condoms
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by coldwater on Monday, May 27, 2013 and has 15 replies.
At what point in a relationship do u think its ok to not use condoms?
When you both have been tested and been cleared when there is clear plan implemented no one wants baby daddy or baby mama.
Funny that everybody says "after stds have been tested", etc...but in reality, how many people actually do that? Of course its what should be done, the right thing to do, but in reality very few people do that. Many worry & stress after the fact. Many "it just happened", heat of the moment kind of thing. I'm not gonna lie, I've never 1st checked with the ones I've gone raw with & I consider myself lucky to not be with "sick" people. Whew
Posted by coldwater
At what point in a relationship do u think its ok to not use condoms?
When you want to have children.
Posted by WaterCup
Funny that everybody says "after stds have been tested", etc...but in reality, how many people actually do that? Of course its what should be done, the right thing to do, but in reality very few people do that. Many worry & stress after the fact. Many "it just happened", heat of the moment kind of thing. I'm not gonna lie, I've never 1st checked with the ones I've gone raw with & I consider myself lucky to not be with "sick" people. Whew
I have done that. Once you meet that person that you want to be in a relationship with and vice versa that's an easy topic to go into. If you don't want to use condoms, lets get checked out!
True, JenLove. I think it has to do with trust & being comfortable with the person due to the amount of time spent with them & caution just flies out the window. Risky, but its reality.
Posted by aquapiscescuspPosted by WaterCup
Funny that everybody says "after stds have been tested", etc...but in reality, how many people actually do that? Of course its what should be done, the right thing to do, but in reality very few people do that. Many worry & stress after the fact. Many "it just happened", heat of the moment kind of thing. I'm not gonna lie, I've never 1st checked with the ones I've gone raw with & I consider myself lucky to not be with "sick" people. Whew
I have done that. Once you meet that person that you want to be in a relationship with and vice versa that's an easy topic to go into. If you don't want to use condoms, lets get checked out!click to expand
impressive
You've done that with all the dudes you've been with?I have only had serious relationships... I don't like to sleep around
Posted by aquapiscescusp
I have only had serious relationships... I don't like to sleep around
i dont sleep around either & the 2 guys i was serious with (my ex-husband & another ex), we never tested before it happened.
Posted by WaterCupPosted by aquapiscescusp
I have only had serious relationships... I don't like to sleep around
i dont sleep around either & the 2 guys i was serious with (my ex-husband & another ex), we never tested before it happened.click to expand
Not the earlier relationships but as I got older, for sure.... not that I have had many relationships but you know what I mean. I am one of these people that get into relationships for long periods of time.
Posted by aquapiscescuspPosted by WaterCupPosted by aquapiscescusp
I have only had serious relationships... I don't like to sleep around
i dont sleep around either & the 2 guys i was serious with (my ex-husband & another ex), we never tested before it happened.
Not the earlier relationships but as I got older, for sure.... not that I have had many relationships but you know what I mean. I am one of these people that get into relationships for long periods of time.click to expand
i think we're similar when it comes to dating. I've only had one very short relationship, almost 3mnths lol & I never went raw with him. And yeah, I'm much wiser now too. Dont think I'll ever go raw with anyone ever again thou lol, I suck at other contraceptives..I'm forgetful.
Two people can get tested, but that only tells you what you got going on right now ... it is no guarantee that your lover isn't going to be secretly tapping into someone else. Are people really so blinded to reality when in infatuation that they would actually believe that a new person can be trusted with what should be the most important part of you ... seriously ... wtf?
It takes a long time to know a person, for real. Two dates is like two days on a new job ... do you trust those people with your vagina?
Yet, if (lust/infatuation) feelings are involved then suddenly a person you've known two days is trustworthy enough to have authority over the health of your vagina?
People in a relationship in which they think is in for the long haul, still involves humans for this union ... and certainly they can't be trusted to keep their libido's in check - people fucking mindlessly is the reason we are in this horrific std-infested society in the first place ....
Do you fuckers even realize that there are currently around 20 million people in the US who have been exposed to an incurable std?
And you're still fucking in the raw? You're still asking these questions - when are you allowed to take your guard down and let chance decide if you are going to have HPV for the rest of your life, or not?
The answer is never, except when procreating and that should be a controlled event. To even ask this question, which allows the idea to formulate in the brain permission to do it, because it is twisted by the animal in you, that it is now viewed as a reward !! .... if that doesn't prove how ignorant mankind is, then I don't know what does.
It takes a long time to know a person, for real. Two dates is like two days on a new job ... do you trust those people with your vagina?
Yet, if (lust/infatuation) feelings are involved then suddenly a person you've known two days is trustworthy enough to have authority over the health of your vagina?
People in a relationship in which they think is in for the long haul, still involves humans for this union ... and certainly they can't be trusted to keep their libido's in check - people fucking mindlessly is the reason we are in this horrific std-infested society in the first place ....
Do you fuckers even realize that there are currently around 20 million people in the US who have been exposed to an incurable std?
And you're still fucking in the raw? You're still asking these questions - when are you allowed to take your guard down and let chance decide if you are going to have HPV for the rest of your life, or not?
The answer is never, except when procreating and that should be a controlled event. To even ask this question, which allows the idea to formulate in the brain permission to do it, because it is twisted by the animal in you, that it is now viewed as a reward !! .... if that doesn't prove how ignorant mankind is, then I don't know what does.
Posted by P-Angel
Two people can get tested, but that only tells you what you got going on right now ... it is no guarantee that your lover isn't going to be secretly tapping into someone else. Are people really so blinded to reality when in infatuation that they would actually believe that a new person can be trusted with what should be the most important part of you ... seriously ... wtf?
It takes a long time to know a person, for real. Two dates is like two days on a new job ... do you trust those people with your vagina?
Yet, if (lust/infatuation) feelings are involved then suddenly a person you've known two days is trustworthy enough to have authority over the health of your vagina?
People in a relationship in which they think is in for the long haul, still involves humans for this union ... and certainly they can't be trusted to keep their libido's in check - people fucking mindlessly is the reason we are in this horrific std-infested society in the first place ....
Do you fuckers even realize that there are currently around 20 million people in the US who have been exposed to an incurable std?
And you're still fucking in the raw? You're still asking these questions - when are you allowed to take your guard down and let chance decide if you are going to have HPV for the rest of your life, or not?
The answer is never, except when procreating and that should be a controlled event. To even ask this question, which allows the idea to formulate in the brain permission to do it, because it is twisted by the animal in you, that it is now viewed as a reward !! .... if that doesn't prove how ignorant mankind is, then I don't know what does.
do you use condoms with your husband?
PM, I'm the same way too, your 1st part of the post..I judge character. Not a very safe way to go about things thou, but I've done it.
Posted by tiziani
Hence, most if not all people actually go on gut feeling and judging character ...
Indeed.
And then when a person looks in here to see that 99% of the time, the initial judgement call on a new guy is wrong, and he turned out to be of less than trusting character ........ so why would a woman trust the health of her vagina on how she feels, when her feelings change day by day.
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