Have any of you ever finally met your dream man, loved him so much that you would die without him..

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by pooface222 on Saturday, May 11, 2019 and has 29 replies.
...then messed things up and lost him anyway?

😢

And now you want to die!
Nah cause I'm taking him with me 🔪🔪🔪🤪🤪😂
Dont die without me. Die for me
Posted by ClairDeLune

Posted by LostinmyMind11

Nah cause I'm taking him with me 🔪🔪🔪🤪🤪😂
Lmfao girl!!!!! Damn
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😂😂. Maybe I should add a disclaimer?!


Disclaimer: do not...I repeat do not take him with you!! And I will not be responsible for any of OP actions against who they are talking about. Good luck and God speed.
Seriously tho...we've all been there. This too shall pass...hang in there!
Don't ever never ever never make other person your top 1 priority. I can't emphasize it enough.

If you find someone that fits in your life and adds value, that's great! Enjoy your time.

But don't ever see other human as God or Godess, they gonna walk you over to give the most painful lesson you ever have.

Coming from someone who had this experience. It took years of recovery, digging into myself, reading relatable books, crying in solitude to find myself and my strenght again.

And this is the advice I send out right now. People change, fickle and die but you are always with you. Make your life meaningful without building the core to be someone else.





Posted by kaseke9

Don't ever never ever never make other person your top 1 priority. I can't emphasize it enough.

If you find someone that fits in your life and adds value, that's great! Enjoy your time.

But don't ever see other human as God or Godess, they gonna walk you over to give the most painful lesson you ever have.

Coming from someone who had this experience. It took years of recovery, digging into myself, reading relatable books, crying in solitude to find myself and my strenght again.

And this is the advice I send out right now. People change, fickle and die but you are always with you. Make your life meaningful without building the core to be someone else.





Best answer
No way!

My "dream man's" life isn't more valuable than my own 🙄

No one could ever be that important 🤦
Been there

Done that

Cringing

At the memory

😬🌝🌚

It's the hardest pill to swallow, but one that cures you from many other diseases you didn't know you had.
Posted by ClairDeLune

Awwww love, what happened?
Hi ya x

I've talked about this guy on other forums so I'll keep it short. Or will try lol!

He has stayed away from me since I hurt him in December. We're kind of talking again but sadly after not talking to me for 4 momths, hes changed towards me and its killing me.

He's a very sensitive Pisces yet I forgot how sensitive he is because of the stress of my divorce!

By Decmember last year, we had spent most of the summer together, and things were going beautifully. Until I f**ked them up.

The short version is he trained to become a fitness instructor like me. He had always come to my classes and loved the way I teach.

Our relationship is perfect. He's my soul Mate and from the first time we met, it felt Meant to Be. It was like I'd known him my whole life.

Anyway he came to my class in the Tuesday after spending the weekend training on his course. He texted me the night before to ask me if he can teach with me up at the front of my class with me.

I texted back "Not until you can behave yourself." I said this because in my classes (fir the years before he qualified), he knows the routine so well that he knows when I have gone slightly wrong and gives me a look. I didn't mind to start with. Then it began to piss me off having him always point out when I've gone wrong. Especially when he was not an instructor himself.

So by behaving himself I meant I didn't want him correcting ever again. It's f**king annoying! And disrespectful I feel.

So after me texting him to Behave himself he turned up in my class 6.30am Tues morning and asked AGAIN if he can teach with me. I was already annoyed to see him.due to his disrespect so u replied "Nope."

He stood there and stood there. I had to look him in the eyes this time and say "No you're not!"

So he looked upset and joined the members to do the class instead.

Halfway through the class he CORRECTED ME!!! FFS! So I GLARED at him.HARD and mouthed "Fuck Off" at him because it finally had enough of his corrections.

But sadly he looked like he was going to cry. Packed his things and slowly walked out of my class!

I couldn't chase or follow him because I didn't want my members to know anything is going on between us.

I felt AWFUL! I HATED myself!

I realise now the poor guy was actually just trying to help. He had just done his training only 2 days before. He was excited about coming to my class and he even asked me if he could teach with me the night before.

So when I made a mistake and he corrected me, he did so as a fellow instructor. He was just trying to help.

But I got defensive and horrible!

I'm going through a painful divorce so my head isn't right at the moment.

He never came back. He ignored my texts and he blocked me too.

Now we're talking again, he treats me differently. It's like we are aquaintances! We met 5yrs ago ffs!

I'm sorry this is so long!

Posted by pooface222

Posted by ClairDeLune

Awwww love, what happened?
Hi ya x

I've talked about this guy on other forums so I'll keep it short. Or will try lol!

He has stayed away from me since I hurt him in December. We're kind of talking again but sadly after not talking to me for 4 momths, hes changed towards me and its killing me.

He's a very sensitive Pisces yet I forgot how sensitive he is because of the stress of my divorce!

By Decmember last year, we had spent most of the summer together, and things were going beautifully. Until I f**ked them up.

The short version is he trained to become a fitness instructor like me. He had always come to my classes and loved the way I teach.

Our relationship is perfect. He's my soul Mate and from the first time we met, it felt Meant to Be. It was like I'd known him my whole life.

Anyway he came to my class in the Tuesday after spending the weekend training on his course. He texted me the night before to ask me if he can teach with me up at the front of my class with me.

I texted back "Not until you can behave yourself." I said this because in my classes (fir the years before he qualified), he knows the routine so well that he knows when I have gone slightly wrong and gives me a look. I didn't mind to start with. Then it began to piss me off having him always point out when I've gone wrong. Especially when he was not an instructor himself.

So by behaving himself I meant I didn't want him correcting ever again. It's f**king annoying! And disrespectful I feel.

So after me texting him to Behave himself he turned up in my class 6.30am Tues morning and asked AGAIN if he can teach with me. I was already annoyed to see him.due to his disrespect so u replied "Nope."

He stood there and stood there. I had to look him in the eyes this time and say "No you're not!"

So he looked upset and joined the members to do the class instead.

Halfway through the class he CORRECTED ME!!! FFS! So I GLARED at him.HARD and mouthed "Fuck Off" at him because it finally had enough of his corrections.

But sadly he looked like he was going to cry. Packed his things and slowly walked out of my class!

I couldn't chase or follow him because I didn't want my members to know anything is going on between us.

I felt AWFUL! I HATED myself!

I realise now the poor guy was actually just trying to help. He had just done his training only 2 days before. He was excited about coming to my class and he even asked me if he could teach with me the night before.

So when I made a mistake and he corrected me, he did so as a fellow instructor. He was just trying to help.

But I got defensive and horrible!

I'm going through a painful divorce so my head isn't right at the moment.

He never came back. He ignored my texts and he blocked me too.

Now we're talking again, he treats me differently. It's like we are aquaintances! We met 5yrs ago ffs!

I'm sorry this is so long!

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and I thought its serious

smile

do you use "big words" in your everyday life as well?

I dont see anything in that story what warrants to "die for" mutual big love
Posted by Pandora101

Posted by pooface222

Posted by ClairDeLune

Awwww love, what happened?
Hi ya x

I've talked about this guy on other forums so I'll keep it short. Or will try lol!

He has stayed away from me since I hurt him in December. We're kind of talking again but sadly after not talking to me for 4 momths, hes changed towards me and its killing me.

He's a very sensitive Pisces yet I forgot how sensitive he is because of the stress of my divorce!

By Decmember last year, we had spent most of the summer together, and things were going beautifully. Until I f**ked them up.

The short version is he trained to become a fitness instructor like me. He had always come to my classes and loved the way I teach.

Our relationship is perfect. He's my soul Mate and from the first time we met, it felt Meant to Be. It was like I'd known him my whole life.

Anyway he came to my class in the Tuesday after spending the weekend training on his course. He texted me the night before to ask me if he can teach with me up at the front of my class with me.

I texted back "Not until you can behave yourself." I said this because in my classes (fir the years before he qualified), he knows the routine so well that he knows when I have gone slightly wrong and gives me a look. I didn't mind to start with. Then it began to piss me off having him always point out when I've gone wrong. Especially when he was not an instructor himself.

So by behaving himself I meant I didn't want him correcting ever again. It's f**king annoying! And disrespectful I feel.

So after me texting him to Behave himself he turned up in my class 6.30am Tues morning and asked AGAIN if he can teach with me. I was already annoyed to see him.due to his disrespect so u replied "Nope."

He stood there and stood there. I had to look him in the eyes this time and say "No you're not!"

So he looked upset and joined the members to do the class instead.

Halfway through the class he CORRECTED ME!!! FFS! So I GLARED at him.HARD and mouthed "Fuck Off" at him because it finally had enough of his corrections.

But sadly he looked like he was going to cry. Packed his things and slowly walked out of my class!

I couldn't chase or follow him because I didn't want my members to know anything is going on between us.

I felt AWFUL! I HATED myself!

I realise now the poor guy was actually just trying to help. He had just done his training only 2 days before. He was excited about coming to my class and he even asked me if he could teach with me the night before.

So when I made a mistake and he corrected me, he did so as a fellow instructor. He was just trying to help.

But I got defensive and horrible!

I'm going through a painful divorce so my head isn't right at the moment.

He never came back. He ignored my texts and he blocked me too.

Now we're talking again, he treats me differently. It's like we are aquaintances! We met 5yrs ago ffs!

I'm sorry this is so long!

and I thought its serious

smile

do you use "big words" in your everyday life as well?

I dont see anything in that story what warrants to "die for" mutual big love
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There's so much more I haven't said about our relationship.

I could sit here and type out everything that's ever happened but it will be a book on here!

So instead I have simply focussed in the screw up I made to ask people what they think.
Posted by pooface222

Posted by Pandora101

Posted by pooface222

Posted by ClairDeLune

Awwww love, what happened?
Hi ya x

I've talked about this guy on other forums so I'll keep it short. Or will try lol!

He has stayed away from me since I hurt him in December. We're kind of talking again but sadly after not talking to me for 4 momths, hes changed towards me and its killing me.

He's a very sensitive Pisces yet I forgot how sensitive he is because of the stress of my divorce!

By Decmember last year, we had spent most of the summer together, and things were going beautifully. Until I f**ked them up.

The short version is he trained to become a fitness instructor like me. He had always come to my classes and loved the way I teach.

Our relationship is perfect. He's my soul Mate and from the first time we met, it felt Meant to Be. It was like I'd known him my whole life.

Anyway he came to my class in the Tuesday after spending the weekend training on his course. He texted me the night before to ask me if he can teach with me up at the front of my class with me.

I texted back "Not until you can behave yourself." I said this because in my classes (fir the years before he qualified), he knows the routine so well that he knows when I have gone slightly wrong and gives me a look. I didn't mind to start with. Then it began to piss me off having him always point out when I've gone wrong. Especially when he was not an instructor himself.

So by behaving himself I meant I didn't want him correcting ever again. It's f**king annoying! And disrespectful I feel.

So after me texting him to Behave himself he turned up in my class 6.30am Tues morning and asked AGAIN if he can teach with me. I was already annoyed to see him.due to his disrespect so u replied "Nope."

He stood there and stood there. I had to look him in the eyes this time and say "No you're not!"

So he looked upset and joined the members to do the class instead.

Halfway through the class he CORRECTED ME!!! FFS! So I GLARED at him.HARD and mouthed "Fuck Off" at him because it finally had enough of his corrections.

But sadly he looked like he was going to cry. Packed his things and slowly walked out of my class!

I couldn't chase or follow him because I didn't want my members to know anything is going on between us.

I felt AWFUL! I HATED myself!

I realise now the poor guy was actually just trying to help. He had just done his training only 2 days before. He was excited about coming to my class and he even asked me if he could teach with me the night before.

So when I made a mistake and he corrected me, he did so as a fellow instructor. He was just trying to help.

But I got defensive and horrible!

I'm going through a painful divorce so my head isn't right at the moment.

He never came back. He ignored my texts and he blocked me too.

Now we're talking again, he treats me differently. It's like we are aquaintances! We met 5yrs ago ffs!

I'm sorry this is so long!

and I thought its serious

smile

do you use "big words" in your everyday life as well?

I dont see anything in that story what warrants to "die for" mutual big love


There's so much more I haven't said about our relationship.

I could sit here and type out everything that's ever happened but it will be a book on here!

So instead I have simply focussed in the screw up I made to ask people what they think.
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"There's so much more I haven't said about our relationship.

I could sit here and type out everything that's ever happened but it will be a book on here!

So instead I have simply focussed in the screw up I made to ask people what they think. "

ok

I dont think you screwed up with what you described

if he loves you

Edit: fitness loves are not to be taken seriously (just from observations, how people think someone loves them in the gym, and its all a fantasy in their head) so be cautious, before you die for him


Yes, then I blocked him everywhere.

Lmao
I don’t fuck around with love. Every time I love to death...EVERY TIME. Lol
Posted by Pandora101

Posted by pooface222

Posted by ClairDeLune

Awwww love, what happened?
Hi ya x

I've talked about this guy on other forums so I'll keep it short. Or will try lol!

He has stayed away from me since I hurt him in December. We're kind of talking again but sadly after not talking to me for 4 momths, hes changed towards me and its killing me.

He's a very sensitive Pisces yet I forgot how sensitive he is because of the stress of my divorce!

By Decmember last year, we had spent most of the summer together, and things were going beautifully. Until I f**ked them up.

The short version is he trained to become a fitness instructor like me. He had always come to my classes and loved the way I teach.

Our relationship is perfect. He's my soul Mate and from the first time we met, it felt Meant to Be. It was like I'd known him my whole life.

Anyway he came to my class in the Tuesday after spending the weekend training on his course. He texted me the night before to ask me if he can teach with me up at the front of my class with me.

I texted back "Not until you can behave yourself." I said this because in my classes (fir the years before he qualified), he knows the routine so well that he knows when I have gone slightly wrong and gives me a look. I didn't mind to start with. Then it began to piss me off having him always point out when I've gone wrong. Especially when he was not an instructor himself.

So by behaving himself I meant I didn't want him correcting ever again. It's f**king annoying! And disrespectful I feel.

So after me texting him to Behave himself he turned up in my class 6.30am Tues morning and asked AGAIN if he can teach with me. I was already annoyed to see him.due to his disrespect so u replied "Nope."

He stood there and stood there. I had to look him in the eyes this time and say "No you're not!"

So he looked upset and joined the members to do the class instead.

Halfway through the class he CORRECTED ME!!! FFS! So I GLARED at him.HARD and mouthed "Fuck Off" at him because it finally had enough of his corrections.

But sadly he looked like he was going to cry. Packed his things and slowly walked out of my class!

I couldn't chase or follow him because I didn't want my members to know anything is going on between us.

I felt AWFUL! I HATED myself!

I realise now the poor guy was actually just trying to help. He had just done his training only 2 days before. He was excited about coming to my class and he even asked me if he could teach with me the night before.

So when I made a mistake and he corrected me, he did so as a fellow instructor. He was just trying to help.

But I got defensive and horrible!

I'm going through a painful divorce so my head isn't right at the moment.

He never came back. He ignored my texts and he blocked me too.

Now we're talking again, he treats me differently. It's like we are aquaintances! We met 5yrs ago ffs!

I'm sorry this is so long!

and I thought its serious

smile

do you use "big words" in your everyday life as well?

I dont see anything in that story what warrants to "die for" mutual big love
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Maybe...read again? 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️🙈lol
Posted by Pandora101

Posted by pooface222

Posted by Pandora101

Posted by pooface222

Posted by ClairDeLune

Awwww love, what happened?
Hi ya x

I've talked about this guy on other forums so I'll keep it short. Or will try lol!

He has stayed away from me since I hurt him in December. We're kind of talking again but sadly after not talking to me for 4 momths, hes changed towards me and its killing me.

He's a very sensitive Pisces yet I forgot how sensitive he is because of the stress of my divorce!

By Decmember last year, we had spent most of the summer together, and things were going beautifully. Until I f**ked them up.

The short version is he trained to become a fitness instructor like me. He had always come to my classes and loved the way I teach.

Our relationship is perfect. He's my soul Mate and from the first time we met, it felt Meant to Be. It was like I'd known him my whole life.

Anyway he came to my class in the Tuesday after spending the weekend training on his course. He texted me the night before to ask me if he can teach with me up at the front of my class with me.

I texted back "Not until you can behave yourself." I said this because in my classes (fir the years before he qualified), he knows the routine so well that he knows when I have gone slightly wrong and gives me a look. I didn't mind to start with. Then it began to piss me off having him always point out when I've gone wrong. Especially when he was not an instructor himself.

So by behaving himself I meant I didn't want him correcting ever again. It's f**king annoying! And disrespectful I feel.

So after me texting him to Behave himself he turned up in my class 6.30am Tues morning and asked AGAIN if he can teach with me. I was already annoyed to see him.due to his disrespect so u replied "Nope."

He stood there and stood there. I had to look him in the eyes this time and say "No you're not!"

So he looked upset and joined the members to do the class instead.

Halfway through the class he CORRECTED ME!!! FFS! So I GLARED at him.HARD and mouthed "Fuck Off" at him because it finally had enough of his corrections.

But sadly he looked like he was going to cry. Packed his things and slowly walked out of my class!

I couldn't chase or follow him because I didn't want my members to know anything is going on between us.

I felt AWFUL! I HATED myself!

I realise now the poor guy was actually just trying to help. He had just done his training only 2 days before. He was excited about coming to my class and he even asked me if he could teach with me the night before.

So when I made a mistake and he corrected me, he did so as a fellow instructor. He was just trying to help.

But I got defensive and horrible!

I'm going through a painful divorce so my head isn't right at the moment.

He never came back. He ignored my texts and he blocked me too.

Now we're talking again, he treats me differently. It's like we are aquaintances! We met 5yrs ago ffs!

I'm sorry this is so long!

and I thought its serious

smile

do you use "big words" in your everyday life as well?

I dont see anything in that story what warrants to "die for" mutual big love


There's so much more I haven't said about our relationship.

I could sit here and type out everything that's ever happened but it will be a book on here!

So instead I have simply focussed in the screw up I made to ask people what they think.
"There's so much more I haven't said about our relationship.

I could sit here and type out everything that's ever happened but it will be a book on here!

So instead I have simply focussed in the screw up I made to ask people what they think. "

ok

I dont think you screwed up with what you described

if he loves you

Edit: fitness loves are not to be taken seriously (just from observations, how people think someone loves them in the gym, and its all a fantasy in their head) so be cautious, before you die for him
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He's loved me and wanted me for a long time. We met 5yrs ago when I was still married. And he was with his partner. He's a Pisces too so over time because I wasn't leaving my husband despite telling him I love him, he began doing his Disappearing Act.

It confused the hell out of me because I've never had a guy do this to me before. In his Disappearing phase, he wouldn't Call/Text/Come to my class/go for coffee with me ...nothing. He would ignore my texts and calls too!

So when he disappeared I didn't know what I had done wrong! I HATED my husband and we were sleeping in separate rooms. I was lonely too in my marriage.

So to then have Pisces disapoear was a major confusion!

I realise now he was doing it because he was hurt and thought I'd leave my husband for him. I told him I didn't love my husband AND that I love him...So he couldn't understand why I stayed married.

We've sadly ended up confusing each other. I was co fused by his Disappearing and he was confused by me staying married.

Each time he came back he thought things might have changed.

I've really upset this guy over the years - but unintentionally.

All I had to do was divorce my husband for him. And I wanted to. But I didn't.
scary answers here...lol
Posted by generation_xy

I'm not addicted to alcohol or drugs. I wish I was instead of feeling like that for a person.

It's not exactly addiction because I don't get the high but the difficulty to overcome is somewhat the same. Although, I rather it's a bottle or pack of cigarette because at least I don't have to feel embarass for pouring my heart out and it's one way. It's going nowhere. I can have physical control over a bottle or pack, lock it up but with with a person you can't do that. You get a response one way or another.

I think i'm just tired. I'm definitely ranting here.
Love is hell of a drug. The best of em all.
Posted by kaseke9

Don't ever never ever never make other person your top 1 priority. I can't emphasize it enough.

If you find someone that fits in your life and adds value, that's great! Enjoy your time.

But don't ever see other human as God or Godess, they gonna walk you over to give the most painful lesson you ever have.

Coming from someone who had this experience. It took years of recovery, digging into myself, reading relatable books, crying in solitude to find myself and my strenght again.

And this is the advice I send out right now. People change, fickle and die but you are always with you. Make your life meaningful without building the core to be someone else.





Good Dx advice *claps*
Well I'm still alive and single, so no. 🤷🏼‍♀️

I have done a lot of fucking up though and felt like dying... I think we all go through it.
Look here. Yes I found him. Yes I love him. Yes I married him. But I am not so attached to him that I couldn't stand alone. If we ended, it would hurt yes, since we've been together since our teens. But die? No. Before him there was me. After him, there is still me. I'm my own top priority. You have to learn to cut ties and be strong. He'd probably die for breaking my heart. But I would be determined to live and be happy.
I've gone from wanting to die for someone to dying of boredom with them

Laughing
Maybe during the 6 months before we got together when we had become more than best friends & the first year post-hookup when it was at its most intense.

Been together for a little over 2 years now, he still devastates me but I reckon I could handle it if we broke up today.
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow

Maybe during the 6 months before we got together when we had become more than best friends & the first year post-hookup when it was at its most intense.

Been together for a little over 2 years now, he still devastates me but I reckon I could handle it if we broke up today.
Really? Do you not love him so much it hurts?

You're a Pisces right? And he's a,Virgo?
Yes, but I don't wanna die. I am too precious lol
Posted by pooface222

...then messed things up and lost him anyway?

😢

And now you want to die!
That would be my son as a child. I always feared losing him in some fashion. Now, he's soon to be 24... he's alive... and, has enough flaws that I'm grounded.

As a child, he was angelic... my dream man.
Posted by pooface222

Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow

Maybe during the 6 months before we got together when we had become more than best friends & the first year post-hookup when it was at its most intense.

Been together for a little over 2 years now, he still devastates me but I reckon I could handle it if we broke up today.
Really? Do you not love him so much it hurts?

You're a Pisces right? And he's a,Virgo?
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No, he's a Leo. And I was semi-joking because I know he lurks......and then......I'll just copy/paste my reply to Stillstillwater's question of:

"Has it ever scared you to what depths you can fall in love with someone?"

Damn you!! Of all the nights to ask that!!!

I made a in-semi-jest post earlier in the day about being able to handle a breakup these days, because I know he lurks lol. I got the house to myself tonight and was eating some grapes before bed when he pinged me via both email & text........he bought me the separated instruments of the song that proved me wrong when I believed I couldn't possibly be more in love with him. The song I used in a V-Day tribute vid last year.

Both messages included a selfie he took with his trademark "trying to look innocent" + "I told you so" pulled face. I've been listening to the stems on repeat for the past hour, and I feel like dying right now. He won't be back until the afternoon and I just wanna:

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1:30am now and needless to say I won't be sleeping anytime soon. His fucking Scorp Mars!!! And inb4 you tell me to:

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This is the song.




He's not back yet, and he probably thinks I'll be like this when he does.

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