Getting over a Big Fat Lie
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by whatisthisallabout on Tuesday, September 12, 2017 and has 36 replies.
Long story short. I did a tarot reading and the reader told me that she's very sure that the guy I asked about is married to another woman and he has kids. I googled him and found out that his public records showed that He Does Have Kids (even though his maritial status was shown to be single). Anyways, I feel very very hurt because I specifically asked this guy when we were dating if he had kids and he told me No. On the other hand, he had a picture of him and a young boy snowboarding in his place and he told me that the young boy was his nephew.
I am NOT going to confront this person because (1) we only went on 6 dates, (2) we are Not dating anymore, (3) we have Not spoken for a while, and (4) whether he admits it or not, it won't change anything.
However, I feel Extremely sad, stupid, and hurt.
So my questions are:
1. Has any of you encoutered similar situations (e.g. finding out that you were probably a side piece the whole time only after things already ended with the person, the person lied that he's married and/or has kids, etc.)?
2. How do/did you process your hurt feelings by yourself?
I am NOT going to confront this person because (1) we only went on 6 dates, (2) we are Not dating anymore, (3) we have Not spoken for a while, and (4) whether he admits it or not, it won't change anything.
However, I feel Extremely sad, stupid, and hurt.
So my questions are:
1. Has any of you encoutered similar situations (e.g. finding out that you were probably a side piece the whole time only after things already ended with the person, the person lied that he's married and/or has kids, etc.)?
2. How do/did you process your hurt feelings by yourself?
F u ck a guy can't even lie anymore with all them psychics running around
Posted by enfant_terribleHahaha. I don't think readings are always true, but that particular reading did prompt me to do some search of this person. I also found out that on mylife.com, three anonymous people gave him 1 star and left negative feedback of this person, saying that they "would not be friends with this person". Two of the reviews were posted within the past 2 days. I would not be surprised if these anonymous people are also girls that were played by him
F u ck a guy can't even lie anymore with all them psychics running around
think about this guy as a human being - who, for whatever reason, does not tell the truth - and that's not a little white lie - or it is to him - shallow person he is - he just wanted to be free and get some and not have any worries
I think he is just a terrible human and I feel bad for his children - he is probably a crappy father - who would want a father who "isn't quite right" ...
there is nothing you can do about him pulling the wool over your eyes for a time - but it didn't go on that long and you found out about it - although it seems like you got a few feels for him - it isn't real because he isn't real
brush the dirt off and get back out there - and be smarter each time you get knocked down - that's all - nothing more or less - it is what it is
I think he is just a terrible human and I feel bad for his children - he is probably a crappy father - who would want a father who "isn't quite right" ...
there is nothing you can do about him pulling the wool over your eyes for a time - but it didn't go on that long and you found out about it - although it seems like you got a few feels for him - it isn't real because he isn't real
brush the dirt off and get back out there - and be smarter each time you get knocked down - that's all - nothing more or less - it is what it is
Posted by tctaThank you. I am glad that I find that out. When we were dating, he'd plan the most romantic dates and then disappaer for weeks at a time, telling me that he's visiting his family in other states or for work... and then reappear. I was puzzlied but I guess it all makes sense now. This pattern is probably typical for guys who juggle between multiple lives.
think about this guy as a human being - who, for whatever reason, does not tell the truth - and that's not a little white lie - or it is to him - shallow person he is - he just wanted to be free and get some and not have any worries
I think he is just a terrible human and I feel bad for his children - he is probably a crappy father - who would want a father who "isn't quite right" ...
there is nothing you can do about him pulling the wool over your eyes for a time - but it didn't go on that long and you found out about it - although it seems like you got a few feels for him - it isn't real because he isn't real
brush the dirt off and get back out there - and be smarter each time you get knocked down - that's all - nothing more or less - it is what it is
Yes, I will remind myself that what I felt isn't real because he's not real, nothing about him is real. Everything was built on a lie.
Any tips on exposing liars/cheaters early on?
Yep.
A wife, 4 kids with her, and 9 kids with others.
Also didn't tell me he was a mental patient, narcissistic sociopath.
Or abusive.
Fuck them. ???
There's better men out there.
A wife, 4 kids with her, and 9 kids with others.
Also didn't tell me he was a mental patient, narcissistic sociopath.
Or abusive.
Fuck them. ???
There's better men out there.
Posted by whatisthisallaboutHis shit not adding up.Posted by tctaThank you. I am glad that I find that out. When we were dating, he'd plan the most romantic dates and then disappaer for weeks at a time, telling me that he's visiting his family in other states or for work... and then reappear. I was puzzlied but I guess it all makes sense now. This pattern is probably typical for guys who juggle between multiple lives.
think about this guy as a human being - who, for whatever reason, does not tell the truth - and that's not a little white lie - or it is to him - shallow person he is - he just wanted to be free and get some and not have any worries
I think he is just a terrible human and I feel bad for his children - he is probably a crappy father - who would want a father who "isn't quite right" ...
there is nothing you can do about him pulling the wool over your eyes for a time - but it didn't go on that long and you found out about it - although it seems like you got a few feels for him - it isn't real because he isn't real
brush the dirt off and get back out there - and be smarter each time you get knocked down - that's all - nothing more or less - it is what it is
Yes, I will remind myself that what I felt isn't real because he's not real, nothing about him is real. Everything was built on a lie.
Any tips on exposing liars/cheaters early on?click to expand
Lies not making sense.
Pay attention ladies.
Posted by shaymaciDman. He's very fertile
Yep.
A wife, 4 kids with her, and 9 kids with others.
Also didn't tell me he was a mental patient, narcissistic sociopath.
Or abusive.
Fuck them. ???
There's better men out there.
How did you find that out?
Posted by shaymaciI KNOW!!!Posted by whatisthisallaboutHis shit not adding up.Posted by tctaThank you. I am glad that I find that out. When we were dating, he'd plan the most romantic dates and then disappaer for weeks at a time, telling me that he's visiting his family in other states or for work... and then reappear. I was puzzlied but I guess it all makes sense now. This pattern is probably typical for guys who juggle between multiple lives.
think about this guy as a human being - who, for whatever reason, does not tell the truth - and that's not a little white lie - or it is to him - shallow person he is - he just wanted to be free and get some and not have any worries
I think he is just a terrible human and I feel bad for his children - he is probably a crappy father - who would want a father who "isn't quite right" ...
there is nothing you can do about him pulling the wool over your eyes for a time - but it didn't go on that long and you found out about it - although it seems like you got a few feels for him - it isn't real because he isn't real
brush the dirt off and get back out there - and be smarter each time you get knocked down - that's all - nothing more or less - it is what it is
Yes, I will remind myself that what I felt isn't real because he's not real, nothing about him is real. Everything was built on a lie.
Any tips on exposing liars/cheaters early on?
Lies not making sense.
Pay attention ladies.click to expand
And guess what? That's when girls get fucked over by dating advice books. They try to tell girls to be respectful of guys' "cave time". But god knows, for some men, this becomes their perfect excuse to juggle beween multiple people and not to get caught!
Posted by ImpulsvI should've done that early on for sure.
I'm for research them as soon as I know name n age
Do you just google or do you have other ways to get more information of the person?
I don't want to be a stalker, but now I feel it is necessary to prevent a borken heart.
Posted by shaymaciAlso, how did you get over it?
Yep.
A wife, 4 kids with her, and 9 kids with others.
Also didn't tell me he was a mental patient, narcissistic sociopath.
Or abusive.
Fuck them. ???
There's better men out there.
I feel it is very hard not to blame myself and feel stupid.
I feel so mad at myself for overlooking many red flags from early on.
Posted by ImpulsvDamnnnnnn I guess it really IS necessary!!
Don't fnd this as stalking
Info is public
They dumb enough to track runnkeeper with the wife
I've ruled out four people who presented themselves as single when married
Did you confront them or you just ghost them?
Posted by ImpulsvOh yes, I should've listened to my gut. I remember I always had extreme anxiety when he's gone for his trips.... And this is going to sound even more stupid: Because of the extreme anxiety, I asked an online psychic about this guy, and the pyschic told me that this guy likes me, it will be long-term, and be patient.
Trust ur gut if something feels off then pull back observe research
This is my public service message
The word stalking keeps being drown
This isn't stalking
It's leveling the Plain field
I listened to the psychic and tried to be "patient"--- well, obviously that was the worse idea ever.
I should've listened to my gut instead. Stupid me.
Posted by whatisthisallaboutHis sister and him eventually confessing. But still played the victim when he did.Posted by shaymaciDman. He's very fertile
Yep.
A wife, 4 kids with her, and 9 kids with others.
Also didn't tell me he was a mental patient, narcissistic sociopath.
Or abusive.
Fuck them. ???
There's better men out there.
How did you find that out?click to expand
He also hid his meth habit.
Posted by whatisthisallaboutExactly!Posted by shaymaciI KNOW!!!Posted by whatisthisallaboutHis shit not adding up.Posted by tctaThank you. I am glad that I find that out. When we were dating, he'd plan the most romantic dates and then disappaer for weeks at a time, telling me that he's visiting his family in other states or for work... and then reappear. I was puzzlied but I guess it all makes sense now. This pattern is probably typical for guys who juggle between multiple lives.
think about this guy as a human being - who, for whatever reason, does not tell the truth - and that's not a little white lie - or it is to him - shallow person he is - he just wanted to be free and get some and not have any worries
I think he is just a terrible human and I feel bad for his children - he is probably a crappy father - who would want a father who "isn't quite right" ...
there is nothing you can do about him pulling the wool over your eyes for a time - but it didn't go on that long and you found out about it - although it seems like you got a few feels for him - it isn't real because he isn't real
brush the dirt off and get back out there - and be smarter each time you get knocked down - that's all - nothing more or less - it is what it is
Yes, I will remind myself that what I felt isn't real because he's not real, nothing about him is real. Everything was built on a lie.
Any tips on exposing liars/cheaters early on?
Lies not making sense.
Pay attention ladies.
And guess what? That's when girls get fucked over by dating advice books. They try to tell girls to be respectful of guys' "cave time". But god knows, for some men, this becomes their perfect excuse to juggle beween multiple people and not to get caught!click to expand
I'm sticking to astrology.
Posted by whatisthisallaboutI felt like that too. Then I realized it was his fault. Not mine. That he was just shitty. And I deserved better. I started loving myself.Posted by shaymaciAlso, how did you get over it?
Yep.
A wife, 4 kids with her, and 9 kids with others.
Also didn't tell me he was a mental patient, narcissistic sociopath.
Or abusive.
Fuck them. ???
There's better men out there.
I feel it is very hard not to blame myself and feel stupid.
I feel so mad at myself for overlooking many red flags from early on.click to expand
Posted by ImpulsvWow. I can't believe that he lied to everyone he worked with!Posted by whatisthisallaboutSome I confronted others didn't waste my timePosted by ImpulsvDamnnnnnn I guess it really IS necessary!!
Don't fnd this as stalking
Info is public
They dumb enough to track runnkeeper with the wife
I've ruled out four people who presented themselves as single when married
Did you confront them or you just ghost them?
One told every single person he worked with he was single been there nine years! Wears no ring. Freind thought it was good to set up.
Met for lunch exchanged numbers
For two weeks he only called n messaged during works ours mmmmmm? Red flags
I did my search on Google found his fb runkeeper then saw his tag saw wife's Pinterest then bingo confirmed picture together on social media days prior.
I told him him oh your married
He squirmed like a dog
Said he just living together because housing market crashed ... blah blah marriage bad no love
Told him jig is up.
That's oneclick to expand
I was just thinking maybe I will only date people I meet in real life.
But I guess even so, there's no garantee that if a friend's friend who claims to be single is actually single!
A friend of mine just told me this Amazon engineer she met is still married. He told her he's divorced but then I think she suspected something and then he admitted that they didn't sign the paper work yet--his wife just left and moved to another state one day. smh
Posted by shaymaciSo glad you got out of it! Good for you!Posted by whatisthisallaboutHis sister and him eventually confessing. But still played the victim when he did.Posted by shaymaciDman. He's very fertile
Yep.
A wife, 4 kids with her, and 9 kids with others.
Also didn't tell me he was a mental patient, narcissistic sociopath.
Or abusive.
Fuck them. ???
There's better men out there.
How did you find that out?
He also hid his meth habit.click to expand
Posted by shaymaciWhat did you do to improve self love? I feel I am in a place where I feel so ashamed of my stupidity of trusting/falling for this guy in the first placePosted by whatisthisallaboutI felt like that too. Then I realized it was his fault. Not mine. That he was just shitty. And I deserved better. I started loving myself.Posted by shaymaciAlso, how did you get over it?
Yep.
A wife, 4 kids with her, and 9 kids with others.
Also didn't tell me he was a mental patient, narcissistic sociopath.
Or abusive.
Fuck them. ???
There's better men out there.
I feel it is very hard not to blame myself and feel stupid.
I feel so mad at myself for overlooking many red flags from early on.click to expand
Posted by whatisthisallaboutI enjoyed my freedom. I dressed up. I went out. I had fun. I did things I wanted to do.Posted by shaymaciWhat did you do to improve self love? I feel I am in a place where I feel so ashamed of my stupidity of trusting/falling for this guy in the first placePosted by whatisthisallaboutI felt like that too. Then I realized it was his fault. Not mine. That he was just shitty. And I deserved better. I started loving myself.Posted by shaymaciAlso, how did you get over it?
Yep.
A wife, 4 kids with her, and 9 kids with others.
Also didn't tell me he was a mental patient, narcissistic sociopath.
Or abusive.
Fuck them. ???
There's better men out there.
I feel it is very hard not to blame myself and feel stupid.
I feel so mad at myself for overlooking many red flags from early on.click to expand
He was very controlling.
I also got rid of any reminders of him.
Posted by whatisthisallaboutStop beating yourself up!Posted by shaymaciAlso, how did you get over it?
Yep.
A wife, 4 kids with her, and 9 kids with others.
Also didn't tell me he was a mental patient, narcissistic sociopath.
Or abusive.
Fuck them. ???
There's better men out there.
I feel it is very hard not to blame myself and feel stupid.
I feel so mad at myself for overlooking many red flags from early on.click to expand
You did a right thing!
You felt non-kosher crap...you had researched. You found out...crap!
I would get over it right on the spot!
But it's Gemini thing...
Now! Just think how lucky you are to be not 'fallen in love' prey but a woman who knows how to go about IF you feel wrong!
?
Posted by shaymaciThanks for sharing. I am an introvert, but I guess I should try to get out more and do things.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI enjoyed my freedom. I dressed up. I went out. I had fun. I did things I wanted to do.Posted by shaymaciWhat did you do to improve self love? I feel I am in a place where I feel so ashamed of my stupidity of trusting/falling for this guy in the first placePosted by whatisthisallaboutI felt like that too. Then I realized it was his fault. Not mine. That he was just shitty. And I deserved better. I started loving myself.Posted by shaymaciAlso, how did you get over it?
Yep.
A wife, 4 kids with her, and 9 kids with others.
Also didn't tell me he was a mental patient, narcissistic sociopath.
Or abusive.
Fuck them. ???
There's better men out there.
I feel it is very hard not to blame myself and feel stupid.
I feel so mad at myself for overlooking many red flags from early on.
He was very controlling.
I also got rid of any reminders of him.click to expand
I guess even if I stay at home, I can still dress up and make myself look pretty :p
Posted by whatisthisallaboutAnything to remind you that you're beautiful.Posted by shaymaciThanks for sharing. I am an introvert, but I guess I should try to get out more and do things.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI enjoyed my freedom. I dressed up. I went out. I had fun. I did things I wanted to do.Posted by shaymaciWhat did you do to improve self love? I feel I am in a place where I feel so ashamed of my stupidity of trusting/falling for this guy in the first placePosted by whatisthisallaboutI felt like that too. Then I realized it was his fault. Not mine. That he was just shitty. And I deserved better. I started loving myself.Posted by shaymaciAlso, how did you get over it?
Yep.
A wife, 4 kids with her, and 9 kids with others.
Also didn't tell me he was a mental patient, narcissistic sociopath.
Or abusive.
Fuck them. ???
There's better men out there.
I feel it is very hard not to blame myself and feel stupid.
I feel so mad at myself for overlooking many red flags from early on.
He was very controlling.
I also got rid of any reminders of him.
I guess even if I stay at home, I can still dress up and make myself look pretty :pclick to expand
And he's not worthy of YOU.
Posted by GemitatiThank you. I do notice that my gemini friends all move on very quickly, including my ex lolPosted by whatisthisallaboutStop beating yourself up!Posted by shaymaciAlso, how did you get over it?
Yep.
A wife, 4 kids with her, and 9 kids with others.
Also didn't tell me he was a mental patient, narcissistic sociopath.
Or abusive.
Fuck them. ???
There's better men out there.
I feel it is very hard not to blame myself and feel stupid.
I feel so mad at myself for overlooking many red flags from early on.
You did a right thing!
You felt non-kosher crap...you had researched. You found out...crap!
I would get over it right on the spot!
But it's Gemini thing...
Now! Just think how lucky you are to be not 'fallen in love' prey but a woman who knows how to go about IF you feel wrong!
?click to expand
I remember I was still crying over my gemini ex 2 months after we broke up, but only to find out he's got a new gf
Damn, now I really wish I were a gemini...
Posted by MiaouThat's ture. I probably would not be able to function normally, if I were still with him while finding that out...
Could be worse...you could still be dating the guy..and finding this out now..
Posted by shaymaciThank you! I need that.Posted by whatisthisallaboutAnything to remind you that you're beautiful.Posted by shaymaciThanks for sharing. I am an introvert, but I guess I should try to get out more and do things.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI enjoyed my freedom. I dressed up. I went out. I had fun. I did things I wanted to do.Posted by shaymaciWhat did you do to improve self love? I feel I am in a place where I feel so ashamed of my stupidity of trusting/falling for this guy in the first placePosted by whatisthisallaboutI felt like that too. Then I realized it was his fault. Not mine. That he was just shitty. And I deserved better. I started loving myself.Posted by shaymaciAlso, how did you get over it?
Yep.
A wife, 4 kids with her, and 9 kids with others.
Also didn't tell me he was a mental patient, narcissistic sociopath.
Or abusive.
Fuck them. ???
There's better men out there.
I feel it is very hard not to blame myself and feel stupid.
I feel so mad at myself for overlooking many red flags from early on.
He was very controlling.
I also got rid of any reminders of him.
I guess even if I stay at home, I can still dress up and make myself look pretty :p
And he's not worthy of YOU.click to expand
I am trying very hard not to think that this happened to me because of something wrong with me.
Posted by whatisthisallaboutNoooo baby!Posted by GemitatiThank you. I do notice that my gemini friends all move on very quickly, including my ex lolPosted by whatisthisallaboutStop beating yourself up!Posted by shaymaciAlso, how did you get over it?
Yep.
A wife, 4 kids with her, and 9 kids with others.
Also didn't tell me he was a mental patient, narcissistic sociopath.
Or abusive.
Fuck them. ???
There's better men out there.
I feel it is very hard not to blame myself and feel stupid.
I feel so mad at myself for overlooking many red flags from early on.
You did a right thing!
You felt non-kosher crap...you had researched. You found out...crap!
I would get over it right on the spot!
But it's Gemini thing...
Now! Just think how lucky you are to be not 'fallen in love' prey but a woman who knows how to go about IF you feel wrong!
?
I remember I was still crying over my gemini ex 2 months after we broke up, but only to find out he's got a new gf
Damn, now I really wish I were a gemini...click to expand
We sing get over quickly!
Only if we hurt or betrayed or screwed up in any other way.
I am waiting to get rid of one Scorpio ass for 8 years but he had never failed to make me feel like I am IT! ?
So...I am still waiting...
And good luck! Btw share your phsychic with me. You can pm or here.
Thanks! ❤️
Posted by whatisthisallaboutNothing is wrong with you.Posted by shaymaciThank you! I need that.Posted by whatisthisallaboutAnything to remind you that you're beautiful.Posted by shaymaciThanks for sharing. I am an introvert, but I guess I should try to get out more and do things.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI enjoyed my freedom. I dressed up. I went out. I had fun. I did things I wanted to do.Posted by shaymaciWhat did you do to improve self love? I feel I am in a place where I feel so ashamed of my stupidity of trusting/falling for this guy in the first placePosted by whatisthisallaboutI felt like that too. Then I realized it was his fault. Not mine. That he was just shitty. And I deserved better. I started loving myself.Posted by shaymaciAlso, how did you get over it?
Yep.
A wife, 4 kids with her, and 9 kids with others.
Also didn't tell me he was a mental patient, narcissistic sociopath.
Or abusive.
Fuck them. ???
There's better men out there.
I feel it is very hard not to blame myself and feel stupid.
I feel so mad at myself for overlooking many red flags from early on.
He was very controlling.
I also got rid of any reminders of him.
I guess even if I stay at home, I can still dress up and make myself look pretty :p
And he's not worthy of YOU.
I am trying very hard not to think that this happened to me because of something wrong with me.click to expand
Posted by GemitatiJust send you her links. Let me know what you think of her readings if you do get one.Posted by whatisthisallaboutNoooo baby!Posted by GemitatiThank you. I do notice that my gemini friends all move on very quickly, including my ex lolPosted by whatisthisallaboutStop beating yourself up!Posted by shaymaciAlso, how did you get over it?
Yep.
A wife, 4 kids with her, and 9 kids with others.
Also didn't tell me he was a mental patient, narcissistic sociopath.
Or abusive.
Fuck them. ???
There's better men out there.
I feel it is very hard not to blame myself and feel stupid.
I feel so mad at myself for overlooking many red flags from early on.
You did a right thing!
You felt non-kosher crap...you had researched. You found out...crap!
I would get over it right on the spot!
But it's Gemini thing...
Now! Just think how lucky you are to be not 'fallen in love' prey but a woman who knows how to go about IF you feel wrong!
?
I remember I was still crying over my gemini ex 2 months after we broke up, but only to find out he's got a new gf
Damn, now I really wish I were a gemini...
We sing get over quickly!
Only if we hurt or betrayed or screwed up in any other way.
I am waiting to get rid of one Scorpio ass for 8 years but he had never failed to make me feel like I am IT! ?
So...I am still waiting...
And good luck! Btw share your phsychic with me. You can pm or here.
Thanks! ❤️click to expand
This is the first time I use this reader.
Posted by shaymaciThank youPosted by whatisthisallaboutNothing is wrong with you.Posted by shaymaciThank you! I need that.Posted by whatisthisallaboutAnything to remind you that you're beautiful.Posted by shaymaciThanks for sharing. I am an introvert, but I guess I should try to get out more and do things.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI enjoyed my freedom. I dressed up. I went out. I had fun. I did things I wanted to do.Posted by shaymaciWhat did you do to improve self love? I feel I am in a place where I feel so ashamed of my stupidity of trusting/falling for this guy in the first placePosted by whatisthisallaboutI felt like that too. Then I realized it was his fault. Not mine. That he was just shitty. And I deserved better. I started loving myself.Posted by shaymaciAlso, how did you get over it?
Yep.
A wife, 4 kids with her, and 9 kids with others.
Also didn't tell me he was a mental patient, narcissistic sociopath.
Or abusive.
Fuck them. ???
There's better men out there.
I feel it is very hard not to blame myself and feel stupid.
I feel so mad at myself for overlooking many red flags from early on.
He was very controlling.
I also got rid of any reminders of him.
I guess even if I stay at home, I can still dress up and make myself look pretty :p
And he's not worthy of YOU.
I am trying very hard not to think that this happened to me because of something wrong with me.click to expand
Posted by whatisthisallaboutYou're welcome ❤Posted by shaymaciThank youPosted by whatisthisallaboutNothing is wrong with you.Posted by shaymaciThank you! I need that.Posted by whatisthisallaboutAnything to remind you that you're beautiful.Posted by shaymaciThanks for sharing. I am an introvert, but I guess I should try to get out more and do things.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI enjoyed my freedom. I dressed up. I went out. I had fun. I did things I wanted to do.Posted by shaymaciWhat did you do to improve self love? I feel I am in a place where I feel so ashamed of my stupidity of trusting/falling for this guy in the first placePosted by whatisthisallaboutI felt like that too. Then I realized it was his fault. Not mine. That he was just shitty. And I deserved better. I started loving myself.Posted by shaymaciAlso, how did you get over it?
Yep.
A wife, 4 kids with her, and 9 kids with others.
Also didn't tell me he was a mental patient, narcissistic sociopath.
Or abusive.
Fuck them. ???
There's better men out there.
I feel it is very hard not to blame myself and feel stupid.
I feel so mad at myself for overlooking many red flags from early on.
He was very controlling.
I also got rid of any reminders of him.
I guess even if I stay at home, I can still dress up and make myself look pretty :p
And he's not worthy of YOU.
I am trying very hard not to think that this happened to me because of something wrong with me.click to expand
Posted by MiaouI know!! Damn, I think I should just adopt a cat!Posted by whatisthisallaboutWell...yeah. I mean what else could he have lied about ...Posted by MiaouThat's ture. I probably would not be able to function normally, if I were still with him while finding that out...
Could be worse...you could still be dating the guy..and finding this out now..
click to expand
Posted by whatisthisallaboutI don't have any - and I could have shut the door on some innocent ones just because they seemed washy - I wish I did but I go by intuition and try very hard not to get feels too soon because that is too blindingPosted by tctaThank you. I am glad that I find that out. When we were dating, he'd plan the most romantic dates and then disappaer for weeks at a time, telling me that he's visiting his family in other states or for work... and then reappear. I was puzzlied but I guess it all makes sense now. This pattern is probably typical for guys who juggle between multiple lives.
think about this guy as a human being - who, for whatever reason, does not tell the truth - and that's not a little white lie - or it is to him - shallow person he is - he just wanted to be free and get some and not have any worries
I think he is just a terrible human and I feel bad for his children - he is probably a crappy father - who would want a father who "isn't quite right" ...
there is nothing you can do about him pulling the wool over your eyes for a time - but it didn't go on that long and you found out about it - although it seems like you got a few feels for him - it isn't real because he isn't real
brush the dirt off and get back out there - and be smarter each time you get knocked down - that's all - nothing more or less - it is what it is
Yes, I will remind myself that what I felt isn't real because he's not real, nothing about him is real. Everything was built on a lie.
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Posted by tctaOh I do that too. I have been brunt so many times so sometimes I over-react and cut off the innocent ones. For example, there were times I freaked out on people because they did not return my text within a reasonable amount of time, but only to find out that something bad actually happened to the person...Posted by whatisthisallaboutI don't have any - and I could have shut the door on some innocent ones just because they seemed washy - I wish I did but I go by intuition and try very hard not to get feels too soon because that is too blindingPosted by tctaThank you. I am glad that I find that out. When we were dating, he'd plan the most romantic dates and then disappaer for weeks at a time, telling me that he's visiting his family in other states or for work... and then reappear. I was puzzlied but I guess it all makes sense now. This pattern is probably typical for guys who juggle between multiple lives.
think about this guy as a human being - who, for whatever reason, does not tell the truth - and that's not a little white lie - or it is to him - shallow person he is - he just wanted to be free and get some and not have any worries
I think he is just a terrible human and I feel bad for his children - he is probably a crappy father - who would want a father who "isn't quite right" ...
there is nothing you can do about him pulling the wool over your eyes for a time - but it didn't go on that long and you found out about it - although it seems like you got a few feels for him - it isn't real because he isn't real
brush the dirt off and get back out there - and be smarter each time you get knocked down - that's all - nothing more or less - it is what it is
Yes, I will remind myself that what I felt isn't real because he's not real, nothing about him is real. Everything was built on a lie.
Any tips on exposing liars/cheaters early on?click to expand
Posted by xghyHahaha. more detials polese
I don't get over a "big fat lie".
It's my weakness.
Posted by xghyhaha cool, any psycho confession? :pPosted by whatisthisallaboutIt brings the worst out of me.Posted by xghyHahaha. more detials polese
I don't get over a "big fat lie".
It's my weakness.click to expand
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