Posted by TimonEveryone tells me that I am always overthinking and sometimes things aren’t what it seems but it’s so hard not knowing the unknown and putting yourself in a position to potentially get hurt it’s almost like a deep fear of mine lol ☹️
Me friend is pisces with scorpio moon and she overanalyze everything. It's not such a big deal. You have to learn to let your guard down and go with the flow a little. 😉
Posted by AquarelleThank you hun for your perspective. He’s very honest, he’s told me that he is still dating around and he’s looking for someone special. My sister asked him if he saw a future with me he said he doesn’t know yet but I felt embarrassed when my sister asked that because I genuinely don’t want to be with him in that way I just wanted us to be friends and even though we are I feel so insecure all the time still, I’m like this in all my relationships or whenever I know a guy likes me I’ve been like this from the age of 12! I remember playing kiss chase at school was so scary for me lol because I didn’t like the fact a boy would kiss me 😂 but thank you so much. I’m going to just bite the bullet and call him tomorrow in the evening and see how it goes
You can't change who you are. It is what it is.
This guy obviously likes you. He just doesn't seem to have the patience you need, judging from the fact that he said he stopped trying. He could als have said that to get you to reach out to him, which would be a bit manipulative imo, but also honest.
Do you like him? If so, call him. How do you know he will reject you? It might not even happen. Sometimes our minds can be our worst enemies, thinking of doom secanrio's that might never happen.
You haven't failed if he doesn't call you back. Leave a message, ask him to call you back and give it some time. He may call you back later. People have lives, it doesn't mean that you failed. Maybe you should look into that fear. see where it is coming from. And this guy just needs to be a little bit more patient with you. You can tell him that you need time to make up your mind. It's no big deal if he really likes you.
Posted by AquarellePosted by Klh1203Posted by Aquarelle
You can't change who you are. It is what it is.
This guy obviously likes you. He just doesn't seem to have the patience you need, judging from the fact that he said he stopped trying. He could als have said that to get you to reach out to him, which would be a bit manipulative imo, but also honest.
Do you like him? If so, call him. How do you know he will reject you? It might not even happen. Sometimes our minds can be our worst enemies, thinking of doom secanrio's that might never happen.
You haven't failed if he doesn't call you back. Leave a message, ask him to call you back and give it some time. He may call you back later. People have lives, it doesn't mean that you failed. Maybe you should look into that fear. see where it is coming from. And this guy just needs to be a little bit more patient with you. You can tell him that you need time to make up your mind. It's no big deal if he really likes you.
Thank you hun for your perspective. He’s very honest, he’s told me that he is still dating around and he’s looking for someone special. My sister asked him if he saw a future with me he said he doesn’t know yet but I felt embarrassed when my sister asked that because I genuinely don’t want to be with him in that way I just wanted us to be friends and even though we are I feel so insecure all the time still, I’m like this in all my relationships or whenever I know a guy likes me I’ve been like this from the age of 12! I remember playing kiss chase at school was so scary for me lol because I didn’t like the fact a boy would kiss me 😂 but thank you so much. I’m going to just bite the bullet and call him tomorrow in the evening and see how it goes
You are welcome!
I can imagine yuo feeling embarrassed by what your sister did. If someone else asks for you, you cannot control how that conversation goes or what is being said. You can if you have the conversation yourself, right? And he may want to get to know you a bit better first before he can say if he sees a future with you. Maybe you are both the same in that way?
Aww...sorry for you "kiss experience"at school....at that age, girls can be so insecure....it's normal!
Good for you that you will call him! Do you want to give him a chance? Maybe it's good to think about what you really want from him? And tell him that honestly?
Because now you two are friends, but he seems to want more, is that right? The fact that he may be interested, doesn't mean you have to be interested in that same way, you know. You don't have to be, it's totally ok. No pressure.
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Posted by peachy06I do want him but I don’t want a relationship but I don’t want to not have him in my life and I don’t want to do too much at the same time and be overbearing lol
How is it it's so hard for some of you, to make a decision ? Either you want it or not. It's simple.
Posted by peachy06I know it seems that way but I genuinely like him but I’m scared to enter in to a relationship because I don’t feel ready for one. I just want him there, as bad as it sounds.Posted by Klh1203Posted by peachy06
How is it it's so hard for some of you, to make a decision ? Either you want it or not. It's simple.
I do want him but I don’t want a relationship but I don’t want to not have him in my life and I don’t want to do too much at the same time and be overbearing lol
You don't sound like you do. If you want him, you might want a relationship with him, otherwise you don't.click to expand
Posted by sweetpea2977The thing is I AM very much attracted to him like he’s literally my type to a T but I’m not ready for a relationship and I feel like at first he was rushing a relationship but because I’m taking things slow he decided to just stop making effort because I was being long.
I learned in my 20s to never allow a man to harass me into dating him.
It's probably in your best interest to start being very direct.
Examples:
I'm not attracted to you.
You're not on my to do list.
We aren't compatible.
I'm living my best singles life.
Etc etc