Are you high maintenance?
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by ATGR on Friday, May 3, 2024 and has 24 replies.
Do you need a lot of attention? Do you expect to be lavished with gifts? Do you expect your partner to pay for you? Tell us about it.
Attention, just enough to show that you care. I don't need gifts but I'm very appreciative of whatever I do get. If she wants to pay for something, it needs to come from the heart not out of obligation. I got more money than I need right now.
I’d say I’m fair. I just mirror my partner. He spoils me, I’ll mirror that. I only expect care from a person which doesn’t always come in monetary spending. If he shows me care (helps me with chores, takes care of me when I’m sick) that amounts far more than him buying me a purse or paying for dinners.
My only deal breaker is stingy miserly people. I won’t mirror that. I don’t look at those people in friendships or love.
My only deal breaker is stingy miserly people. I won’t mirror that. I don’t look at those people in friendships or love.
Posted by aquarius09I hate that so much!! Not seen many women like that. Have had a few friends that act like that and it gets on my nerves.
My only deal breaker is stingy miserly people. I won’t mirror that.
I'm living a double life, I love and hate attention.. don't care about the rest
Posted by StardustmoppedYou’d be lucky to have me. Now pay for my Uber.
I like to pretend I have the option to be high maintenance
No
No
Well in a way. I like it to be 50/50
I'm only stingy towards people I don't like or don't care for. Like if someone talk trash about me don't even ask me for anything.
No
Well in a way. I like it to be 50/50
I'm only stingy towards people I don't like or don't care for. Like if someone talk trash about me don't even ask me for anything.
Posted by slugNobody thinks they’re high maintenance. 😛
I don't think so 🤔 we'd have to ask my ex's 😂
i need my name tattooed on your boob or the love isn't real
No because to me it's the small things like remembering what I like and paying attention to the little things that's actually important. Showing thought and care with a gift rather than giving me something really expensive. I rather get flowers 🌺🌹 than any other gift.
Posted by slugYes, but I just want food. That’s all I need. 🤣Posted by ATGRPosted by slug
I don't think so 🤔 we'd have to ask my ex's 😂
Nobody thinks they’re high maintenance. 😛
Are you?click to expand
Posted by s-i hope he is a professional.. don't want a tattoo that looks like a a five year old made it.Posted by Weeds
i need my name tattooed on your boob or the love isn't real
my bf wants to tattoo meclick to expand
I’m not into gifts or money.
I want attention, time spent, feelings, care, mental support, talks, etc.
So it depends how you look at it. Financially, I am not going to cost a lot. But you’ll pay other ways 😅
I want attention, time spent, feelings, care, mental support, talks, etc.
So it depends how you look at it. Financially, I am not going to cost a lot. But you’ll pay other ways 😅
Yes and No.
But never in a materialistic way. Buying stuff is easy, putting the effort in, is where it count.
And I am also very hard to please in a materialistic way...If it's not something I wanted I will be like..meh..lol If I want it I get it either way..
I will be far more happy with a suprise very long sexy time hehe
So yeah, Yes and No.
But never in a materialistic way. Buying stuff is easy, putting the effort in, is where it count.
And I am also very hard to please in a materialistic way...If it's not something I wanted I will be like..meh..lol If I want it I get it either way..
I will be far more happy with a suprise very long sexy time hehe
So yeah, Yes and No.
No. Do not smother. I need time to myself too.
No. Do not needs stuff. Simple things like going for a hike and bringing lunch to eat on the trail is good for me.
No. I have a job of my own.
No. Do not needs stuff. Simple things like going for a hike and bringing lunch to eat on the trail is good for me.
No. I have a job of my own.
Posted by ATGRTrue because people lack self-awareness and people who can’t offer basic courtesies deem you high maintenance. I expect respect in communication, time (can’t stand tardy folks. They get rudely cussed by me) so I’ve been told I’m high maintenance. Lazy and tacky folks think asking for basic courtesy is high maintenance. Now it’s apparently subjective.Posted by slug
I don't think so 🤔 we'd have to ask my ex's 😂
Nobody thinks they’re high maintenance. 😛click to expand
I'm probably the lowest maintenance man ever. I can thrive on sardines and anchovies, and still lay 300 square foot of tile the next day.
Literally there are only 3 golden rules with me. Don't tell me what to do, don't talk shit on the things I enjoy/love, and maybe have my back if needed. If someone does that for me I will forever have their back. I would literally unload an entire mag, maybe 2 into their enemies, and never even feel a single thing afterwards other then it being justified.
Literally there are only 3 golden rules with me. Don't tell me what to do, don't talk shit on the things I enjoy/love, and maybe have my back if needed. If someone does that for me I will forever have their back. I would literally unload an entire mag, maybe 2 into their enemies, and never even feel a single thing afterwards other then it being justified.
Actually rereading my last post, I might actually be high maintenance LMAO!
Gifts? No.
Attention? Yes, in that I require intellectual stimulation to feel engaged. Conversation and consistent bids for connection. But I don’t expect availability 24/7.
Virgo says I am high maintenance mentally but not materially.
Flip side, I’m incredibly loyal, giving and dependable. I also show my love with words and actions. I enjoy playfulness and sex and doting in my partner. I feel like my man is my protector and provider, but when he’s home it’s my job to make him feel a little spoiled. Coffee in bed, massages, sex, and finding small ways to elevate his day to day experience.
Attention? Yes, in that I require intellectual stimulation to feel engaged. Conversation and consistent bids for connection. But I don’t expect availability 24/7.
Virgo says I am high maintenance mentally but not materially.
Flip side, I’m incredibly loyal, giving and dependable. I also show my love with words and actions. I enjoy playfulness and sex and doting in my partner. I feel like my man is my protector and provider, but when he’s home it’s my job to make him feel a little spoiled. Coffee in bed, massages, sex, and finding small ways to elevate his day to day experience.
Financially no
Sexually yes 😂
Sexually yes 😂
In real life, Sometimes I like attention. It depends on the mood. I was told that I can be a little demanding. I am the first born, maybe that's why. hehe
I do ask for things to be done (types of service) in a nice way.
Example: 1. Can you please take the garbage out.
2. Do you think you can wash my car? If you are not tired
They don't have to do it, but I do like it.
I enjoy blessing others too. It works both ways
I ask and I also give.
I don't view it as high maintenance but more like we are a team.
I do ask for things to be done (types of service) in a nice way.
Example: 1. Can you please take the garbage out.
2. Do you think you can wash my car? If you are not tired
They don't have to do it, but I do like it.
I enjoy blessing others too. It works both ways
I ask and I also give.
I don't view it as high maintenance but more like we are a team.
I would say I'm more emotionally high maintenance than what comes along
with the traditional meaning of "high maintenance" in today's standards.
Emotional intelligence and intuitiveness is a MUST.
My need for attention varies. One moment I wanna be in your skin. Hear you,
smell you, feel you. Another moment be in the same room and not utter
a sound to one another. Another moment not see you for a day or 2 and be
fine.
Gifts aren't my "love language". But I would like to receive an occasional surprise
from time to time unprompted. Flowers, filling my car up etc. I would do the same.
If I'm out, thinking of you and see something I'd think you would like I'd get it or do
an "act of service" I see that would help you out, e.g link you up with some beneficial
contacts, bring you lunch.
"Pay for me" in what context?
The duration of a relationship or simply beginnings of courting?
with the traditional meaning of "high maintenance" in today's standards.
Emotional intelligence and intuitiveness is a MUST.
My need for attention varies. One moment I wanna be in your skin. Hear you,
smell you, feel you. Another moment be in the same room and not utter
a sound to one another. Another moment not see you for a day or 2 and be
fine.
Gifts aren't my "love language". But I would like to receive an occasional surprise
from time to time unprompted. Flowers, filling my car up etc. I would do the same.
If I'm out, thinking of you and see something I'd think you would like I'd get it or do
an "act of service" I see that would help you out, e.g link you up with some beneficial
contacts, bring you lunch.
"Pay for me" in what context?
The duration of a relationship or simply beginnings of courting?
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