guys are weird
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by crow on Saturday, December 14, 2013 and has 7 replies.
hello there
so a few days ago me and the guy I was going out with, kissed, it was our first kiss and I was expecting something different, his kiss was really soft, too soft, no tongue at all, no biting, nothing! just lips touching and light kisses. i thought it was a bit weird but didn't mind, then few days later we had sex and he was as i expected him to be, very aggressive, i don't understand how can he kiss so softly and then be that aggressive in bed.
it doesn't make much sense. I tried to kiss him with tongue and he didn't respond back, he ONCE tried to use tongue but never again (we were in bed).
Is kissing with tongue associated with the how much he likes me or something? for instance, he doesn't kiss me with tongue because he doesn't want to be serious with our relationship? because I've heard some guys say that they don't kiss girls with tongue if they're not serious about them.
I never though much about kisses because I never had any problem with it, is just this particular guy who's different and I don't understand how can he kiss that softly and be that aggressive in bed.
so a few days ago me and the guy I was going out with, kissed, it was our first kiss and I was expecting something different, his kiss was really soft, too soft, no tongue at all, no biting, nothing! just lips touching and light kisses. i thought it was a bit weird but didn't mind, then few days later we had sex and he was as i expected him to be, very aggressive, i don't understand how can he kiss so softly and then be that aggressive in bed.
it doesn't make much sense. I tried to kiss him with tongue and he didn't respond back, he ONCE tried to use tongue but never again (we were in bed).
Is kissing with tongue associated with the how much he likes me or something? for instance, he doesn't kiss me with tongue because he doesn't want to be serious with our relationship? because I've heard some guys say that they don't kiss girls with tongue if they're not serious about them.
I never though much about kisses because I never had any problem with it, is just this particular guy who's different and I don't understand how can he kiss that softly and be that aggressive in bed.
I'm the opposite, kissing is the try before you buy for me and chances are it stops there especially if they come up with the excuse from the get go that they don't want to get into a serious relationship, there's no free ticket after that statement!
Posted by tizianiPosted by caliberPosted by tiziani
I've never understood people who can kiss others freely but then say they could never sleep around because that's beneath them. Kissing means a lot to me. Beta life.
I agree. I've always thought kissing was one the most intimate things you can do with someone.
Yeah, this is me too.click to expand
i triple agree with ya'll....
Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman, she didnt want to kiss her clients. Was such an intimate, personal action to do.
The world is a very very scary place when you hold yourself back from kissing someone with tongue because you feel it's intimate and quite openly spread your legs and let someone enter you or enter someone else!!!
You guys seriously scare me!!
You guys seriously scare me!!
Posted by sweethearts
.... excuse from the get go that they don't want to get into a serious relationship, there's no free ticket after that statement!
Every person is different, and that is why people are suppose to treat intimate relations with this in mind, so that you are able to form a union on being real.
Below is the only issue I see here ... and it's yours.
Below is the only issue I see here ... and it's yours.
Posted by crow
... as i expected him to be ...
Crow- Have you tried just asking him? Not from an attacking stance, but from a general curiosity?
Some people I know are afraid to use tongue. They've heard many stories where people have ridiculed others for their use of lack of use, and they are very self conscious about it. Some people I know don't do it because it's their kissing style , and finally some people don't because as others have said, it's just too intimate.
Aggressive sex isn't always an indicator of anything either. I once dated a gentlemen who was aggressive in bed. After many discussions, exploration, and developing a bond, he became a very gentle and passionate lover to me. Even admitted he was not that way with anyone else, and probably would not be that way with anyone. Aggressive sex could be an indicator that he isn't that emotionally connected to be able to go to the levels of "love making." Or it could be their style tool.
You'll never know until you ask.
Some people I know are afraid to use tongue. They've heard many stories where people have ridiculed others for their use of lack of use, and they are very self conscious about it. Some people I know don't do it because it's their kissing style , and finally some people don't because as others have said, it's just too intimate.
Aggressive sex isn't always an indicator of anything either. I once dated a gentlemen who was aggressive in bed. After many discussions, exploration, and developing a bond, he became a very gentle and passionate lover to me. Even admitted he was not that way with anyone else, and probably would not be that way with anyone. Aggressive sex could be an indicator that he isn't that emotionally connected to be able to go to the levels of "love making." Or it could be their style tool.
You'll never know until you ask.
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