What to do
This topic was created in the Relationships & Astrology forum by bks_male_virgo on Friday, May 19, 2006 and has 6 replies.
i'm a young virgo male who was seeing this scorp girl for about a month. we fell for each other real hard and everything was going real good. granted
i'm a young virgo male who was seeing this scorp girl for about a month. we fell for each other real hard and everything was going real good. granted she has had problems in the past with men such as her father nothing being there and just bad relationships with ex-boyfriends. well she has this best friend who is a guy and me being the person to always over think things i told her i didnt trust the excuse she was giving me one night when she was hanging out with him till 3 in the morning. she was deeply hurt by this and completely broke it off with me. we still kept in touch but she was very distant from me and told me she forgave me but wasnt sure if she thought it was worth to continue. so i gave her some space and tried to be somewhat of a friend but i had a problem keeping my feelings about her out of some of our conversations but after a while i stopped that too. but now its life im there for her all the time and trying to fix things but shit is scared of being hurt again and now it seems like she is purposely acting like an ass just to piss me off or to kill whatever we have along with her feelings for me. me being the type of person who doesnt like to show weakness and caring really hate the fact that she means alot to me. but im not sure if i should still keep hopes of us being together.
My advice to you Mr. Virgo is step back, step back, step back.
Being her "Mr. Fixer" ultimately is doing neither her nor you much good - she's become dependent on you to her "be there for me and fix it guy!" - you have become dependent on her being the vulnerable little miss and charging in to "make things right" - and what's more she's acting so ungrateful and expecting you to be there.....and you are accepting this my friend??? Things will never be made right if you continue with this cycle or circle or pattern.....call it what you like.
So if I were you (and I know it's easy for me to say!), I'd have a frank, honest "final"! conversation with her - just say her Name, tell her you have feelings for her still, her behaviour has become unacceptable to you and you are no longer going to be there for her when things are not right in her world. In fact, I'd go so far as to say that you are leaving her world! - if she wants to rekindle the romance, she's got to drop the baggage of "
Being her "Mr. Fixer" ultimately is doing neither her nor you much good - she's become dependent on you to her "be there for me and fix it guy!" - you have become dependent on her being the vulnerable little miss and charging in to "make things right" - and what's more she's acting so ungrateful and expecting you to be there.....and you are accepting this my friend??? Things will never be made right if you continue with this cycle or circle or pattern.....call it what you like.
So if I were you (and I know it's easy for me to say!), I'd have a frank, honest "final"! conversation with her - just say her Name, tell her you have feelings for her still, her behaviour has become unacceptable to you and you are no longer going to be there for her when things are not right in her world. In fact, I'd go so far as to say that you are leaving her world! - if she wants to rekindle the romance, she's got to drop the baggage of "
"past hurts...afraid to get hurt again blah blah" - everybody has and will experince this in life - she's not unique or special in the broken heart department! - I'd leave her to think about what you have said.........just say my heart and door are always open to you...for love......but not anymore for "fixing you up"! And then I'd walk away....no contact, no nothing.......and if she gets her act together and is an intelligent and classy lady - she'll be back to you in a little time.....
I wish you the very best and if the above sounds a bit harsh, (it's just that I have seen this happen to so many couples and friends and know the outcome if you don't break that cycle).
Alana x
I wish you the very best and if the above sounds a bit harsh, (it's just that I have seen this happen to so many couples and friends and know the outcome if you don't break that cycle).
Alana x
And I'd just like to say over and over and over again to DXP - that thousand character thing-y is so frustrating and stupid and uugh!!!! - dam whoever came up with that idea, it sucks!!!!!
thanks for the advice
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