Did I mean nothing to him?

I was dating someone for a little while and we was in separable we was together every weekend and would speak everyday through out the day, I could tell he really was fond of me and I was very much in love with him too.

He said that he wanted to not put a title on us yet because he felt that relationships get too complicated when you put a title on it but he said that as far as he was concerned it was just me and him and I really believed him because he made me feel like I was the only one.

Anyway one day out of nowhere he started to become distant until I just cut him off.

2 months later he came back out of nowhere like nothing happened acted like it was all me and that he wasn’t acting distant and he was confused as to why I cut him off.

Anyway we got together for one night and I could really see he did miss me he couldn’t let go of me and I could see that his feelings for me were strong still it was like when we first started dating all over again. Then the next day I didn’t hear from him which was fine, so a week later I called him and he declined my call and it’s been 3 weeks and I haven’t heard from him..

I’m just confused I don’t really care about it anymore I’ve got over him but I’m just sitting here randomly right now thinking did I mean anything to him at all? What the hell was all of that about?

Is he married?

Don’t let him back in again, that one night was him using you and if you let him back in, he’ll continue to treat you this way... it still looks as though he had someone else and possibly was cheating to begin with.

This article talks about the stages at which many men take to fall in love. I think he got to the decision phase and decided it wasn’t what he wanted right now. Sounds like he may have commitment issues.

https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/gentlemen/the-brutally-honest-phases-of-a-man-falling-in-love

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Is he married?

Don’t let him back in again, that one night was him using you and if you let him back in, he’ll continue to treat you this way... it still looks as though he had someone else and possibly was cheating to begin with.

Probably did have someone else

That's quite normal for today's world. Sounds like you had a fling or a trial period... and by the looks of it (based on the outcome and the way things unfolded up to that point) - it just wasn't mean to be. Also, don't take that "trial period (a time when some people have a tendency to be lovey dovey)" - as a reflection of what it means to be in a relationship with that individual. Mainly because people have a tendency to put on their best mask (present themselves in the best light - kinda like a photo that ends-up on Instagram) - but also - because they kinda get drunk on feelings (so called "catching feelings") - and that's just a temporary phase. So hey, maybe after he started getting more comfortable around you (and started acting more like himself - in his everyday life) - the lovey dovey part (where you both acted like you're the center of each-others worlds "on a daily basis") - started to fall off... Or maybe he found someone else - and he's not good at multitasking.

As some mentioned even here on DXP (mainly women - then again, that's probably - because men are kinda bad at multitasking dates) - dating multiple potential partners at the same time - it's how they play the dating game. Tho, he doesn't seem to fit the image of serial dater - so maybe he really gave you a serious try - but you didn't seem to fit his requirements for an actual relationship. Or at least that's what this line "...he wanted to not put a title on us yet because he felt that relationships get too complicated when you put a title..." - usually means. If he was truly head over heels over you - he might wanna give it a serious try even in that regard (make the next step and try to have a relationship with you). So hey, based on what you described above - it's contradictory to say that you meant nothing... Cause it sounds like you did meant something - for a little while... just not enough to put a ring of it (or at least - to make you his gf).

Don't fret over it - cause who knows... you might go through something similar several times - till you actually find someone that wants you to be his girl (and vice versa).

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@neves

Very well explained and it’s hitting right in the face...came back - had sex...thought about it...still naaah...

One question what does it mean ‘men ‘kinda’ bad at multitasking dates’? Is this like ‘kinda’ good as well? 😂🤦‍♀️🤣

Good point. Bluntly put... they're just bad (generally speaking), like... really bad. Paired with their daily activities (like work, survival, mantainance and man cave retreat) - even one woman can be to much/demanding at times. Players would be the exception - but they're not into dating (looking for a partner for a long term relationship) - they're into fucking (friends with benefits or one night stands).

Relationships DO NOT get more complicated when labeled. They are in fact simplified.

And while nothing needed to be solidified while your in the early stages of getting to know each other...when he was acting distant and unresponsive and you didn’t speak for 2 months, that should’ve given you pause.

At that point, when he contacted you, it was the perfect time to ask him what his intentions are. Don’t gift your body to someone who can disappear from your life so easily and pop back up without explanation.

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@neves

Very well explained and it’s hitting right in the face...came back - had sex...thought about it...still naaah...

One question what does it mean ‘men ‘kinda’ bad at multitasking dates’? Is this like ‘kinda’ good as well? 😂🤦‍♀️🤣

Good point. Bluntly put... they're just bad (generally speaking), like... really bad. Paired with their daily activities (like work, survival, mantainance and man cave retreat) - even one woman can be to much/demanding at times. Players would be the exception - but they're not into dating (looking for a partner for a long term relationship) - they're into fucking (friends with benefits or one night stands).

I hope you read my post I just made in response to the link pinkbird posted...

I’ve known about men who had enough energy to date...like fully date more than one woman while keeping their important jobs AND fishing, hunting and watching sport with male friends...

Some are REALLY good at it!

And you know what’s funny - every one of their women are happy! And considering how busy man is - they dint suspect shit!!! Because he wouldn’t have time for IT...

I am finding it fascinating AND funny as hell AND I kind of admire the energy BUT I’ve always prayed I wouldn’t ever be that woman!

And when Chris Rock says in his stand up that you’ll be caught even if you are 007 - bullshit!

Have never seen them caught.

The secret is - as I said - ‘he hardly have time for anything...’ 😂😂😂

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I don't think I ever met a man like that in real life...🤔 Even when it comes to cheating - the guys i know to be guilty of that - actually end-up being caught cause of this reason (: multitasking a relationship with 2 women proved to be to much). Can't say the same about women. I know a Gemini who got cheated by his Libra gf after being together for more than 6 years (he even proposed and she accepted to get married - while she was already involved with another guy - for quite some time). Then there's a Cancer friend who got cheated by his Taurus gf - after being in a relationship for almost 3 years. Tho, it's not the cheating part that's intriguing - but the fact that they managed to get away with it - till either one decided to admit and brake to relationship - so she can be with the other guy (the Libra), or she was caught in the act - so "hard" evidence was involved (the Taurus). The men on the other hand - were caught "based on hunches alone (apparently they noticed a change in their behavior) and also - in a short time." Anyway, not saying it's the same same for all cheating cases - but in general - men do suck at dating multiple girls at the same time - while women seem better at it (even her on DXP - when the dating subject was approached - most said so themselves.... that multitasking dates is how they play this game - till they chose to further with just one).

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Relationships DO NOT get more complicated when labeled. They are in fact simplified.

And while nothing needed to be solidified while your in the early stages of getting to know each other...when he was acting distant and unresponsive and you didn’t speak for 2 months, that should’ve given you pause.

At that point, when he contacted you, it was the perfect time to ask him what his intentions are. Don’t gift your body to someone who can disappear from your life so easily and pop back up without explanation.

Apparently now everybody view their body as gift.

Some people just simply fuck...

Because if his body is a gift he is giving to you while taking your body as a gift you giving to him - it’s fucking Christmas all the time!

Jesus! And you weren’t dramatic...

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Don’t get hung up on the phrasing I used.

He disappeared for 2 months and then waltzes back into her life, no explanation offered, and is rewarded with sex. Then goes silent again.

And op is left hurt and confused

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Posted by Klh1203He said that he wanted to not put a title on us yet because he felt that relationships get too complicated when you put a title on it but he said that as far as he was concerned it was just me and him and I really believed him because he made me feel like I was the only one.

Please read the bold sentence. You dated a player. You got played.

The red flags were clearly there but you chose to ignore them...

I agree to the point...

Labeling man a player is wrong! Because every man is a player until he finds one he is staying with! So...is he still a player then? No. He becomes a husband!

Haven’t you ever been a player? 🤷‍♀️

Ofc, every player can become a husband. But what kind of a husband? It’s very likely that he was on and off long term with someone else, who played him. He prob liked the op, but there was this other person all the time who he liked more. And he chose to be dishonest to the op and act dumb like she is not a human being with feelings cause his feelings got hurt.

Tho I don’t like the word player too, I think of james bond or someone like that.

Stap stap stap stap stap right THERE!

Aren’t WE doing the same to men?

Ever seen a nerd with cheerleader? Don’t you think nerd would never cheat on cheerleader? Appreciate her and admire her until death do them part?

Now process that thought...would cheerleader wanted to BE with Virgin nerd OR with experiences player buff and tall and all?

I didn’t know until Aries told me how women are about musicians...I’ve seen Beatles movies but he wasn’t a Beatles! He didn’t get married until 37 because of those women who were at service without commitment. Not even FWB...

So let’s not idealize poor is vs evil them!

We all are equally guilty! Jumping in bed after he dissapeaeed for 2 month? If she has not respected herself - he is just here to please...

Ofc we do the same thing, that’s a non issue. It’s not gender related. But girl you can be honest and have a good sexual life. Or some can’t idk.

@akitu and @JEMR...👍🤜🤛

@missKrabs - that was IT! THATS what I am here for. Sorry @LadyNeptune...it isn’t you...😘

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Nothing says ‘good sexual life’ like being ignored for 2 months, contacting for a smash and dash, then back to radio silence 🙄

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Relationships DO NOT get more complicated when labeled. They are in fact simplified.

And while nothing needed to be solidified while your in the early stages of getting to know each other...when he was acting distant and unresponsive and you didn’t speak for 2 months, that should’ve given you pause.

At that point, when he contacted you, it was the perfect time to ask him what his intentions are. Don’t gift your body to someone who can disappear from your life so easily and pop back up without explanation.

Why won’t Gem label you ‘The Wife’ I’d it’s simplifies everything?

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Why doesn’t my man push a label I don’t want on me? Because we are on the same page. Shocking I know

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That's quite normal for today's world. Sounds like you had a fling or a trial period... and by the looks of it (based on the outcome and the way things unfolded up to that point) - it just wasn't mean to be. Also, don't take that "trial period (a time when some people have a tendency to be lovey dovey)" - as a reflection of what it means to be in a relationship with that individual. Mainly because people have a tendency to put on their best mask (present themselves in the best light - kinda like a photo that ends-up on Instagram) - but also - because they kinda get drunk on feelings (so called "catching feelings") - and that's just a temporary phase. So hey, maybe after he started getting more comfortable around you (and started acting more like himself - in his everyday life) - the lovey dovey part (where you both acted like you're the center of each-others worlds "on a daily basis") - started to fall off... Or maybe he found someone else - and he's not good at multitasking.

As some mentioned even here on DXP (mainly women - then again, that's probably - because men are kinda bad at multitasking dates) - dating multiple potential partners at the same time - it's how they play the dating game. Tho, he doesn't seem to fit the image of serial dater - so maybe he really gave you a serious try - but you didn't seem to fit his requirements for an actual relationship. Or at least that's what this line "...he wanted to not put a title on us yet because he felt that relationships get too complicated when you put a title..." - usually means. If he was truly head over heels over you - he might wanna give it a serious try even in that regard (make the next step and try to have a relationship with you). So hey, based on what you described above - it's contradictory to say that you meant nothing... Cause it sounds like you did meant something - for a little while... just not enough to put a ring of it (or at least - to make you his gf).

Don't fret over it - cause who knows... you might go through something similar several times - till you actually find someone that wants you to be his girl (and vice versa).

Thank you I’m going to keep coming back to this every time my heart gets broken until I find someone who actually will match with me and be just as equally interested as I am. Thank you for this.

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This article talks about the stages at which many men take to fall in love. I think he got to the decision phase and decided it wasn’t what he wanted right now. Sounds like he may have commitment issues.

https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/gentlemen/the-brutally-honest-phases-of-a-man-falling-in-love

I don’t like when men are trying to make money by publishing nonsense about relashionships combining their own experiences and say ‘that’s what men think’...

My Rant to the author of the article:

Really bozo? That’s what YOU think!

Because I doubt that you ever asked at least 100 of your friends if they think same way you think.

You didn’t!!! And if you did - 90% of them would lie! Not intentionally. They just never thought about it the way you did. Because they haven’t been getting ready to publish their thoughts...

So for them it’s came-saw-conquer...

No thoughts recorded! Next!

And you are trying to bundle all men into the same primitive bundle and make people read by calling your crap ‘Single Women Guide’ or shit...

I had relayed to a gorgeous man who saw his ugly wife and as much as people were horrified by his choice he said she is the one!

You know why? Because she looked exactly like his mother he adores! Mother was living and wedding happened in a month!

I can provide you with stories about how men think...but it’ll take me shitload if time to describe how men think...based on MY experience and it’ll be more accurate because unlike you - I’ve known MORE THAN ONE Man!

The end.

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I agree. I have many male friends and when I ask them for opinion on my dating life they have a different advice to give than the other, everyone is different

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Posted by Klh1203He said that he wanted to not put a title on us yet because he felt that relationships get too complicated when you put a title on it but he said that as far as he was concerned it was just me and him and I really believed him because he made me feel like I was the only one.

Please read the bold sentence. You dated a player. You got played.

The red flags were clearly there but you chose to ignore them...

I agree to the point...

Labeling man a player is wrong! Because every man is a player until he finds one he is staying with! So...is he still a player then? No. He becomes a husband!

Haven’t you ever been a player? 🤷‍♀️

Ofc, every player can become a husband. But what kind of a husband? It’s very likely that he was on and off long term with someone else, who played him. He prob liked the op, but there was this other person all the time who he liked more. And he chose to be dishonest to the op and act dumb like she is not a human being with feelings cause his feelings got hurt.

Tho I don’t like the word player too, I think of james bond or someone like that.

Stap stap stap stap stap right THERE!

Aren’t WE doing the same to men?

Ever seen a nerd with cheerleader? Don’t you think nerd would never cheat on cheerleader? Appreciate her and admire her until death do them part?

Now process that thought...would cheerleader wanted to BE with Virgin nerd OR with experiences player buff and tall and all?

I didn’t know until Aries told me how women are about musicians...I’ve seen Beatles movies but he wasn’t a Beatles! He didn’t get married until 37 because of those women who were at service without commitment. Not even FWB...

So let’s not idealize poor is vs evil them!

We all are equally guilty! Jumping in bed after he dissapeaeed for 2 month? If she has not respected herself - he is just here to please...

Ofc we do the same thing, that’s a non issue. It’s not gender related. But girl you can be honest and have a good sexual life. Or some can’t idk.

@akitu and @JEMR...👍🤜🤛

@missKrabs - that was IT! THATS what I am here for. Sorry @LadyNeptune...it isn’t you...😘

i don't get it. there are players, playeresse, and there are pleyarette, idk anymore too old. we all suck.

but, not to brag, i never done this shit, and i dated, oh i dated. Never put a person on pause for my personal gain. but everyone think that i'm weird soooo ......

You know what?

Go back to dating!

Are there any men still sober out there?

I don’t think he put her on pause for gain...he just...has things to do...he didn’t say ‘wait’...so she could had fuck it and live life...

I am too old for this shit but it keeps me young! 🤷‍♀️

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Currently I have been dating, I started dating someone else after him but because I was still so hurt by the situation the new guy could see I was damaged and it never worked out. But I have been dating ever since and I’m not even attracted or interested in him anymore I was just having a thoughtful moment earlier about how I allowed him to disrespect me like that and then I got mad for a lil bit and made this post

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He is afraid of real intimacy

Likely unhealed trauma from childhood... maybe mother dynamic

It has nothing to do with you. As he feels attachment it also triggers panic and so he sabotages. But he still has feelings so He yoyos.

Just walk away. This isn’t your battle or trauma to heal.

Thank you for explaining it this way,

I feel often times people are quite insensitive to women and blame the woman for a man treating her wrong. “You should have seen the red flags”, “you gave it up to him too easily.” “You you you you YOU.” What about him? What about the woman and what she may have gone through as a child with having an absent father which causes her to look for something in a male that she can not find?

I know his trauma from childhood because he opened up and told me about everything so that’s why I was so soft with him because I understood why he is the way he is but I shouldn’t have allowed him to hurt me like this, I shouldn’t have tried to heal him because he only sucked out all my energy and left me drained out. Never again will I try to heal someone, it’s impossible to heal someone.

Stories like this make me cringe.

Some people get so caught up into themselves that they no longer see humanity.

This man took advantage of you and he knows it.

Weak moral character. He’s most likely weak in other areas of his life

He had sex with you and then ghosted since he released his Devil energy. Not like your human and have feeling so....

Treat them like jobs, economics.

I’m not saying your a PRO but quid pro qu should be active with relationships. I’m not doin nuthin or giving nothin until my demands are satisfied

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Stories like this make me cringe.

Some people get so caught up into themselves that they no longer see humanity.

This man took advantage of you and he knows it.

Weak moral character. He’s most likely weak in other areas of his life

He had sex with you and then ghosted since he released his Devil energy. Not like your human and have feeling so....

Treat them like jobs, economics.

I’m not saying your a PRO but quid pro qu should be active with relationships. I’m not doin nuthin or giving nothin until my demands are satisfied

Honestly this is what I have learnt to do, I’m never settling again. I let things go just so I could keep him. Biggest regret.

He came back to me telling me how without me he’s been so miserable, he’s an alcoholic now, he’s depressed etc etc and I believe him because whenever I have sex with him I would feel really depressed but what I learnt from that is he’s a manipulator he wanted me to love him to boost his ego, he came back asking me if I still loved him and what I missed about him once he felt he got what he wanted and his ego stroked well enough because I’m always so good at making him feel better he disappeared. I’ve just decided to block him I don’t want him to ever come back again.

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I was dating someone for a little while and we was in separable we was together every weekend and would speak everyday through out the day, I could tell he really was fond of me and I was very much in love with him too.

He said that he wanted to not put a title on us yet because he felt that relationships get too complicated when you put a title on it but he said that as far as he was concerned it was just me and him and I really believed him because he made me feel like I was the only one.

Anyway one day out of nowhere he started to become distant until I just cut him off.

2 months later he came back out of nowhere like nothing happened acted like it was all me and that he wasn’t acting distant and he was confused as to why I cut him off.

Anyway we got together for one night and I could really see he did miss me he couldn’t let go of me and I could see that his feelings for me were strong still it was like when we first started dating all over again. Then the next day I didn’t hear from him which was fine, so a week later I called him and he declined my call and it’s been 3 weeks and I haven’t heard from him..

I’m just confused I don’t really care about it anymore I’ve got over him but I’m just sitting here randomly right now thinking did I mean anything to him at all? What the hell was all of that about?

You meant nothing.

Have you yet to realize the type of men that you're going after? Every thread you make is literally the same story over and over, but a different man.

I honestly think it would do you A LOT of good to be single for a long while. Focus on yourself and understand the meaning of self worth.

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Posted by Jade_Alexander

He is afraid of real intimacy

Likely unhealed trauma from childhood... maybe mother dynamic

It has nothing to do with you. As he feels attachment it also triggers panic and so he sabotages. But he still has feelings so He yoyos.

Just walk away. This isn’t your battle or trauma to heal.

Thank you for explaining it this way,

I feel often times people are quite insensitive to women and blame the woman for a man treating her wrong. “You should have seen the red flags”, “you gave it up to him too easily.” “You you you you YOU.” What about him? What about the woman and what she may have gone through as a child with having an absent father which causes her to look for something in a male that she can not find? I know his trauma from childhood because he opened up and told me about everything so that’s why I was so soft with him because I understood why he is the way he is but I shouldn’t have allowed him to hurt me like this, I shouldn’t have tried to heal him because he only sucked out all my energy and left me drained out. Never again will I try to heal someone, it’s impossible to heal someone.

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@Klh1203 It's the Pisces way. Y'all understand. That should be the Pisces motto. Just be more choosey who you give that "understanding" to going forward. If he shows up again, be cool-headed and observant. Your kindness is not weakness. You are not desperate. Your empathy is your strength.

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He came back to me telling me how without me he’s been so miserable, he’s an alcoholic now, he’s depressed etc etc and I believe him because whenever I have sex with him I would feel really depressed but what I learnt from that is he’s a manipulator he wanted me to love him to boost his ego, he came back asking me if I still loved him and what I missed about him once he felt he got what he wanted and his ego stroked well enough because I’m always so good at making him feel better he disappeared. I’ve just decided to block him I don’t want him to ever come back again.

PERFECT.

you're always heartbroken

Posted by besarlalluvia you're always heartbroken

Not always. I only come on here to post stuff concerning my relationship I don’t ever use this site for anything else. And even if I was always heartbroken you should pray for me right?

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Posted by Jade_Alexander

He is afraid of real intimacy

Likely unhealed trauma from childhood... maybe mother dynamic

It has nothing to do with you. As he feels attachment it also triggers panic and so he sabotages. But he still has feelings so He yoyos.

Just walk away. This isn’t your battle or trauma to heal.

Thank you for explaining it this way,

I feel often times people are quite insensitive to women and blame the woman for a man treating her wrong. “You should have seen the red flags”, “you gave it up to him too easily.” “You you you you YOU.” What about him? What about the woman and what she may have gone through as a child with having an absent father which causes her to look for something in a male that she can not find? I know his trauma from childhood because he opened up and told me about everything so that’s why I was so soft with him because I understood why he is the way he is but I shouldn’t have allowed him to hurt me like this, I shouldn’t have tried to heal him because he only sucked out all my energy and left me drained out. Never again will I try to heal someone, it’s impossible to heal someone.

@Klh1203 It's the Pisces way. Y'all understand. That should be the Pisces motto. Just be more choosey who you give that "understanding" to going forward. If he shows up again, be cool-headed and observant. Your kindness is not weakness. You are not desperate. Your empathy is your strength.

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Thank you girl 🧚🏾

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I was dating someone for a little while and we was in separable we was together every weekend and would speak everyday through out the day, I could tell he really was fond of me and I was very much in love with him too.

He said that he wanted to not put a title on us yet because he felt that relationships get too complicated when you put a title on it but he said that as far as he was concerned it was just me and him and I really believed him because he made me feel like I was the only one.

Anyway one day out of nowhere he started to become distant until I just cut him off.

2 months later he came back out of nowhere like nothing happened acted like it was all me and that he wasn’t acting distant and he was confused as to why I cut him off.

Anyway we got together for one night and I could really see he did miss me he couldn’t let go of me and I could see that his feelings for me were strong still it was like when we first started dating all over again. Then the next day I didn’t hear from him which was fine, so a week later I called him and he declined my call and it’s been 3 weeks and I haven’t heard from him..

I’m just confused I don’t really care about it anymore I’ve got over him but I’m just sitting here randomly right now thinking did I mean anything to him at all? What the hell was all of that about?

You meant nothing.

Have you yet to realize the type of men that you're going after? Every thread you make is literally the same story over and over, but a different man.

I honestly think it would do you A LOT of good to be single for a long while. Focus on yourself and understand the meaning of self worth.

She was helping an alcoholic! So shut up and remember all the women you hurt in your days!

And why is she supposed to be herself? She said she is dating already...

And Jesus! So many people making such a big deal out of this! And all it was is dating at the beginning...then he went into drinking vacation...cane back but vacation wasn’t over.

So he went back...you are the one to understand this shit aren’t you?

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Right. People on here think they’re so perfect then go offline and go back to their perfect little lives where they’ve never done wrong or done anything stupid before. They also think that they know my life story because I come on here and post my relationship problems, I never ever use this site for anything else but that and I’m not about to change either if they don’t like it they can easily ignore it but they choose to use their energy to type up negativity because they’re so perfect lol

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Posted by besarlalluvia you're always heartbroken

Not always. I only come on here to post stuff concerning my relationship I don’t ever use this site for anything else. And even if I was always heartbroken you should pray for me right?

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Why?

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I was dating someone for a little while and we was in separable we was together every weekend and would speak everyday through out the day, I could tell he really was fond of me and I was very much in love with him too.

He said that he wanted to not put a title on us yet because he felt that relationships get too complicated when you put a title on it but he said that as far as he was concerned it was just me and him and I really believed him because he made me feel like I was the only one.

Anyway one day out of nowhere he started to become distant until I just cut him off.

2 months later he came back out of nowhere like nothing happened acted like it was all me and that he wasn’t acting distant and he was confused as to why I cut him off.

Anyway we got together for one night and I could really see he did miss me he couldn’t let go of me and I could see that his feelings for me were strong still it was like when we first started dating all over again. Then the next day I didn’t hear from him which was fine, so a week later I called him and he declined my call and it’s been 3 weeks and I haven’t heard from him..

I’m just confused I don’t really care about it anymore I’ve got over him but I’m just sitting here randomly right now thinking did I mean anything to him at all? What the hell was all of that about?

It's called a friends with benefits. He doesn't want a relationship. He wants to be able to call you whenever he feels like it, drink from your cup, and call you again 6 weeks later.

If anything use this experience to learn to never listen to a man's sweet words. Actions are all that matter and for actions no words are necessary.

He’s dating someone else. You took him back too quick. Should of made him sweat and beg a lil before sleeping with him so quick and definitely shouldn’t have called him after you slept with him. It’s not that you meant nothing but someone else means more, I hope you’re ok.

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He’s dating someone else. You took him back too quick. Should of made him sweat and beg a lil before sleeping with him so quick and definitely shouldn’t have called him after you slept with him. It’s not that you meant nothing but someone else means more, I hope you’re ok.

Thank you. I came to terms with that’s exactly what it was. I am okay though, I’ve gotten over it to an extent this time last month I was heartbroken but I’m on the path of healing and acceptance.

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I was dating someone for a little while and we was in separable we was together every weekend and would speak everyday through out the day, I could tell he really was fond of me and I was very much in love with him too.

He said that he wanted to not put a title on us yet because he felt that relationships get too complicated when you put a title on it but he said that as far as he was concerned it was just me and him and I really believed him because he made me feel like I was the only one.

Anyway one day out of nowhere he started to become distant until I just cut him off.

2 months later he came back out of nowhere like nothing happened acted like it was all me and that he wasn’t acting distant and he was confused as to why I cut him off.

Anyway we got together for one night and I could really see he did miss me he couldn’t let go of me and I could see that his feelings for me were strong still it was like when we first started dating all over again. Then the next day I didn’t hear from him which was fine, so a week later I called him and he declined my call and it’s been 3 weeks and I haven’t heard from him..

I’m just confused I don’t really care about it anymore I’ve got over him but I’m just sitting here randomly right now thinking did I mean anything to him at all? What the hell was all of that about?

You meant nothing.

Have you yet to realize the type of men that you're going after? Every thread you make is literally the same story over and over, but a different man.

I honestly think it would do you A LOT of good to be single for a long while. Focus on yourself and understand the meaning of self worth.

She was helping an alcoholic! So shut up and remember all the women you hurt in your days!

And why is she supposed to be herself? She said she is dating already...

And Jesus! So many people making such a big deal out of this! And all it was is dating at the beginning...then he went into drinking vacation...cane back but vacation wasn’t over.

So he went back...you are the one to understand this shit aren’t you?

Right. People on here think they’re so perfect then go offline and go back to their perfect little lives where they’ve never done wrong or done anything stupid before. They also think that they know my life story because I come on here and post my relationship problems, I never ever use this site for anything else but that and I’m not about to change either if they don’t like it they can easily ignore it but they choose to use their energy to type up negativity because they’re so perfect lol

Just from my own perspective - Most of my advice comes from what I’ve either learned myself the hard way or what I’m in the process of learning/adopting.

I’m harder on myself than anyone on here minus maybe two or three people.

I’m harsh because usually people want a confirmation of their own beliefs to the point that they ignore anything else.

Sometimes when you have an angry reaction to something inflammatory or criticism it’s best to sit with it and see if there is something of value in it before you dismiss it as unneeded.

It’s hard to look at yourself and accept flaws because we all want to be good people and be loved for our humanity but we also need to grow. If we sit in the same place forever it’s a waste of what little precious time we have here.

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I definitely agree with you, I know what you are saying because I am the same way with others and I know I can be a naive person sometimes but that’s because I want to see the best in someone majority of the time.

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He’s dating someone else. You took him back too quick. Should of made him sweat and beg a lil before sleeping with him so quick and definitely shouldn’t have called him after you slept with him. It’s not that you meant nothing but someone else means more, I hope you’re ok.

Thank you. I came to terms with that’s exactly what it was. I am okay though, I’ve gotten over it to an extent this time last month I was heartbroken but I’m on the path of healing and acceptance.

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You’re welcome, I’m kinda going through something similar so I understand all too well, except it still fresh. I’ll bounce back. I’m happy to hear you’re feeling better.

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He’s dating someone else. You took him back too quick. Should of made him sweat and beg a lil before sleeping with him so quick and definitely shouldn’t have called him after you slept with him. It’s not that you meant nothing but someone else means more, I hope you’re ok.

Thank you. I came to terms with that’s exactly what it was. I am okay though, I’ve gotten over it to an extent this time last month I was heartbroken but I’m on the path of healing and acceptance.

You’re welcome, I’m kinda going through something similar so I understand all too well, except it still fresh. I’ll bounce back. I’m happy to hear you’re feeling better.

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You will heal. I never thought I would get over it but you do, and when you do it’s like you’re free you just have to start accepting things for what it is then after that everything else follows. When I made this post I was just having a reflective moment, after him I met someone else and I’ve been dating others (I haven’t been looking just the universe throwing a lot of men my way for some reason) and it’s been a life lesson that people will do what they want to do because they can and they change for who they want to change for. I’m sending you lots of love, light and healing and many positive vibrations your way. You will overcome this

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He’s dating someone else. You took him back too quick. Should of made him sweat and beg a lil before sleeping with him so quick and definitely shouldn’t have called him after you slept with him. It’s not that you meant nothing but someone else means more, I hope you’re ok.

Thank you. I came to terms with that’s exactly what it was. I am okay though, I’ve gotten over it to an extent this time last month I was heartbroken but I’m on the path of healing and acceptance.

You’re welcome, I’m kinda going through something similar so I understand all too well, except it still fresh. I’ll bounce back. I’m happy to hear you’re feeling better.

You will heal. I never thought I would get over it but you do, and when you do it’s like you’re free you just have to start accepting things for what it is then after that everything else follows. When I made this post I was just having a reflective moment, after him I met someone else and I’ve been dating others (I haven’t been looking just the universe throwing a lot of men my way for some reason) and it’s been a life lesson that people will do what they want to do because they can and they change for who they want to change for. I’m sending you lots of love, light and healing and many positive vibrations your way. You will overcome this

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Thanks Dear, sending lots of love your way as well.