Why do women do this in dating and relating??

Why do they perpetuate the bullshit? Why do they let bad treatment happen? Why are they so desperate for relationships?

I see the common scenario play out way too often. Our society is gradually progressing, but so many women stay in the old school belief that you need a man, need a relationship, and it's a necessary in life. They are so desperate to do so that they stay in shitty relationships and/or hop around and are NEVER single- both of which are so emotionally unhealthy.

It just got me thinking about all this after talking to two coworkers yesterday. I couldn't help but get so irritated because I find it so pathetic that people think that relationships are a NEED in life. Sure, if your goal is to get married and pop out crotch droppings, it's necessary. But the thing that one of them (a dingbat leo, no less) said was what kinda pissed me off- she had the audacity to imply that relationships are something that makes you happy. Not completely, but I think the implication was that it's something you need to have in order to make your life fully happy. ..to which my brain wanted to splode. She and the other coworker started to argue this point when I told them that if you need a relationship to make you happy, then you aren't happy alone. I don't remember the specifics, but what they were saying was total bullshit. The entire thing told me what I already knew about them- they can't be single. It scares them.

I threw out there that you should be able to be happy while single. A relationship should not define your happiness at any point, and if you can't be happy when single, then you shouldn't be dating until you can handle being alone. Both couldn't really respond. After they left, my scorp coworker was just as stumped. As a guy, he was just as baffled as I was and said they were full of shit.

What the hell perpetuates this mindset? I was getting some seriously ridiculous advice- online dating, I should date more people, and they behaved as if my being okay with single and so nonchalant about dating was unnatural (say the two who have a really sketchy dating/relating past).

What is it?

Is it society that constantly beats insecurity into our heads at an early age and continues through our lives? YOU AREN'T NORMAL IF YOU DON'T DATE ALL THE TIME!! YOU WILL BE OLD AND LONELY IF YOU DON'T GET OUT THERE AND DATE ALL THE TIME, RAWR.

Is it the desperation of wanting to feel needed/"loved" that they stick around with shitty relationship partners? Why are people sooo scared of being single at any time? Why do they relationship hop?

Why do they find it so hard to believe that someone is okay with being single and isn't in a rush to jump into relationships? Is it really so rare that when someone likes to just take their time and let it happen naturally? Is our society still really stuck in that 1950s mindset where love and marriage is a necessity to life to make you feel complete?

And don't get me wrong- this isn't anti relationship or that relationships aren't a nice addition to your life. I just don't see why it's a NEED when you could be doing your own thing until you get to that point where it happens. I don't get why some women are just so into this ideal that they stick around shitty relationships and serial date. Those two scenarios make them look more desperate and pathetic than they think they would appear when single.

I dunno, how a lot of women handle all this just confuses me. I can't even fully explain why I'm baffled and don't get it. After the convo I had with these two... yeah. Wtf.

First of all, lets laugh.... Crotch droppings? Holy bust a gut....

I think you should swap the word relationship for intimacy, human beings are hard wired for it, because we are social animals and correct me if I am wrong but I think women have some hormone in their brain that is released when they climax which causes them to form intimate bonds. From what I have read it is released in males the first time we see our offspring.

There are very real physiological reasons for your observation.

Thanks Leoliza 😉

Posted by MountainLeo
First of all, lets laugh.... Crotch droppings? Holy bust a gut....

I think you should swap the word relationship for intimacy, human beings are hard wired for it, because we are social animals and correct me if I am wrong but I think women have some hormone in their brain that is released when they climax which causes them to form intimate bonds. From what I have read it is released in males the first time we see our offspring.

There are very real physiological reasons for your observation.

Oh, I'm aware of all the biological reasons behind dating and relating.

But if you can't have any sense of individuality and your life revolves around this, you have some serious issues.

To each their own, but there is something seriously wrong with someone when they clearly don't view the subject in a very sane and healthy manner and then question those who do- all on the basis of social standing and outdated cultural beliefs.

If their goal in life is to get married and have kids, so be it. I don't care. Just don't make me feel out of place because that isn't my life goal. Don't make me feel bad and weird because I'm not desperate enough to go looking for someone because I cannot cope with being alone and cannot bear to wait. The only time I would make anyone feel out of place in their situation is if it's harmful to their emotional and physical well being (read: all those silly bitches who keep themselves in physically and emotionally abusive/unhealthy situations).

Overall, the way they just doormat themselves into these societal standards and into these shitty situations with douchebags is what's disturbing. We had our movement to help get us out of that trap. If some women want to remain in a codependent life style , fine. Just don't look at me funny because I choose to not fit an outdated mold and am perfectly happy doing my thing.

The two examples I talked to last night- they basically acted like something was wrong with me because I'm perfectly happy being solo and am very nonchalant when it comes to relationships. "You NEED to date someone else! You NEED to try online dating! You NEED to do this at some point for happiness!" It's like, are you fucking joking? It's 2013, right? Why are women still thinking like this??

Dude, men have been scratching their heads at them for hundreds of thousands of years ... I don't expect we are going to have reason to stop any time soon.

Crotch droppings lol

I think dating is fun. I like the security and partnership of a LTR or marriage. But I don't need that to make me happy.

I know women who feel like less of a woman when they're not in a relationship. I know women who want to get married so someone will take care of them. Makes me sad for them. Something is wrong in them, instead of something "being off" about a happy single.

The thing I've almost scratched a furrow in my head about is women needing relationships more than men, I mean if women are always is one & always need one, who are they having them with? A bunch of hamstrung weenies men that need one too? Little pot calling the kettle back here.

I think we don't see the forest for the trees here, because all these women are in relationships with men. They must have something to offer the men also find appealing?

Posted by MountainLeo
First of all, lets laugh.... Crotch droppings? Holy bust a gut....

I think you should swap the word relationship for intimacy, human beings are hard wired for it, because we are social animals and correct me if I am wrong but I think women have some hormone in their brain that is released when they climax which causes them to form intimate bonds. From what I have read it is released in males the first time we see our offspring.

There are very real physiological reasons for your observation.

Yeah-- oxytocin.

Thanks Montgomery,

I just got through reading all about this, as with most things in human behavior there is the cultural, & physiological genetic influences, but I'm still wondering just who all of the sick needy women are with if isn't men 😉.

Posted by zxcvbnm
Oldskoolflavor. I have no idea how your posting relates to this thread or my posting. You are like an old man who randomly blurts out "apple is delicious" when everyone else is talking about the presidential election of 2012.

Leebra: hopefully, my posting clarifies your posting.

Excuse me? You're the one coming into this thread and trying to piggy back it into your own problem. Go make your own thread about it. His post was directly related to the issue on hand.

Yours don't even make any sense and if anything, this comment applies to yourself.

Part of me is balking that the idea of seeking intimacy with your mate is a form of weakness. I think it is normal human psychology/physiology. Like anything though I guess there are extremes, like you can even die from drinking too much water, or die from not enough, in either case the need of water is part of our biological makeup as is intimacy with our loved ones.

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Posted by Leeeebra
hahaha... I'd like to point out the attitude of down-grading relationship is as fear riddled as up-grading it. It's all about that healthy balance. I just see the fear of one trying to overcome the fear of the other and vice and versa in all honesty. hehehe...

OK, done with trouble making for now. and the picture with lion in the grass is funny, it's like the lion had made all this effort in growing all the fur and teeth and patience... for the hunt. man, the power of survival. 😉

I personally wasn't downgrading relationships. I just would prefer not to be in an unhealthy one. I'd rather be alone and wait for the right mate instead of settling for what's available.

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This. It's not about relationships being good or bad, or that single is better and vice versa. The poster is just coming in and twisting it around and changing the entire point of the post just to be an asshole. I'm pretty sure he/she/whatever is on something most of the time, tbh. I'm beginning to wonder if they're related to e...

This post is far from anti relationship and the men here who think it is are freaking dumb as hell. Gasp, a woman who is speaking up about the masses still believing that a woman's life is all about relationships? About getting married? NOWAI.

"seeking intimacy is bad?"

WHERE was that mentioned?

This is about women who think that their life IS all about relationships and do desperate things to get into one. They believe the tripe that's perpetuated in dating. They jump at the first dick that gets hard for them. They marry the first guy who makes them feel squishy. They stay in an unhealthy situation because they fear being alone. They cannot cope with being single, so they relationship hop with no down time to recover emotionally. But then they have the gall to think it's "weird" when a woman wants to be single or doesn't drop everything because a guy gave her a scrap of attention?

I created this post because this happens more often than it should and the question is "why?" Women today are considered more empowered than previous decades, yet so many still fall victim to the usual myths and outdated views in how they should approach dating and relating.

Posted by CluelessCancer
Oh yah women never hurt men...booo hooo hoo...by the way if you're looking to never get hurt in a relationship, i got a fantasy to sell you. and a cat too.

Are you off your meds?

Posted by rachelsnow12


I'm slowly taking control of my own life, becoming my own person again, not me morphed with my bestie or anyone else. I must say, it's rather liberating to not feel like I need an action or reaction from someone to put a smile on my face.

I do keep busy though. I work alot, I play soccer 3 times a week, I'm studying right now and I spend time with the fam.

I just want to say thanks again to everyone for always posting and speaking your minds... I find it to be all rather helpful and eye opening.

Good. 🙂 All it takes is a few good realizations to get you going- baby steps.

For me, it took my turning down some shitty behavior from guys, a few times tbh. They presented to me some bullshit and my kicking them to the curb/setting boundaries of what I would and wouldn't accept was really uplifting and it can boost your confidence like whoa. I think once you have a few instances like that with the Aries, you'll find it easier to step back and easier to say no/not tolerate his crap. Sometimes, estrogen just makes us put up with too much and makes it hard for us to get ahold of the situation to benefit our well being

Posted by CluelessCancer
Rocky

Success and upward movement is only external. Perhaps they haven't worked in the internal part yet?

Probably. Which is why they need to calm the hell down about finding a man and work on themselves. Again, people (men do it too) who relationship hop and focus on that aspect of their lives never really take any down time to be single and work on themselves and what they really want. They can end up being miserable in the long run with whomever they end up settling with.

In fact being empowered and having so much "to do" gives anybody barely any time for self actualization or reflection.

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Disagreeing here because...no. A tad out of touch, tbh.

Rocky,

I think it (relationships) happen and are sought to the degree they are by women because of biology, which explains why the social changes you mentioned has had less an effect on relationships than you would have expected.

It is wired though, huh ... You give them an orgasm and they own your ass 😉.

Cool thread btw Rocky 😉.

Posted by MountainLeo
Rocky,

I think it (relationships) happen and are sought to the degree they are by women because of biology, which explains why the social changes you mentioned has had less an effect on relationships than you would have expected.

It is wired though, huh ... You give them an orgasm and they own your ass 😉.

Not quite. One biology class isn't going to explain all of this.

I think a lot of it goes back into societal norms and the amount of bs beaten into our heads throughout our lives. Mix that in with the myths that these fucked up women (legit reasons or not, libra1234) perpetuate, the myths that guys selfishly perpetuate to get what THEY want, and then the old school bs that's still swirling around, and you get a whole lot of insecurity with women.

You've got media plastering what women should look like. Movies showing that women should put up with guys' ridiculous bs because *gasp* he's just a poor, wounded soul that needs understanding. You have music that negatively portrays relationships which makes women more insecure because they think that women need to be skanky or their man will cheat on them. You have talk shows constantly showing cheating men, thus making women overly paranoid and insecure that their man will cheat (same goes for girls cheating on guys too)

You have guys perpetuating that if a woman doesn't put out asap, he'll leave. There are women who still believe "sex within the first 3 dates or he's gone" is an acceptable and legitimate standard.

Nevermind that from a young age, we're taught that we're to grow up, meet our "prince charming" and live happily ever after. Guys are taught to grow up and get that good paying job. You won't see pressure to become a family man as much as you see pressure for a woman to get a man and settle down to pop out kids.

So to think that biology has all to do with it is a little misinformed. It's definitely a driving force in reproduction, but it's not the sole reason as to why women think they have to settle down- in this case- in some ridiculous, bs situations that aren't that good for them.

The sad part is that so many people don't realize that they already start putting these issues into their kids' heads at such a young age. I cringe when the first thing said when meeting a little girl is - "YOU'RE SO PRETTY/CUTE." *headdesk*

Posted by MountainLeo
Cool thread btw Rocky 😉.

Glad you think so. It gets to be old when you see nothing but dxp related dramas amongst the cave dwellers and "why is he...." threads Gotta change it up.

Posted by WheresWally



Nevernmind.. I didn't read your post in its entirety, OSF.
Also, I mean "shitty relationship >nothing" is psychotic.

I like how you summed all this up in an equation.

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Posted by CluelessCancer
Oh yah women never hurt men...booo hooo hoo...by the way if you're looking to never get hurt in a relationship, i got a fantasy to sell you. and a cat too.

Are you off your meds?

You don't have to be rude. I can see why a man wouldn't want to be with you. Who wants to snuggle with a brick wrapped around ice?

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You don't have to be so irrational and ignorant. I can see why you're single. Who would want to subject themselves to that mind shriveling bullshit?



Seriously though, your posts are going off on a tangent, hence "rude."

Rocky,

Yes there is a strong cultural component that goes ying and yang with this oxytoxin stuff their brains get all hopped up on.

😉

Posted by coolcappy
interesting point/points of view.
I honestly never been single and I have no idea what's like nor the reason why I never found out yet what's like being single!? But I often wonder. Yet until my hubby does do something annoying there's no reason for me to ever even want/contemplate the idea of or to try being single. If I ever get to being single because for some real reason I always seem to find good potential partner for long lasting relationship very quick!
But I doubt I'd like coming home to an empty space! I doubt I'd be happy sleeping alone and have all that huge bed space to myself! I doubt I'll be happy to go on holidays alone or enjoy my hobbies alone. I seriously doubt I'll be happy to be free to sleep with just anyone I'd like! And boy I really love myself, like really inside and out! nd there's nothing I'd like to change like ever!
Because I want someone to share all my experiences with! And that's not because I necessarily want kids because I'm in two minds still about that! I didn't marry to do what society expects me to do but because I love being with him and we are both the married/being with someone type.

Your exclamation point key seems to be malfunctioning....?

Not surprised to hear this coming from a Cap chick, though. :p

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Posted by rockyroadicecream


I created this post because this happens more often than it should and the question is "why?" Women today are considered more empowered than previous decades, yet so many still fall victim to the usual myths and outdated views in how they should approach dating and relating.

We'll probably never be able to find the right answer to that.
I can tell why for myself and that's because I'm happy being with someone which is my equal. Kind of a mirror of my inner self. And partially because it comes to me easily. I doubt I'd be getting out of my way to meet him! And I'm picky and super fussy. It is not my fault I get to meet the right man especially if I don't even look for him!
When, like in my case, it happens easily without the woman going out of her way to meet the mate or give up what she wants to do to be with him then I believe it's ment to be! I'm not ment to be single when other people are! I'm not into spirituality at all but I think some questions just can't be answered and then I put it down to some divine intervention. lol not that I believe in anything divine but when the answer is hard to find I go the easy way.

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Are you taking this thread personally? You seem to be defending your situation, justifying it as opposed to just sharing it. Nothing is wrong with it, so you really don't need to prove anything here.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Why do they perpetuate the bullshit? Why do they let bad treatment happen? Why are they so desperate for relationships?

I don't. The end.

Posted by MountainLeo
First of all, lets laugh.... Crotch droppings? Holy bust a gut....

I think you should swap the word relationship for intimacy, human beings are hard wired for it, because we are social animals and correct me if I am wrong but I think women have some hormone in their brain that is released when they climax which causes them to form intimate bonds. From what I have read it is released in males the first time we see our offspring.

There are very real physiological reasons for your observation.

Right about the mention of Oxytocin, wrong about how/when it works (in both men and women)...

Posted by geminicandlelight
Is this a thread where all the lonely, miserable ladies over 30 come to complain about men or lack of?🙂

Lol, just kidding!!

Interesting thread Rocky, but I gotta say even more interesting that we seldom see men in threads like these, or making a thread like this, but if it's ABOUT SEX?!, you'll see them running like there's no tomorrow! (Refer to my truth or dare thread for GRAPHIC examples, lol)

Conclusion:men are dicks to be used for their dicks and GOOD men exist in novels only>??

Or they're gay.

The pros and cons of dating is a whole 'nother thread. :p

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Posted by rockyroadicecream

Are you taking this thread personally? You seem to be defending your situation, justifying it as opposed to just sharing it. Nothing is wrong with it, so you really don't need to prove anything here.

Why would I take it personally?
You seem to purposely misinterpret my posts. Is like you just can't take anyone's answers! Why would you even open such a debate when you disagree with everything anyone would offer you for an answer. Seems to me you already made up your mind and stick with it. Which is fine but in that case don't invite people to discussion about it anymore.
My exclamations were intended and yup I may have used a few too many but that was because every statement I gave was true and thought.
And did you mean it in a good way or a bad way when you reffered to expecting it from a cap girl? If it's the sarcastic way then please feel free to enlighten me with reasons why would that be? Not that I'd care but you made me curious.

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lol. Calm the hell down. Was just teasing about the exclamations.

I only asked if you were taking it personally because you were explaining a bit excessively and borderline bragging about how you weren't single. It just sounded a but overkill.

Has nothing to do with disagreeing with you.

Caps = old fashioned. You should know this.

Posted by coolcappy
And I'm sorry if it does come across as taking it personal but I happen to be amongs those women you reffer to which were never single! Which is still not a reason good enough for me to let it even bother me nevermind taking it personal. But I was trying to give you my reasons or my thoughts on it!
I wouldn't ever change it I mean wanting to enjoy singleship to be honest because quite frankly single people look more often than not to me as lonely and sad. Rarely I see one (man or woman) who is single because of choice and being entirely content any day of the year with their choice. And when I talk to them I often get mixed messages about why they're single. If we want to know for sure why women chose to constantly date or wish to be in relationship we'll have to ask them all in order to form the right answer to it. And same goes for asking the singles (men and women) in the world and only then we'll know for sure the right answer.

And you just illustrated my point perfectly. Going overboard with proving yourself. Do you consider yourself a people pleaser?

You're also showing why you've never been single- you were worried about appearing lonely and sad which says a lot about you and your own confidence. I actually feel sorry for YOU if you think that being single equates loneliness and sadness. Being the "happy" little housewife sounds pretty pathetic to me. I'd gouge my eyes out if I were to ever take on such a role.

To each their own. But you might want to get off that high horse of yours when it comes to viewing those who are single. You sound conceited.

@taurianvirgo,

I've done a little more research on the subject of oxytocin and I'm amazed that you guys are as rational as you are. I can stop scratching my head now.

😉

Sexist men! haha ( not going there again 😉 )

I think if people tried to connect w self better while practicing connecting w ppl better at the same time. I mean REAL connection. Not this shallow shit we are suppose to look for in a " ideal " match. Things could be better.

Society won't teach you that though. And I think more ppl look at that for role models which suck cause their real aren't many good ones. They don't let them be upfront.

It's really important you have a balance. Cause one extreme may be needing/clingy/dependent but you don't want to go to the other extreme either isolation/selfishness/unemotional

Posted by MountainLeo
First of all, lets laugh.... Crotch droppings? Holy bust a gut....

I think you should swap the word relationship for intimacy, human beings are hard wired for it, because we are social animals and correct me if I am wrong but I think women have some hormone in their brain that is released when they climax which causes them to form intimate bonds. From what I have read it is released in males the first time we see our offspring.

There are very real physiological reasons for your observation.

dear god not with the bullshit bio arguments again. smh none of that research is conclusive if you actually LOOK.

Posted by MountainLeo
@taurianvirgo,

I've done a little more research on the subject of oxytocin and I'm amazed that you guys are as rational as you are. I can stop scratching my head now.

😉

Where at? Christian. com? I can't believe how ignorant some ppl are.

LOL te he te he 😉.

I personally dont think relationships are a necessity, but not everyone can survive off of a necessity based diet like I can, and nothing is wrong with that. We are all different, and men and women are both put here for a reason. Nothing wrong with making use of eachother.

I think i may have felt a ounce of that thing called love before, and really, I can see why people chase that feeling. It feels d@mn good and if someone has felt it they know beats the feeling of loneliness by far..Unfortunately, not everyone gets themselves into the ideal situation, but maybe love isnt the only feeling that people chase.

Im more irritiated by people who think you should live your life how they want you too. Folks need to mind their business. Im also always asked why im single and told that I need a man.

Posted by CluelessCancer
I hate when women say "why don't you just have fun," bitch I know you aint having fun dating all these guys and not finding a life mate, so why are you giving me this Advice.

dumb cunts.

How do you know that?

Posted by Lenore0908

I'm sitting there like, well well well, check out Miss independent. Not so independent now, huh?

I really don't care, I want her to be happy. But she needs to stop with the I'm so tough, I don't need a man crap.

You obviously want a man, and like I said before, it's not a crime!

You two sure are full of yourselves aren't you? Both fully admit to NEVER being single, yet think you have single people figured out. How can you sit here and think you know the ins and outs of being single when you've never experienced it? You never have taken down time between relationships because you had someone else lined up?

"Oh, my friend is miserable. That friend is miserable. So every single person is miserable!" Really? How ignorant and close minded are you two?

You two are coming in here, getting defensive and trying to PROVE how happy you are in relationships. That's fine you're in relationships. This isn't about bashing relationships or women in them. It's about those who are DESPERATE to be in them to the extent that it makes one question their issues (read: shitty guys and shitty relationships and never WANTING to take down time- worried what others/society will think). If you two are happy in your relationships, then you clearly don't apply. Then you both proceed to put down single people as if there's something wrong with it. NOW you two are definitely examples of what I was talking about- you see something wrong with being single and are judging those who are.

Women generally do not need women like you around. You are the last thing we all need- we have enough sexism and bullshit to fight off on a daily basis, and to have bitches like you judging the rest because you think you're so much better because you got tied down faster. Then you brag about guys always wanting you and attracting friends' romantic interests, implying how you are just oh so much more desirable than your single friends. I mean really, are you two reading what you're writing here?

I don't know about you, but this thread is pointing out the issues that women face right now. Addressing why they feel they have to be in a relationship to the point where it is not good for their emotional well being. These same women put up with abuse and shitty behavior from guys where it is not good for them. What is wrong with our society that they have to put up with all of this?

That they feel that they HAVE to date in order to be seen as "normal?"

The only reason I'm putting you two on blast is not because I disagree with your views on relationships (they aren't bad), nor do I have an issue that you settled down quickly, but it's because of your ridiculous attitudes toward others who choose not to go down the traditional path. Who choose not to be desperate enough to stay in shitty situations just for the sake of being in a relationship. Both of you came in and shared your stories/views, all with a touch of conceit and judging those who are single as being miserable and lonely. One of you even did the classic quip "HUR YOU NEED A MAN."(btw, bitch please, I've been dating a guy for the last 5 months). I don't doubt that single people have moments, but if they're "miserable" all the time, it's not because they're not in a relationship- it's because they need to learn how to be happy alone. That's something you should be concerned about- not assuming a man/woman will fix all their woes.

Again, women have enough to fight off on a daily basis and to have bitches like you adding to the issue is total bullshit. You assume single people are all lonely and sad because a few of your friends (who are clearly suffering from the impressions of outdated societal norms) happen to feel that way and are not secure with singledom. And you think there is something WRONG with not being in a relationship!

Congratulations, your legit female card has now been revoked.

Add this bullshit to the list I had earlier- judgement by other females. Society puts pressure on women to settle down fast, but you gotta add catty women like this- you get looked down upon if you're single. BETTER HURRY UP AND LAND A MAN. THIS BITCH THINKS THERE'S SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME.

You two should be ashamed of yourselves, really.

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Posted by CluelessCancer
Rocky

Success and upward movement is only external. Perhaps they haven't worked in the internal part yet?

Probably. Which is why they need to calm the hell down about finding a man and work on themselves. Again, people (men do it too) who relationship hop and focus on that aspect of their lives never really take any down time to be single and work on themselves and what they really want. They can end up being miserable in the long run with whomever they end up settling with.

In fact being empowered and having so much "to do" gives anybody barely any time for self actualization or reflection.

Disagreeing here because...no. A tad out of touch, tbh.

How do u know they arent working on themselves? Or that they haven't? Being in a relationship all the time doesn't mean you can't grow.

And some people are just less complicated. I have many married girlfriends and they are just not that complicated. They don't carry a lot of baggage and "issues".

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She's anti feminist and thinks that to be truly happy that our society should revert back to 1950- because women were supposedly oh so happy then. There was a bit too much negative connotation toward female empowerment and I chose not to get into it with her.

Posted by Sag89
Sexist men! haha ( not going there again 😉 )

I think if people tried to connect w self better while practicing connecting w ppl better at the same time. I mean REAL connection. Not this shallow shit we are suppose to look for in a " ideal " match. Things could be better.

Society won't teach you that though. And I think more ppl look at that for role models which suck cause their real aren't many good ones. They don't let them be upfront.

Oh lawdy, she gets the point of the topic!

I agree.

Well, at least we're past the point in society that says if a woman isn't married by age of 25-30, she's an old maid!

Lawdy! It used to be around 20! Can you imagine—

In medieval times it was like 13!

Posted by geminicandlelight

Conclusion:men are dicks to be used for their dicks and GOOD men exist in novels only>??

Now, this is just utter nonsense.

Men are people and deserve to be treated as the people they are. If you don't respect them, they will never respect you either.

You probably meant it as a joke, but it makes you sound bitter, cynical and stupid.

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Posted by Sag89
Sexist men! haha ( not going there again 😉 )

I think if people tried to connect w self better while practicing connecting w ppl better at the same time. I mean REAL connection. Not this shallow shit we are suppose to look for in a " ideal " match. Things could be better.

Society won't teach you that though. And I think more ppl look at that for role models which suck cause their real aren't many good ones. They don't let them be upfront.

Oh lawdy, she gets the point of the topic!

I agree.

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High five!

Posted by Nights22
Heres my take. I think SOME women need better hobbies.
Cuz reality tv, shopping and occasional partying is not gonna give enough emotional release. I know some girls and this is their hobbies and they always need a man.
This goes for men too tho obviously.

If people dont have a good emotional release on their, theyre gonna feel like they NEED another person for it.

yup

Posted by MountainLeo
The thing I've almost scratched a furrow in my head about is women needing relationships more than men, I mean if women are always is one & always need one, who are they having them with? A bunch of hamstrung weenies men that need one too? Little pot calling the kettle back here.

i agree...i actually think men cant be single more so than woman.

Posted by oldskoolflavor
it seems a lot of women don't like (n)or respect themselves

they're like innocuous preys asking to be caught ..
since men are naturally predators, they can sense weakness or desperation miles away and go for the potential meal

a smart predator won't go through the trouble of chasing a healthy antelope

let's go a little further ..
imagine an antelope being ignored by a lot of lions .. worst case scenario: even the most meager, hungriest lion in the savannah doesn't want her .. the poor antelope is being told she isn't good enough .. now imagine how that antelope would feel 😢

^^ some women don't want to experience that feeling

i understand what your saying....so one isnt desirable if they arent being propositioned for relationships

Posted by coolcappy
gee thake a step back will you. I am not a housewife by any means. I'd never consider myself one. Whilst I love my home and when I'm there I'm the happiest I'll still chose to have a job and get out of it any day. And it is pathetic how you brag about my confidence when I'm the most confident person I know. I don't need to be single nor in a relationship to prove my confidence at all. It's absurd you'd even analize my being happiest when in relationship and in love with confidence. When single people seem the least confident in my opinion.
I get it you're pissed at couples or maybe your female co workers don't notice you but that's not a good reason enough to hate women who are happy to go through relationships instead of staying single like you.
At least I get to wake up every morning feeling happy and fulfilled, being loved and loving back everyday and moment of my life.

wow....you sound like the woman she is referring to. Why brag about such things as if you are better than people who dont have it like you. Whats gonna happen when you break up if it happens and cant find another mate QUICKLY? Are you still going to be this happy and a braggart? I doubt it. If you always in a relationshiop and never been single and are only happy in relationships then you sound just like the women decrsibed...your no diff

Yea I've been single for 8 months now after being in a relationships constantly for the last 4 years. It's not bad at all