Do you want to know why you’ve being dumped

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by Gemitati on Monday, May 20, 2019 and has 33 replies.
Would you like an honest answer from your partner who left you - why?

Do you think if they told you it would help you to make better next time?

Are you ready to hear it?

If you’ve ever heard it - what was it?
Posted by LethalFantasia

Depends on the dynamic/situation/circumstance

Like was this a committed relationship for a certain amount of time? Obviously you would want some kind of explanation or closure. I know it sounds cringe and cliche but no matter the situation or circumstance, if someone wasn't willing to give you closure, for whatever reason, then do you honestly, really need it? It's like getting a gift that you know wasn't heartfelt when you got it. Plus you won't need any closure from anything or anyone if you search within yourself and just accept and know that you are not responsible for other people's actions and therefore do not need to try and justify or "break them down" in your head. You are only responsible for your behavior.
Hon. You went too deep.

No matter what length or whatever - would you want to know the truth why?
I’m inclined to say no, but the one time I was dumped and he told me his reason was “he changed his mind” I was a little unsatisfied with that response tbh
Posted by LittleStar

I’ve never been dumped because I always initiated break ups. I would want to be told the truth however as I feel it’s respectful. I’ve always been honest when I broke up. People need closure.
Everyone screams they want closure but I swear if they had it - 99.9% wish they didn’t have it.
Posted by brianafay

I’m inclined to say no, but the one time I was dumped and he told me his reason was “he changed his mind” I was a little unsatisfied with that response tbh
Yeah. It was half-assed. Men!
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Posted by brianafay

I’m inclined to say no, but the one time I was dumped and he told me his reason was “he changed his mind” I was a little unsatisfied with that response tbh
Yeah. It was half-assed. Men!
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I would have much preferred to hear “you’re a shitty kisser” or something like that

It wasn’t the sex cause we never did get that far

I really truly think it was the little dick jokes I made in front of him
Posted by LethalFantasia

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by LethalFantasia

Depends on the dynamic/situation/circumstance

Like was this a committed relationship for a certain amount of time? Obviously you would want some kind of explanation or closure. I know it sounds cringe and cliche but no matter the situation or circumstance, if someone wasn't willing to give you closure, for whatever reason, then do you honestly, really need it? It's like getting a gift that you know wasn't heartfelt when you got it. Plus you won't need any closure from anything or anyone if you search within yourself and just accept and know that you are not responsible for other people's actions and therefore do not need to try and justify or "break them down" in your head. You are only responsible for your behavior.
Hon. You went too deep.

No matter what length or whatever - would you want to know the truth why?


If I were genuinely over it, I really would not give a shit tbh. It's like why? Lolz it doesn't even matter anymore. You can't drag little or big instances in your life around with you like a maniac waiting for closure or explanations because after a while you will get tired and you're the one who will be dragged. There's only so much bad energy a person can carry with them. So you either release and let go or make your life harder is the way I look at it ~
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I didn’t say when you dumped someone. I said when you had been dumped and you care...still...

Can you just answer the fucking question without being philosophical about it? 😂
Posted by brianafay

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Posted by brianafay

I’m inclined to say no, but the one time I was dumped and he told me his reason was “he changed his mind” I was a little unsatisfied with that response tbh
Yeah. It was half-assed. Men!

I would have much preferred to hear “you’re a shitty kisser” or something like that

It wasn’t the sex cause we never did get that far

I really truly think it was the little dick jokes I made in front of him
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You spared yourself a bad sex! Lmao
Posted by Gemitati

Posted by brianafay

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by brianafay

I’m inclined to say no, but the one time I was dumped and he told me his reason was “he changed his mind” I was a little unsatisfied with that response tbh
Yeah. It was half-assed. Men!

I would have much preferred to hear “you’re a shitty kisser” or something like that

It wasn’t the sex cause we never did get that far

I really truly think it was the little dick jokes I made in front of him
You spared yourself a bad sex! Lmao
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I like to think so too

Plus now he’s balding prematurely, looks like a homeless person, and lives on a commune, farming. Not even sure if he makes an income doing so

We were not meant to be 😬😂🤷🏼‍♀️💅🏻

God works in mysterious ways

So I guess my answer is no then. Cause maybe it’s just better left alone
Posted by LethalFantasia

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by LethalFantasia

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by LethalFantasia

Depends on the dynamic/situation/circumstance

Like was this a committed relationship for a certain amount of time? Obviously you would want some kind of explanation or closure. I know it sounds cringe and cliche but no matter the situation or circumstance, if someone wasn't willing to give you closure, for whatever reason, then do you honestly, really need it? It's like getting a gift that you know wasn't heartfelt when you got it. Plus you won't need any closure from anything or anyone if you search within yourself and just accept and know that you are not responsible for other people's actions and therefore do not need to try and justify or "break them down" in your head. You are only responsible for your behavior.
Hon. You went too deep.

No matter what length or whatever - would you want to know the truth why?


If I were genuinely over it, I really would not give a shit tbh. It's like why? Lolz it doesn't even matter anymore. You can't drag little or big instances in your life around with you like a maniac waiting for closure or explanations because after a while you will get tired and you're the one who will be dragged. There's only so much bad energy a person can carry with them. So you either release and let go or make your life harder is the way I look at it ~
I didn’t say when you dumped someone. I said when you had been dumped and you care...still...

Can you just answer the fucking question without being philosophical about it? 😂


Lolz you Leo Moon!! I did answer the question!! And about being dumped too! If you are genuinely over someone or whatever, then explanations or "the truth" doesn't matter, well to me, anyway. lolz x
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What is YOUR moon that makes you go mememememe all the way?

I said YOU had been dumped and you still care!!! 👿👿👿
Posted by LethalFantasia

Posted by Gemitati

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Posted by Gemitati

Posted by LethalFantasia

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by LethalFantasia

Depends on the dynamic/situation/circumstance

Like was this a committed relationship for a certain amount of time? Obviously you would want some kind of explanation or closure. I know it sounds cringe and cliche but no matter the situation or circumstance, if someone wasn't willing to give you closure, for whatever reason, then do you honestly, really need it? It's like getting a gift that you know wasn't heartfelt when you got it. Plus you won't need any closure from anything or anyone if you search within yourself and just accept and know that you are not responsible for other people's actions and therefore do not need to try and justify or "break them down" in your head. You are only responsible for your behavior.
Hon. You went too deep.

No matter what length or whatever - would you want to know the truth why?


If I were genuinely over it, I really would not give a shit tbh. It's like why? Lolz it doesn't even matter anymore. You can't drag little or big instances in your life around with you like a maniac waiting for closure or explanations because after a while you will get tired and you're the one who will be dragged. There's only so much bad energy a person can carry with them. So you either release and let go or make your life harder is the way I look at it ~
I didn’t say when you dumped someone. I said when you had been dumped and you care...still...

Can you just answer the fucking question without being philosophical about it? 😂


Lolz you Leo Moon!! I did answer the question!! And about being dumped too! If you are genuinely over someone or whatever, then explanations or "the truth" doesn't matter, well to me, anyway. lolz x
What is YOUR moon that makes you go mememememe all the way?

I said YOU had been dumped and you still care!!! 👿👿👿


Gorl I cared about one particular person for literally years after we stopped contact. The Gemini drove me crazy. I saw his Instagram the other day and can look through his #stuffz and have zero resentment or like negative energy or anything. And I despised that a-hole for many, many years lolz. But a lot of what he did, I allowed him to do, sooooo.... Gotta take responsibility for that too. Also for being so weird and holding on to something so dead for so many years lolz. Like accepting how pathetic and gross and cringe behavior that was on my part.

And what do you mean my Moon that makes me go "mememememe" all the way? I like Sag, Scorp, Leo and Cap Moons a lot.
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You still haven’t answered. The question still remains...💅🏻
I've actually never been dumped. I'm always the one who leaves for a few reasons.

Firstly I wouldn't date someone who didn't like me. Second I wouldn't stay in a toxic relationship very long. I might try to salvage it, but I'll move on long before they have to get rid of me. I have a little to no tolerance for games and weak people. I know we all have problems, and I myself need to vent from time to time, but if you aren'tadvancing and progressing forward as a human I'll lose all respect for you. Go take that weak ass somewhere else, and suck the life from another man. All my long term lovers were obsessed with me. I'm the type of guy who would clean your house, cook you food, and keep my cock hard till you cum despite the fact I've been having multiple orgasms myself. If I get nothing in return, or that person isn't at least consistent and self sufficient I'll drop it in a second.
Posted by LethalFantasia

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by LethalFantasia

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by LethalFantasia

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by LethalFantasia

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by LethalFantasia

Depends on the dynamic/situation/circumstance

Like was this a committed relationship for a certain amount of time? Obviously you would want some kind of explanation or closure. I know it sounds cringe and cliche but no matter the situation or circumstance, if someone wasn't willing to give you closure, for whatever reason, then do you honestly, really need it? It's like getting a gift that you know wasn't heartfelt when you got it. Plus you won't need any closure from anything or anyone if you search within yourself and just accept and know that you are not responsible for other people's actions and therefore do not need to try and justify or "break them down" in your head. You are only responsible for your behavior.
Hon. You went too deep.

No matter what length or whatever - would you want to know the truth why?


If I were genuinely over it, I really would not give a shit tbh. It's like why? Lolz it doesn't even matter anymore. You can't drag little or big instances in your life around with you like a maniac waiting for closure or explanations because after a while you will get tired and you're the one who will be dragged. There's only so much bad energy a person can carry with them. So you either release and let go or make your life harder is the way I look at it ~
I didn’t say when you dumped someone. I said when you had been dumped and you care...still...

Can you just answer the fucking question without being philosophical about it? 😂


Lolz you Leo Moon!! I did answer the question!! And about being dumped too! If you are genuinely over someone or whatever, then explanations or "the truth" doesn't matter, well to me, anyway. lolz x
What is YOUR moon that makes you go mememememe all the way?

I said YOU had been dumped and you still care!!! 👿👿👿


Gorl I cared about one particular person for literally years after we stopped contact. The Gemini drove me crazy. I saw his Instagram the other day and can look through his #stuffz and have zero resentment or like negative energy or anything. And I despised that a-hole for many, many years lolz. But a lot of what he did, I allowed him to do, sooooo.... Gotta take responsibility for that too. Also for being so weird and holding on to something so dead for so many years lolz. Like accepting how pathetic and gross and cringe behavior that was on my part.

And what do you mean my Moon that makes me go "mememememe" all the way? I like Sag, Scorp, Leo and Cap Moons a lot.
You still haven’t answered. The question still remains...💅🏻


What is the question? lol
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He dumped you.

You still in love with him.

Do you want to know the truth why?

Are you ready to hear: your breath stinks and I am sick of fucking with cotton balls in my nose...bye...
Posted by Soul

I've actually never been dumped. I'm always the one who leaves for a few reasons.

Firstly I wouldn't date someone who didn't like me. Second I wouldn't stay in a toxic relationship very long. I might try to salvage it, but I'll move on long before they have to get rid of me. I have a little to no tolerance for games and weak people. I know we all have problems, and I myself need to vent from time to time, but if you aren'tadvancing and progressing forward as a human I'll lose all respect for you. Go take that weak ass somewhere else, and suck the life from another man. All my long term lovers were obsessed with me. I'm the type of guy who would clean your house, cook you food, and keep my cock hard till you cum despite the fact I've been having multiple orgasms myself. If I get nothing in return, or that person isn't at least consistent and self sufficient I'll drop it in a second.
??? Is everybody on crack today???

I said YOU still in love.

She dumped you.

Are you ready to hear...I am leaving because you not sensual enough and your cooking sucks!

Or you rather never know?
Posted by LethalFantasia

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Posted by LethalFantasia

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by LethalFantasia

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by LethalFantasia

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by LethalFantasia

Depends on the dynamic/situation/circumstance

Like was this a committed relationship for a certain amount of time? Obviously you would want some kind of explanation or closure. I know it sounds cringe and cliche but no matter the situation or circumstance, if someone wasn't willing to give you closure, for whatever reason, then do you honestly, really need it? It's like getting a gift that you know wasn't heartfelt when you got it. Plus you won't need any closure from anything or anyone if you search within yourself and just accept and know that you are not responsible for other people's actions and therefore do not need to try and justify or "break them down" in your head. You are only responsible for your behavior.
Hon. You went too deep.

No matter what length or whatever - would you want to know the truth why?


If I were genuinely over it, I really would not give a shit tbh. It's like why? Lolz it doesn't even matter anymore. You can't drag little or big instances in your life around with you like a maniac waiting for closure or explanations because after a while you will get tired and you're the one who will be dragged. There's only so much bad energy a person can carry with them. So you either release and let go or make your life harder is the way I look at it ~
I didn’t say when you dumped someone. I said when you had been dumped and you care...still...

Can you just answer the fucking question without being philosophical about it? 😂


Lolz you Leo Moon!! I did answer the question!! And about being dumped too! If you are genuinely over someone or whatever, then explanations or "the truth" doesn't matter, well to me, anyway. lolz x
What is YOUR moon that makes you go mememememe all the way?

I said YOU had been dumped and you still care!!! 👿👿👿


Gorl I cared about one particular person for literally years after we stopped contact. The Gemini drove me crazy. I saw his Instagram the other day and can look through his #stuffz and have zero resentment or like negative energy or anything. And I despised that a-hole for many, many years lolz. But a lot of what he did, I allowed him to do, sooooo.... Gotta take responsibility for that too. Also for being so weird and holding on to something so dead for so many years lolz. Like accepting how pathetic and gross and cringe behavior that was on my part.

And what do you mean my Moon that makes me go "mememememe" all the way? I like Sag, Scorp, Leo and Cap Moons a lot.
You still haven’t answered. The question still remains...💅🏻


What is the question? lol
He dumped you.

You still in love with him.

Do you want to know the truth why?

Are you ready to hear: your breath stinks and I am sick of fucking with cotton balls in my nose...bye...


Yes, I would definitely want to hear it!! lolz

I mean if I were still in lahv I'd be super curious so yah ~
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Hallelujah 🙏🏻

Was it THAT hard?

And you would be ready to hear: your vagina looks kind of...weird...

Or you would rather notbto know?
I would think lethalfantasia’s vagina looks really weird
Almost like it’s not even a vagina ya know?
Posted by tastemy

I would definitely want to hear it. Even if it stung deep.

Sooner I feel it, the sooner I can start healing.

I feel like if I were left pondering it would be hard to escape my mind and harder to heal from. Longer recovery?

Just rip the damn bandaid off.

Might be worse now but better later.

Finally someone who can READ!!! Thanks

I mean not every partner is smart and they might say something like ‘you are bad in bed’ or ‘you aren’t smart’ which could be totally their opinion and they are WRONG!

But you/me would be like ‘shit!!!’ And scar for life!
If I'm getting dumped I'm usually celebrating to not be the mean one.
Posted by LibraSupreme

If I'm getting dumped I'm usually celebrating to not be the mean one.

Aw
Posted by LibraSupreme

If I'm getting dumped I'm usually celebrating to not be the mean one.
Do you want to know why?
Posted by Gemitati

Would you like an honest answer from your partner who left you - why?

Do you think if they told you it would help you to make better next time?

Are you ready to hear it?

If you’ve ever heard it - what was it?
I think it is a good idea to hear why you've been dumped.

Ok it will hurt. But at least it will give you the chance to redeem yourself and tell the dumped why you behaved the way you did that caused them to dump you.

They may not care anymore and fair enough. But then you can end it by saying.. "well just know that's why I did what I did. Im sorry ok? Now you know maybe we can try again. Its up to you. Take care"

And then you walk away.

Then in time maybe that person will think of you..And may even come back to you because they've thought about what you said.
It's rare that someone is going to give you the honest truth...they will sugar coat it in some way.

Anyway...I'd want to know. Will it suck?...yes, will it hurt?...yes, will it bruise my ego?...yes, will it be the end of the world?...for me personally, no.

Everyone is different in the way they handle and process things...so there really isn't a clear cut answer here.
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If I'm getting dumped I'm usually celebrating to not be the mean one.
Do you want to know why?
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Most of the time I know why, I typically check outif the honeymoon fades away so my libra scales detach. Being a Libra I hate being the one to break the ship. You know were supposed to be kind.
What ones criticism is to another attribute in another ship.
Posted by Phantom_Limbo

Bad breath? Unattractive vagina? These are reasons people don't go on a second date. These are not reasons you break up something serious. Serious relationships crumble for lots of reasons, not just one reason...unless one person betrays the other or something.

I don't think you're getting the answers you want because this is not how stuff works.
I don’t really WANT anything in particular. These 2 threads were inspired by someone’s post.

And what do you mean it’s not how stuff works?

People complaining about closure all the time! I thought be careful what you wish for!

And tons of people considering 2 dates as relashionships and hot having 3rd - is being dumped!

So I wanted to see IF taking it like a man is possible for how many?

Relax lil one...it’s ok. 💅🏻


I think it’s better. The opposite is probably where the person blocks you for no reason. And that feels really bad? So logically the more you know the better it is and the more you can justify it in your own head and move on?
Depends on how long your with the person. Under a year its like whatever. More then that, yeah I want answers. I deserve answers. Closure.
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Posted by Phantom_Limbo

Bad breath? Unattractive vagina? These are reasons people don't go on a second date. These are not reasons you break up something serious. Serious relationships crumble for lots of reasons, not just one reason...unless one person betrays the other or something.

I don't think you're getting the answers you want because this is not how stuff works.
I don’t really WANT anything in particular. These 2 threads were inspired by someone’s post.

And what do you mean it’s not how stuff works?

People complaining about closure all the time! I thought be careful what you wish for!

And tons of people considering 2 dates as relashionships and hot having 3rd - is being dumped!

So I wanted to see IF taking it like a man is possible for how many?

Relax lil one...it’s ok. 💅🏻
Ah, gotcha.

I don't know why anyone would want to know the harsh truth about why someone they met on a dating app is not attracted to them. Sounds masochistic.
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There are other ways to meet you know...and even if I’m dating application - people meet in person. Don’t click and VOILA!

But I am talking more like few dates to LTR to marriage...and then FUUUUCK! Why? We’ve been in love...😱
Posted by LadyNeptune

Depends on how long your with the person. Under a year its like whatever. More then that, yeah I want answers. I deserve answers. Closure.
And you ready for anything? Even shit that’s not true. I mean true only in that person mind.

And how do you explain waking up in the morning and feelings are gone?

CAN you explain THAT???

I know I never could. That’s why I am feeling for those who are ghosting because some shit is just impossible to put into words!!!

And no! You don’t ‘deserve’ closure.

You can’t MAKE anyone to close on rs. It’s not punishable by law to not to.
Heck yeah I want to know !

Not just because I want the exact reason(s) why this person can't stand me anymore but because I might actually have to change something about myself. In the end it makes you a better person.

Of course it may be painful and I might be angry about it at first, but not knowing what the person really feels about you is definitely worse.
Posted by neptunelover

Heck yeah I want to know !

Not just because I want the exact reason(s) why this person can't stand me anymore but because I might actually have to change something about myself. In the end it makes you a better person.

Of course it may be painful and I might be angry about it at first, but not knowing what the person really feels about you is definitely worse.


Ageee if person is worthy of listening to and have a valid point.
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Posted by LadyNeptune

Depends on how long your with the person. Under a year its like whatever. More then that, yeah I want answers. I deserve answers. Closure.
And you ready for anything? Even shit that’s not true. I mean true only in that person mind.

And how do you explain waking up in the morning and feelings are gone?

CAN you explain THAT???

I know I never could. That’s why I am feeling for those who are ghosting because some shit is just impossible to put into words!!!

And no! You don’t ‘deserve’ closure.

You can’t MAKE anyone to close on rs. It’s not punishable by law to not to.
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Its true to them. Knowing their motivation for bailing helps you understand why they are not worth your tears. Onward and upward.