Confused, never knowing where I stand?
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by zolomc on Tuesday, March 5, 2013 and has 4 replies.
So I started 'seeing' my manager at work. We kept it secret and professional. We never let on at all that anything was going on.
We went on a few dates, we would text most days, I will go round his on his days off, everything was going great. (and the be clear we never had a sexual relationship, I wasn't ready)
It was Christmas and as we work in the nightclub business we were super busy and we saw each other less and less! I obviously made the mistake of asking where this was going too early, as he backed off. I gave him space and we would talk occasionally.
Now in the New Year, he has a night off and hits the town with the lads. The next day my best girlfriend at work rings me to tell me he went home with a girl that night. It upset me a lot.
Two weeks later we have a training session at work, afterwards I go to the gym, he goes to the pub for drinks with others from work. That night I get calls and voicemail's from him, not making a lot of sense he wants to know why I didn't come out. I ignore them.
The next day, I hear that he went home with another woman. This time I'm even more hurt and confused.
A few weeks pass and he has another night off. On the night out he is attacked and mugged! In hospital for 5 days with blood on the brain!!!!
The day after he is realised I get a Facebook message, asking for my number again. I'm reluctant to give it to him but desperate to know if he is ok.
Since then he has texted everyday!! We arranged to meet up but unfortunately plans fell through. On his first night out since the attack (a month later) I get 8 calls, texts and fb messages about wanting to see me after work!! He was determined to stay up and wait for me to finish, but I was out really late and he obviously fell asleep ha.
Am I wasting my time? Do you think the attack has made him think differently about me?
We went on a few dates, we would text most days, I will go round his on his days off, everything was going great. (and the be clear we never had a sexual relationship, I wasn't ready)
It was Christmas and as we work in the nightclub business we were super busy and we saw each other less and less! I obviously made the mistake of asking where this was going too early, as he backed off. I gave him space and we would talk occasionally.
Now in the New Year, he has a night off and hits the town with the lads. The next day my best girlfriend at work rings me to tell me he went home with a girl that night. It upset me a lot.
Two weeks later we have a training session at work, afterwards I go to the gym, he goes to the pub for drinks with others from work. That night I get calls and voicemail's from him, not making a lot of sense he wants to know why I didn't come out. I ignore them.
The next day, I hear that he went home with another woman. This time I'm even more hurt and confused.
A few weeks pass and he has another night off. On the night out he is attacked and mugged! In hospital for 5 days with blood on the brain!!!!
The day after he is realised I get a Facebook message, asking for my number again. I'm reluctant to give it to him but desperate to know if he is ok.
Since then he has texted everyday!! We arranged to meet up but unfortunately plans fell through. On his first night out since the attack (a month later) I get 8 calls, texts and fb messages about wanting to see me after work!! He was determined to stay up and wait for me to finish, but I was out really late and he obviously fell asleep ha.
Am I wasting my time? Do you think the attack has made him think differently about me?
Yeah he rang 8 times, text constantly wanting me to come back to his and left a sweet message on facebook about being 'gutted he didn't get a chance to speak to me properly'.
I assumed he was drunk and looking for one thing, most men I've met usually are.
I've given him my number and we speak most days
He knows how I feel about him, as we both discussed it around Christmas. He said he 'really likes me but doesn't want a relationship' so that's why I was even more confused about him wanting my number again, and being so persistent in seeing me.
I am definitely making sure I'm not as available as I was in the beginning. Like you said, even if I am bored watching tv at home alone, he can't have me at a click of a finger.
Do you think that the attack has made him see me differently?
I assumed he was drunk and looking for one thing, most men I've met usually are.
I've given him my number and we speak most days
He knows how I feel about him, as we both discussed it around Christmas. He said he 'really likes me but doesn't want a relationship' so that's why I was even more confused about him wanting my number again, and being so persistent in seeing me.I am definitely making sure I'm not as available as I was in the beginning. Like you said, even if I am bored watching tv at home alone, he can't have me at a click of a finger.
Do you think that the attack has made him see me differently?
Posted by zolomc
Am I wasting my time?
Do you think the attack has made him think differently about me?
Yes
No
However, you obviously don't care that you are wasting your time ... because here you are describing your eagerness to accepting scraps from him.
And obviously, he knows you are that low .. because if you had any integrity at all, he wouldn't even exist to you. But, he can do those things, decide to notice you long enough to throw a bone, and you jump for the opportunity.
One day, you might grow some pride .... my view of you would be a lot different then. But so long as you cannot use sound judgement, expect others to judge you for being stupid
And obviously, he knows you are that low .. because if you had any integrity at all, he wouldn't even exist to you. But, he can do those things, decide to notice you long enough to throw a bone, and you jump for the opportunity.
One day, you might grow some pride .... my view of you would be a lot different then. But so long as you cannot use sound judgement, expect others to judge you for being stupid
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