, Moon, Venus, & Mars signs?

Cancer, Scorpio Gemini, Pisces boyfriends have been Virgo, aries, Taurus,

mostly don't know all of their other placements
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Only way I would be completely submissive outside the bedroom, following you blindly...is if you were paying for my life.


That'll never happen. So nope, won't work for me
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Is it always the man expecting the woman to be submissive?
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Is it always the man expecting the woman to be submissive?
Suprisingly no. There are many relationships where the man is submissive.
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Is it always the man expecting the woman to be submissive?
Suprisingly no. There are many relationships where the man is submissive.
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Id like some of that, but in every day life, unless it's a game, idw sado-maso shit, it's equal, intelligent adults working together, on every point, in every decision.
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i sometimes read that scorpio-cap relationship dynamic would involve power struggle


we don't have that. i guess neither of us sees the point lol. we both are agreeable and cooperative in general. the funny thing is neither of us can be told what to do lol


people who don't know us well usually think i'm the submissive one (my mom one time complained 'r u his slave?' lol because i'd keep filling up his glass, putting food on his plate without him even noticing it lol) until scorpio asks them to ask me for a decision because i'm the boss lol Tongue





I've heard this too, but it's an interesting dynamic because I've also seen a lot of Scorp & Cap relationships where both were obsessed in love with one another. They'd argue over control... break away, but couldn't stay away from each other. I can only imagine how a Scorp with Cap has internal struggles within themselves. I can see them bring emotional but going through great lengths to control their emotions in fear of being vulnerable, but wanting and needing s partner who understands their emotional needs without them stating it all the time. I'd think they be the best st needing a submissive lover.


@iCloud9 I thinks that's great that you're catering to your man, but by submissive I mean like can he tell you what to wear, who to hang out with, where to go? Once this same coworker was dating a girl, and he wouldn't bring her around us to meet her. I asked why and he says he doesn't need everyone in his business. I'd think any man in love would like to show off the one he's in love with.

my pisces mars is attracted to men who are capable of being vulnerable and emotionally expressive so he does not need to suppress or struggle with being himself


as to telling me what to wear, who to hang out with, where to go? 'thanks for your suggestions. good luck' is what i'd say lol


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that face looks kinda familiar lol


i can be rebellious and i think being respectful both ways is important. i don't think i want to dominate dominate a man. i actually thought wow that's so ssheexxy when i heard mom's "r u his slave' comment lol



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i sometimes read that scorpio-cap relationship dynamic would involve power struggle


we don't have that. i guess neither of us sees the point lol. we both are agreeable and cooperative in general. the funny thing is neither of us can be told what to do lol


people who don't know us well usually think i'm the submissive one (my mom one time complained 'r u his slave?' lol because i'd keep filling up his glass, putting food on his plate without him even noticing it lol) until scorpio asks them to ask me for a decision because i'm the boss lol Tongue





I've heard this too, but it's an interesting dynamic because I've also seen a lot of Scorp & Cap relationships where both were obsessed in love with one another. They'd argue over control... break away, but couldn't stay away from each other. I can only imagine how a Scorp with Cap has internal struggles within themselves. I can see them bring emotional but going through great lengths to control their emotions in fear of being vulnerable, but wanting and needing s partner who understands their emotional needs without them stating it all the time. I'd think they be the best st needing a submissive lover.


@iCloud9 I thinks that's great that you're catering to your man, but by submissive I mean like can he tell you what to wear, who to hang out with, where to go? Once this same coworker was dating a girl, and he wouldn't bring her around us to meet her. I asked why and he says he doesn't need everyone in his business. I'd think any man in love would like to show off the one he's in love with.

my pisces mars is attracted to men who are capable of being vulnerable and emotionally expressive so he does not need to suppress or struggle with being himself


as to telling me what to wear, who to hang out with, where to go? 'thanks for your suggestions. good luck' is what i'd say lol


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that face looks kinda familiar lol


i can be rebellious and i think being respectful both ways is important. i don't think i want to dominate dominate a man. i actually thought wow that's so ssheexxy when i heard mom's "r u his slave' comment lol



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It can be sexy in the bedroom. But I agree, in the relationship aspect it is important to act as equals. However, I do believe if we look at it from @ Ellygant perspective it does make me look at it differently. Maybe what my coworker meant to say instead of him wanting someone who's submissive he wants someone who is willing to be ok with him totally immersing her with his love and affection and should do the same without feeling uncomfortable.

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i sometimes read that scorpio-cap relationship dynamic would involve power struggle


we don't have that. i guess neither of us sees the point lol. we both are agreeable and cooperative in general. the funny thing is neither of us can be told what to do lol


people who don't know us well usually think i'm the submissive one (my mom one time complained 'r u his slave?' lol because i'd keep filling up his glass, putting food on his plate without him even noticing it lol) until scorpio asks them to ask me for a decision because i'm the boss lol Tongue





I've heard this too, but it's an interesting dynamic because I've also seen a lot of Scorp & Cap relationships where both were obsessed in love with one another. They'd argue over control... break away, but couldn't stay away from each other. I can only imagine how a Scorp with Cap has internal struggles within themselves. I can see them bring emotional but going through great lengths to control their emotions in fear of being vulnerable, but wanting and needing s partner who understands their emotional needs without them stating it all the time. I'd think they be the best st needing a submissive lover.


@iCloud9 I thinks that's great that you're catering to your man, but by submissive I mean like can he tell you what to wear, who to hang out with, where to go? Once this same coworker was dating a girl, and he wouldn't bring her around us to meet her. I asked why and he says he doesn't need everyone in his business. I'd think any man in love would like to show off the one he's in love with.

my pisces mars is attracted to men who are capable of being vulnerable and emotionally expressive so he does not need to suppress or struggle with being himself


as to telling me what to wear, who to hang out with, where to go? 'thanks for your suggestions. good luck' is what i'd say lol


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that face looks kinda familiar lol


i can be rebellious and i think being respectful both ways is important. i don't think i want to dominate dominate a man. i actually thought wow that's so ssheexxy when i heard mom's "r u his slave' comment lol





It can be sexy in the bedroom. But I agree, in the relationship aspect it is important to act as equals. However, I do believe if we look at it from @ Ellygant perspective it does make me look at it differently. Maybe what my coworker meant to say instead of him wanting someone who's submissive he wants someone who is willing to be ok with him totally immersing her with his love and affection and should do the same without feeling uncomfortable.

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i think that's my scorp's definition of submission also. he once told me he submitted to me. and i was like okay then how come you can't just say yes to ALL my demands lol


edit: scorp cannot be pushed. i tried and failed lol

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we all have to bend to each other sometimes, especially if we want the relationship to work. but to expect a master/slave kind of union is unrealistic and egotistical. only a real piece of work would expect a person to give up their life, hopes, dreams, and wants in order to be with them.


some people need to get the fuck over themselves.
Those requests only come from a highly insecure person


Who wants to live with that kind of energy?


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1. Would you, are you, or have you ever been in this type of relationship?


No



2. If not, why not?


I don't like strict limits like that -- it would only allow me to express a small part of myself, which would be stifling. For me it lacks creativity, it's unbalanced, and it's boring at the very least, and at the worst it's inhuman.


Scorpio sun, Gem moon, Scorpio Venus, Libra Mars.


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nothing wrong with wanting a submissive partner. i like submissive women lol.
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