So I've been in a relationship for about four months and he recently told me he's battling depression and has suicidal thoughts. I'm not sure how long it's been going on but he says when he's with me it all goes away. He's been in a bit of a rough patch lately with losing his job and his living situation and loss of a family member. I'm not sure how to handle that because I'm a very positive person and I've never had a depression issue. I told him he needs to talk to someone but I'm not sure if he's going to take my advice but I'm not sure if I'm capable of dealing with those kind of issues with a significant other especially after only four months...
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Aug 01, 2018Comments: 84 · Posts: 1361 · Topics: 0
What sign, I can boil it down to 2 and also what substances id he on. I would leave that trainwreck unless your desperate. 4 months in is alot better to cut bait than having a child with an unstable person.
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Dec 14, 2016Comments: 7399 · Posts: 18799 · Topics: 84
First and foremost, I commend you for being honest about not knowing if you have the capacity to help him. It is fine to show compassion, and understanding. But as @ACsquarepluto said, don't let his depression be the catalyst to tolerate anything you don't want. It is a little concerning to me, that he is already using verbiage that puts so much responsibility on you as a partner. Saying things like, he is only happy when he is with you, put far too much responsibility on your shoulders. And allows for room to emotionally blackmail you into staying in the relationship, if it ever runs its course. Not saying it would, but it is something to look out for.
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Oct 21, 2015Comments: 11066 · Posts: 36034 · Topics: 110
Him telling you he's feeling suicidal is a cry for help.
Whether you decide to continue the relationship or not is a moot point.
But you SHOULD do everything in your power to help him get professional help.
That way if and when HE DECIDES to end his life you won't spend the rest of yours wondering if you could've done something different.