Why does he want to be friends? PLZ HELP!!!

Why would a guy who likes you, say he wants to be friends, when he knows that the girl likes him back?
I hang out with this guy (he's capricorn by the way if it could tell anything) and we are attracted to each other. He once told me he likes me and knows I like him too. But we're not going out and sometimes he just calls me to say hi and see how me or my family is doing and we hang out like once a month. He complements me a lot that I'm very pretty and introduces me to his friends. He often comments on why I'm so shy, but I'm not shy, just quiet which is different. We have common interests, like in music. He recorded me once a cd with his favorite songs, love songs and we listened to it in his car. He's not open, neither am I. One day when he made me mad with some stupid joke, i guess to get reaction out of me, I ran out of his house and he chased me with his car, shouting to wait and saying why am I doing this to him? He almost pleased me on his knees to get into his car and talk. He asked if I wanted to go to eat somewhere, he grabbed my hand in his car, apologized and asked me not to do this again to him, because it really pissed him off. He said HE WANTS TO BE FRIENDS, while I lost the guts to say that I want dating. All the way we were in his car he stared at me and tried to make me smile. Then I left my watch in his car, where he could possibly see it and he called me 4 days later to say it, but I didn't even realize how I left it. We were intimate though couple times before.

Can anybody answer me please, I'm so desparate on not knowing what to do!!!! I know that he might deeply care about me, but just not show it. He talks a lot about his family and asks about mine. He's 24 and me 19. But he's known as pimp guy, who had many girlfriends, so the only fear on my mind is that he might be having some other girl around, because he doesn't make it happen for us to meet more often as I want and he knows that one of my friends is avoiding him for some confusion that has happened in the past between him and her. But we only hang out in his house, I refuse to let him come over my place which he always asks, to meet my family. He thinks that my mom doesn't want me to be dating him, but it's not truth, it's because I'm unsure of his intentions yet. Ah what to do and do you think he might be willing to have a relationship? I don't wanna be the one to put a word on it. I want him to ask me out without telling him that it's what I want. Please help people!!!

You should post this on the Cap board, and then review previous threads. Good luck!

yea tru dat, sounds like he just wants to keep you as an option

Sweetheart, at 19 you need to be working on knowing what a wonderful woman you are. Far too wonderful for anyone called Pimp Guy to be good enough for you.

He's stringing you along, not because he's Capricorn but because he's that kind of guy.

Move on, get your self esteem sorted, hold your head up high and find yourself a man who is JUST FOR YOU.

You deserve that! There is no thrill of the chase when it's to capture a guy who just sees you as a notch on his belt. Truly. He is probably very sexy, so hang on to that feelin, and look for a guy who makes you feel that way but is also available and wants to be more than friends.

Walk away.

Good luck Sweetie.

Hmm, come to think of it, the only man who ever treated me that way was a Capricorn! lol I'm sure they aren't all like that!

I am getting my career, but it has nothing to do with this matter, I'm not going to marry him, but I do want a relationship of gf and bf. I'm confident and I know my worth, but I know also that he's a great guy too, I just feel when I see how he treats his friends and family and he has goals too. That's what I like about him, for valuing hard work. And that's what he likes about me. We just went through so many things, because I'm strange as my friends call me. But if you honestly think he's just using me or taking me as an option, I guess I'll listen to you, since you're all older and more experienced..... I'll try my best to move and to get rid off him... thx for responses

i forgot to mention that when i sat in his car, and he asked if im still mad, i said you're using me, and then he replied "no dont jenna, dont ever think like this..." he said "i want to be friends..." and then took my hand and asked for a kiss... by the way, we don't know each other well, we both are kind of shy and bit quiet, because we havent been hanging out many times and on the phone conversations we talk of basic things... i feel there's a chemistry between us, because we share many things in common...

You have me confused actually. in the beginning posts it sounded like you know him well, then the last post you said you dont' really know him well.

Either way, he is looking for intimacy without committment from the sound of it. If your in school and focusing on a beginning your career, do you really need a definied relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend? and do you really want that with someone who has the rep for being Pimp Guy?

I see 2 options for you since you seem sprung on him already. Go with it, accept what he is offering, friends with maybe more.. see where that goes... play the game with him.

or...

leave him alone. keep it strictly friends. if he really wants you he will chase you. but really be sure you want what he claims to maybe offer.