Boyfriend of 4 months is battling depression and has suicidal thoughts...

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by Amv33333 on Wednesday, February 6, 2019 and has 9 replies.
So I've been in a relationship for about four months and he recently told me he's battling depression and has suicidal thoughts. I'm not sure how long it's been going on but he says when he's with me it all goes away. He's been in a bit of a rough patch lately with losing his job and his living situation and loss of a family member. I'm not sure how to handle that because I'm a very positive person and I've never had a depression issue. I told him he needs to talk to someone but I'm not sure if he's going to take my advice but I'm not sure if I'm capable of dealing with those kind of issues with a significant other especially after only four months...
What sign, I can boil it down to 2 and also what substances id he on. I would leave that trainwreck unless your desperate. 4 months in is alot better to cut bait than having a child with an unstable person.
Posted by LibraSupreme

What sign, I can boil it down to 2 and also what substances id he on. I would leave that trainwreck unless your desperate. 4 months in is alot better to cut bait than having a child with an unstable person.
We're already have children from previous relationships. He's an aquarius
Posted by ScorpioTruth

does he have a plan of how he would carry it out? If he has started planning it in his mind then hes probably pretty serious about it.

Either you or him could call the national suicide prevention hotline. You can also check out their website to learn more about what the process is.

https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org

I don't know about a plan he just told me about the thoughts and depression
Posted by Amv33333

Posted by LibraSupreme

What sign, I can boil it down to 2 and also what substances id he on. I would leave that trainwreck unless your desperate. 4 months in is alot better to cut bait than having a child with an unstable person.
We're already have children from previous relationships. He's an aquarius
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I meant having a child with him. Aquarius was not in my top 2 of suicidal. Good luck but please tread lightly with a flakey partner.
First and foremost, I commend you for being honest about not knowing if you have the capacity to help him. It is fine to show compassion, and understanding. But as @ACsquarepluto said, don't let his depression be the catalyst to tolerate anything you don't want. It is a little concerning to me, that he is already using verbiage that puts so much responsibility on you as a partner. Saying things like, he is only happy when he is with you, put far too much responsibility on your shoulders. And allows for room to emotionally blackmail you into staying in the relationship, if it ever runs its course. Not saying it would, but it is something to look out for.
Him telling you he's feeling suicidal is a cry for help.

Whether you decide to continue the relationship or not is a moot point.

But you SHOULD do everything in your power to help him get professional help.

That way if and when HE DECIDES to end his life you won't spend the rest of yours wondering if you could've done something different.
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Posted by Amv33333

Posted by LibraSupreme

What sign, I can boil it down to 2 and also what substances id he on. I would leave that trainwreck unless your desperate. 4 months in is alot better to cut bait than having a child with an unstable person.
We're already have children from previous relationships. He's an aquarius

I meant having a child with him. Aquarius was not in my top 2 of suicidal. Good luck but please tread lightly with a flakey partner.
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Oh ok... I'm not having any more kids lol... yea he didn't come off like that at all until recently.
Posted by LadyNeptune

Him telling you he's feeling suicidal is a cry for help.

Whether you decide to continue the relationship or not is a moot point.

But you SHOULD do everything in your power to help him get professional help.

That way if and when HE DECIDES to end his life you won't spend the rest of yours wondering if you could've done something different.
I definitely am trying to convince him to get help because anyone that resorts to saying that def is crying for help and I don't want to feel bad for not trying atleast.