Having a strong attraction to my EX'S Roomie

My exes roomie and I have a strong physical attraction to each other and I it feel everytime I see him , seems to get stronger each time. Last time I saw him two days ago he started to blush and turn red, so did I (lol). We talk but is always small talk, I really don't feel like I should have any loyality to my ex since he continues to turn the knife in my back, should I get to know his roomie or leave it alone? Also besides the physical I have other reasons for being attracted to him. He's a virgo and I an Aries , bad match I hear. But I have many virgos in my life and we get along great in fact one of my Virgo friends is the one who understands me the most and I have only known her for 2 1/2 years. Love her mucho.

I have a little crush on my scorpios roomate who is also a scorpio lol

You can only speak for yourself, and your attractions.

You have no clue what he thinks or feels.

Posted by P-Angel
You can only speak for yourself, and your attractions.

You have no clue what he thinks or feels.

Lol as I scrolled down I said to myself watch it be you commenting on this post...HAHAHA true to form

Thanks P for your ever so insightful advice. Where would I be without you?

I have to agree with P, because I've been there too.

Yes the attraction maybe strong, that can be undeniable BUT what you are thinking and what he is thinking are more likely two very different things.

You a relationship...judging by your summary and how you have already sussed out your star signs etc and he's more than likely thinking you'd be a good bang! Guys don't tend to sit and ponder how a relationship with someone would be unless of course they are the exception...which you know if you were because he would relentlessly be chasing you up!

Him this can turn out bad, i dated a guy that I was talking too friend and it was just a mess.

BUT some of the best loves comes from things like this, like P said, you dont what he is feeling.

If its something serious and undeniably love and he wants you in a relationship, then I say go for it.

And please be careful, dont get sexual with him too soon because if you do and it doesnt work, you gonna be a homie hopper and you will end up looking like a slut.

But if its love, go for it.

Hmmm*

Plus also some of the signs that I am supposed to be a perfect match with, have been catastrophes for me, I never been with a Pisces and havent found enthralling but yet thats supposed to be my perfect match as a Cancer, same with Scorpio.

So signs are a good thing but not the absolute defining factor.

Posted by sweethearts
I have to agree with P, because I've been there too.

Yes the attraction maybe strong, that can be undeniable BUT what you are thinking and what he is thinking are more likely two very different things.

You a relationship...judging by your summary and how you have already sussed out your star signs etc and he's more than likely thinking you'd be a good bang! Guys don't tend to sit and ponder how a relationship with someone would be unless of course they are the exception...which you know if you were because he would relentlessly be chasing you up!

Thanx!

Your morals are YOUR morals, not ours or anyone else's. If you can stomach the conscious to mess with your ex's roomate, then do it.

And if there's any karma for doing that, it will come back on you, NOT anybody else who may tell you not to.

Personally, I would consider anyone closely affiliated with my ex to be off limits.

There's millions of guys out here & I'd find it highly suspicious that of ALL of them, you just so happen to settle for the 1 guy living with your ex, the guy you oughta be trying to forget & move on from.

Plus, that's HIS roomate & HIS friend. Just b/c he's attracted to you doesn't mean that a relationship or anything long term will bloom from it.

So If I were you, I'd spare myself all the extra tension & drama that'll come if you date this guy. It'll constantly be a buzz kill 1. B/c how can you spend alone time with him while your ex lives in the same house & 2. Guys listen to eachother. Your ex may try to dog you or say crazy things about you & not that any of them would be true, BUT still, who wants to start out a new relationship or dating situation with all that pre-determined negativity?

This is the classic example of why they say, "There's plenty more fish in the sea."

I'm not saying you should ignore your attraction to him. You can't help who you like. BUT, just know that the odds of the relationship working out are alot lower considering the circumstances

Whether or not you're willing to take that risk is up to and on you

Posted by krysrenee7
Your morals are YOUR morals, not ours or anyone else's. If you can stomach the conscious to mess with your ex's roomate, then do it.

And if there's any karma for doing that, it will come back on you, NOT anybody else who may tell you not to.

Personally, I would consider anyone closely affiliated with my ex to be off limits.

There's millions of guys out here & I'd find it highly suspicious that of ALL of them, you just so happen to settle for the 1 guy living with your ex, the guy you oughta be trying to forget & move on from.

Plus, that's HIS roomate & HIS friend. Just b/c he's attracted to you doesn't mean that a relationship or anything long term will bloom from it.

So If I were you, I'd spare myself all the extra tension & drama that'll come if you date this guy. It'll constantly be a buzz kill 1. B/c how can you spend alone time with him while your ex lives in the same house & 2. Guys listen to eachother. Your ex may try to dog you or say crazy things about you & not that any of them would be true, BUT still, who wants to start out a new relationship or dating situation with all that pre-determined negativity?

This is the classic example of why they say, "There's plenty more fish in the sea."

I'm not saying you should ignore your attraction to him. You can't help who you like. BUT, just know that the odds of the relationship working out are alot lower considering the circumstances

Whether or not you're willing to take that risk is up to and on you

Thank you for your advice