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This topic was created in the Relationships forum by ScorpionGaze28 on Monday, October 2, 2006 and has 5 replies.
T_T umm..ok. well me and my boyfriend(((he's a virgo im a scorpio))) have been going out for 4 months now..and we were very happy...in the past we went out before for 8 months and he cheated on me. we broke up and hated eachother for 3 months and then he came crawling bake to me T_T i took him back becuz i love him so much.
everything was going fine til i found out the girl he cheated on me with was trying to break us up again...so i overeacted and told her to back off.she ran off crying and now he wont talk to my boyfriend ever again my boyfriend was very upset with me becuz i made him lose a friend.
but then a week after that we've been having communicating problems and ect.he feels like he needs to constantly moniter me like if i was a baby and i feel like i need to do everything i can to show him i can be just as good as anygirl his age.((hes three years older then me))
we made it clear that there is no pressure but now!i find out he still feels like he needs to tend to me.i try to asure him im fine.he thinks while hes off playin games or hanging with his friends that im siting around waiting for him, which makes him have a horrible time while hes away then he comes back to me all upset and i dont know what to do.
i asked him how can i show him theres no pressure how can i make him feel better about all of this and how can i help him deal with this problem alls he could tell me is "i dont know" and if he doesnt know neither do i.....he alwys feels like im trying to hurt him like im always trying to start a fight. and thats not the case at all im afriad to talk to him cuz now everytime we talk he gets mad at me too easy and is too qick to say im up to something or want something from him when all i want is for him to feel good about himself and be happy.
i dont know how to talk to him i dont know how to confort him he refuses to see counselling becuz when he would go before they never helped him.i refuse to break up with him and i refuse to give up on the love we have.so thats why im here...
we both have horrible pasts that brought us to have emotional problem i have sepration anxity disorder and i knwo he has lots of emotional probs but i cant figure out what please help T_T
everything was going fine til i found out the girl he cheated on me with was trying to break us up again...so i overeacted and told her to back off.she ran off crying and now he wont talk to my boyfriend ever again my boyfriend was very upset with me becuz i made him lose a friend.
but then a week after that we've been having communicating problems and ect.he feels like he needs to constantly moniter me like if i was a baby and i feel like i need to do everything i can to show him i can be just as good as anygirl his age.((hes three years older then me))
we made it clear that there is no pressure but now!i find out he still feels like he needs to tend to me.i try to asure him im fine.he thinks while hes off playin games or hanging with his friends that im siting around waiting for him, which makes him have a horrible time while hes away then he comes back to me all upset and i dont know what to do.
i asked him how can i show him theres no pressure how can i make him feel better about all of this and how can i help him deal with this problem alls he could tell me is "i dont know" and if he doesnt know neither do i.....he alwys feels like im trying to hurt him like im always trying to start a fight. and thats not the case at all im afriad to talk to him cuz now everytime we talk he gets mad at me too easy and is too qick to say im up to something or want something from him when all i want is for him to feel good about himself and be happy.
i dont know how to talk to him i dont know how to confort him he refuses to see counselling becuz when he would go before they never helped him.i refuse to break up with him and i refuse to give up on the love we have.so thats why im here...
we both have horrible pasts that brought us to have emotional problem i have sepration anxity disorder and i knwo he has lots of emotional probs but i cant figure out what please help T_T
Whoa..have you posted on the Virgo board..or you can sort through some old threads...this questions asked alot about VirGuys. But, I think you all need more than astrological help.
I also think, he deserves to shower you with attention and what not, because he is at fault for his cheating...let him suffer the consequences.
You never know what you got till it its gone.
I also think, he deserves to shower you with attention and what not, because he is at fault for his cheating...let him suffer the consequences.
You never know what you got till it its gone.
"and hated eachother for 3 months and then he came crawling bake to me T_T i took him back becuz i love him so much."
Anyone else see the irony?
"like he needs to constantly moniter me like if i was a baby"
This is a sign of a guilty conscience.
"im afriad to talk to him cuz now everytime we talk he gets mad at me too easy and is too"
If you can't talk to him, how are you going to have a relationship with him?
Gaze, you're in an unhealthy relationship. Staying in a relationship with someone whom you are scared to talk to and not really trust just because you have separation anxiety is foolish. You want boyfriend to go to counseling, but the truth is, you might need to see a therapist to break away from this relationship. You have fallen into a rut and you think that there is no way out becase you fear separation. Separation anxiety is treatable and my GOOD GOD, he CHEATED ON YOU. How is that healthy?
Just justifying why you are still with this guy and concentrate on making YOU happy.
Anyone else see the irony?
"like he needs to constantly moniter me like if i was a baby"
This is a sign of a guilty conscience.
"im afriad to talk to him cuz now everytime we talk he gets mad at me too easy and is too"
If you can't talk to him, how are you going to have a relationship with him?
Gaze, you're in an unhealthy relationship. Staying in a relationship with someone whom you are scared to talk to and not really trust just because you have separation anxiety is foolish. You want boyfriend to go to counseling, but the truth is, you might need to see a therapist to break away from this relationship. You have fallen into a rut and you think that there is no way out becase you fear separation. Separation anxiety is treatable and my GOOD GOD, he CHEATED ON YOU. How is that healthy?
Just justifying why you are still with this guy and concentrate on making YOU happy.
just *stop justifying
thank you so much ...you seriously help us alot 
now we know why hes bugin out with the overtending to...
and its not that im afraid to break up with him cuz of my disorder its cuz i love him and i dont wanna lose himthank you guys so much
muahz
now we know why hes bugin out with the overtending to...and its not that im afraid to break up with him cuz of my disorder its cuz i love him and i dont wanna lose him
thank you guys so much muahz
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