Confused .... !!

So im a Cancer female (19) dating an Aquarius man (26). We've been together for almost 3months now and i must say it been a rough 3months. Ive read alot about Aqua men but yet still they really confuse me. Okay well basically for us it was love at sight, we just bumped into each other, i greeted and walked away and well he followed me and begged for my number.. Blah blah blah... I need good advice, see his a real charmer and is super sweet but does the whole disappearing act alot which i hate. We've only been out twice and then the rest of the times his always with his friends. The last time we went out was a disaster because he saw me talking to some guy, next thing i turn his hitting on some girl and taking her numn
ber, he usually just comes and checks on me during the week for a few minutes and we just spend a one on one time simply talking. We've only had sex 3 times as well lol... He is very affectionate in private and public, he introduces me each time to his friends and people as his girlfriend, and can get very jealous. This one time when we were together and i received the call he turned the music down and got all angered and told me to answer the call and tell my 'boyfriends' im with him my REAL boyfriend lol. However what gets to me is he never answers his calls infront of me, instead he would rather step outside and answer them... AM I BEING PLAYED?.... His told me "I love You" three times and this one time even told me he wants to be with me forever (well he was drunk that day so i cant really believe it much)..Just lst week he was questioning me why do i love him so much? that really confused me. What confuses me most about all this is his phone screensaver. Well its a picture of him nd some girl, they not holding each other or anything, his simply leaning over close to her shoulder and yeah thats it..My friends tell me not to worry probaly its a sister but i dont believe that crap!and i find it hard to question him about it because each time i question him about something he just changes the topic.. I feel like im just being played and im to blind to see it. Ive read so much on aqua men but somethings he does are just different from what they say about them...What do you guys think, should i just move on or hold on?.....

So im a Cancer female (19) dating an Aquarius man (26). We've been together for almost 3months now and i must say it been a rough 3months. Ive read alot about Aqua men but yet still they really confuse me. Okay well basically for us it was love at sight, we just bumped into each other, i greeted and walked away and well he followed me and begged for my number.. Blah blah blah... I need good advice, see his a real charmer and is super sweet but does the whole disappearing act alot which i hate. We've only been out twice and then the rest of the times his always with his friends. The last time we went out was a disaster because he saw me talking to some guy, next thing i turn his hitting on some girl and taking her numn
ber, he usually just comes and checks on me during the week for a few minutes and we just spend a one on one time simply talking. We've only had sex 3 times as well lol... He is very affectionate in private and public, he introduces me each time to his friends and people as his girlfriend, and can get very jealous. This one time when we were together and i received the call he turned the music down and got all angered and told me to answer the call and tell my 'boyfriends' im with him my REAL boyfriend lol. However what gets to me is he never answers his calls infront of me, instead he would rather step outside and answer them... AM I BEING PLAYED?.... His told me "I love You" three times and this one time even told me he wants to be with me forever (well he was drunk that day so i cant really believe it much)..Just lst week he was questioning me why do i love him so much? that really confused me. What confuses me most about all this is his phone screensaver. Well its a picture of him nd some girl, they not holding each other or anything, his simply leaning over close to her shoulder and yeah thats it..My friends tell me not to worry probaly its a sister but i dont believe that crap!and i find it hard to question him about it because each time i question him about something he just changes the topic.. I feel like im just being played and im to blind to see it. Ive read so much on aqua men but somethings he does are just different from what they say about them...What do you guys think, should i just move on or hold on?.....

You use the word confused a lot ..... then proceed to explain that you're desperate.


The last time I looked, confused and desperate had two different meanings.


Sounds to me like you are playing him, due to your desperate insecurities. The evidence of this is this thread. You've only been out 2 times, and the second time being a disaster .. yet, you fuck him, obviously in hopes of manipulating him into wanting you.


That makes you a player, and quite possibly a slut.

Posted by Mandy496

..... just being played and im to blind to see it.

what the fuck is that?

So, on top of you being a total douchebag, you "play" stupid?

From what you've written, I would just close the door and not look back. He has a picture as his phone's wallpaper/lockscreen of HIM + A NUDE CHICK. Plus, 3 months and he has only taken you out 2 times? One of those times he went out of his way to get the number of ANOTHER GIRL. He never lets you hear his calls! He only seems you for minutes at a time to just talk to you like a friend. He assumed you have, like he has, other people around, per the "boyfriends" line. It wasn't really a jealous thing more of "You're with me (RIGHT NOW)".

I'm sorry sweetie but he isn't your boyfriend. He is just using that term to keep you around. You're a friend with benefits for him. He is someone who wants "casual relationships". An Aqua in love would be doing everything with you all the time and only needing space for a day or so.

Easiest way to end things with an Aqua is to just absent yourself. No need to say anything. Just stop talking to him, don't see him, nada.

Oh, P-Angel, she's young. A baby, really.

Mandy, do his actions indicate he loves you? Does he treat you like someone he loves and cares about?

Honey what the fuck are you doing with this guy? He's a loser and only doing this because he knows he can. You're only 19 and don't know any better.

This isn't a relationship. It's pure fuckery. Move along.

Posted by Gobshite
P-Angel, you sexy thing! Come over here and sit on my lap.

wtf dude. What's wrong with you?

I saw this on Facebook and I thought of this thread.

...as well as many others where women come here, posting ridiculous stories about some asshat they're dating/in a relationship with and are in absolute denial that it's total shit.