Hard time finding your flavor?

Seems like an age since I really enjoyed a mans' company, someone to talk to and laugh with and make you smile. It feels rather lonely at times even though my life is completely filled with friends and family and social activity. There are always plenty of offers or attention but nothing that attracts me enough to want to open myself up to, I'm starting to think that i'm too fussy. I can see a thousand guys and not look twice at any of them, I'm looking for what I like to call "my flavor"

Anyone else out there also have these droughts, mine last 10 months and longer...

Do you feel that you should drop some of your requirements...for instance I like brown guys and preferrable from my own country even though I live in Australia, (there are plenty here though)i find that we have more in common with upbringing and just the whole nationalistic pride. Easy conversation etc, my guard drops and I automatically feel comfortable around my own..


I've also read alot of threads here and people seem to date different men quite frequently, I dont see the point in going out with someone that I'm not interested in from the first meeting...should I?

Nah, no point in going out with someone you're not into (one way or the other) to begin with. I have this Serbian friend, she's kind of very into her "heritage" and stuff, so she keeps running after these Serbian guys, but they all let her down eventually because she refuses to believe that Mr. Right isn't gonna come in a certain clothing. He might, if she could go through every Serb there is, but's that's a life mission. So being too locked into ethnicity/nationality is not a good thing.

being too locked into ethnicity/nationality is not a good thing.

It's just that I'm comfortable around these people...really comfortable as I grew up with alot of them and in saying that I'm half asian/european so not one of them at all! lol

But I understand and love there way of life. My brothers all of them like blondes with big boobs and I'd never look at a blonde...guy

I personally think that you have to have similar upbringings to be able to get along in a relationship. Then you won't have alot of small stuff to sweat over ie: what's exceptable around the home, friends dropping by unannounced and staying. Some people are scheduled and diaried and I'm relaxed and spur of the moment...try getting those 2 in a relationship and watch the fireworks!

And NO I dont think I can compromise either but then I couldn't just serial date...I'm librian and find it hard to then tell them, sorry not interested in you but then I knew that from the first time I met you and thought maybe by some slim chance i'm wrong....I find it's easier if I make up some sometimes lame excuse from the get-go...

I don't think it's a bad thing to know what you're attracted to! I am half mexican but can't find myself attracted to mexican men..although there was one.

I'm like OFA, I'll go out with somebody if they ask and if they're not completely unattractive to me. I try not to let first impressions weigh too much on my total impression of the person. But I have been asked out by MANY MANY mexican men - because they have no fear when it comes to asking out a woman - and turned them ALL down.

Standards and pickiness are a good thing, but you might be careful not to put too much thought into what kind relationship material they guy might make before really getting to know him.

I'm dating a guy right now who is a total right brain, and I'm a left. He's clean, organized, scheduled. I'm a wreck but creative and spontaneous. It's amazing! Really, we're both excited by each other and find that we benefit one another more than we could have imagined.

I suppose it feels safer to people to pad thier box with familiar comforts, than it is to broaden horizons outside of the box, where territory has yet been trod.

I suppose it feels safer to people to pad thier box with familiar comforts, than it is to broaden horizons outside of the box, where territory has yet been trod.

Maybe that's true with me & I should take a look outside the square...who knows will give that some thought.



I'm dating a guy right now who is a total right brain, and I'm a left. He's clean, organized, scheduled. I'm a wreck but creative and spontaneous. It's amazing! Really, we're both excited by each other and find that we benefit one another more than we could have imagined.

I was married for 20 years and we were chalk & cheese...what started out to be fab ended in what divided us completely. Having famililar likings, interests or things in common may have helped. Socially I was the extrovert & he an introvert and that possibly had dire results. I'm punctual as well and boy do I have a hard time with a frivolous timekeeper!! I know as my daughters are all like my ex in that sense!!! It may be small stuff in the beginning but after years it becomes BIG!!


Problem is 2nd time around you tend to have a huge list of what is exceptable and what definetly is NOT!!

"what started out to be fab ended in what divided us completely"



Well, that sucks .... that the division is so complete .. maybe having children together will force the two of you to have a bridge of some kind, even if it's only for the sake of the kids.

No P, dont get me wrong we actually have maintained the friendship through it all and that has helped the children come to terms with it.

Although at times it wasn't easy but only because of others imput we managed to overcome all issues are both happier people and still good friends🙂