wagtail
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Being petty with an ex
Immaturity at its finest
Posted by SodapopPosted by tizianiI really thought only women did these things!
For sure. Many times.
I cant remember small things ive done off the top of my head, other than post fake stories on the internet on sites where i knew shed probably read them, then laugh at her when she called claiming she had the inside info on me.
Another time i had an ex fighting with her business partner. It was petty and blew way out of proportion in no time but i felt vindicated.
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Lol nah a mans petty bone is definitely a strong runner up for his 'third leg'
Posted by SodapopNot imoPosted by wagtailAre some signs more petty than others?Posted by SodapopPosted by tizianiI really thought only women did these things!
For sure. Many times.
I cant remember small things ive done off the top of my head, other than post fake stories on the internet on sites where i knew shed probably read them, then laugh at her when she called claiming she had the inside info on me.
Another time i had an ex fighting with her business partner. It was petty and blew way out of proportion in no time but i felt vindicated.
Lol nah a mans petty bone is definitely a strong runner up for his 'third leg'
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pettiness is for all and sundry - pure human nature and something we can all learn to overcome or dwell in
Posted by tiziani
For sure. Many times.
I cant remember small things ive done off the top of my head, other than post fake stories on the internet on sites where i knew shed probably read them, then laugh at her when she called claiming she had the inside info on me.
Another time i had an ex fighting with her business partner. It was petty and blew way out of proportion in no time but i felt vindicated.
Posted by wagtailYeah I imagine a person who shows no pettiness is as close to Jesus as one can possibly come.
Not imo
pettiness is for all and sundry - pure human nature and something we can all learn to overcome or dwell in
There's nothing scarier than discovering a petty side to a person who didn't seem to have one. Makes you lose hope in humanity moreso than some random dude shooting up some random place. If he's not petty he still kinda Jesus in my book
Nope, I just want to find the fastest escape route to not have to deal with them ever again. 😁 Much easier lol
Posted by Sodapop@whorpio
This is it. I’m done with men.
You do know this means you DESPERATELY still care/in love with with your ex right?
Not the other way around like you think...
Not the other way around like you think...
Posted by aquarius_manI’m a Taurus. How’d you know?Posted by dannmann1992are you an earth sign by any chance? or water?
Have any of you been petty with an ex just because? You don’t want her back or care about her, but you still want to stick it to her?
My ex broke up with me and then tried to get back with me. Told her no. I’ll admit I tried to make her jealous on purpose. She called me out and said that she was happy for me. Told Her pretty much to mind her business. Then I started to like her pictures a few days later. I just want to stick it to her even though I don’t care about her or want her back. It’s weird, I can’t explain it.
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Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Sodapop
This is it. I’m done with men.
@whorpioclick to expand
If things don’t work out with my Gemini, I will give up on men.
Not my own no. I can crack jokes with friends or be sarcastic and snarky, but that's more a byproduct of how I process things through humor. No malice involved.
But the exes of my friends or people who harmed them? Oh boy, hold my purse. Not only am I petty, I am straight up vengeful. I'll see to it that if I am ever in a position to affect you, I will go out of my way and you won't know what hit you.
But the exes of my friends or people who harmed them? Oh boy, hold my purse. Not only am I petty, I am straight up vengeful. I'll see to it that if I am ever in a position to affect you, I will go out of my way and you won't know what hit you.
No, I’m not a petty kind of person .. I think it’s a waste of time .. too many other things going on than to try to make my ex jealous on purpose
Posted by edgelordThis
being petty means you still care. whether you wanna admit it or not.
Bad karma is going to come your way.
When this high wears off you’re going to be kicking yourself. You only do all this stupid petty stuff when you still want the person. Almost 100% of the time it ends up backfiring. When it does, you’re going to wish you hadn’t because you’re going to push her away and I suspect that’s not ultimately what you want.
When this high wears off you’re going to be kicking yourself. You only do all this stupid petty stuff when you still want the person. Almost 100% of the time it ends up backfiring. When it does, you’re going to wish you hadn’t because you’re going to push her away and I suspect that’s not ultimately what you want.
Posted by xyinsaturnLong term damages? How so?Posted by dannmann1992It's the ego inflation. Too costly and high risk of long term damages.
Have any of you been petty with an ex just because? You don’t want her back or care about her, but you still want to stick it to her?
My ex broke up with me and then tried to get back with me. Told her no. I’ll admit I tried to make her jealous on purpose. She called me out and said that she was happy for me. Told Her pretty much to mind her business. Then I started to like her pictures a few days later. I just want to stick it to her even though I don’t care about her or want her back. It’s weird, I can’t explain it.
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Posted by exoOh lawd I don't even want to think how I'd be as a mother.Posted by Damnata#wifey
Not my own no. I can crack jokes with friends or be sarcastic and snarky, but that's more a byproduct of how I process things through humor. No malice involved.
But the exes of my friends or people who harmed them? Oh boy, hold my purse. Not only am I petty, I am straight up vengeful. I'll see to it that if I am ever in a position to affect you, I will go out of my way and you won't know what hit you.
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"haha, so you're my daughter's boyfriend huh? you make her cry i will make you cry....jeez why the long face? i am just joking haha. no seriously i will make sure you vanish off the face of the earth...SIKE! just joking haha, enjoy your night out"
Posted by exoGod I am awful.Posted by Damnatayou'll be the bestest, funnest, weirdest mum. 😄Posted by exoOh lawd I don't even want to think how I'd be as a mother.Posted by Damnata#wifey
Not my own no. I can crack jokes with friends or be sarcastic and snarky, but that's more a byproduct of how I process things through humor. No malice involved.
But the exes of my friends or people who harmed them? Oh boy, hold my purse. Not only am I petty, I am straight up vengeful. I'll see to it that if I am ever in a position to affect you, I will go out of my way and you won't know what hit you.
"haha, so you're my daughter's boyfriend huh? you make her cry i will make you cry....jeez why the long face? i am just joking haha. no seriously i will make sure you vanish off the face of the earth...SIKE! just joking haha, enjoy your night out"
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When I went to Italy in February I met my Leo cousin and I raised that small one from birth til she was 7. Haven't seen her in the last 10 years since they moved there.
So I am looking at her with starry eyes and asking how school is going and she starts telling me about this nice aqua classmate she is crushing on. I was so taken aback lmao
"WOAH WOAH WOAH HOLD UP! What is this about a boy? You're too young!"
"I'm 17"
"Like I said"
"Didn't you get engaged at 18?"
"That was DIFFERENT. Lettuce talk about school more. All the time in the world to deal with boys"
just...lmao.
do you want the words "so much wasted time" written on your tombstone? yeah, then don't. this is a literal waste of time. i'd rather be happy alone or with a new person than to keep going through miserable childish shit with an ex. this is why i don't keep exes in my life at all. you ran your course. goodbye.
Posted by LDM90So it sounds like you think I still want her?
Bad karma is going to come your way.
When this high wears off you’re going to be kicking yourself. You only do all this stupid petty stuff when you still want the person. Almost 100% of the time it ends up backfiring. When it does, you’re going to wish you hadn’t because you’re going to push her away and I suspect that’s not ultimately what you want.
Posted by dannmann1992Umm yea...duh lolPosted by LDM90So it sounds like you think I still want her?
Bad karma is going to come your way.
When this high wears off you’re going to be kicking yourself. You only do all this stupid petty stuff when you still want the person. Almost 100% of the time it ends up backfiring. When it does, you’re going to wish you hadn’t because you’re going to push her away and I suspect that’s not ultimately what you want.click to expand
Posted by WarAngel1Posted by WhorpioPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by Sodapop
This is it. I’m done with men.
@whorpio
If things don’t work out with my Gemini, I will give up on men.
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If I’m under 30 I’ll go back to the cathouse. If I’m over 30 I’m def gon become a lesbian.
This thread makes me smile with glee. Women being faced with the fact that guy's have feelings too, and play games just like us.
Posted by tizianiI call bullshit on the "good karma, our relationship ended with the releasing of doves" stories. lolPosted by nikkistar
This thread makes me smile with glee. Women being faced with the fact that guy's have feelings too, and play games just like us.
Well by a headcount it's pretty much just me and dannmann.
Whereas there are a lot of
"I don't always end relationships but, when I do, I make sure to do it mature with good karma"
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Only vermin act petty towards another person. I can see why she broke up with you now.
Posted by enfant_terribleOf course, he is Batman!Posted by tiziani
For sure. Many times.
I cant remember small things ive done off the top of my head, other than post fake stories on the internet on sites where i knew shed probably read them, then laugh at her when she called claiming she had the inside info on me.
Another time i had an ex fighting with her business partner. It was petty and blew way out of proportion in no time but i felt vindicated.
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Posted by LDM90You can want someone and not want to be with them.Posted by dannmann1992Umm yea...duh lolPosted by LDM90So it sounds like you think I still want her?
Bad karma is going to come your way.
When this high wears off you’re going to be kicking yourself. You only do all this stupid petty stuff when you still want the person. Almost 100% of the time it ends up backfiring. When it does, you’re going to wish you hadn’t because you’re going to push her away and I suspect that’s not ultimately what you want.
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Posted by tizianiLOL a lot of my shit don't stink and i'd never do this.Posted by nikkistar
This thread makes me smile with glee. Women being faced with the fact that guy's have feelings too, and play games just like us.
Well by a headcount it's pretty much just me and dannmann.
Whereas there are a lot of
"I don't always end relationships but, when I do, I make sure to do it mature with good karma"
Posts in here.click to expand
Bullshiiiiiissst
Every single person can and does get petty.. ever make a thread about an ex? Yup that's petty. Ever talk shit to another about anyone? Ya that's petty too. LOL at people acting like they perfect, there is way too much gossip on this site behind the scene and in threads to not have petty ass mofos all over the place.
At least own that shit and try to do better.
Posted by NemDeuxThat's incorrect. You can *like/care* about someone and not want to be with them. If you want someone you want to be with them.Posted by dannmann1992i agree with this.Posted by LDM90You can want someone and not want to be with them.Posted by dannmann1992Umm yea...duh lolPosted by LDM90So it sounds like you think I still want her?
Bad karma is going to come your way.
When this high wears off you’re going to be kicking yourself. You only do all this stupid petty stuff when you still want the person. Almost 100% of the time it ends up backfiring. When it does, you’re going to wish you hadn’t because you’re going to push her away and I suspect that’s not ultimately what you want.
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OP can say that he's looking at her social media and liking her posts just to get under her skin all he wants but I'm calling bs.That's not the real complete reason. Looking at her stuff because he still cares. Couple this with trying to make her jealous=still wanting her=still want to be with her.
Posted by tizianiHe asked.
Trying to tell another person how they feel is petty.
Don't you dare talk about my chanclas that way
Posted by tizianiSo you’re saying you’ve wanted someone, but not the relationship before? How does that work? 🤔Posted by LDM90Lol I took it that he asked for your thoughts.Posted by tizianiHe asked.
Trying to tell another person how they feel is petty.
Not to try and use semantics to tell him that how he feels is "incorrect".
And i relate to what he and Nem are saying.
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I think you can have feelings for someone and not want a relationship, but still wanting an ex, or anyone for that matter, I think would mean that you still want to be with them?
Posted by Gob_ShiteSo judgey, Judgey McJudgerson.
This thread is just...
*facepalm*
Never mind
Posted by brianafayooohhhh share with the class girl!
Never mind
Posted by ItsMeRomanYou're dad sounds like he's an amazing guy tbh.Posted by dannmann1992Sounds like cope to me.
Have any of you been petty with an ex just because? You don’t want her back or care about her, but you still want to stick it to her?
My ex broke up with me and then tried to get back with me. Told her no. I’ll admit I tried to make her jealous on purpose. She called me out and said that she was happy for me. Told Her pretty much to mind her business. Then I started to like her pictures a few days later. I just want to stick it to her even though I don’t care about her or want her back. It’s weird, I can’t explain it.
Anyone else ever felt this way?
I can't say I'm any less petty. I've definitely served my share of salty exchanges with an ex but if it matters, I don't hold that resentment anymore.
I had a talk with my dad a little while ago about how he manages to stay on decent terms with my mom. My mom had an affair and they divorced because she chose her lover, he was willing to look past it and keep trying. I was incredibly angry he was behaving so benevolent and he explained to me that no matter what my mom does, she's still the mother to his children and she's a part of half the memories in his life, he loves her but just differently. I told him I couldn't move on from an ex without hating him entirely and I wanted to know how he was able to get through his breakup with my mom.
His advice was simple but took me a while to understand and maybe I still don't? I might butcher his words but essentially he said...Loving something/someone that wants to escape you is painful...but what's even more painful is holding someone back that wants to leave, knowing you're not the first choice or even a second choice. If you can find it in you...to keep loving them as a friend and give them your blessing as they move through life.
I confused what he'd said and I didn't get it. Our next talk I told him I couldn't find it in me to view him as a friend and accept it and I couldn't find a blessing in me to give.
Essentially he said that it's because I put my identity into relationships. That I put too much pride into a relationship and expectations that cannot be filled...And that's why I return to hand out shade because I'm angry that it didn't work, because i view my worth on success. I'm not entirely through my last two breakups mentally but I am finding acceptance. I am guilty of behaving like a complete and utter asshole and I know my apologies mean nothing, so I save them and I'm trying to give them silent acceptance. I'm trying not to disrupt peace by wanting to say something.
It's incredibly hard for me to not act out in anger and rage and ignorance. I don't think I'll ever fully transition into a kind person like either of my parents but I hope someday I find that inner peace they seem to have.
Being petty to an ex isn't satisfying. I loved these people once, how could I put them down after it's ended? It's essentially being disrespectful to my choices in people I date.
I'm thinking and typing aloud. Not sure if I'm making sense lol. 😒
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Posted by dannmann1992You're not really sticking it to her by liking her pics, that's just the excuse you're giving to keep yourself relevant in her life. Sure it may be confusing to her at first, but really you're just letting her know that you're still thinking about her. She still has your attention even though you said you were done with her. Once she realizes you actions and words aren't aligned, she'll pick up on your ruse. Women are extremely emotionally intelligent (definitely more than men) after all.
Have any of you been petty with an ex just because? You don’t want her back or care about her, but you still want to stick it to her?
My ex broke up with me and then tried to get back with me. Told her no. I’ll admit I tried to make her jealous on purpose. She called me out and said that she was happy for me. Told Her pretty much to mind her business. Then I started to like her pictures a few days later. I just want to stick it to her even though I don’t care about her or want her back. It’s weird, I can’t explain it.
Anyone else ever felt this way?
You're killing any mystery you have by trying to be petty. You'll get the quick gratification, but you'll also be all too aware when she moves on to a new person via social media. The rough part will be that your attention could actually help bolster her self esteem enough to move forward. Remember that the opposite of love is indifference.
If you REALLY want to stick it to her, then ghost. Stop interacting with her altogether and make her wonder what happened to you. Make her wonder if you're the one who got away. People generally don't chase after the exes who stuck around, they chase after the ones they felt they've lost (granted there are exceptions to this).
Posted by ItsMeRomanTrue, but they're already broken up. It makes no sense to stick around now.Posted by ChuckcemGhosting is for phucboys.Posted by dannmann1992You're not really sticking it to her by liking her pics, that's just the excuse you're giving to keep yourself relevant in her life. Sure it may be confusing to her at first, but really you're just letting her know that you're still thinking about her. She still has your attention even though you said you were done with her. Once she realizes you actions and words aren't aligned, she'll pick up on your ruse. Women are extremely emotionally intelligent (definitely more than men) after all.
Have any of you been petty with an ex just because? You don’t want her back or care about her, but you still want to stick it to her?
My ex broke up with me and then tried to get back with me. Told her no. I’ll admit I tried to make her jealous on purpose. She called me out and said that she was happy for me. Told Her pretty much to mind her business. Then I started to like her pictures a few days later. I just want to stick it to her even though I don’t care about her or want her back. It’s weird, I can’t explain it.
Anyone else ever felt this way?
You're killing any mystery you have by trying to be petty. You'll get the quick gratification, but you'll also be all too aware when she moves on to a new person via social media. The rough part will be that your attention could actually help bolster her self esteem enough to move forward. Remember that the opposite of love is indifference.
If you REALLY want to stick it to her, then ghost. Stop interacting with her altogether and make her wonder what happened to you. Make her wonder if you're the one who got away. People generally don't chase after the exes who stuck around, they chase after the ones they felt they've lost (granted there are exceptions to this).
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Posted by dannmann1992Yes. With one. It's a semi annual event.
Have any of you been petty with an ex just because?
Like the Victoria's Secret Clearance Sale.
Because he was warned repeatedly not to fuck with my feelings and he chose to ignore those warnings.
Posted by ChuckcemWell I don’t like all of her pictures that she post if that makes a difference. I like my ex’s pictures from a few years ago too so I guess I don’t really see the big deal about liking my most recent ex’s pictures.Posted by dannmann1992You're not really sticking it to her by liking her pics, that's just the excuse you're giving to keep yourself relevant in her life. Sure it may be confusing to her at first, but really you're just letting her know that you're still thinking about her. She still has your attention even though you said you were done with her. Once she realizes you actions and words aren't aligned, she'll pick up on your ruse. Women are extremely emotionally intelligent (definitely more than men) after all.
Have any of you been petty with an ex just because? You don’t want her back or care about her, but you still want to stick it to her?
My ex broke up with me and then tried to get back with me. Told her no. I’ll admit I tried to make her jealous on purpose. She called me out and said that she was happy for me. Told Her pretty much to mind her business. Then I started to like her pictures a few days later. I just want to stick it to her even though I don’t care about her or want her back. It’s weird, I can’t explain it.
Anyone else ever felt this way?
You're killing any mystery you have by trying to be petty. You'll get the quick gratification, but you'll also be all too aware when she moves on to a new person via social media. The rough part will be that your attention could actually help bolster her self esteem enough to move forward. Remember that the opposite of love is indifference.
If you REALLY want to stick it to her, then ghost. Stop interacting with her altogether and make her wonder what happened to you. Make her wonder if you're the one who got away. People generally don't chase after the exes who stuck around, they chase after the ones they felt they've lost (granted there are exceptions to this).click to expand
Posted by dannmann1992It's not a big deal, but this is now yet another time you've posted about your ex in this manner. In this post you've stated that you want to be "petty", which just means you want to get her attention. If you were truly indifferent, you wouldn't care to do this. If you really wanted revenge, you'd move on to a new person.Posted by ChuckcemWell I don’t like all of her pictures that she post if that makes a difference. I like my ex’s pictures from a few years ago too so I guess I don’t really see the big deal about liking my most recent ex’s pictures.Posted by dannmann1992You're not really sticking it to her by liking her pics, that's just the excuse you're giving to keep yourself relevant in her life. Sure it may be confusing to her at first, but really you're just letting her know that you're still thinking about her. She still has your attention even though you said you were done with her. Once she realizes you actions and words aren't aligned, she'll pick up on your ruse. Women are extremely emotionally intelligent (definitely more than men) after all.
Have any of you been petty with an ex just because? You don’t want her back or care about her, but you still want to stick it to her?
My ex broke up with me and then tried to get back with me. Told her no. I’ll admit I tried to make her jealous on purpose. She called me out and said that she was happy for me. Told Her pretty much to mind her business. Then I started to like her pictures a few days later. I just want to stick it to her even though I don’t care about her or want her back. It’s weird, I can’t explain it.
Anyone else ever felt this way?
You're killing any mystery you have by trying to be petty. You'll get the quick gratification, but you'll also be all too aware when she moves on to a new person via social media. The rough part will be that your attention could actually help bolster her self esteem enough to move forward. Remember that the opposite of love is indifference.
If you REALLY want to stick it to her, then ghost. Stop interacting with her altogether and make her wonder what happened to you. Make her wonder if you're the one who got away. People generally don't chase after the exes who stuck around, they chase after the ones they felt they've lost (granted there are exceptions to this).
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Posted by ChuckcemDo you believe that looking at an ex's social media like OP is an indicator that he or she still cares?Posted by dannmann1992It's not a big deal, but this is now yet another time you've posted about your ex in this manner. In this post you've stated that you want to be "petty", which just means you want to get her attention. If you were truly indifferent, you wouldn't care to do this. If you really wanted revenge, you'd move on to a new person.Posted by ChuckcemWell I don’t like all of her pictures that she post if that makes a difference. I like my ex’s pictures from a few years ago too so I guess I don’t really see the big deal about liking my most recent ex’s pictures.Posted by dannmann1992You're not really sticking it to her by liking her pics, that's just the excuse you're giving to keep yourself relevant in her life. Sure it may be confusing to her at first, but really you're just letting her know that you're still thinking about her. She still has your attention even though you said you were done with her. Once she realizes you actions and words aren't aligned, she'll pick up on your ruse. Women are extremely emotionally intelligent (definitely more than men) after all.
Have any of you been petty with an ex just because? You don’t want her back or care about her, but you still want to stick it to her?
My ex broke up with me and then tried to get back with me. Told her no. I’ll admit I tried to make her jealous on purpose. She called me out and said that she was happy for me. Told Her pretty much to mind her business. Then I started to like her pictures a few days later. I just want to stick it to her even though I don’t care about her or want her back. It’s weird, I can’t explain it.
Anyone else ever felt this way?
You're killing any mystery you have by trying to be petty. You'll get the quick gratification, but you'll also be all too aware when she moves on to a new person via social media. The rough part will be that your attention could actually help bolster her self esteem enough to move forward. Remember that the opposite of love is indifference.
If you REALLY want to stick it to her, then ghost. Stop interacting with her altogether and make her wonder what happened to you. Make her wonder if you're the one who got away. People generally don't chase after the exes who stuck around, they chase after the ones they felt they've lost (granted there are exceptions to this).
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Posted by missmissyDefinitely. The brain, as powerful as it may be, is like the rest of the body since it seeks homeostasis (the status quo or habit). When in relationships, the mind naturally creates emotional attachments to the other individual that it seeks to maintain.Posted by ChuckcemDo you believe that looking at an ex's social media like OP is an indicator that he or she still cares?Posted by dannmann1992It's not a big deal, but this is now yet another time you've posted about your ex in this manner. In this post you've stated that you want to be "petty", which just means you want to get her attention. If you were truly indifferent, you wouldn't care to do this. If you really wanted revenge, you'd move on to a new person.Posted by ChuckcemWell I don’t like all of her pictures that she post if that makes a difference. I like my ex’s pictures from a few years ago too so I guess I don’t really see the big deal about liking my most recent ex’s pictures.Posted by dannmann1992You're not really sticking it to her by liking her pics, that's just the excuse you're giving to keep yourself relevant in her life. Sure it may be confusing to her at first, but really you're just letting her know that you're still thinking about her. She still has your attention even though you said you were done with her. Once she realizes you actions and words aren't aligned, she'll pick up on your ruse. Women are extremely emotionally intelligent (definitely more than men) after all.
Have any of you been petty with an ex just because? You don’t want her back or care about her, but you still want to stick it to her?
My ex broke up with me and then tried to get back with me. Told her no. I’ll admit I tried to make her jealous on purpose. She called me out and said that she was happy for me. Told Her pretty much to mind her business. Then I started to like her pictures a few days later. I just want to stick it to her even though I don’t care about her or want her back. It’s weird, I can’t explain it.
Anyone else ever felt this way?
You're killing any mystery you have by trying to be petty. You'll get the quick gratification, but you'll also be all too aware when she moves on to a new person via social media. The rough part will be that your attention could actually help bolster her self esteem enough to move forward. Remember that the opposite of love is indifference.
If you REALLY want to stick it to her, then ghost. Stop interacting with her altogether and make her wonder what happened to you. Make her wonder if you're the one who got away. People generally don't chase after the exes who stuck around, they chase after the ones they felt they've lost (granted there are exceptions to this).
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After a breakup the brain needs time to detach the emotional pathways. Since our brains rely on outside stimulus to rationalize our world, exposing one's mind to the other person prolongs that emotional connection, thereby making it harder to let go. By creating distance from the other person, your brain has no other option but to lessen those emotional pathways. That's not to say that the brain will completely detach in this manner, but it does help alleviate the strong emotional connection the brain has to the ex.
So to put it simply, constant exposure to an ex makes it more difficult for the mind (and heart) to detach. If you continue looking at their pictures on social media, the brain will think that the emotional connections you had in the relationship are still viable. Basically you're just reopening a wound over and over again, not giving it time to scab over and heal.
Posted by tizianiI guess I'm missing the point then. I usually see "sticking it someone" as a means of getting self gratification or boosting one's ego by basically proving a point.Posted by ChuckcemI don't think wanting to stick it to someone means you want to see their self esteem down.Posted by dannmann1992You're not really sticking it to her by liking her pics, that's just the excuse you're giving to keep yourself relevant in her life. Sure it may be confusing to her at first, but really you're just letting her know that you're still thinking about her. She still has your attention even though you said you were done with her. Once she realizes you actions and words aren't aligned, she'll pick up on your ruse. Women are extremely emotionally intelligent (definitely more than men) after all.
Have any of you been petty with an ex just because? You don’t want her back or care about her, but you still want to stick it to her?
My ex broke up with me and then tried to get back with me. Told her no. I’ll admit I tried to make her jealous on purpose. She called me out and said that she was happy for me. Told Her pretty much to mind her business. Then I started to like her pictures a few days later. I just want to stick it to her even though I don’t care about her or want her back. It’s weird, I can’t explain it.
Anyone else ever felt this way?
You're killing any mystery you have by trying to be petty. You'll get the quick gratification, but you'll also be all too aware when she moves on to a new person via social media. The rough part will be that your attention could actually help bolster her self esteem enough to move forward. Remember that the opposite of love is indifference.
If you REALLY want to stick it to her, then ghost. Stop interacting with her altogether and make her wonder what happened to you. Make her wonder if you're the one who got away. People generally don't chase after the exes who stuck around, they chase after the ones they felt they've lost (granted there are exceptions to this).
It's just pettiness. It doesn't have to be mean-spirited.
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Posted by ChuckcemYou seem to have great insight, and plus this really intrigues me lol, so I'll pose the same question to you:Posted by tizianiI guess I'm missing the point then. I usually see "sticking it someone" as a means of getting self gratification or boosting one's ego by basically proving a point.Posted by ChuckcemI don't think wanting to stick it to someone means you want to see their self esteem down.Posted by dannmann1992You're not really sticking it to her by liking her pics, that's just the excuse you're giving to keep yourself relevant in her life. Sure it may be confusing to her at first, but really you're just letting her know that you're still thinking about her. She still has your attention even though you said you were done with her. Once she realizes you actions and words aren't aligned, she'll pick up on your ruse. Women are extremely emotionally intelligent (definitely more than men) after all.
Have any of you been petty with an ex just because? You don’t want her back or care about her, but you still want to stick it to her?
My ex broke up with me and then tried to get back with me. Told her no. I’ll admit I tried to make her jealous on purpose. She called me out and said that she was happy for me. Told Her pretty much to mind her business. Then I started to like her pictures a few days later. I just want to stick it to her even though I don’t care about her or want her back. It’s weird, I can’t explain it.
Anyone else ever felt this way?
You're killing any mystery you have by trying to be petty. You'll get the quick gratification, but you'll also be all too aware when she moves on to a new person via social media. The rough part will be that your attention could actually help bolster her self esteem enough to move forward. Remember that the opposite of love is indifference.
If you REALLY want to stick it to her, then ghost. Stop interacting with her altogether and make her wonder what happened to you. Make her wonder if you're the one who got away. People generally don't chase after the exes who stuck around, they chase after the ones they felt they've lost (granted there are exceptions to this).
It's just pettiness. It doesn't have to be mean-spirited.
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Do you believe you can want someone (not sexually) that you have an emotional attachment to and not want to be with them? For example, I believe OP still wants his ex so a part of him still wants to be with her I think?
Posted by missmissyYes, we as human beings want companionship much more than we'd like to admit. You can definitely miss a person, but not want them around. In fact in my previous response I mentioned how the mind craves normality/homeostasis, especially after a breakup.Posted by ChuckcemYou seem to have great insight, and plus this really intrigues me lol, so I'll pose the same question to you:Posted by tizianiI guess I'm missing the point then. I usually see "sticking it someone" as a means of getting self gratification or boosting one's ego by basically proving a point.Posted by ChuckcemI don't think wanting to stick it to someone means you want to see their self esteem down.Posted by dannmann1992You're not really sticking it to her by liking her pics, that's just the excuse you're giving to keep yourself relevant in her life. Sure it may be confusing to her at first, but really you're just letting her know that you're still thinking about her. She still has your attention even though you said you were done with her. Once she realizes you actions and words aren't aligned, she'll pick up on your ruse. Women are extremely emotionally intelligent (definitely more than men) after all.
Have any of you been petty with an ex just because? You don’t want her back or care about her, but you still want to stick it to her?
My ex broke up with me and then tried to get back with me. Told her no. I’ll admit I tried to make her jealous on purpose. She called me out and said that she was happy for me. Told Her pretty much to mind her business. Then I started to like her pictures a few days later. I just want to stick it to her even though I don’t care about her or want her back. It’s weird, I can’t explain it.
Anyone else ever felt this way?
You're killing any mystery you have by trying to be petty. You'll get the quick gratification, but you'll also be all too aware when she moves on to a new person via social media. The rough part will be that your attention could actually help bolster her self esteem enough to move forward. Remember that the opposite of love is indifference.
If you REALLY want to stick it to her, then ghost. Stop interacting with her altogether and make her wonder what happened to you. Make her wonder if you're the one who got away. People generally don't chase after the exes who stuck around, they chase after the ones they felt they've lost (granted there are exceptions to this).
It's just pettiness. It doesn't have to be mean-spirited.
Do you believe you can want someone (not sexually) that you have an emotional attachment to and not want to be with them? For example, I believe OP still wants his ex so a part of him still wants to be with her I think?click to expand
So it's possible that while your rational mind may know that the breakup was for the best, your emotions may still miss the person. Emotions are not logical and can not be rationalized away. The feelings must be allowed to subside, which is usually best done my creating emotional stimuli in other areas of one's life.
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