An Alternate View

I'm probably gonna step in it with this topic, but oh we'll here goes.

Over the years, I've heard people describe relationships as "give and take." We all know how it basically works. Perhaps it's time to look at things another way. Start with the concept of a relationship being an altar( not being religious lol); a place of sacrifice where both of you go to lay down what it is you're offering. Thus, your relationship becomes a place where you go to give and not necessarily take, if that makes sense. With everyone being human and equally flawed, no one sacrifice is greater than the other. You simply give what you have and that person does the same. Thus, the relationship supplies your needs because both of you consider your sacrifices equal. While there will always be people who offer nothing but are glad to receive whatever it is you give. Most of us simply give what we can...if we give 100% . Maybe if we change our mentalities, things will become better between the sexes. Your thoughts...

While there will always be people who offer nothing but are glad to receive whatever it is you give.

^^^^THIS^^^ is the problem. the ones that want the equality don't find the others prepared to give just that...how do you differentiate between the people that are willing to except this rule apart from walking around with a sign above your head? This is the raffle of life, the ones that sit in hope of finding someone with an equal heart and the takers!

I'm not sure if it's the same thing as what you're describing, but I've always felt that when people say they NEED to be in a relationship what they're actually saying is they NEED to offer their love to someone. Even if they're not getting much love in return. Or much anything, for that matter. And conventional wisdom treats such people for fools, but I sometimes wonder about that. Maybe love, in all of its forms and shapes, is actually like a river that needs to flow... and merely needs a river bed or direction...
I don't know how or if this works for other people. As far as I'm concerned, the need to offer love has always been a constant in my life and, when not involved in a relationship, I tend to pour my love over other people, whether family, friends, or mere acquaintances, or even pets or things I'm passionate about...
I also have this tendency of developing one-sided crushes that I live through with complete bliss. And in most cases the object of my crush doesn't even know I'm interested, nor do I need him to reciprocate in any way. I remember mornings when I got out of bed with a huge smile on my face just knowing that a certain guy was awake too and possibly going to work or going about his day or.. stuff like that. Really, really small stuff. But I still felt the love flowing towards someone and it was more than enough to make me happy.

Posted by Nicrobliz
Fuck it! How much do you earn and how big is your apartment? 🙂

Lol...didn't you know? I don't have a wallet! I sleep on beds of money and I don't have an apartment...I have villas lol

@rebecca83: I don't look at it as a need to love. I just simply do it. You point is well taken. Maybe you should take a chance and approach that dream guy 😉

Posted by Layna
I read a beautiful poem just now. Here goes -

Even
After
All this time
The Sun never says
To the Earth,
"You owe me."
Look
What Happens
With a love like that.
It lights the
Whole
Sky.

Beautiful indeed. Where did you find it?

Posted by sweethearts
While there will always be people who offer nothing but are glad to receive whatever it is you give.

^^^^THIS^^^ is the problem. the ones that want the equality don't find the others prepared to give just that...how do you differentiate between the people that are willing to except this rule apart from walking around with a sign above your head? This is the raffle of life, the ones that sit in hope of finding someone with an equal heart and the takers!

How you differentiate is that that special one will be different. They will act and speak differently; separating themselves from the test. But first, you have to open your eyes to see them. The search for that giver like us makes us fickle and cynical. We all go by what we've been taught or experienced and ultimate those are not the definitive truth. It's the blind following the blind. The ol guessing game. Everything starts with you.