krysrenee7
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Could you date your friend's ex...
Never...no puff, puff, give, going on over here.
No way. I'll pass.
Nope. Boundary issue at work.
no, nadda, no way, no how....
For one, that would ruin a good friendship (in most instances) - like VB said, boundary issues.
Second, they're the ex for a reason and I sure don't want to "take on" those reasons!!!
For one, that would ruin a good friendship (in most instances) - like VB said, boundary issues.
Second, they're the ex for a reason and I sure don't want to "take on" those reasons!!!
^^^ You would 😛
I would not...thinking of my friends having sex would them would totally ruin the moment for me. I know a few guys who a lot of my close friends have taken turns fucking... idk how they can do it. Disgusting!
hell, some people steal their friend's (not ex yet) ... I'm cool with stealing/cheating from a stranger, but not a friend's girl. I've never been in this exact situation, but I do have one friend w/ really hot wife. I would never dream of flirting w/ her, but if they did break up ... maybe 😛
no! never!
I slept with, and attempted to date, my friend's ex (let the Gemini comments begin). I was getting very close to him before they met, and was head-over heels for him before, during, and after they dated. She was furious for about 2 hours after she found out, and then let it go. We're still great friends, thankfully, and we think he's a weirdo.
Posted by THEKingofLibra
It would be disgusting to date a chick that my friend dated. To me that chick is covered in jizz and its pretty much nasty to even talk to her.
LMAO!!! Covered in jizz is not a bad thing. It can be kinda sexy! lol
Posted by LoveBucket
I wouldn't want my friend's ex -- shucks, I don't even want my own ex's!! 🙂
Ha!! Me neither!
I think it depends on timing. If my friend dated him 2 years ago, that's still fairly recent, thus I'd consider him to be off limits. BUT, if she dated him in the 7th grade, I wouldn't even consider that to "count."
Plus, it also depends on the severity of the relationship my friend would've had with the guy. Alot of women love to mark their territories on guys that they weren't technically with...the guys that they really just had a crush on (especially if it was 1-sided), liked for 2 weeks, or weren't ever in an official relationship with...I don't understand why women label these men as their "ex" when in reality, there was never a relationship between them.
My point being, if there was an actual/official relationship OR any sexual relations b/w the two of them, I'd consider the guy off limits. BUT, if it's just some guy that my friend liked once but yet never had (for whatever reason), I may still hesitate, BUT I wouldn't completely block out the possibility of me talking to him or trying to start something with him.
1 thing I'd NEVER do is try to date a guy who severely hurt/betrayed my friend...and in this case, it wouldn't matter whether they were toegether in the 6th grade when this happend or as recent as last year. As with any guy, I have a general rule of thumb to do my best to stay AWAY from guys that have bad reps or that have been known to hurt the women they've dated. If my friend is still hurting (even 20 yrs later) from the relationship, I'd stay away 1. B/c I wouldn't want to end up in her shoes (hurt) & 2. I'd feel horrible. My conscious wouldn't allow me to try to find ultimate happiness from someone that has already been responsible for ultimate sadness with a friend or with someone I love.
Plus, it also depends on the severity of the relationship my friend would've had with the guy. Alot of women love to mark their territories on guys that they weren't technically with...the guys that they really just had a crush on (especially if it was 1-sided), liked for 2 weeks, or weren't ever in an official relationship with...I don't understand why women label these men as their "ex" when in reality, there was never a relationship between them.
My point being, if there was an actual/official relationship OR any sexual relations b/w the two of them, I'd consider the guy off limits. BUT, if it's just some guy that my friend liked once but yet never had (for whatever reason), I may still hesitate, BUT I wouldn't completely block out the possibility of me talking to him or trying to start something with him.
1 thing I'd NEVER do is try to date a guy who severely hurt/betrayed my friend...and in this case, it wouldn't matter whether they were toegether in the 6th grade when this happend or as recent as last year. As with any guy, I have a general rule of thumb to do my best to stay AWAY from guys that have bad reps or that have been known to hurt the women they've dated. If my friend is still hurting (even 20 yrs later) from the relationship, I'd stay away 1. B/c I wouldn't want to end up in her shoes (hurt) & 2. I'd feel horrible. My conscious wouldn't allow me to try to find ultimate happiness from someone that has already been responsible for ultimate sadness with a friend or with someone I love.
I probably wouldn't even date a guy who used to date someone whose NOT even my friend anymore! There have been a few times when I've fallen out with a friend & out of nowhere her ex approaches me & tries to date me.
I always say NO though even if me & the chick aren't even friends anymore. 1. I'd question his intentions, considering he could've picked all the other 9 million girls to "holla at" other than me & I'd wonder if he was only doing so to spite her AND 2. I'd never want anyone (especially my ex friend) to think that I was only willing to talk to him to spite my ex friendship.
I always say NO though even if me & the chick aren't even friends anymore. 1. I'd question his intentions, considering he could've picked all the other 9 million girls to "holla at" other than me & I'd wonder if he was only doing so to spite her AND 2. I'd never want anyone (especially my ex friend) to think that I was only willing to talk to him to spite my ex friendship.
Posted by everevolvingepithet
It's not about being seductive, it's more about "she's easy/guaranteed lay/pass-around girl" 🙂
Sloppy 2nds no thanks, and it makes it weird if you all meet up socially I would think. In doing this you open yourself up for a "How did I taste" comments and burns all night.It's just bad form and a boundary issue in your friendship.
I think some guys hit on their ex girlfriend's friends b/c either 1. They are doing so to spite their ex/cause problems 2. They always had an attraction to you, in which they feel they're actually being "respectful" by waiting until they're officially broken up with your friend before trying to date you or 3. One or two! lol
It's hard enough as it is to always wonder why someone wants to date you...that fear of wondering what someone's intentions are can be draining if you don't even know the person approaching you. It's even worse when the person approaching you is someone that used to date your friend...it's alot harder to get past that "Why are you REALLY trying to date me?" question that you play over & over again in your head.
Me having to question that kind of person's intentions/motives continually in itself & alone is good enough reason for me to never proceed with talking to my friend's ex. All the other things that could possibly go/be wrong with that picture just further seal the deal
It's hard enough as it is to always wonder why someone wants to date you...that fear of wondering what someone's intentions are can be draining if you don't even know the person approaching you. It's even worse when the person approaching you is someone that used to date your friend...it's alot harder to get past that "Why are you REALLY trying to date me?" question that you play over & over again in your head.
Me having to question that kind of person's intentions/motives continually in itself & alone is good enough reason for me to never proceed with talking to my friend's ex. All the other things that could possibly go/be wrong with that picture just further seal the deal
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