HEAR WHAT OPRAH WINFREY HAD TO SAY ABOUT MEN :

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by sweethearts on Sunday, March 10, 2013 and has 16 replies.
If a man wants you,
nothing can keep him away. If he
doesn't want you, nothing can make
him stay. Stop making excuses for a
man and his behavior. Allow your
intuition (or spirit) to save you from
heartache. Stop trying to change
yourself for a relationship that's not
meant to be. Slower is better. Never
live your life for a man before you find
what makes you truly happy. If a
relationship ends because the man
was not treating you as you deserve
then heck no, you can't "be friends". A
friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't
settle. If you feel like he is stringing you
along, then he probably is Don't stay
because you think "it will get
better"You'll be mad at yourself a year
later for staying when things are not
better.The only person you can control
in a relationship is you. Avoid men
who've got a bunch of children by a
bunch of different women.He didn't
marry them when he got them
pregnant, why would he treat you any
differently? Always have your own set
of friends separate from his.Maintain
boundaries in how a guy treats you. If
something bothers you, speak
up.Never let a man know everything.*
He will use it against you later.You
cannot change a man's behavior.*
Change comes from within. Don't EVER
make him feel he is more important
than you are...Even if he has more
education or in a better job.Do not
make him into a quasi-god.He is a
man, nothing more nothing less.Never
let a man define who you are.Never
borrow someone else's man.If he
cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.A
man will only treat you the way you
ALLOW him to treat you. All men are
NOT dogs.You should not be the one
doing all the bending...Compromise is
two way street. You need time to heal
between relationships...There is
nothing cute about baggage...Deal with
your issues before pursuing a new
relationshipYou should never look for
someone to COMPLETE you...A
relationship consists of two WHOLE
individuals...Look for someone
complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn
out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you
sometimes...when a man always know
where you are, and you're always
readily available to him - he takes it for
granted Never move into his mother's
house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't
fully commit to a man who doesn't give
you everything that you need.*Keep
him in your radar but get to know
others.
Scared of being alone is what
makes a lot of women stay in
relationships that are abusive or
hurtful: Dr. Phil says You should know
that: You're the best thing that could
ever happen to anyone and if a man
mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good
thing. If he was attracted to you in the
1st place, just know that he's not the
only one.They're all watching you, so
you have a lot of choices.Make the
right one. Ladies take care of your own
hearts...
Totally agree I always say: never make someone your priority if to them you are only an option!
See for me these arnt empty words as I do follow them. I follow my head and not my heart. I will get rid of a guy who is not treating me how I want to be treated. It hurts but it has to be done. Spent too many years when I was younger putting up with bullshit behaviour and learnt from past mistakes. I've called off two engagements and wouldnt hesitate to end my marriage if things turned sour. Deal with a situation logically then deal with the emotions and take the time to heal
And I'm not american lol
LOL @ tiziani & CluelessCancer!
Oprah is an Aqua, what can you expect? She's full of crap-wisdom, like when you take something obvious and twist the words around so it sounds super-smart when in fact you've just stated the obvious. That's Oprah in a nutshell. I don't know what people see in her apart from a sucessful business woman.
easy for her to say since she has been in and is currently in a long time relationship with a double pisces man.
plus, her upbringing was harsh, so she probably learned alot in her childhood, to where she is now. what works for her, may not work for anyone else. it's still good of her to help out.
Posted by enfant_terrible
LOL @ tiziani & CluelessCancer!
Oprah is an Aqua, what can you expect? She's full of crap-wisdom, like when you take something obvious and twist the words around so it sounds super-smart when in fact you've just stated the obvious. That's Oprah in a nutshell. I don't know what people see in her apart from a sucessful business woman.



?? was that even necessary?
naw, he's just focusing on the "sign" thing. He's pointing out that it IS obvious. Anyone could say those words to help out teenage girls or women in general, but it comes from OPRAH (one of the richest women in the world) and she's not exactly the relationship expert. She didn't make her money off of helping people with relationship problems (that's dr.phil's arena). So when it comes from a woman whose standing in society is on a higher level, the words seem to help.
if it came from Lady Diana (Princess Diana) that too would make an IMPACT. But it's all because of a woman's standing in higher society. (money and status) If some dirt poor woman from a dirt poor neighborhood said those words...i dont know...will anyone even listen to her?
If it came from a homeless crack head it would still make an impact. I respect sense no matter who is saying it
Posted by harry99
The world is in the mess it's in because so many women and men put u with b.s. in their relationships and then they have kids and those kids get exposed to said b.s. and then all of society becomes a hell hole.

blahaha true that
Posted by CluelessCancer
These words are great, but totally unrealistic in that they ignore the greyness and emotions that exist in life.



Agree, life is more than a set of guidelines.
i wonder...if Madonna, or Britney Spears said it, would women listen? Hmmmm...something to think about. Famous women and which types.
Posted by lisabethur8
i wonder...if Madonna, or Britney Spears said it, would women listen? Hmmmm...something to think about. Famous women and which types.


Anyone who needs to hear things said by someone famous before they listen to them is an idiot. Prob the same type of person who buys perfume they dont like and clothes they wont wear because they are endorsed by a celeb.
In the UK no one gives a crap.about Oprah or Dr phil infact I couldnt even identify him if given multiple choice pictures. I agree with this because it makes sense. Sweethearts could have written it herself and I would still agree. I dislike katy Perry but if she wrote it I would also have to agree. If my worst enemy wrote it I would still.think she was a bitch but would agree with what she was saying
Excellent! Thank you for sharing smile
Yes PREACH Oprah !!!

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