Understanding his motives and expectations
This topic was created in the Relationships & Astrology forum by Zodiaclove88 on Tuesday, July 18, 2017 and has 15 replies.
First and foremost,
Myself:
SUN- LEO
MOON - LIBRA
VENUS - CANCER
Him:
SUN- AQUARIUS
MOON- PISCES
VENUS- PISCES
As my last relationship was disintegrating and eventually ended, I met someone who seemed too good to be true. We clicked well and our weirdness matched and complemented each other's. However, said guy is in a relationship.
Obviously, it's a bad situation and more than likely to leave me either damaging a relationship that isn't mine for nothing and/or being hurt in the long run. However, I have seen this situation happen before where the "side chick" and the man ended up happily married. The Cancerian in me is holding out for the chance.
The guy and I talk daily and hang out very frequently too. To the point where I wonder how his current girlfriend has not found out yet and his behavior has not changed. Normally, I would just assume the worst and hope for the best, but this situation is very odd. Sometimes he shows clingy behaviors and asks what my expectations are in a way that makes me feel like he wants to date. I can share examples if necessary.
Are our signs compatible? Is this behavior typical forthis kind of relationship? Should I expect more?
Myself:
SUN- LEO
MOON - LIBRA
VENUS - CANCER
Him:
SUN- AQUARIUS
MOON- PISCES
VENUS- PISCES
As my last relationship was disintegrating and eventually ended, I met someone who seemed too good to be true. We clicked well and our weirdness matched and complemented each other's. However, said guy is in a relationship.
Obviously, it's a bad situation and more than likely to leave me either damaging a relationship that isn't mine for nothing and/or being hurt in the long run. However, I have seen this situation happen before where the "side chick" and the man ended up happily married. The Cancerian in me is holding out for the chance.
The guy and I talk daily and hang out very frequently too. To the point where I wonder how his current girlfriend has not found out yet and his behavior has not changed. Normally, I would just assume the worst and hope for the best, but this situation is very odd. Sometimes he shows clingy behaviors and asks what my expectations are in a way that makes me feel like he wants to date. I can share examples if necessary.
Are our signs compatible? Is this behavior typical forthis kind of relationship? Should I expect more?
A side chick lioness? ?
It is not in my nature. I think I just got out of two back to back serious relationships that ended badly when I was about to marry.
Posted by Zodiaclove88Sorry to hear that.
It is not in my nature. I think I just got out of two back to back serious relationships that ended badly when I was about to marry.
How long have you been talking?
There is as high chance he was just playing around with you... or himself.
Pisces Venus, I have that too.
Yeah, need to see examples, because right now he just sounds friendly or maybe fantasizing a bit.
We have been chatting daily for almost 2 months.
Please bear with me as I make a long story short and try to give examples. If you have questions, let me know. This guy will talk to me about anything and everything. He can sometimes be very clingy and needy in regards to needing to know what I'm doing or talking to me, he will say that he misses me and send me "good morning" messages or greetings in the morning, he invited himself over to meet my family even and has hung out there with me a few times, we hang out in public at various times of the day, he has been affectionate in a handholding and snuggling when I have backed off and said that it's too relaionshippish for me. I have felt the slight pings of jealousy he gets with other guys even if he won't admit it. He is also pretty possessive of me and calls me "his" a lot.
Two scenarios that really threw me:
1. I went to a small house party with a group of friends and one of these friends knew I was fairly recently single and acted on his feelings by trying to get me to stay over and trying to make out with me which made me extremely uncomfortable. The next day I confided this with him and he freaked out and told me how disappointed he was in me and how much he couldn't believe that guy did that, etc.
2. He has a tendency to keep things as positive and drama-free as possible and is rarely confrontational unless he is really upset (like above example), but for a few days in a row he kept asking me questions about what I wanted and saying things like that he can't figure me out. I brought it up later and he didn't want to talk about it. It was very odd.
Please bear with me as I make a long story short and try to give examples. If you have questions, let me know. This guy will talk to me about anything and everything. He can sometimes be very clingy and needy in regards to needing to know what I'm doing or talking to me, he will say that he misses me and send me "good morning" messages or greetings in the morning, he invited himself over to meet my family even and has hung out there with me a few times, we hang out in public at various times of the day, he has been affectionate in a handholding and snuggling when I have backed off and said that it's too relaionshippish for me. I have felt the slight pings of jealousy he gets with other guys even if he won't admit it. He is also pretty possessive of me and calls me "his" a lot.
Two scenarios that really threw me:
1. I went to a small house party with a group of friends and one of these friends knew I was fairly recently single and acted on his feelings by trying to get me to stay over and trying to make out with me which made me extremely uncomfortable. The next day I confided this with him and he freaked out and told me how disappointed he was in me and how much he couldn't believe that guy did that, etc.
2. He has a tendency to keep things as positive and drama-free as possible and is rarely confrontational unless he is really upset (like above example), but for a few days in a row he kept asking me questions about what I wanted and saying things like that he can't figure me out. I brought it up later and he didn't want to talk about it. It was very odd.
This is not normal for me and I know that it's wrong.
I've also known people who cheated on their significant others, found each other, and got together and married afterwards and are still going strong.
It doesn't excuse the behavior, but there is always a chance it could work out.
I've also known people who cheated on their significant others, found each other, and got together and married afterwards and are still going strong.
It doesn't excuse the behavior, but there is always a chance it could work out.
Posted by AerialViewMe too! I MIGHT seem a little flirty but I will not cheat on the person I'm with and if you two end upPosted by Zodiaclove88Sorry to hear that.
It is not in my nature. I think I just got out of two back to back serious relationships that ended badly when I was about to marry.
How long have you been talking?
There is as high chance he was just playing around with you... or himself.
Pisces Venus, I have that too.click to expand
together you will be wondering if he is going to do this to you. Not the best way to start a relationship.
Back up from him a little and maybe if they ever end things you could start talking but now is not
the time
Besides Leo and Aquarius are opposites, they are an ok match, not one worth causing trouble over lol
Is it about sun signs or Venus signs? Because our Venus signs are perfect together...
Posted by Zodiaclove88It's about the whole picture.
Is it about sun signs or Venus signs? Because our Venus signs are perfect together...
Let's break this down, shall we. Your in your feels imagining a relationship, even marriage with him. He's been emotionally cheating with you and imagines how the pussy will feel.
What's wrong with dating AVAILABLE men??
Posted by SimsimiThis......
"..However, said guy is in a relationship.."
Try and respect this
He isn't available
girl hes playing you, stop. You look foolish
At best he chooses you over her and you both can laugh about that one time he was fucking both of you.
Or your the side chick that he fucks when it's convenient to him and then goes back home to his real family.
Or your the side chick that he fucks when it's convenient to him and then goes back home to his real family.
Posted by BrittnieMe too, I like too flirt. I do this not because my relationship is in some kind of danger, i just like to flirt lol and if somehow by situation I have to choose one, I'm not choosing the "sidechick".Posted by AerialViewMe too! I MIGHT seem a little flirty but I will not cheat on the person I'm with and if you two end upPosted by Zodiaclove88Sorry to hear that.
It is not in my nature. I think I just got out of two back to back serious relationships that ended badly when I was about to marry.
How long have you been talking?
There is as high chance he was just playing around with you... or himself.
Pisces Venus, I have that too.
together you will be wondering if he is going to do this to you. Not the best way to start a relationship.
Back up from him a little and maybe if they ever end things you could start talking but now is not
the timeclick to expand
I've been there before ?
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