did guys usually blame on girls for break up?

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by chanalice75 on Friday, February 15, 2013 and has 9 replies.
My bf for two and a half years break up with me for no reason. We will OK with everything and one day I found emails tht he sent with his coworker which are extremely flirty. I found tht he make lunch boxes for her and wait her at school and call her a sweet heart and such.so I ask him and he told me to break up. He said lets break up.and hang up and avoiding me.I try to say sorry and everything but he didn't care.he said the problem is him. And not me. I let it slide. But when our friend asked him whether he got new gf,he keep telling them that its my fault and I nagged him alot and thts y. I had sacrifice alot for him and i always try to be as good as i can on him.when i am with him i dun cheat or even talk wit guy friend coz he dun like it. Why is he put the blame on me even its obvious tht he is cheating.here is the link tht show a little wht I have done for him. http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/relationships/when-cancer-man-say-its-over-is-it-really-over-3669979.asp#3670076
 Are every guys like that? Did guy usually blame on gals for break up? I really wanted to know because I am really scared to even date again.PLEASE PLEASE read the link also and help me. Many Thanks.
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Correction.
*We were ok with everything and...
*When our friends ask whether he break up with me because he got a new one, he said he had to break up because I nagged him a lot.
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I guess he is a real bad guy.thz God tht I know it earlier.
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He has no accountability for his actions so therefore he tries to create some.
He creates some by displacing blame and redirecting it to you. ( making the breakup your fault, so he feels justified.)
You need to move on, hopefully find a more mature and relationsip ready partner.
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Pack you bags and go back to the country where you have friends and family that can be there to support you. Don't waste another minute on this person, he's not going to step up or be the person you want him to be. It really is over, stop making excuses for him and his behaviour and STOP saying sorry. You haven't done anything to be sorry for!!
Don't except the excuse of "your nagging" made him cheat! He quite simply is a cheater and a control freak, you really don't need that type of person in your life.
You also sound very young and naive and need to grow in order for you to mature and realise the value of you. Men really aren't superior, but I feel that you probably have learnt this through your family. What nationality are you and what are your beliefs on male female roles in general?
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Actually its not about the belief and how the roles goes.I dun think man are superior.It just that I love him so much, much more then anything that I wanted to do everything I can for him.I guess my love blind me that I am making mistakeI didn't even think about myself and making mistake over and over again.it is also because he is my first love.
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Well then you have given too much power to someone that doesn't respect you and you are the one that has moved yourself in order to be with him...
You've changed you to be with him...that's not love, that's control. If a man isn't happy with his gf, she can't change herself to make him happy because eventually there'll be something else that he isn't happy with...as you have learnt, now he is looking at other woman to fulfil his need. I don't think this guy will find many woman to make him happy, he'll want to change them all.
Do you want that for yourself? If you think you do because you love him soooo much then you need to start loving yourself a whole lot more.
It won't be easy to pick up the pieces and learn from this experience in fact most of us here know how dam hard it will be because we have ALL been there at one point in our lives but for your own good you need to and you need to cut all contact with him. That is the quickest way to get over someone, don't allow yourself to suffer any longer. Take care of you!
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Well I just found out tht he had been trying to cheat me this whole time. I saw emails that he sent with women frm Craigslist. He is saying many flirty sexy things and its really disgusting. One email, he even said tht he is in comitted relationship and he dun want to stick his guy thing (you know what)to himself and tht he wanted to try cheating. And they send back forth msgs. I was away at tht time since I visit my parents so I dunno whether he really did it or not. I dun even understand how it work. Is tht wht guy usually do or did he just too much off a jerk. I am totally exhausted and now thanking him for breaking up.otherwise I will still b giving up all my things just for him and I wont know whether he will be sleeping with another gal when m away for awhile.
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Thanks everyone for your opinions. They are really helpful. You all are the Best!!! ^_*
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