I just got a text from an ex bf: I just thought about you, hope you are doing well during this pandemic. I got married at the end of last year.
WTF,that totally ruined my peaceful guaranteed life. I already heard of the marriage and had suspected he had cheated on me, given we broke up in August and he got married in 3 months. But I sucked it up and got over it, we broke up after all, confronting him is pointless. Now he just texted me out of blue about this, I'm totally triggered, and being in lockdown alone makes it worse.
If it's just a well wish to me, I might have replied thank you. But why would he tell me about his relationship, and when he got married. That makes the message a bomb even he might have good intention. Am I just holding grudge or he is really an a-hole? Why I'm feeling so crappy?
Background: I felt not being treated well towards the end of our relationship, so I broke up with him. To avoid any drama, I downplayed my bitterness and said more good things to him. We agreed to be friends but I never got a sincere apology about all his bad behaviors, so I never contacted him afterward.
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Sep 17, 2014Comments: 22 · Posts: 8048 · Topics: 36
what are you upset about?
a) that you are not married?
b) or that you are not married to him?
c) that things didn't work out and you are apart now?
or
d) or that someone agreed to marry him?
a) marriage is hard work and can be stressful. domestic violence has shot up exponentially during the lockdown with more women now stuck with their abusive husbands. not something to envy. better to be single and happy, than married and terrified you are going to get punched in the face everyday.
b) you guys weren't a match. why is the world be upset about not being stuck with him? sounds like you are way better off.
c) relationships end. it sucks but you gotta get rid of the things you don't want to leave space for the things you do want.
d) you don't want him. who cares? let them go in peace and happiness.
any way you slice it i think you are much better off.
So bizarre he would just drop that in like that - not even asking how you are and how life is for you?!
Better off without someone like that, good riddance.
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Mar 24, 2019Comments: 4959 · Posts: 10458 · Topics: 278
show ZERO emotion
i'll never care about that jerk getting married
poor woman whoever he's marrying
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Feb 23, 2013Comments: 22238 · Posts: 25616 · Topics: 84
I would’ve responded with a “Lol, poor girl”
Maybe that would discourage him from contacting you again. He must be bored as hell to be so petty, so I would give him the same treatment.
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Oct 21, 2015Comments: 11066 · Posts: 36034 · Topics: 110
Don’t even respond just double tap the text and hit him with a 👍
He’s not worth more effort than that.
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Nov 10, 2010Comments: 285 · Posts: 30788 · Topics: 649
I saw online that my ex Leo now has 2 kids with his gf.
She looks really happy. Hell, they whole Trump lovin family looks happy.
I couldnt be happier for all of them.
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Dec 14, 2016Comments: 7399 · Posts: 18799 · Topics: 84
You can let that text upset you, or you can read it a different way...
That you dodged a huge flaming brown bag full of dogshit, bullet by not being the moron who married him. That someone else is legally stuck with someone who is a liar in that he will promise monogamy, but never actually do it.
Then after you say "whew, thank god it wasn't me." Bake some muffins, look out a window, and smile.
Haha, thanks everyone for the suggestion and good laugh! I didn't reply and deleted his text, I don't want to give him the satisfaction if he is just looking for attention, and even if he meant well, I don't want to betray my own feelings by sending a congrats, so no reply is more than enough. Let bygones be bygones.
To the poster who said I'm lonely and want to be in quarantine with someone like him. No, I meant being alone in isolation makes it harder to cope with anger. But being alone is still better than with the wrong company. I don't want him, I was just triggered, you know, the feeling that you have already taken a step back from conflicts (I could have done something to embarrass them when they got married), but the aggressor persisted to rub it in your face. It's just too much.
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Jan 29, 2011Comments: 655 · Posts: 12418 · Topics: 3
Now that man is the epitome of piece of shit. What’s the point of messaging you and with that’s message of all things. Douche