Am I Handling This The Right Way?
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by LDM90 on Monday, March 7, 2016 and has 72 replies.
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So I guess I’m in a friends with benefits situation? Or what ever it is that you want to call it. We haven’t established if this a friends with benefits or not, which is fine because I don’t want a relationship. I’m just confused because I feel like I’m being rude here lol. He set up a nice romantic date, cuddled and kissed after the first time we had sex, drove me home and we pecked as I got out of the car- just a gentleman about things.I never reach out to him (don’t want to blur any lines). He took a week to say something to me, but I did not respond to his message. He sent me another text a week after ( he sent me kissy faces) and I’m contemplating on if I should respond back or not lol. Since this is my first friends with benefits, how should communication go? I feel bad about ignoring his texts but I just want to make sure no lines are blurred. When I’m ready to do the do I’ll say something other than that I just don’t see the point in talking I guess. My girlfriends said to keep contact extremely limited as to not come off interested, but doing this just also seems rude.
Posted by LDM90
So I guess I’m in a friends with benefits situation? Or what ever it is that you want to call it. We haven’t established if this a friends with benefits or not, which is fine because I don’t want a relationship. I’m just confused because I feel like I’m being rude here lol. He set up a nice romantic date, cuddled and kissed after the first time we had sex, drove me home and we pecked as I got out of the car- just a gentleman about things.I never reach out to him (don’t want to blur any lines). He took a week to say something to me, but I did not respond to his message. He sent me another text a week after ( he sent me kissy faces) and I’m contemplating on if I should respond back or not lol. Since this is my first friends with benefits, how should communication go? I feel bad about ignoring his texts but I just want to make sure no lines are blurred. When I’m ready to do the do I’ll say something other than that I just don’t see the point in talking I guess. My girlfriends said to keep contact extremely limited as to not come off interested, but doing this just also seems rude.
Men are fucked due to game players like u. Thanks!
Posted by KittenLaRougePosted by LDM90
So I guess I’m in a friends with benefits situation? Or what ever it is that you want to call it. We haven’t established if this a friends with benefits or not, which is fine because I don’t want a relationship. I’m just confused because I feel like I’m being rude here lol. He set up a nice romantic date, cuddled and kissed after the first time we had sex, drove me home and we pecked as I got out of the car- just a gentleman about things.I never reach out to him (don’t want to blur any lines). He took a week to say something to me, but I did not respond to his message. He sent me another text a week after ( he sent me kissy faces) and I’m contemplating on if I should respond back or not lol. Since this is my first friends with benefits, how should communication go? I feel bad about ignoring his texts but I just want to make sure no lines are blurred. When I’m ready to do the do I’ll say something other than that I just don’t see the point in talking I guess. My girlfriends said to keep contact extremely limited as to not come off interested, but doing this just also seems rude.
Men are fucked due to game players like u. Thanks!click to expand
Look I'm only 22 with but so much experience. No one is trying to play any games. I clearly said I'm confused about how to handle things because the advice my friends gave me didn't seem right. There's no need to say I've ruined a guy because I'm a "game player". Also, not really sure how I can treetrunk a guy who's only in it for sex...
Posted by FloPosted by KittenLaRougePosted by LDM90
So I guess I’m in a friends with benefits situation? Or what ever it is that you want to call it. We haven’t established if this a friends with benefits or not, which is fine because I don’t want a relationship. I’m just confused because I feel like I’m being rude here lol. He set up a nice romantic date, cuddled and kissed after the first time we had sex, drove me home and we pecked as I got out of the car- just a gentleman about things.I never reach out to him (don’t want to blur any lines). He took a week to say something to me, but I did not respond to his message. He sent me another text a week after ( he sent me kissy faces) and I’m contemplating on if I should respond back or not lol. Since this is my first friends with benefits, how should communication go? I feel bad about ignoring his texts but I just want to make sure no lines are blurred. When I’m ready to do the do I’ll say something other than that I just don’t see the point in talking I guess. My girlfriends said to keep contact extremely limited as to not come off interested, but doing this just also seems rude.
Men are fucked due to game players like u. Thanks!
No, she's setting boundaries, apparently what you did not. She has respect and demands it, how it that?
She doesn't want to be in a relationship, if he knows he should respect that.
She doesn't want to blur lines; that's good, because it means shes serious.
She's not leading him on with fake appraisal and affection, it means she only wants sex and keep it FWB.click to expand
Bullshit she's purposely ignoring text. That's games if she wants friends with Bennys then woman up and tell the dude ignoring Is a game! Fuck!
Posted by LDM90Posted by KittenLaRougePosted by LDM90
So I guess I’m in a friends with benefits situation? Or what ever it is that you want to call it. We haven’t established if this a friends with benefits or not, which is fine because I don’t want a relationship. I’m just confused because I feel like I’m being rude here lol. He set up a nice romantic date, cuddled and kissed after the first time we had sex, drove me home and we pecked as I got out of the car- just a gentleman about things.I never reach out to him (don’t want to blur any lines). He took a week to say something to me, but I did not respond to his message. He sent me another text a week after ( he sent me kissy faces) and I’m contemplating on if I should respond back or not lol. Since this is my first friends with benefits, how should communication go? I feel bad about ignoring his texts but I just want to make sure no lines are blurred. When I’m ready to do the do I’ll say something other than that I just don’t see the point in talking I guess. My girlfriends said to keep contact extremely limited as to not come off interested, but doing this just also seems rude.
Men are fucked due to game players like u. Thanks!
Look I'm only 22 with but so much experience. No one is trying to play any games. I clearly said I'm confused about how to handle things because the advice my friends gave me didn't seem right. There's no need to say I've ruined a guy because I'm a "game player". Also, not really sure how I can treetrunk a guy who's only in it for sex...click to expand
So? Your old enough to fuck the guy so act like an adult
Posted by FloPosted by KittenLaRougePosted by LDM90
So I guess I’m in a friends with benefits situation? Or what ever it is that you want to call it. We haven’t established if this a friends with benefits or not, which is fine because I don’t want a relationship. I’m just confused because I feel like I’m being rude here lol. He set up a nice romantic date, cuddled and kissed after the first time we had sex, drove me home and we pecked as I got out of the car- just a gentleman about things.I never reach out to him (don’t want to blur any lines). He took a week to say something to me, but I did not respond to his message. He sent me another text a week after ( he sent me kissy faces) and I’m contemplating on if I should respond back or not lol. Since this is my first friends with benefits, how should communication go? I feel bad about ignoring his texts but I just want to make sure no lines are blurred. When I’m ready to do the do I’ll say something other than that I just don’t see the point in talking I guess. My girlfriends said to keep contact extremely limited as to not come off interested, but doing this just also seems rude.
Men are fucked due to game players like u. Thanks!
No, she's setting boundaries, apparently what you did not. She has respect and demands it, how it that?
She doesn't want to be in a relationship, if he knows he should respect that.
She doesn't want to blur lines; that's good, because it means shes serious.
She's not leading him on with fake appraisal and affection, it means she only wants sex and keep it FWB.click to expand
Igoring text doesn't set boundries!
Posted by studio91Posted by LDM90
So I guess I’m in a friends with benefits situation? Or what ever it is that you want to call it. We haven’t established if this a friends with benefits or not, which is fine because I don’t want a relationship. I’m just confused because I feel like I’m being rude here lol. He set up a nice romantic date, cuddled and kissed after the first time we had sex, drove me home and we pecked as I got out of the car- just a gentleman about things.I never reach out to him (don’t want to blur any lines). He took a week to say something to me, but I did not respond to his message. He sent me another text a week after ( he sent me kissy faces) and I’m contemplating on if I should respond back or not lol. Since this is my first friends with benefits, how should communication go? I feel bad about ignoring his texts but I just want to make sure no lines are blurred. When I’m ready to do the do I’ll say something other than that I just don’t see the point in talking I guess. My girlfriends said to keep contact extremely limited as to not come off interested, but doing this just also seems rude.
Is he fully aware that it's only friends with benefits?click to expand
No. We haven't actually talked about this. I just assumed that he was just in it for sex as well when he took a week to reach out afterwards. My girlfriends are under the impression that it is more than just sex for him, but I really don't think so.
I think it sounds fine the way you're approaching the situation.
Keep it fluid and maintain your own boundaries- all sounds good...
I wish I was this clued in at your age...
Keep it fluid and maintain your own boundaries- all sounds good...
I wish I was this clued in at your age...
So the mature way to handle a situation is ignore text? Lol dxp sure does have a lot of dim bulbs haha
Posted by KittenLaRouge
So the mature way to handle a situation is ignore text? Lol dxp sure does have a lot of dim bulbs haha
And apparently some rude ones...
Posted by sagiluv
Just be honest with the guy, don't ignore him or avoid him. He deserves some answers and honesty. Good luck!
I just assumed since he wanted sex as well there was nothing that we needed to discuss. I will give him the honesty that he deserves. Thanks for the advice!
Posted by tizianiPosted by LDM90Posted by sagiluv
Just be honest with the guy, don't ignore him or avoid him. He deserves some answers and honesty. Good luck!
I just assumed since he wanted sex as well there was nothing that we needed to discuss. I will give him the honesty that he deserves. Thanks for the advice!
How did you both set up the date, through texts, calls or some other way?click to expand
Via text. He asked a month in advance (I was busy with a very important paper so I had no free time) and brought it up multiple times to make sure we were still on lol. He put in a good amount of effort for the date I'll say that lol and he was a gentleman about things after sex as well (helped carry my things to the car the next day).
Posted by tizianiPosted by LDM90Posted by tizianiPosted by LDM90Posted by sagiluv
Just be honest with the guy, don't ignore him or avoid him. He deserves some answers and honesty. Good luck!
I just assumed since he wanted sex as well there was nothing that we needed to discuss. I will give him the honesty that he deserves. Thanks for the advice!
How did you both set up the date, through texts, calls or some other way?
Via text. He asked a month in advance (I was busy with a very important paper so I had no free time) and brought it up multiple times to make sure we were still on lol. He put in a good amount of effort for the date I'll say that lol and he was a gentleman about things after sex as well (helped carry my things to the car the next day).
Ah ok. He's been consistent then. That deserves honesty in my book.click to expand
Yea you're right about him being consistent, so I do see that avoiding is definitely not the correct approach. Okay, slow moment here haha, but honest about what exactly if we're both in this for sex?
What are your sun signs? If you don't mind me asking 
Posted by studio91Posted by studio91Posted by LDM90
So I guess I’m in a friends with benefits situation? Or what ever it is that you want to call it. We haven’t established if this a friends with benefits or not, which is fine because I don’t want a relationship. I’m just confused because I feel like I’m being rude here lol. He set up a nice romantic date, cuddled and kissed after the first time we had sex, drove me home and we pecked as I got out of the car- just a gentleman about things.I never reach out to him (don’t want to blur any lines). He took a week to say something to me, but I did not respond to his message. He sent me another text a week after ( he sent me kissy faces) and I’m contemplating on if I should respond back or not lol. Since this is my first friends with benefits, how should communication go? I feel bad about ignoring his texts but I just want to make sure no lines are blurred. When I’m ready to do the do I’ll say something other than that I just don’t see the point in talking I guess. My girlfriends said to keep contact extremely limited as to not come off interested, but doing this just also seems rude.
Was it you 1st time aswell?
If the answer is YES then there you go, that's why his like thatclick to expand
Sorry I should've said our first time sleeping with each other lol. No first timers over here haha.
Posted by CruellaWhite
Yes, yes you are. I fully endorse this behavior. Unless you do something else in which case I fully endorse that too.
You have got to be fucking kidding.
Just blind approval .. no matter what.
How fucking ignorant is this world coming to, in where you place nothing special on anybody.
Posted by LDM90
He set up a nice romantic date
cuddled
kissed after the first time we had sex
drove me home
just a gentleman
Posted by LDM90
not really sure how I can treetrunk a guy who's only in it for sex...
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Posted by LDM90
No. We haven't actually talked about this. I just assumed that he was just in it for sex
How is that setting boundaries, Flo ... and why would Tiz agree with that?
So, you ignore texts, and you assume due to not having a conversation about it ... yet, people in here are saying that you're right because you've set boundaries.
what a bunch of morons .. the only making sense is Kitten
Posted by FloPosted by KittenLaRougePosted by FloPosted by KittenLaRougePosted by LDM90
So I guess I’m in a friends with benefits situation? Or what ever it is that you want to call it. We haven’t established if this a friends with benefits or not, which is fine because I don’t want a relationship. I’m just confused because I feel like I’m being rude here lol. He set up a nice romantic date, cuddled and kissed after the first time we had sex, drove me home and we pecked as I got out of the car- just a gentleman about things.I never reach out to him (don’t want to blur any lines). He took a week to say something to me, but I did not respond to his message. He sent me another text a week after ( he sent me kissy faces) and I’m contemplating on if I should respond back or not lol. Since this is my first friends with benefits, how should communication go? I feel bad about ignoring his texts but I just want to make sure no lines are blurred. When I’m ready to do the do I’ll say something other than that I just don’t see the point in talking I guess. My girlfriends said to keep contact extremely limited as to not come off interested, but doing this just also seems rude.
Men are fucked due to game players like u. Thanks!
No, she's setting boundaries, apparently what you did not. She has respect and demands it, how it that?
She doesn't want to be in a relationship, if he knows he should respect that.
She doesn't want to blur lines; that's good, because it means shes serious.
She's not leading him on with fake appraisal and affection, it means she only wants sex and keep it FWB.
Bullshit she's purposely ignoring text. That's games if she wants friends with Bennys then woman up and tell the dude ignoring Is a game! Fuck!
Do not spread your butt hurt all over this thread. As a woman, she knows what she wants and what she deserves.
It would do you well to learn from this. Obviously how you've been treated before is lack of standards on your part.click to expand
No, YOU are the one who is spreading your shit on here.
Posted by FloPosted by sagiluv
Just be honest with the guy, don't ignore him or avoid him. He deserves some answers and honesty. Good luck!
I agree with this.click to expand
But, she's not being honest, Flo .... but, you're too stupid to realize this, apparentely .. as well as everyone agreeing with you.
there's not a goddam thing wrong with a woman wanting to have a fwb relationship, and that's what you're trying to defend. However, in doing so, you're being ignorant to what is happening in this particular situation ... which means you're saying is a projection due to YOUR feelings of butt hurt.
because what Kitten is saying is real talk. But, you can't handle that she is smarter than you in this situation.
this woman is IGNORING and ASSUMING ... which is the opposite of setting boundaries and communicating.
You look like a complete fool in this situation because you're defending the wrong actions.
Posted by P-AngelPosted by LDM90
No. We haven't actually talked about this. I just assumed that he was just in it for sex
How is that setting boundaries, Flo ... and why would Tiz agree with that?
So, you ignore texts, and you assume due to not having a conversation about it ... yet, people in here are saying that you're right because you've set boundaries.
what a bunch of morons .. the only making sense is Kittenclick to expand
No, I'm not assuming this because we haven't had a conversation I'm assuming because he took a week after we slept together for the first time to say something. Any man who is interested in more, at least I'm my eyes, would not take that long to say something.
Also, we can have dissenting opinions without calling people names.
Posted by tiziani
Ah ok. He's been consistent then. That deserves honesty in my book.
But, she's not being honest.
But, you jumped in and agreed before you even comprehended what is going on ... so unless you retract yourself, the above is equivalent to ....
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Posted by LDM90
Also, we can have dissenting opinions without calling people names.
You have zero integrity, judging from your actions you've described in here ... so why should I give a flying fuck what you think.
You're a player ... full stop.
which in my book makes you cunt.
if you can't handle that .. then I suggest you control what you say publicly online.
KittenLaRouge is right.
And look at this day ..... the day has come that she has proven herself to wiser than the rest of you.
the laugh is on the rest of you ...... you're trying so hard to be accepting of a woman wanting a fwb relationship that you make complete fools out of yourselves by telling this Player that she's right, when what she is doing is leading on a man who is interested in her.
she's not communicating with him
he plans romantic dates with her, in which she obliges without a smidgeon of respect for him, since this clearly indicates that he's interested
he cuddles, kisses and walks her like a gentlemen
his actions clearly show that he's interested in dating her ... but, the fools you all are, you're telling her that she's doing the right thing in being dishonest with him and using him, ignoring him.
What a beautiful day in dxp ..... Kitten is right, you people who believe you are above her ... proved that you're dumber than she is.
Posted by P-AngelPosted by LDM90
Also, we can have dissenting opinions without calling people names.
You have zero integrity, judging from your actions you've described in here ... so why should I give a flying treetrunk what you think.
You're a player ... full stop.
which in my book makes you bleep.
if you can't handle that .. then I suggest you control what you say publicly online.
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And you're a raving lunatic so your point? I can take it. Never said that I couldn't. You are calling people names and going through each of their posts bashing them when they're giving their OPINIONS. Just because you don't agree doesn't mean you can be rude.
It says you're 57? You're that old and calling people c-nts? You seriously need some self reflection becsuse I didn't think people still used that awful word past high school. It seems you lack propriety. Even at 57 I still think there's time to learn.
You've done enough unnecessary talking here. You're dismissed.
@OP
define you relationship with him...set rules...talk about what you want and what he wants
define you relationship with him...set rules...talk about what you want and what he wants
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Lol
Posted by LDM90
I feel like I’m being rude here
You're beyond rude in this situation.
This man is treating you well, according to you. He's romantic and a gentlemen
And your behavior represents a user, and abuser to his feelings.
I don't give a rats ass what you think. I don't talk her for your benefit. In my opinion, you're cunt who is contributing to the ruining of good men. So, people like you are equivalent to dig shit in my opinion.
I speak to/for the viewing audience.
You're a piece of shit here, and I'll make damn sure that the others realize it.
If you can't handle real talk, then you should have had enough sense before you post this publicly ....... because I don't give a shit that your little feelings can't handle being accountable for your fucked up actions.
Posted by LDM90
So I guess I’m in a friends with benefits situation? Or what ever it is that you want to call it. We haven’t established if this a friends with benefits or not, which is fine because I don’t want a relationship. .
Sounds to me like he thinks you're dating.
You better get this clarified, otherwise you're going to be like all these men we here about on here that women complain about for stringing them along.
Posted by LDM90Posted by tizianiPosted by LDM90Posted by sagiluv
Just be honest with the guy, don't ignore him or avoid him. He deserves some answers and honesty. Good luck!
I just assumed since he wanted sex as well there was nothing that we needed to discuss. I will give him the honesty that he deserves. Thanks for the advice!
How did you both set up the date, through texts, calls or some other way?
Via text. He asked a month in advance (I was busy with a very important paper so I had no free time) and brought it up multiple times to make sure we were still on lol. He put in a good amount of effort for the date I'll say that lol and he was a gentleman about things after sex as well (helped carry my things to the car the next day).click to expand
He sounds like a good guy, maybe you should reconsider and date him for real.
Posted by truecapPosted by LDM90
So I guess I’m in a friends with benefits situation? Or what ever it is that you want to call it. We haven’t established if this a friends with benefits or not, which is fine because I don’t want a relationship. .
Sounds to me like he thinks you're dating.
You better get this clarified, otherwise you're going to be like all these men we here about on here that women complain about for stringing them along.click to expand
That's what my girlfriends think as well but him taking a week to reach out the first time we slept together makes me think he just wants sex as well. Either way I'll still clarify things with him. Thanks!
Posted by LDM90Posted by P-AngelPosted by LDM90
Also, we can have dissenting opinions without calling people names.
You have zero integrity, judging from your actions you've described in here ... so why should I give a flying treetrunk what you think.
You're a player ... full stop.
which in my book makes you bleep.
if you can't handle that .. then I suggest you control what you say publicly online.
And you're a raving lunatic so your point? I can take it. Never said that I couldn't. You are calling people names and going through each of their posts bashing them when they're giving their OPINIONS. Just because you don't agree doesn't mean you can be rude.
It says you're 57? You're that old and calling people c-nts? You seriously need some self reflection becsuse I didn't think people still used that awful word past high school. It seems you lack propriety. Even at 57 I still think there's time to learn.
You've done enough unnecessary talking here. You're dismissed.click to expand
Honestly, I agree with P-Angel. if you can get past the harsh delivery, she has some insight that you might want to consider.
Posted by hera
@OP
define you relationship with him...set rules...talk about what you want and what he wants
But, she's not defining the relationship with him, nor setting rules ... she's ignoring him
Posted by LDM90
He set up a nice romantic date, cuddled and kissed after the first time we had sex, drove me home and we pecked as I got out of the car- just a gentleman about things
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She went on a romantic date with him
It should be obvious to every person who has a smidgeon of common sense that only players treat nice men like she is doing.
Posted by LDM90Posted by truecapPosted by LDM90
So I guess I’m in a friends with benefits situation? Or what ever it is that you want to call it. We haven’t established if this a friends with benefits or not, which is fine because I don’t want a relationship. .
Sounds to me like he thinks you're dating.
You better get this clarified, otherwise you're going to be like all these men we here about on here that women complain about for stringing them along.
That's what my girlfriends think as well but him taking a week to reach out the first time we slept together makes me think he just wants sex as well. Either way I'll still clarify things with him. Thanks!click to expand
So what that he took a week to reach out. Maybe he was nervous about contacting you. Maybe he wasn't sure where YOU stood. His ACTIONS say he's a good man and he's not using you. If he were using you, he wouldn't carry your bags, cuddle with you or walk you to your car. You shouldn't try to read his mind. You just need to get things clarified and talk about expectations with him.
Posted by truecap
Sounds to me like he thinks you're dating.
You better get this clarified, otherwise you're going to be like all these men we here about on here that women complain about for stringing them along.
I knew that people with common sense would come along.
Posted by truecapPosted by LDM90Posted by P-AngelPosted by LDM90
Also, we can have dissenting opinions without calling people names.
You have zero integrity, judging from your actions you've described in here ... so why should I give a flying treetrunk what you think.
You're a player ... full stop.
which in my book makes you bleep.
if you can't handle that .. then I suggest you control what you say publicly online.
And you're a raving lunatic so your point? I can take it. Never said that I couldn't. You are calling people names and going through each of their posts bashing them when they're giving their OPINIONS. Just because you don't agree doesn't mean you can be rude.
It says you're 57? You're that old and calling people c-nts? You seriously need some self reflection becsuse I didn't think people still used that awful word past high school. It seems you lack propriety. Even at 57 I still think there's time to learn.
You've done enough unnecessary talking here. You're dismissed.
Honestly, I agree with P-Angel. if you can get past the harsh delivery, she has some insight that you might want to consider.
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I have no problem with people being honest on here but she is going to other people's post and calling them morons, idiots, etc., and me a c*nt. That's beyond harsh delivery, that's just plain rude and unnecessary. Once you take that approach what you have to say gets thrown out the window because of the delivery. There's a way to speak to people and calling them the c-word is definitely not the right way.
Ask kitten what it's like to be used by a man. That's why she's so insightful here, in this situation, she's learned to recognize a good man because she only comes across assholes for the most part. She can tell you the difference and how a man acts when he's just using you.
Sorry, kitten, I don't mean that as an insult to you.
Sorry, kitten, I don't mean that as an insult to you.
I just think it's hilarious that KittenLaRouge proved herself to be wiser than the fools calling her out.
Posted by P-AngelPosted by hera
@OP
define you relationship with him...set rules...talk about what you want and what he wants
But, she's not defining the relationship with him, nor setting rules ... she's ignoring him
Posted by LDM90
He set up a nice romantic date, cuddled and kissed after the first time we had sex, drove me home and we pecked as I got out of the car- just a gentleman about things
She went on a romantic date with him
It should be obvious to every person who has a smidgeon of common sense that only players treat nice men like she is doing.click to expand
yup, she isnt, that is why i said she should
and P-Angel, dont be so harsh all the time, some people need to make mistakes in order to learn....she asked for an advice, no need for rude words, she is young...she will learn...we all learn, make mistakes, and learn again
Posted by LDM90
and me a c*nt.
People get what they deserve.
This guy is nice, thinking he's dating you .. and you're using him and abusing him
that makes you cunt.
You get what you deserve. You treat a man that ... that makes you fucking cunt.
It's not my problem that you're this fucking ignorant.
Posted by hera
dont be so harsh all the time, some people need to make mistakes in order to learn
Let me explain to you how life works, since you seem to not get it, even though you're living a life
You do things your way .... I do things my way
AND, some people need a kick in the ass in order to learn.
I don't give a rats ass what you like in terms of how I communicate to/with people.
I'm going to talk to her exactly as she deserves to be talked to. If a woman, any/all women, is a piece of shit in how she is treating a gentlemen who is treating her very well .. then she's deserving of getting verbally punched in the face.
What people get from me is aligned with what they say. If you're abusing a man, which she is ... then she is deserving of having her little feelings hurt.
It's not my problem if you can't handle real talk.
Posted by LDM90
and me a c*nt. That's beyond harsh
Awe, boo-hoo, wa, wa, wa ...... look at the moron who cannot handle that what she puts out comes back to her.
She treats a guy like shit, and now she's getting that shitty attitude come back to her.
let's all feel sorry for her that she can't handle being smacked in the face with the same shit she gave to him
Posted by P-AngelPosted by hera
dont be so harsh all the time, some people need to make mistakes in order to learn
Let me explain to you how life works, since you seem to not get it, even though you're living a life
You do things your way .... I do things my way
AND, some people need a kick in the ass in order to learn.
I don't give a rats ass what you like in terms of how I communicate to/with people.
I'm going to talk to her exactly as she deserves to be talked to. If a woman, any/all women, is a piece of shit in how she is treating a gentlemen who is treating her very well .. then she's deserving of getting verbally punched in the face.
What people get from me is aligned with what they say. If you're abusing a man, which she is ... then she is deserving of having her little feelings hurt.
It's not my problem if you can't handle real talk.click to expand
i'm not really sure who cant handle here what
you be bitter and angry, thats you...i just said you can say things the other way as well...the nice way... and i never asked you to stop talking to people the way you do, i said you could...
remember, you get what you give
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Posted by hera
...i just said you can say things the other way as well...the nice way
I just don't understand your ignorance.
I'll be damned if I would give her, or anyone, negative feedback. I tell people exactly what they need to hear to give them the tools to do the right thing for themselves, rather than moan and whimper, and get support to continue to moan and whimper about shit that was always in their control.
This thread, along with the millions others is here to get validated, not advice.
If you (in 3rd person) want to enable her by telling her that is ok behavior, then knock yourself out. Give others that kind of negative feedback if that's what you choose to do ... but, don't expect me to. I'm going to tell her exactly as it is ... because the truth is correct feedback.
Just because YOU cannot handle how I communicate is not my problem, and I'm not going to change, because you don't like it.
here's a wake up call ... I don't like the way YOU all talk to people. And what makes you believe that what you like superceds what I like? do you think that you deserve more than another? do you even comprehend how hypocritical that makes you to say that.
Posted by hera
remember, you get what you give
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I just can't get over how stupid people are, seriously.
You say this, the OP says, others say it, or something similar to that ...... ONLY because they don't like how I talk, and they cannot handle it ... so you stupid shit like this
I LOVE the energy that comes back to me. You cannot detect that? You think I have no clue? Do I look like a clueless person? Does it appear as though I have no clue to human behavior?
You try insult me, Flo tries to insult me ... when all along, it's YOU who cannot handle shit and needs to realize it.
I'm communicating EXACTLY as I intent to.
what part of that is too complicate for your closed-mind to grasp?
Yes, I mean "closed-mind" .... for the simple fact that you believe everyone should communicate according to what YOU want, according to how YOU do, what makes YOU happy ... and if others don't talk to others that way ..... then YOU are the one who has a problem
Not me, I don't have the problem. I'm speaking to others precisely as I mean to .... the truth is always right, and I will speak the way I want, as I have a right to.
so, if you plan on trying to insult me .. use your brain to realize what to use for your mental manipulation in trying to hurt me
As long as you verbally set your expectations and boundaries from the beginning and make your intentions known your in the clear. If he catches feeling, wants a relationship, etc, that is on him.
He can't claim you led him on if you were upfront from the start.
He can't claim you led him on if you were upfront from the start.
The above being said... fwb is very rarely successful, imo, unless the two people involved were platonic friends prior.
It's inevitable that one person in the equation becomes more emotionally envolved. If that person isn't you, then the humane thing is to walk away.
It's inevitable that one person in the equation becomes more emotionally envolved. If that person isn't you, then the humane thing is to walk away.
Posted by LadyNeptune
As long as you verbally set your expectations and boundaries from the beginning and make your intentions known your in the clear. If he catches feeling, wants a relationship, etc, that is on him.
He can't claim you led him on if you were upfront from the start.
But, she wasn't upfront from the beginning ... the opposite in fact.
she is ignoring him, actually .. and refusing to address this with him, and just assumes what he feels/wants
You obviously are only responding from the title and first sentence of the OP
Posted by P-AngelPosted by LadyNeptune
As long as you verbally set your expectations and boundaries from the beginning and make your intentions known your in the clear. If he catches feeling, wants a relationship, etc, that is on him.
He can't claim you led him on if you were upfront from the start.
But, she wasn't upfront from the beginning ... the opposite in fact.
she is ignoring him, actually .. and refusing to address this with him, and just assumes what he feels/wants
You obviously are only responding from the title and first sentence of the OPclick to expand
Oh.My.Gosh. Why are you still going on and on and on and ON? No one wants to continue to hear a bitter woman ranting. We get it. You like to be rude. You want to tell it like it is. You like the way you communicate. WE GOT IT. You've made more posts on here and I'm the OP. Just shut up already. You're not giving advice you're just spewing these illogical paragraphs every 5 seconds. Go to another post already.
Posted by LadyNeptune
The above being said... fwb is very rarely successful, imo, unless the two people involved were platonic friends prior.
It's inevitable that one person in the equation becomes more emotionally envolved. If that person isn't you, then the humane thing is to walk away.
Very true. Thank you. I just didn't think he had any feelings, but I'll explicitly tell him what it is that I want if he does indeed have feelings.
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