Can a guy and a girl just be friends?

I have zero guy friends and never have had any. I make a ton of girlfriend's but with men it just doesn't seem possible. There's alway something. Ladies do you have male friends? And fellas do y'all have female friends?

Well I am jealous of you big time! I can never make girlfriends.... I only have a couple....
Meanwhile I'm inundated with male company due to the nature of the industry I am in... Men are great friends and good people- but it is never the same as a gal pal...
Trust me you aren't missing much. I wish I was you.

Well I do have a few gay male associates. But they aren't flaming....I don't like that quality in a man, I understand your gay and I accept that but your still a man. Even with them I haven't made deeper connections tho

If it's mutual that they don't find each other attractive in anyway then yeah it can work.

Otherwise it won't work plain and simple. If there's even an ounce of attraction somewhere along the line things are going to go terribly wrong.

Posted by wagtail
Well I am jealous of you big time! I can never make girlfriends.... I only have a couple....
Meanwhile I'm inundated with male company due to the nature of the industry I am in... Men are great friends and good people- but it is never the same as a gal pal...
Trust me you aren't missing much. I wish I was you.

Aww I hate to hear that. How old are you? I def understand about having gf's. I had three brothers growing up so my friends have always been like my sisters in a sense. I'm not still close with all I've made along the way, but I have no hate in my heart for them and will always cherish our memories.

This thread was sparked by my current situation. Which is like all the others. I thought I was bOnding with this dude as a friend and he comes out of nowhere trying to push up.

Posted by aquasnoz
If it's mutual that they don't find each other attractive in anyway then yeah it can work.

Otherwise it won't work plain and simple. If there's even an ounce of attraction somewhere along the line things are going to go terribly wrong.

that's unfortunate

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by wagtail
Well I am jealous of you big time! I can never make girlfriends.... I only have a couple....
Meanwhile I'm inundated with male company due to the nature of the industry I am in... Men are great friends and good people- but it is never the same as a gal pal...
Trust me you aren't missing much. I wish I was you.

Aww I hate to hear that. How old are you? I def understand about having gf's. I had three brothers growing up so my friends have always been like my sisters in a sense. I'm not still close with all I've made along the way, but I have no hate in my heart for them and will always cherish our memories.

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It's okay, not that big a deal really... 🙂
I'm 29, overall I find it hard to connect with women in general.

I appreciate men too, don't get me wrong... It's just when it's always the only social option you get over it.
Men in my opinion can be easier to hang with... Play pool, no fuss, drink, no fuss, watch tv, no fuss...
But I miss the deep and meaningful conversations that women fall into so easily...their ability to pull shiz together multi tasking style , analyse relationships while doing a million other things at once.
They smell better and look nicer too lol

It's my own fault though... You only get out what you put in, my girlies are extremely low maintenance and so am I... So it's self imposed lack really *shrug*
I think opposite sex friendships are always possible, it's just getting that balance right (among other things).

Posted by aquasnoz
If it's mutual that they don't find each other attractive in anyway then yeah it can work.

Otherwise it won't work plain and simple. If there's even an ounce of attraction somewhere along the line things are going to go terribly wrong.

Haha, blokes I find repulsive at first always become good mates... I hope they find me equally repulsive lol be a shame to ruin the friendship!

Yeah I think that's another thing too! That bonding process or getting into the deeper things.

When it's on a superficial and just fun basis sure guys and girls can be friends. Like colleagues, classmates etc. You don't get the time to bond with them so there's no sense of attachment in that sense.

I'm not saying it can't work but I just don't see it happening especially when it's happened to me on both sides of the table. The worst was a friend I've had for over 6 years and just because of one instance things are never the same again.

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Posted by aquasnoz
If it's mutual that they don't find each other attractive in anyway then yeah it can work.

Otherwise it won't work plain and simple. If there's even an ounce of attraction somewhere along the line things are going to go terribly wrong.

Haha, blokes I find repulsive at first always become good mates... I hope they find me equally repulsive lol be a shame to ruin the friendship!

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HAHA no way! It's hard to find a girl who just enjoys a beer at the local and playing pool these days 😛

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haha my best guy friends hated me. scorp rising conj pluto. ima wubable taurus tho underneath it all totally oblivious to the hate too.



Yeh, working through the dislike is worthwhile... Nice.

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Posted by bkbella86
This thread was sparked by my current situation. Which is like all the others. I thought I was bOnding with this dude as a friend and he comes out of nowhere trying to push up.

obviously he thought he could bond witchu too! 😉

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Uh huh...but on a another other level

yep...

Posted by Lenore0908
Men cannot be friends with women they are REMOTELY attracted to.
Eventually, they will try to make a move.

I've had a few male friends, and ended up dating two. And of course, then I was reminded why I had friend zoned them in the first place.

I especially cannot stand the guy who tries to worm his way into your life by pretending to be your "friend".
I dated a guy like that, and I remember one day standing in his apartment looking around and wondering how the hell this happened. What's more, is he felt I OWED him a relationship. Because he had been there for me. That's a whole 'nother topic.

Lenore's verdict:
I don't need any male friends. I'm GOOD, thanks.

Lmao...your funny!!

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Posted by bkbella86
I have zero guy friends and never have had any. I make a ton of girlfriend's but with men it just doesn't seem possible. There's alway something. Ladies do you have male friends? And fellas do y'all have female friends?

Well, If you weren't such a meanie pie. 😢

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I've been mean to you? I don't recall.

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Posted by bkbella86
I have zero guy friends and never have had any. I make a ton of girlfriend's but with men it just doesn't seem possible. There's alway something. Ladies do you have male friends? And fellas do y'all have female friends?

Well, If you weren't such a meanie pie. 😢

I've been mean to you? I don't recall.

It wasn't many times if any. I can't put my finger on it. I figure it's because we don't talk to each other much.
Ohhhh yeahhh, I remember now. I tried to get to know you and you gave me the cold shoulder.

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I dont remeber. That doesn't mean that I'm mean, tho. I don't think your mean 🙂

My Cap friend is a male. We've been friends since 10th grade. He was interested at one point, but. some Caps are capable of either putting that interest on the backburner or sitting on it forever. Its not a necessity to be with the person we like or ev en love.

Its been the only male relationship ive been able to have. Taurus has crept back up, but it still does not feel like a friendship. I dont think it ever will. That all or nothing feeling sits in the shadows.

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Posted by wagtail
Well I am jealous of you big time! I can never make girlfriends.... I only have a couple....
Meanwhile I'm inundated with male company due to the nature of the industry I am in... Men are great friends and good people- but it is never the same as a gal pal...
Trust me you aren't missing much. I wish I was you.

I'm in a very similar situation. And I enjoy it.
Whenever I try making a girl friend they're very soon going to disspoint me somehow. And they're very jealous indeed. Also it seems because I'm pretty, no matter what I'd ever say under any circumstance, they'd misunderstand me or can't take any words from me, simply because I'm pretty. Plus they'd really fear me with their man, as if I'd ever, ever give the impression I'd steal him when all I ever do or say is how happy my man makes me. Plus I tend to turn them down though on girls nights out quite often as I don't see the point. How have fun in a bar with all the guys flirting with me and making passes on don't know?. I'm constantly telling them to leave me alone and wave my ring in their face which equates to me as a horrible night out and I tend to miss my man and think what he's up to etc...
I like the industry I'm in dominated by man, they're great fun to be around with (when they're not flirty lol)

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I like your answer and I can relate to a lot of it... I just wish girls had each others backs is all. I could use a good, solid gal pal now and then.
But hey I do. They're just few and far between. 🙂

Yes, it don't have a problem with the opposite sex.

*if

no. every guy friend i have wants to be with me/likes me. so i keep them at a distance.....

no woman/man can be just "friends" without one of them falling or catching feelings for the other. IDC IDC IDC what anyone says.

Posted by cancerboo
no. every guy friend i have wants to be with me/likes me. so i keep them at a distance.....

no woman/man can be just "friends" without one of them falling or catching feelings for the other. IDC IDC IDC what anyone says.

Seems to be the case, Cancerboo