Female playettes/PUAs. Do we have any here?
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by Bloop on Monday, December 5, 2016 and has 28 replies.
New career path?
lol female playettes? never heard that phrase.
Posted by Ram416I don't see how anybody could make a career out of that.
New career path?
However, there was one woman who wrote blogs under the pseudonym "Kat the prowler". She was in a happy marriage with an asexual man and would go out and pickup guys to have sex. Over the years she became an expert and started documenting stuff. Had quite a lot of readership a few years ago.
Posted by justagirlGoogle.
lol female playettes? never heard that phrase.
Posted by AliensusedourbogrollMore like someone who "targets" a man and "traps" him successfully.
Man eater?
Posted by BloopNaw, ain't that interested to search this. LmaoPosted by justagirlGoogle.
lol female playettes? never heard that phrase.click to expand
I have my own career but outside of that I'd consider myself a playette for sure. It takes a lot of confidence and took me years to build and cultivate. The power is quite delicious though!
Posted by Arielle83It doesn't exist anymore. Instead she now has a website I guess for some "submit your story" stuff. This blog was popular way back in 2011-2013 (I was in college then when I had come across it).
What's the blog link
Posted by SeraphlightPlaying is not just about sex.
Excuse me while I vomit. JUST NO.
You can be a player (either sex) without the sex aspect involved as well.....
Its more about "winning" and "conquering" someone's attention. Once you have it, you are free to do whatever you want with it. From what I read infact, playettes hardly sleep with their targets. They just like the game of pick and trap.
Posted by justagirlIn other words, an attention whore without the whore.
lol female playettes? never heard that phrase.
Posted by BloopI think I understand you, but I think I call people like that "users"Posted by SeraphlightPlaying is not just about sex.
Excuse me while I vomit. JUST NO.
You can be a player (either sex) without the sex aspect involved as well.....
Its more about "winning" and "conquering" someone's attention. Once you have it, you are free to do whatever you want with it. From what I read infact, playettes hardly sleep with their targets. They just like the game of pick and trap.click to expand
There is a term for women players.
I think it's called SLUT if I recall correctly.
I think it's called SLUT if I recall correctly.
Posted by TeddyBearMDKey difference is playettes don't sleep around. It's a power play.
There is a term for women players.
I think it's called SLUT if I recall correctly.
Posted by AquaviperHow do you hook them exactly?
I have my own career but outside of that I'd consider myself a playette for sure. It takes a lot of confidence and took me years to build and cultivate. The power is quite delicious though!
Are you playing them unconsciously or do you have full intent?
Posted by julietteThe power comes from withholding sex. The man believes he is the only one she is 'saving' herself for. Having sex with the man removes that power/control over him. Else, why else would he stay hooked once he's received the benefits? Men receive stimulation from the chase. His reward is capturing her sexual appetite.Posted by VirgoreanPosted by TeddyBearMDKey difference is playettes don't sleep around. It's a power play.
There is a term for women players.
I think it's called SLUT if I recall correctly.
Well this is bs. Like it's any better if you don't sleep with the guy. @pangel would put you in prison lol or make you pay some money for cock teasing. If we want to be equall logical thing would be to have sex at the end. Or we don't like sex?click to expand
Posted by VirgoreanPosted by juliettePosted by VirgoreanPosted by TeddyBearMDKey difference is playettes don't sleep around. It's a power play.
There is a term for women players.
I think it's called SLUT if I recall correctly.
Well this is bs. Like it's any better if you don't sleep with the guy. @pangel would put you in prison lol or make you pay some money for cock teasing. If we want to be equall logical thing would be to have sex at the end. Or we don't like sex?
The power comes from withholding sex. The man believes he is the only one she is 'saving' herself for. Having sex with the man removes that power/control over him. Else, why else would he stay hooked once he's received the benefits? Men receive stimulation from the chase. His reward is capturing her sexual appetite.click to expand
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Are you assuming men see benefit as sex and woman see benefit just from getting attention?
Women enjoy sex the same as men, I swear. Having sex doesn't take a woman's value, and having control over someone (man or woman) doesn't have anything to do with having sex with him/her or not.
Posted by julietteDelusional? Why the hostility? I'm merely stating how this happens and why men fall for it.Posted by VirgoreanPosted by julietteThe power comes from withholding sex. The man believes he is the only one she is 'saving' herself for. Having sex with the man removes that power/control over him. Else, why else would he stay hooked once he's received the benefits? Men receive stimulation from the chase. His reward is capturing her sexual appetite.Posted by VirgoreanPosted by TeddyBearMDKey difference is playettes don't sleep around. It's a power play.
There is a term for women players.
I think it's called SLUT if I recall correctly.
Well this is bs. Like it's any better if you don't sleep with the guy. @pangel would put you in prison lol or make you pay some money for cock teasing. If we want to be equall logical thing would be to have sex at the end. Or we don't like sex?
Oh woman how delusional you are... I can't even start to explain. I will just say enjoy life a bit more if you can. Cause it's already fucked up as it is, we don't need to fuck up it more.click to expand
I don't participate in this playette action.
Posted by BlackburnI am saying that sex is the variable that creates the power.Posted by VirgoreanPosted by juliettePosted by VirgoreanPosted by TeddyBearMDKey difference is playettes don't sleep around. It's a power play.
There is a term for women players.
I think it's called SLUT if I recall correctly.
Well this is bs. Like it's any better if you don't sleep with the guy. @pangel would put you in prison lol or make you pay some money for cock teasing. If we want to be equall logical thing would be to have sex at the end. Or we don't like sex?
The power comes from withholding sex. The man believes he is the only one she is 'saving' herself for. Having sex with the man removes that power/control over him. Else, why else would he stay hooked once he's received the benefits? Men receive stimulation from the chase. His reward is capturing her sexual appetite.
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Are you assuming men see benefit as sex and woman see benefit just from getting attention?
Women enjoy sex the same as men, I swear. Having sex doesn't take a woman's value, and having control over someone (man or woman) doesn't have anything to do with having sex with him/her or not.click to expand
Posted by VirgoreanPosted by BlackburnI am saying that sex is the variable that creates the power.Posted by VirgoreanPosted by juliettePosted by VirgoreanPosted by TeddyBearMDKey difference is playettes don't sleep around. It's a power play.
There is a term for women players.
I think it's called SLUT if I recall correctly.
Well this is bs. Like it's any better if you don't sleep with the guy. @pangel would put you in prison lol or make you pay some money for cock teasing. If we want to be equall logical thing would be to have sex at the end. Or we don't like sex?
The power comes from withholding sex. The man believes he is the only one she is 'saving' herself for. Having sex with the man removes that power/control over him. Else, why else would he stay hooked once he's received the benefits? Men receive stimulation from the chase. His reward is capturing her sexual appetite.
----
Are you assuming men see benefit as sex and woman see benefit just from getting attention?
Women enjoy sex the same as men, I swear. Having sex doesn't take a woman's value, and having control over someone (man or woman) doesn't have anything to do with having sex with him/her or not.click to expand
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Ok, I get it,
I just think this dynamic is quite sexist, I thought this women were as men, doing it for the chase and sex, not just: oh, he noticed me, I had THE power! xD
I retract my statement. It appears there are different versions of a playette, including sex.
@Bloop what is the ulterior motive for a playette? There's not much information to go by. Although, I did come across these two intriguing guides. Manipulative but intriguing! Here are some excerpts:
https://m.reddit.com/r/fPUA/comments/1fq0hj/the_playette_faq_by_hitori_i_found_this_a_really/
Q. HOW DO I GET HIM TO BE MY BOYFRIEND?
...you can get a guy to be your boyfriend by:
1) Finding a dude who is at least marginally open to the possibility of the kind of relationship you want, and 2) Gaming him right
Q. WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO GAME A DUDE RIGHT?
1) He should be at emotional hookpoint before you sleep with him.
FORGET about making him agree to a relationship before you sleep with him. FORGET about establishing that you are "special" and "different" before you sleep with him through some sort of arbitrary ritual behavior like having him tell you so, or waiting three dates.
http://thenakedconvos.com/playette-or-ho-ho-ho/
...You have a solid “team” of highly desirable men...
…get a lot of time without giving sex for a prolonged period of time (2+ months) from several people … you might just be a player.
...Your guys say they love you and show it...
@Bloop what is the ulterior motive for a playette? There's not much information to go by. Although, I did come across these two intriguing guides. Manipulative but intriguing! Here are some excerpts:
https://m.reddit.com/r/fPUA/comments/1fq0hj/the_playette_faq_by_hitori_i_found_this_a_really/
Q. HOW DO I GET HIM TO BE MY BOYFRIEND?
...you can get a guy to be your boyfriend by:
1) Finding a dude who is at least marginally open to the possibility of the kind of relationship you want, and 2) Gaming him right
Q. WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO GAME A DUDE RIGHT?
1) He should be at emotional hookpoint before you sleep with him.
FORGET about making him agree to a relationship before you sleep with him. FORGET about establishing that you are "special" and "different" before you sleep with him through some sort of arbitrary ritual behavior like having him tell you so, or waiting three dates.
http://thenakedconvos.com/playette-or-ho-ho-ho/
...You have a solid “team” of highly desirable men...
…get a lot of time without giving sex for a prolonged period of time (2+ months) from several people … you might just be a player.
...Your guys say they love you and show it...
Posted by VirgoreanHad a bitch try that on me once, needless to say I left her on her ass. And chasing bitches is no reward. Only a pathetic cuck would take joy in that.Posted by julietteThe power comes from withholding sex. The man believes he is the only one she is 'saving' herself for. Having sex with the man removes that power/control over him. Else, why else would he stay hooked once he's received the benefits? Men receive stimulation from the chase. His reward is capturing her sexual appetite.Posted by VirgoreanPosted by TeddyBearMDKey difference is playettes don't sleep around. It's a power play.
There is a term for women players.
I think it's called SLUT if I recall correctly.
Well this is bs. Like it's any better if you don't sleep with the guy. @pangel would put you in prison lol or make you pay some money for cock teasing. If we want to be equall logical thing would be to have sex at the end. Or we don't like sex?click to expand
Posted by BloopYour describing a gold digger. A female who seduces and gets a man to offer her the ultimate prize, marriage without a prenuptial.Posted by AliensusedourbogrollMore like someone who "targets" a man and "traps" him successfully.
Man eater?click to expand
Theres no such thing as a 'female player' because the ultimate goal is different for men and women.
Women want security, monogamy, a status of being his gf/fiance/wife. For men the goal is sex. How much can they get? How many women can they dick? etc.
A female that acts like a man and is promiscuous is called a slut, a whore, all derogatory terms. To act in that way is not seen as a status lift as it is for men. Hello double standard.
Women want security, monogamy, a status of being his gf/fiance/wife. For men the goal is sex. How much can they get? How many women can they dick? etc.
A female that acts like a man and is promiscuous is called a slut, a whore, all derogatory terms. To act in that way is not seen as a status lift as it is for men. Hello double standard.
Posted by LadyNeptuneNo. Not marriage. Just his attention. Playettes like the validation that comes with holding a man's attention.Posted by BloopYour describing a gold digger. A female who seduces and gets a man to offer her the ultimate prize, marriage without a prenuptial.Posted by AliensusedourbogrollMore like someone who "targets" a man and "traps" him successfully.
Man eater?click to expand
Society had assigned roles that are very different between women and men.
Men's vitality, attractiveness, and status among their piers is only elevated by how many sexual partners they have. Since they are viewed as the aggressors, the hunters and women the prey, their conquests affirm how much of a 'man' they are.
While for women, society has ingrained that your worth is directly tied into your sexual innocence. The longer you hold onto the cookie, the more the man will respect you. Now we all know this isn't necessarily true, but again...this is how society norms has influenced our thinking. Unlike men, the more sexual encounters a women has diminishes her 'worth'.
So again, there can be no comparison between men and women 'players' because the game has been structured in a way to reward one and penalize the other.
Men's vitality, attractiveness, and status among their piers is only elevated by how many sexual partners they have. Since they are viewed as the aggressors, the hunters and women the prey, their conquests affirm how much of a 'man' they are.
While for women, society has ingrained that your worth is directly tied into your sexual innocence. The longer you hold onto the cookie, the more the man will respect you. Now we all know this isn't necessarily true, but again...this is how society norms has influenced our thinking. Unlike men, the more sexual encounters a women has diminishes her 'worth'.
So again, there can be no comparison between men and women 'players' because the game has been structured in a way to reward one and penalize the other.
Posted by BloopThen the term your looking for isn't a female player, it's an attention whore.Posted by LadyNeptuneNo. Not marriage. Just his attention. Playettes like the validation that comes with holding a man's attention.Posted by BloopYour describing a gold digger. A female who seduces and gets a man to offer her the ultimate prize, marriage without a prenuptial.Posted by AliensusedourbogrollMore like someone who "targets" a man and "traps" him successfully.
Man eater?click to expand
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