Which type of relationship would you rather have?

Posted by TheLibraMudra
I can't decide. You know this, Jane.


All of them.

Posted by leothelionsaysroar
Someone who has their shit together but adventurous.


Passion is overrated and usually reserved for unstable people, just in my experience.

Posted by Montgomery
Stable, then calm.



LEO, Virgo, Taurus

Posted by Librajean
All of them, there is the right time for each one. Libra/ Leo/Scorpio

Posted by pakmai
A passionate/adventurous one. Calm sounds boring lol.


Pisces/Pisces/Aquarius

Posted by tiziani
Not to sound like a Hallmark card but stability is passion to me.


Routine Venus/Mars.

Posted by jane84

Posted by leothelionsaysroar
Someone who has their shit together but adventurous.


Passion is overrated and usually reserved for unstable people, just in my experience.

You know you could have something there with that "usually reserved for unstable people" thing...


Interesting

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Posted by SensitiveBlues

Posted by leothelionsaysroar
Someone who has their shit together but adventurous.


Passion is overrated and usually reserved for unstable people, just in my experience.

Raises hands both! Unstable from 7pm to 7am

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Posted by Scruffles
A passionate one.


The others can be found in non-romantic relationships.


Cancer/Leo/Aries

Posted by leothelionsaysroar

Posted by SensitiveBlues

Posted by leothelionsaysroar
Someone who has their shit together but adventurous.


Passion is overrated and usually reserved for unstable people, just in my experience.

Raises hands both! Unstable from 7pm to 7am

Well I mean, unstable people have their place, sure. Just not in my world. I've dealt with enough of them for one lifetime.

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Posted by jane84

Posted by leothelionsaysroar

Posted by SensitiveBlues

Posted by leothelionsaysroar
Someone who has their shit together but adventurous.


Passion is overrated and usually reserved for unstable people, just in my experience.

Raises hands both! Unstable from 7pm to 7am

Well I mean, unstable people have their place, sure. Just not in my world. I've dealt with enough of them for one lifetime.

So you're at that point where stable and calm...something consistent is more important? I can see that..

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Posted by Capri-sun

Posted by jane84

Posted by Librajean
All of them, there is the right time for each one. Libra/ Leo/Scorpio

True... But is life really that fair? Is it possible to have it all?

Yes it's possible

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Posted by Deadpoop
All of them. I'd get bored with just one....


Taurus/Aries/Gem

Posted by bumboklatt

Posted by leothelionsaysroar
Someone who has their shit together but adventurous.


Passion is overrated and usually reserved for unstable people, just in my experience.

yep agreed


if youre dependent on passion I am scared of you


if youre dependent on progress then I admire you

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Posted by Scruffles

Posted by jane84

Posted by Scruffles
A passionate one.


The others can be found in non-romantic relationships.


Cancer/Leo/Aries

I see what you mean.. I wonder if a stable, calm relationship is truly romantic or just...good. Like being with a best friend, rather than someone who you just want to love with all you have. But could it be both? I don't know.


I wonder which last the longest..


Can you elaborate on that?

Yes, that's exactly what a stable/calm relationship was like for me. Like being with a friend. It lacked passion. : / It lasted 12 years but not till death do us part. lol


I hope both can be found. If it lacks passion or stability neither will work out in the end. You really do need both.

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Posted by Scruffles
Oh wait..

If you meant a passionate relationship to equal to a volatile relationship then I change my answer. lol

Posted by SensitiveBlues
I don't get how you ppl are using the word passion

Posted by jane84

Posted by Scruffles
Oh wait..

If you meant a passionate relationship to equal to a volatile relationship then I change my answer. lol

It's subjective.. I wondered what others would say.


For some passionate could mean: " I want to rip your clothes off and take you when I get home."


Others it could mean: "I want to buy you flowers, chocolates, and make love to you after a candle lit dinner."


And to others it might mean: an up and down rollercoaster of emotions where the person is just crazy about you and wants you all to themselves.


lol Mostly, I wondered is stable or calm enough? Can people be happy with this type of relationship or would you'd rather something that is passionate, but not so stable. Or want it all? And if it's all...is that even possible?


Lol There's a lot going on in my head right now.


And of course I wanted to know how your sun/Venus/Mars influences that.

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Posted by leothelionsaysroar

Posted by jane84

Posted by Scruffles
Oh wait..

If you meant a passionate relationship to equal to a volatile relationship then I change my answer. lol

It's subjective.. I wondered what others would say.


For some passionate could mean: " I want to rip your clothes off and take you when I get home."


Others it could mean: "I want to buy you flowers, chocolates, and make love to you after a candle lit dinner."


And to others it might mean: an up and down rollercoaster of emotions where the person is just crazy about you and wants you all to themselves.


lol Mostly, I wondered is stable or calm enough? Can people be happy with this type of relationship or would you'd rather something that is passionate, but not so stable. Or want it all? And if it's all...is that even possible?


Lol There's a lot going on in my head right now.


And of course I wanted to know how your sun/Venus/Mars influences that.

I think there's a difference between having passion in a relationship and having a passionate relationship, personally. Of course if you're in a relationship there has to be passionate moments, but to my experience if passion is the soul driving force behind the relationship, no, that isn't going to work, and I haven't ever had those with anyone that could maintain stability of any sort.


Flowers, chocolates, make love to you after dinner is romance, which again has it's place.. but who would want a relationship with that as the total foundation? It's sweet and most everybody loves sweetness, but to have it all the time would be overkill.


Up and down rollercoaster where the person is crazy about you and wants them all to themselves.. this pretty much speaks for itself. Who wants to date an amusement park that wants to kidnap you? Aside from young people who haven't "learned" that they are capable of being wanted without all the drama.

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Posted by Deadpoop

Posted by jane84

Posted by Deadpoop
All of them. I'd get bored with just one....


Taurus/Aries/Gem

I'm not surprised Venus in Aries..?

I think my Gem rising has more to do with my ADHD

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Posted by Scruffles
@jane84


Ahh I see.


I didn't see it as subjective.


In my mind, passion =/= unstable


I see passion as a strong emotion or feeling of romantic love and desire.

Posted by wagtail
I want a calm or stable partnership so I can pursue other things in life that DO require my passion.

If my partner wants me to channel passion into us all the time I will burn out.

If we have different definitions of passion it's also a bigger issue.

I can throw plates if you want, devour each other in bed afterwards, but then what's left...?


If we have a somewhat boring but secure relationship I can sky dive, travel, write poetry, change careers, move house, follow my off grid dreams.

All of which require 'passion' - in return I respect their passion.

Hopefully that translates into somehow acquiring all three components in a balanced love life. WITHOUT making passion an exclusive part of the deal...

Am I rambling you ask? Yesh, yesh I am - sorry.

Posted by Fox
If it had to be one of those - Adventurous

Scorpio/Scorpio/Leo


tbh I think in relationships you normally have elements of all.

Posted by jane84

Posted by Fox
If it had to be one of those - Adventurous

Scorpio/Scorpio/Leo


tbh I think in relationships you normally have elements of all.

See and that is where this question came from.


You say "normally" but often people talk about how people stay in a "crazy" relationship where you know it's crazy, but they are probably doing some crazy things in the bedroom as well (passionate?) so they stay...


And I also have observed relationships that seem to be more stable/calm, but don't seem to have that "passionate about each other" factor. They just act like best friends, but you don't see them kiss, or hug, or really want each other. (Not just around a bunch a people because some don't like PDA, but when they speak of the other they don't seem to be passionate towards each other.)


So I wouldn't say normally it's all. Just as some have said here, they were in stable relationships, but it wasn't passionate. Or some would rather have calm and stable. Of course I would want it all. Lol But which do most get vs. the one they desire, and how long does it last? Those are the main questions for me. I feel as though many do have different needs, which is why so many relationships don't work out. Someone's needs aren't being met.

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