What the heck is up with these cancer men!

omg..these cancer men! My cancer guy and I had a fight. We didnt talk for a few days and then I texted him and said I wanted to get everything straightened out. He called me. When I brought up the question I wanted to know the answer to he FREAKED out. He got really defensive and started cursing and saying my question was stupid and that it was "whack" and that I was just trying to get cool points and look good for other people...omg. It was horrible. I couldnt believe he would talk to me that way. It hurt so bad! It was so bad that I told him to forget the whole damn thing and hung up in his face. I then texted him and said I would never ever forgive him for talking to me like that, our relationship was over, that he was a liar from the beginning, that he was turning into a mean and bitter person and if he didnt get his life together he was gonna end up with no one because he keeps pushing away the people he loves. I told him to lose my number because I was erasing him from my life. He called me about an hour after that, and I ignored his call and texted him to leave me alone. I know he's been having some stresses lately, and I think that may have something to do with how he reacted to me because he has NEVER spoken to me like that before, but i feel that its no excuse for treating someone you say you love in that way. He was very disrespectful of my feelings. Very. I feel like I should keep him out of my life. At least until he apologizes and even then it will take a while for me to trust him again. I just dont want to talk to him and I think even if I dont, if he's sincere he'll find a way to apologize. I just dont know what to think anymore.

its been three days of not talking to my cancer guy so last night i sent him a text saying i didnt hate him, that i could never hate him (because i said i did when he cursed at me), and that i wanted to make sure he knew that because its been bothering me ever since i said it. he didnt respond so...we'll see what happens. im not gonna press the issue any further or reach out anymore. im gonna let him do it in his own time and if he doesnt then so be it.

Did you ask if he was sexually attracted to gnomes? Or furry animals? It might be too personal and not something he is willing to admit to just now.

ok this is what started the whole thing in the first place:
he had posted the most touching status about me on his FB page. It was up there a few days and then he deleted it completely. He didnt delete anything else but that. So I asked him why. He called me back, I asked him the question and he flipped out and got all defensive. That makes me believe he didnt have a good reason to. His friends prob teased him about it and he got embarrassed and took it off which of course he cant tell me. It just doesnt make sense.

okkk...piscestam...that was it? REALLY?
I know lots of misunderstandings and drama seem to rise from taking social networking sites more seriously than we should - or rather, taking to heart any episode in the virtual world as if it has tremendous importance...
but...I believe that it is NOT worth it to fight and 'separate' over sth so trivial...
I understand you probably have your reasons to suspect sth

you didnt say...does he avoid 'acknowledging' you online as his S.O..? was that the only reference to you and was quick to hide it? I am trying to comprehend why you would be upset over that...
he possibly felt cornered that you asked him - especially if sb joked him on the status thing and he got embarassed - and then you demanded right there explanations on what he writes or not on his own page...

if he hid a comment of, say, any of his female friends perhaps you could get suspicious but this is different, he probably was just ashamed if it was 'sappy' (by men's standards)...cancers are normally very affectionate and unabashedly so 🙂 but if his buddies made any snide remark then it makes sense (cancers dont like to feel 'slighted'/humiliated even for petty issues)

if he was rude to you you are right to stand your position but in all fairness I still dont see the point of this argument at all...and besides you told him to lose your number...so...if you said it in the heat of the moment, u must accept that he lost his patience as well when u 'interrogated' him...I say wait, he wont go anywhere so soon, but do try to amend things...its not worth it the way i see it

unless there are other parts missing from the story

it wasnt the fact of him removing the status, it was how disrespectful he treated me when I asked him about it? all i said was "hey wut happened to the status you wrote about me? did u delete it?" and he FLIPPED. it was so unlike him. but he said some really disrespectful things to me and i wasnt standing for that in any way. i dont care what stress he was under. Its no excuse. it doesnt matter now anyway because last night i tried to call and texted and did everything i could to make amends because the whole argument really is stupid, but he ignored me. Im tired of babying him. Im not gonna censor myself with anyone. Im never disrespectful because thats just not me, but when something is bothering me, i speak up about it. thats my right. so i broke it off with him. I let my anger get the best of me last night and i said some really mean things to him because i wanted him to hurt like he hurt me. immature and stupid i know, and it doesnt make me any better than him, but whats done is done. he's done some pretty inconsiderate things to me all throughout our relationship and everytime i bring them up he always finds a way to make it look like its my fault. I always end up rationalizing my part in the issue and apologizing and he always makes excuses and never apologizes. im tired of that. so im done. he never responded to anything except to say "why do you keep texting me?" and I said "cause u were a coward and wouldnt pick up the phone, and im pissed off that you would throw away our friendship like this". He never said anything else after that. Hes waiting for me to apologize but this time, im not. it is what it is. he needs to grow up We've known each other since we were kids. our families are very close because our grandmothers are best friends. so its not like i'll never see him again. we've been thru so much together. I gave up my virginity to him just last year! i never trusted any other guy enough to take that step so i remained a virgin all this time. but i trusted him so much. we're both 29 and he still throws tantrums.its just ridiculous now. i just cant deal with that anymore. i dont know if we'll ever be friends again, but if so we're gonna have a serious heart to heart so we know how to handle things the second time around. for now it feels better with him not around. i feel relief instead of stress but i know in the next few days i'll be missing him like crazy. i just have to deal with it

Ahh, there you go, now that you shared a bit of a background it makes more sense...for it seemed to me like you were describing the 'perfect guy' who dedicated/wrote sweet statuses about you and that was an one time incident. If he's been inconsiderate before and he flipped at nothing now, that speaks volumes...Maybe he was deliberately creating such drama (you dont sound like you went all crazy at him) to distance himself? Cancers are infamous for their passive-aggressive, indirect take on situations, especially those emotionally stressful.

He sounds pretty detached/cold now...probably testing the waters...either to see how far he can go OR if he s done sth he s somehow blame-shifting...

Lets not get hypothetical, though, bravo to you for standing up for yourself and didnt let yourself get into mind games/caught up in drama...

If it wasnt pretext to break it off with you, he s gonna get outta the shell and contact first...

In any case, dont let him mess with you...


I am sending you lots of hugs...pamper yourself up girl, calm down and vent here all you want but dont fret over his lame antics 🙂 🙂

so...i think its finally over for good. i just dont know. i decided to try to bury the hatchet and call a truce because i just didnt want any bad blood between us. i didnt want to see him at family functions etc...and it be uncomfortable. i called him and he picked up the phone which he normally doesnt do if hes mad. i actually wasnt expecting him to. we started having a small little tiff, no yelling or anything but basically an argument. i was saying i just want to be cool blah blah and he kept trying to talk about what i did that bothered him etc...then he said he would call me back cause he was driving. he didnt call me back. i sent him a text saying he could come over my house the next night to talk things out. i hate having conflicts over the phone. he didnt respond. i called him the next day and he picked up the phone again. i said are u coming over? he said no really coldly. i said why? he said he just didnt want to. i said we dont have to go into my room we can just sit in the living room and talk. i think hes scared to face me at my house because we always end up having sex and i think he likes being upset for some strange reason. its like hes not ready to be over it yet. but sex with him is the FARTHEST thing on my mind. i just want the drama to be over. its emotionally draining. so he goes we can talk somewhere else but im not coming there. just respect the fact that i dont want to come over. i was like fine but we can still talk? and then he says i dont know. why dont u call me back some other time. just really cold and with so much attitude. so i was like ok and hung up. his attitude kinda caught me off guard. but a few minutes went by and i started thinking about stuff and i decided i wasnt playing his dumb games anymore. i called him back. i was in tears and i regret calling him while i was crying but i was being an impulsive pisces. he didnt pick up so i left a message saying i would NOT be calling him back. i was tired of him acting like everything was my fault.that it wasnt right and he knows it. we BOTH let our emotions get the best of us and that if he ever wanted to talk he would have to be the one to do the reaching out. then i said goodbye and hung up. im soooo fed up with this stuff. i dont know if he'll come back. he's come back in the past but this was the worse fight we've ever had. he has a moon in aquarius so i dont know if that will have a bearing on what happens. but i know one thing, i will NOT be contacting him.

he was just so cold and it turned me off so badly. i have forgiven him for so many things and he acts like this when i stick up for myself? i dont want him to come back. we can be cool but it'll be a cold day in hell before i call him a friend again. i dont trust him with my heart and once my trust is gone, then good luck getting it back. i just dont feel in my heart that its over u know? i dont have that feeling of closure. i usually can tell when something is just done, but i dont have that feeling yet and im so confused! but im not backing down. if he wants to be my friend again hes gonna have to prove it for a long time. im so drained....i need input on the situation. reasurrance maybe that i did the right thing? HELP! lol

Hmm well I'm not sure what to say I also had 3 bad experiences with Cancers so all I can say is calm down, give space, think it over, and listen to your heart 🙂

I find it interesting that Pisces women and Cancer men are suppose to be so compatible. Yet, every Cancer man I know left his Pisces 'other'. From my grandfather to my Pisces girl's ex-hubby. I find it fascinating. I've noticed that Pisceans "think" they can feel energies. But, the way the world is setup now makes everything upside down for water signs these days. 😢 Which is why you'd be hard pressed to find a water sign in a lasting relationship in this day and age. Cancer men speak the language of water, yet what you think is "mystery" with them, isn't mystery at all. They are either scheming, or they are internalizing their emotions. A Pisces thinks that's what needs to be done, blah blah blah. However, that's the last thing that Cancer needs. If you let them stew in that shell for too long they will wander. Ask any woman that's been hit on by a married man, and he wanted to take it to the next level, they will mostly say a Cappy, Virgo, or a Crab. Sorry, it's true. Pisces and Cancers have a commonality.....needing to connect. Well, if you were a man and you had the superpower of emotion, what would you do with it?? Pisces and Cancer men alike have been known to have the most women on the side because of this. Ask around if you don't believe me. But, don't shoot the Mercurian messenger. 😉

Pisces speak water, but do not understand the intangibles. I'm suppose to be as compatible (if not more) with Aquas. But, I know it's just elemental incest and familiar energies. It's not suppose to work in a relationship. Re-fueling? Yes. If you try to make a relationship work based on same elements, then how can you actually grow? You cannot.

My business partner is a Cancer male married to a Pisces woman and she is sooooo oblivious to his crap it's scary. This is very constant with this pairing. He'd say: "She's my life partner, which is why I chose her." What he means is: "She takes all of my bullshit and is oblivious to whorish ways, therefore I can go out and do my thing while she thinks I'm this big family man." Well, trust me, he is, almost.

I've been with my Mermaid for almost 4 years now. She was married to her Cancer ex-husband for 18 years. Seems that she was the only one that didn't know that he was banging everyone from his sister-in-law to the babysitter, including his best friends wife. Now, I know you can't lump all people into the same category. But, I'm telling you mermaid, do some digging.
~GM

Hmm .... Im a gemini-Cancer guy. pisces are like an angel if u cut her wings, she can still fly using her broom ... LOL.

no offense guys.. the pisces that i known usually became in good mood when they see me. they always smile at me and look to my eyes. i can feel their happiness when i look at their eyes too .and that's not usual. because they dont stop looking at me...they seem like they want talk with me but they look for reasons. they are good person, i always feel safe and they are harmless emotionally ,,,.......

i feel like i am an exception lol.

It sounds like you overreacted a bit to his deleting the post. But, his reaction was kind of crappy too. He's in his self-righteous Cancer Man mode right now. No need to text or contact him anymore. Just keep it movin'...he will be back. But, the question is will you want him back in your life after this butter?

Wow...so long ago yet this so resonates...I was looking up cancer speaking to me through status updates. Together for 8 broke up going on 3 weeks but this last week he's been updating his status almost mimicking mine like he's watching me and telling me to wait without talking to me? Am I crazy?

He's cancer sun leo moon

I'm Taurus son and moon

By the way.... How did this turn out for you?

Together 8 months I meant