Dating online.

Honestly how do you guys feel about it, Do you guys have success stories from it.
Do you any cool maybe free dating sites.

I have no problem with it. I wouldn't necessarily say I've had complete success with it, but I haven't had any horror stories either. I've met a few great guys online, but things didn't work out after a few months; the same has happened with me offline. I've also met a lot of great friends online as well. The way I treat online dating is I do not approach guys (they usually approach me) with the intention of turning anything into a serious relationship. In other words, I don't go on sites specifically to get a boyfriend. In the very beginning, I joined a site simply because I was bored and it had fun quizzes. But I like online dating as much as I enjoy offline dating; with online dating, I'm able to connect a little more with the person on a mental level because I have a little more time to scope the person out. But I generally try to meet said person within a couple of weeks to a month so it wouldn't be drawn out (unless I just wasn't into the person). One site I've always frequently used was okcupid.com. It's free, a good time-waster, and I've met some nice people on there.

Sorry for all the responses. The site spazzed out on me.

Its a crap shoot. I had nothing but horror stories, but that's just me. You may be different. I've just come to the conclusion that God wants to give me a woman the old fashion way.


God Bless and good luck.


Just be careful, there are alotta nuts online, male and female.

Its a crap shoot. I had nothing but horror stories, but that's just me. You may be different. I've just come to the conclusion that God wants to give me a woman the old fashion way.


God Bless and good luck.


*Just be careful. There are alotta nuts online, male and female.*

Lol at Hairitic!!!

I'm out too, have tried a few times and only met nutters... well I didnt even get to meet them before I worked it out! Even people I've known from the past or guys that I know that try it on FB...same deal...strange!

Everyone should try there own thing out though, just my 2 cents worth.

I think it takes someone committed to the situation for it to work. You would have to be strong to maintain such a thing minus touching, hand holding, etc. Especially if you're a physical person. And who isn't really. However, I think it would work out. If you met someone online that reverberates with you on many levels. That your goals, expectations and life patterns mesh well. Someone you chat well with, laugh with and can visualize yourself being with.
Distance is a non-issue with me. It's a bridge that can be gapped. If something is put into motion and there is will, anything is possible. Wouldn't it be a true suck-fest if you let a state, or several, or hell, even an ocean for that matter get in the way of being with someone you cared about? I think it would be. I chalk that one up to the Universe having a laugh at my expense.
If you met someone and it was fleeting, then it wasn't meant. And it happens. As I'm sure does meeting someone physically and things don't vibe right, for whatever reason. But if you stand firm and true and believe in someone that's where it's at. Whether it's an IM window or not.

I have almost 2 completely opposite views of online dating.
On 1 hand...
I think it takes the originality out of dating. It's quite unnatural & quite weird to pick a mate like you would items out of a catalogue, picking people through means of a checklist (picking people according to their race, size, & even in some cases by their zodiac sign). After all, people had NO problems dating and/or finding great companions back in the good ole days when computers and/or dating sites were unheard of. Sometimes I see online sites as the "easy way out," meaning, so many people would rather exploit themselves by way of a computer screen b/c they're too afraid or fear intimacy that's up close & personal.

And of course, I always take in consideration the amount of DECIET found online, in ANY industry. Everybody knows that scams, terroism & criminal mindsets flourish the most by way of internet. Just knowing that most of the people who have bad intentions use the internet as a means to get away with things, while also living in a society where most people hide their true colors (the internet making it even EASIER to do so), it is kind of scary when thinking of online dating. I'm not saying that anyone who dates online has bad intentions BUT safety & the lack of honesty/sincereness IS something we should all take into consideration whether we want to or not.

Those online dating profiles are designed to showcase only a person's GOOD traits. And hey, so is physical 'face to face' dating. BUT, although we're all encouraged to be more optimistic people who look for the good in others, people forget that knowing the negatives/flaws is JUST as important. It's not about being judgmental, shallow or pessimistic. It's about knowing to the FULL extent what you're getting yourself into. And I'm sorry but there are just certain things a person can hide EASIER behind a computer screen than they can persay had I met that person face to face & had the ability to observe their body language & experience face-to-face communication

HOWEVER
2. There are some people who are not looking for serious relationships or anything strings-attached online & if the right safety measures are used, I don't see the problem with browsing for "friends," online. After all, some people don't necessarily carry the same standards for friendships the way they'd look for certain criteria persay they were looking for love.

Some people in certain careers, like Doctors, for example might find themselves extremely busy & might not have as much time to date around and/or to "get out" like someone in a less busier career would. And in those cases, it's understandable to go browsing for a nice & much needed conversation with someone very compatible with you.

Of course there's always been the stigma that people only date online b/c something is wrong with them. People assume that if a person dates online, there must be some REASON for why they couldn't find anybody or date around without the internet being involved. And hey, in some cases, people with this kind of mindset are exactly right. It's bad enough that enough people walk around w/o self-esteem or expecting others to complete or "validate" them & hey, I don't blaim those kinds of people for going straight to the internet to get whatever fulfillment they desire.

And hey, I'll be the 1st one to stay that some of the problems associated with online dating are similar/the same problemms those who DONT date online have

Thanks for the response people.
Keep it going.

@Lauren..I completely agree. The problem though is that not everybody uses the right safety precautions when using the internet for dating purposes. And hey, even those who do use safety precautions still run the similar risks of being "fooled" or "scammed." And sure, I agree that people get fooled & scammed the same way persay had they met that same person face to face for the 1st time instead of primarily "meeting" them by way of an internet dating site.

Me personally, I have tried internet dating a long time ago. The reason I chose to give it up wasn't b/c I had a shXt load of bad experiences. No, it was moreso that I'd rather get to know someone by means of being able to see them physically. I'd rather meet someone primarily up front & face to face & be able to determine that they are "loyal, a good person and/or look great, for ex, b/c I saw it for myself vs. only believing so b/c of what some/their online profile told me. It's not to say that people who chose to date online won't have good experiences or don't have the ability to fully get to know someone just b/c they met them online, BUT as for me, I just chose to do things the original way. Like I said, the dating world was just fine before the 1st internet dating website was even thought of.

I agree that internet dating does expand options, & especially for those who don't mind long distance relationships. But as for me, I'm just old-school. It's not that I knock those who use internet dating, no but moreso that I just made the personal choice not to date by means of the internet

I have two dates this weekend with guys I met online. First time I tried out online dating, or rather just meeting people and not calling it dating (I was in a dark world and make bad choices). Making rules is a must! I havve rules on age and area because I seriously don't need any long distance or old creeps. And always meet in public duh lol that ones an obviouse. So far I'm on the okay side about online dating, good and bad stories from me. Just have fun while following the rules you make for yourself.

Well 1..I think every person going into online dating should 1st & foremost know what they are looking for. A person must know themselves 1st in order to properly know where to look AND handle/manage it when they finally find it. So many people decide to try online dating or dating PERIOD for all the wrong reasons & not only do some of those people end up forgetting about setting some "rules" BUT they also tend to have the most bad experiences.

1. Back then I made it a rule to NEVER even attempt to contact OR respond to someone who did NOT have a profile picture up. Nowadays, it's almost impossible to assume that the 1 thing someone wouldn't have is atleast 1 picture of themselves. Without their picture, it gives off the signal that they have something to hide

2. If after connecting with someone online who is single, I expect for things to turn into verbal communication over the phone IF not in person at a certain point. I got very weary of the people who tried to establish a connection with me strictly through text message. You know, those types that can text you but when it's time to call you, they freeze up & have this big excuse. To me that signals that they're either "taken" already or that something is wrong. I can't stand it when people try to "text message" their way into a relationship or atleast something serious.

3. I didn't mind video chatting (skype) or having digital conversations, BUT 1 thing I've NEVER & will never do is send that person personal pictures of me to their phone. I put up enough pictures on my profile alone that they should know perfectly well what I look like. If a person doesn't even know your last name yet, they shouldn't be asking for personal or intimate pictures of you. If you're looking for something serious, conversations should not be sexual. That's just a rule I follow

4. And of course there are many more. Each person has their own set of guidelines, while some others do too, but just decide not to follow them once they're in the heat of the moment with another person.

Posted by Hairitic
I mistake DXP for a dating site

it is!
come one dxp-historians, share some get-togethers from dxp.

As for online dating, everyone lives online these days so dating online's natural progression.
However, must meet in person asap! make sure all characters are real and stuff like that. Anyone can assume a charater online but not easily sustainable in real life.

honestly, I still don't think people are fully comfortable with online dating and meeting people fully.

I met someone online through a dating site and we've been seeing each other for about 7 months now. We talked online for about 2 weeks before meeting. We went on a date, to dinner and a movie. Then I dropped him off at his place, but he gave a goodnight kiss before he left. It was really nice. We've been a couple ever since and things are going really well. It was really good in the beginning, then the issues came, but we sorted them and got past it, actually the first time that's ever happened to me. Things are going really well with us, so yes there is hope 🙂 I talked to a few other people before him, but he was the only one I met from the site. I think it helped, taking it slow and just talking online for a while before meeting. 🙂