can anyone figure out how he really feels about me?

Posted by tiziani

Posted by candy10
he says I have a lot of making up to do because of the fact that a year ago I didn't give.him what he wanted.

Yeah you're going out with a complete shark.

This is why they write those bubblegum narcissist articles online, because of times like this

click to expand

Posted by truecap
Is this the same guy you used to post about?

Posted by tiziani

Posted by candy10

Posted by tiziani

Posted by candy10
he says I have a lot of making up to do because of the fact that a year ago I didn't give.him what he wanted.

Yeah you're going out with a complete shark.

This is why they write those bubblegum narcissist articles online, because of times like this

so do u think he doesn't care about either of us me or the other girl. The thng is I know for a fact he will call that other girl every week at exactly the same time. whereas when it comes to me he won't even arrange a meeting he will just come when I arrange it if he's free. he won't call and he certainly doesn't messge

From what you've described, he doesn't care about you or your relationship no. People who keep score of the past and use it to punish aren't mature enough to care for others.

This is based off what you've described.

click to expand

Posted by DollyLuxe
Yeah it sounds like he's stringing you along. Hugs and kisses and holding hands does not mean he loves you. Effort and respect does. He doesn't respect your feelings, he knows you're bothered by all of that but he still does them. I suggest you start detaching yourself from him. It'll hurt, but it's better that way rather than waste years not knowing where you stand with him.

Posted by lovinglioness1115
I can understand if you don't see what I'm seeing since you're in this "relationship" thing or whatever.

But there is SO much disrespect coming from him towards you.

"from his end all he ever seemed to do was look at other girls everytime we met up like and then he would look through my phone and talk to all my.friends. He said at the time he was compensating." Compensating? For what? Nothing.

"I even asked him at the time what about this other girl that hes talking to and he simply said he would drop her for me and slowly stop contact with her." First off, if he's talking to other girls, he's not completely devoted to you. Second, whenever someone tells you, "I would drop this person for you and 'slowly' stop contact," never, and I mean NEVER, ever, ever believe them until they've actually done it and kept it that way for a long period of time. "Slowly" stop contact? No, it's either he cuts it off completely or he doesn't. I don't think anyone can "slowly" cut off contact with someone successfully and get to the point of completely following through with it.

"But when I say to him he doesn't tell me how he feels.and how hes emotionless he says I have a lot of making up to do because of the fact that a year ago I didn't give.him what he wanted." You didn't give him what he wanted? Too bad for him. You didn't give him what you wanted because you chose not to. And do not think that he's right in being emotionless with you just because you didn't "give him what he wanted." You don't "give" people what they want. They have to earn it from you. He needs to stop being a child. You don't have any making up to do because you didn't do anything wrong. "To be fair at the time I was in love.with some one else. BUT that other guy had left my life but I was finding it hard to move on." That's the reason you couldn't give this guy what he wanted, and it's a perfectly legitimate reason. He's just whining.

"Also I know for a fact he stil talks to the girl he used to go out with, And that he says the usual things a guy would say to a girl he likes as Iv read his messages.to her before. When I mention that he goes quiet and doesn't say a word." If he's saying these usual things a guy would tell a girl if he liked her to another girl, he doesn't want you. Also, the fact that he shuts his mouth when you mention this to him just goes to say that he really doesn't want you. He's silent because he's guilty. He's playing with you. Don't play his game.

"I dont really make a fuss over it but he tells me dont I see or realise he doesnt put much effort in to seeing me. And then hes like apparently its because of what I was like with him nearly a year ago now. I think isnt it high time he got over that."

Yes, it is high time he got over that. Also, if he's not puttin

Posted by candy10
This is a little bit complicated.
Me and this guy we started off as really good friends for like a couple of years. At the time he was talking to this other girl who he had a brief relationship with for about five months I'd say n then she left the country. and I was in to someone else too. He only spoke to the girl over the phone and messaged her, but they never saw each other.

We started meeting up more often and then he ended up telling me he likes me a lot and that he has . feelings for me. I was surprised because from his end all he ever seemed to do was look at other girls everytime we met up like and then he would look through my phone and talk to all my.friends. He said at the time he was compensating.

To be fair at the time I was in love.with some one else. BUT that other guy had left my life but I was finding it hard to move on. N here was this new guy telling me had feelings but I couldn't let myself be fully engaged or.give.him what he wanted, which was like a proper relationship. I even asked him at the time what about this other girl that hes talking to and he simply said he would drop her for me and slowly stop contact with her. He seemed quite adament at the time he was serious about me and he talked about marriage and kids even, not necessarily in a serious way but hinting he saw me as potentially being his wife.

Forward like a year, now I'm way more in to him than I was before but I have no idea how he feels. As at tht time he would talk about his feelings. But we still meet up as before and he actually treats me like we are dating in the sense that he's physical. As in hugging and kissing.
But when I say to him he doesn't tell me how he feels.and how hes emotionless he says I have a lot of making up to do because of the fact that a year ago I didn't give.him what he wanted.

Also I know for a fact he stil talks to the girl he used to go out with, And that he says the usual things a guy would say to a girl he likes as Iv read his messages.to her before. When I mention that he goes quiet and doesn't say a word.

Long story short it's like he's physically affectionate wit me but he doesn't show it with his words, n when I say anything he says I expect evrythng from him but give.him nothing and at the same time he's still in contact with the girl he used to date and I suspect is being quite expressive with her. But I don't actually know who he likes or who he really.wants.

In terms of meeting up he's fine with that..but it has cut down a lot. Before we used to meet up twice a week, now its every few weeks or he always has a reason why he can't. I dont really make a fuss over it but he tells me dont I see or realise he doesnt put much effort in to seeing me. And then hes like apparently its because of what I was like with him nearly a year ago now. I t