krysrenee7
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Fair....or no?
Yup, this is so true and confusing.. Nowadays the trend really goes towards the "not giving a fack" attitude though.. People don't want to work things out, everything changes so quickly.
I found for myself, that I truly am a person, who really cares when in love. I do have the strength to stay by my man and remain loyal through the bad times. But what I also found is that they will start to see you in a different light and cherish you less after the phase is over, which hurts a lot.
It also NEVER fails to get attention from people when you no longer want it. When you finally move on and forget about them, they will be on your door step asking you to marry them. It's so fucked up.. Today's generation is screwed.
I found for myself, that I truly am a person, who really cares when in love. I do have the strength to stay by my man and remain loyal through the bad times. But what I also found is that they will start to see you in a different light and cherish you less after the phase is over, which hurts a lot.
It also NEVER fails to get attention from people when you no longer want it. When you finally move on and forget about them, they will be on your door step asking you to marry them. It's so fucked up.. Today's generation is screwed.
Posted by krysrenee7
Society tells us that the person you love should be your lover, friend, teacher, crutch to lean on when you're down, partner in crime, counselor/therapist, etc. But when you think deeply about it, are giving others those "roles" and responsibilities even fair or realistic to begin with?
So many times society sends out conflicting messages. It all comes down to BALANCE. Don't be too little of something, but don't be too much of something either.
This is a good point (bold).
Too many do this, and it is unfair to both parties.
I'm sure you know, as well, that relationships where both parties have their own separate interests or "lives" tend to fare better.
You do not have to do every single thing together-- how can you miss him if he won't go away?
😛
I kid on that last part, but the point stands.
Posted by krysrenee7
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So many times society sends out conflicting messages. It all comes down to BALANCE. Don't be too little of something, but don't be too much of something either.
Sheep follows society because sheep can't think or are too week to think for themselves. That's the bottom line.
*follow
Posted by tiziani
There are many rules that are set in opposition to each other. The way I see it you have to figure out 1. what works for you, 2. what's best for everyone you care about and HOPE those two things are one and the same. If at any point they aren't, you have more homework to do on yourself.
This is what I live by. Of course there are times when a bunch of people believe in something b/c it's a fair thing to believe in (like rape or murder being wrong for example). Just b/c a lot of people believe in something doesn't automatically mean that they've been brainwashed.
And then there are the cases when I'm not in a hurry to believe in something just b/c 50 million people say it, or believe in it.
I think rules to an extent are fair & necessary (just like laws). However, there are a billion exceptions to every rule when there are a billion distinct scenarios/circumstances. There is no such thing as "1 size fits all" or "1 mentality fits all."
I still value the art of giving & receiving advice though b/c I believe there is something very freeing & very humbling about knowing how to not always lean until your own understanding. You have to live outside of your mind sometimes. Not doing so implies that you think you know everything & that the way you do things is the only correct way to do things. Considering the fact that a lot of people use a lot of strategies and mentalities that work against them and not for them, it would greatly benefit those people to especially get out of their own minds.
Of course close-minded folks have the hardest time comprehending that ^^^^^ LOL
However, who do you actually listen to in a world where everybody sounds good & claims to be an expert? Again, it's about balance. You can really learn a lot by listening both to the person who has great results and the person who has bad results. You can learn from both fools & saints. Who's advice, standards or "code of conduct" you're gonna take to heart the most & live by is another story LOL
Welcome to life.
Sheep follow society because sheep can't think or are too week to think for themselves. That's the bottom line.
You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.
Jim Rohn
Jim Rohn
I've never witnessed, nor observed society saying/conveying any of those things.
I've noticed that you have preached those very things, at times.
You are preaching, and not taking responsibility by saying someone else did it ... because in reality, society doesn't say any such things.
I'm not surprised though ... you never have owned your own words.
Posted by P-Angel
I've never witnessed, nor observed society saying/conveying any of those things.
Sorry to break it to ya, but there's an entire world out there full of things that you've never seen, experienced or been exposed to. This topic is no different. Not to mention, plenty of people responding have said that they too have experienced some of society's conflicting messages. Just b/c P-Angel hasn't seen or heard it doesn't change the fact that a billion others have.
So your point of letting me know that my post doesn't apply to you was.....?!
And your point of continuously inviting yourself into the threads of someone you seriously dislike is..............?
LOL you seriously have too much time on your hands. Go get laid or something. Stop showing up at my house only to find reasons to be critical & tell me you hate it. Do you not have any friends?!
Posted by LetltB
Sheep follow society because sheep can't think or are too week to think for themselves. That's the bottom line.
You said that already. We heard you the 1st time.
Posted by krysrenee7Posted by P-Angel
I've never witnessed, nor observed society saying/conveying any of those things.
Sorry to break it to ya, but there's an entire world out there full of things that you've never seen, experienced or been exposed to. This topic is no different. Not to mention, plenty of people responding have said that they too have experienced some of society's conflicting messages. Just b/c P-Angel hasn't seen or heard it doesn't change the fact that a billion others have.
So your point of letting me know that my post doesn't apply to you was.....?!
And your point of continuously inviting yourself into the threads of someone you seriously dislike is..............?
LOL you seriously have too much time on your hands. Go get laid or something. Stop showing up at my house only to find reasons to be critical & tell me you hate it. Do you not have any friends?!
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Predictable, societal come back 😎
lol smh
*weak
forgot to correct that lol...
forgot to correct that lol...
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