All you reserved/ private people

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by christinelovessnickers on Wednesday, November 6, 2013 and has 12 replies.
Do you find yourself being more open with others when they are open with you? Or does it make you more uncomfortable with it? Does it matter the relationship (ie strangers)?
I would want someone to give up 3 bits of info, b4 I give up any info about my friends. Me tell you something about me is slim.
Posted by PVAF
I'm more open as I get comfortable with people. I'm selective as to what I share

Same here. I will get comfortable as we talk but it takes me a very long time to open up and extremely selective on what i harr as well. Just like the guy I'm talking to right now.....I know all that he's going through; his work, personal and family issues yet he knows nothing about me.....part depends also on the person that I'm dealing with.
Posted by M
Yes. "You get what you give" works both ways, so participation helps establish a level of understanding. If someone is only good at shutting down, it puts a terrible strain on that.

For me relationship applies only with how far along that comfort level is. Some start having to work from scratch and others have more to work off (if they so choose).


I been told "I give as I get" if I get honesty and good vibes, trust and loyalty you will get the same if I feel at ease or comfortable with that person.
It depends on how you are if you get me to meet you in the middle of the street.
I maintain that my business is my business. I share if I need to or on a need-to-know-basis only. Tell me all or tell me nothing, doesn't matter.
On the flip side... For some reason, people tell me everything.. And I mean everything.
Posted by christinelovessnickers
Do you find yourself being more open with others when they are open with you? Or does it make you more uncomfortable with it? Does it matter the relationship (ie strangers)?


I'm a bit reserved at first but if they open up I will because I honor their courage and I want to meet them halfway. But I make the first move by allowing them into my life...it's where it starts
Generally i am pretty shy. Mine really depends on my mood and the vibe of the person. I have caught myself telling some personal things to strangers, but after they took it there and not too personal that not many people knew.

I ask questions like no other. I know I annoy my one friend. He is the need to know type. He does it right back though.
Posted by Arietteheart
I'm more likely to give up info if it's on my own accord. If I'm given the 3rd degree or questioned, I freeze. I feel suspicious if someone starts asking a lot of questions.


I can understand that feeling though. Some people just give the wrong vibes or just ask a question wrong.
When I feel that why I usually end up getting an attitude towards them unintentionally.
Posted by beautifulsoul74
Posted by christinelovessnickers
Do you find yourself being more open with others when they are open with you? Or does it make you more uncomfortable with it? Does it matter the relationship (ie strangers)?


I'm a bit reserved at first but if they open up I will because I honor their courage and I want to meet them halfway. But I make the first move by allowing them into my life...it's where it starts
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Good points.
What are some of the weirdest thing you have heard from someone you just met?
My Pisces rising allows me to adapt to & feed off of the energy of others. If they are being completely open, I will give the same in return. If they are being slightly awkward, I will give them the same back lol
I'm only uncomfortable with people fully opening up to me when they want to tell me their life story after only knowing them for a day. In that case, I shut up & just listen.
If I feel that person must know something I will tell them and if I feel someone must know my life then I will tell them. It doesnt go for all people just people I feel must know these things why? you ask because I reply. I guess it is the way it is with me. Sometimes I can talk alot sometimes not, depends if I feel they need to know anything I will say otherwise I will listen as best as I can and not say. Usually just not really much at all as I dont have anything to say at all except wht is necessary from my end but then again depends on the person I am with as weel. Sometimes I can talk to people all the times and sometimes not at all. Depends on the situation/s, peoples involved and/or not, depends on alot of things but usually I am quiet type except when I am drinking then I can talk til the cows come home and usually its bukkshit banter that noone wants to listen to either so I jsut usually end up talk to myself somewhere in the middle of a paddock by myself with noone around to evesdrop and talk and talk and talk then pass out and wake up wondering how the fuck did I get here embarrassing myself again I vow to never do this again and earnestly forget the incident ever occured and then go about my dailty life wondering wtf happened and what to do about it? Although knowing that there is nothing that I or anyone else can do about anything. Knowing somehow I talked about this to the paddock that other night and got my answer then and there. Maybe this is why I like to get totoally obliviously drunk so that I can forget my daze ad a talk in and I get my answers I am desperately needing to have solved. Now if I can do this at a place where I can dribble my verbal diahhorea then git it answered to, alls good with the world huh?

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