And my bf did not call it"cheat" :))

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by Tinkerbell88 on Friday, September 11, 2015 and has 18 replies.
hi everybody,okay here my story...I'm not good with English and good stories teller so please forgive me ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜­ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜
I am in on-off relationship with my bf.we moved in together for 5months and then We had some probs that we could not fix them out ,it's exhausted me so I left him. And since that very first break up,we are back and then off again because the probs did not solve at all.it happens during 6 months .so basically we still like sometime meet to hang out,talking ,talking a walk ,movie,dinner etc...of course.sex....

he keeps saying that he still loves me a lot but he need to make sure that I will show him how much I love him and won't never leave him again because it made me hurt like hell. So we in this situation until now so after 8/9months we still like this.then one day I come to his house cuz we had a plane to have dinner together and hang out with his friends.then we back home ,watching our favorite tv show in bed.the. Somebody knocking his door,he try to hide me ,since the beginning I thought it was his roommate then I felt not right so I walk out and see a girl,he is younger then me around 1-2 years,not be proud but my bf and people said I'm hot so compare with this girl.she looks very normal.
She is trying to escaping.but I stopped her and keep asking who are you,why u show up in my bf house at this time(kind of late,around 11pm) she looks shocked a bit and keep saying "I'm sorry,I'm leaving ,this is my fault" -while my fb I think he was yelling at her why is she show up here! I don't really remember cuz at that time I was focus on her.of course!!!!
While the girl tried to escape I keep asking her "are you dating with my bf or what kind of relationship are you in with him? Plz tell me because I think I know what is going here but I just need to hear the truth from you!who are you? "
Then of course I found out that my fb slept with her sometime during the time we are on-off.so I was freaking out and start crying.
Well,yes,I don't need to.but if anyone in my situation will understand how it feel when people who u love slept with someone else....it was hurt like hell and still ....

Then my bf said to me(front of that girl,of course) that they were working together and he told her that he does not want any serious relationship with her,so they just fuck buddies !
Then the girl left and so do I.after when I back to my home,he called me but I did not respond,so he texted me that he really sorry about what happen
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..and he hope me can find another better man who won't do the same what he did. And I can't judge him and being sad because I left him,so basically we are not a couple anymore,I don't have to be hurt like that
I said.i hurt because he hid me about that,if he tell me that,hey we r broke up so now im free to do what ever I want and so do u,I'm gonna sleep with a girl.so don't be upset or if u not agree you can stop trying to prove yourself with me and we don't need concern together
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But he did not do that,he hide and lie to me when I asked him are u meeting anyone he said no.
But he keeps saying that he did not cheat on me,it just about sex cuz he is a man. Can you guys believe that? Sad
Problem is I still love him
We agree to let things go and start all,over again but I don't want it that easy for him,so what should I tell him,we will have a serious talk about all tonight. Please help me.
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sex.. cause hes a man?! thats the stupidest excuse ive ever heard in my life..

the guy is not faithful and does NOT feel guilty, not one bit!

drop his ass
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Im thinking about the same what u said Sad
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You need to move on! Don't let this man control your head and emotions!

There's no level of respect.
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Oh no. That hurts. I cannot give you an advice. I wasn't there yet. Get well soon.
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Posted by Tinkerbell88

And I can't judge him and being sad because I left him,so basically we are not a couple anymore




Posted by Tinkerbell88

But he keeps saying that he did not cheat on me,it just about sex cuz he is a man.

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He didn't cheat. You broke up with him, which rendered him a single person. If you love him and can't handle that ... then you shouldn't have broken up with him.

So, him sleeping with her isn't even an issue.

There's all kinds of other red flags waving throughout your tale, but, him sleeping with a chic while single is not one of the red flags.
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I left him but I never really do it,we live in a same city,we still hang out and do everything together like before when we were living together ,even sex. Yep. So my point here he should tell me about it,not hide.so he can say" we are no longer couple so I'm free to sleep with another woman in the same time we are together ,if u okay with that,go ahead if not leave me as u did" that's the right way a human being should do,no?
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Posted by starlover
If i got a euro for every time i heard a man say *i love my wife very much* and then admit they have shagged other women,
followed by the classic line *it didn't mean anything*

It means everything

Dump him

Idiot




i dont understand that either.

it's like, "OOOPS, my dick fell in her, and i couldnt get out. It didnt mean anything, but i had to keep going till i came cause it's the only way i could get out!"

"Really? So how come you did it again?"

"I was so shocked that i did it i had to do it again."

-_-
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Posted by Tinkerbell88
hi everybody,okay here my story...I'm not good with English and good stories teller so please forgive me ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜­ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜
I am in on-off relationship with my bf.we moved in together for 5months and then We had some probs that we could not fix them out ,it's exhausted me so I left him. And since that very first break up,we are back and then off again because the probs did not solve at all.it happens during 6 months .so basically we still like sometime meet to hang out,talking ,talking a walk ,movie,dinner etc...of course.sex....

he keeps saying that he still loves me a lot but he need to make sure that I will show him how much I love him and won't never leave him again because it made me hurt like hell. So we in this situation until now so after 8/9months we still like this.then one day I come to his house cuz we had a plane to have dinner together and hang out with his friends.then we back home ,watching our favorite tv show in bed.the. Somebody knocking his door,he try to hide me ,since the beginning I thought it was his roommate then I felt not right so I walk out and see a girl,he is younger then me around 1-2 years,not be proud but my bf and people said I'm hot so compare with this girl.she looks very normal.
She is trying to escaping.but I stopped her and keep asking who are you,why u show up in my bf house at this time(kind of late,around 11pm) she looks shocked a bit and keep saying "I'm sorry,I'm leaving ,this is my fault" -while my fb I think he was yelling at her why is she show up here! I don't really remember cuz at that time I was focus on her.of course!!!!
While the girl tried to escape I keep asking her "are you dating with my bf or what kind of relationship are you in with him? Plz tell me because I think I know what is going here but I just need to hear the truth from you!who are you? "
Then of course I found out that my fb slept with her sometime during the time we are on-off.so I was freaking out and start crying.
Well,yes,I don't need to.but if anyone in my situation will understand how it feel when people who u love slept with someone else....it was hurt like hell and still ....

Then my bf said to me(front of that girl,of course) that they were working together and he told her that he does not want any serious relationship with her,so they just fuck buddies
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eeeuuuyygggh and he uses your beauty compared to her. *smh*

sing song, "What a man, what a man what a mighty goooooodddd man."
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Posted by P-Angel
Posted by Tinkerbell88

And I can't judge him and being sad because I left him,so basically we are not a couple anymore




Posted by Tinkerbell88

But he keeps saying that he did not cheat on me,it just about sex cuz he is a man.






He didn't cheat. You broke up with him, which rendered him a single person. If you love him and can't handle that ... then you shouldn't have broken up with him.
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I agree with this.

I don't believe in "breaks". You're either together or you're not, and if not, each party is free to see whomever they please at their own discretion. He didn't owe you any explanation. He probably didn't think he was lying to you either.

Since he considers the girl an F buddy (most likely), then she wasn't significant enough to be brought up, in his perspective. But I can tell from your reaction that this is something that deeply bothers you.

Why are you concerned over how to make things more difficult for him, when you should be thinking about how to make things easier for yourself? Realize that if you continue to stick around, then you've already made it easy for him. If you get back together, do you honestly think you could trust him again? In the long run, it might be less stressful for you to just move on.
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Thank you for your opinion. But as I told u,I'm sure he gonna become crazy insane if I fuck another man in the same time on off with him..and yes what make me upset here he did not tell me,it's mean he not honest because I did ask him about it and he said no,he don't have anyone. And yes,I don't trust him and I don't think I can. Sad
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Honestly just drop him and forget all about him. There are soooo many guys that would treat you better. Regardless of the "rules" of dating, we we're on a break. He obviously knew he was being sneaky by trying to hide it. He sounds really manipulative.

You are a treasure and there are sooo many men who will treat you right and spoil you the way you deserve.
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Posted by CapricornLaurie

You are a treasure and there are sooo many men who will treat you right and spoil you the way you deserve.





You've got to be kidding.

Just become an entitled Princess, right? ..... and only consider the men who will bow down to her majesty.
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Whoever I am,I just don't easy sleep with another man when I still in on off relationship with my ex bf .i do respect him and he did not,so I think I will drop it here,that's the best for me.
...agree or not.we have two kinds of person in this life someone can control them self and someone can't .
Thanks you for your nice words @capricornLaurie and also thanks for your honest comment @ P-angel
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LOL @P-Angel last time I checked pussy ran shit in this world. Trust me its true. If he doesn't like her enough to respect her, someone else will. And it will be a quality guy.

Guys always use the line "Well now that we're broken up I can do xyz" its a form of manipulation to create fear and insecurity. Like okay, have fun going to bars getting rejected and having to pick up whatever you can find.

Also there is nothing wrong with being an entitled princess. Some guys are totally into it.
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