Help with a libra guy
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by sonyasingh888 on Wednesday, February 18, 2009 and has 24 replies.
Hello,
Can someone tell me what it takes to win a Libra guy.. ?? Like the do's and dont's. I was dating this 20 yr old guy who is a Libra. Well initially it all seemed to go fine until he starting being dominant and abusive. He always wants things to go his way and when they don't he just has this "I Don't give a fuck about you" attitude. I tried being nice and sweet until one day when he was using abusive words at me and I couldn't control my frustration and I blew up with rage. We broke up but I felt bad for having used bad labguage at him and I apologised. Now we talk to each other but we're not in a relationship anymore. I would love to make things work and I am making an effort from side. When I ask him if he is willing to make it work, he doesn't give a yes or a No. If pushed too much, he says "Okay if you wanna chuck it, fine.. Have fun.. Gudbye". Now I have come to a point where I don't bother much about it. He acts like a stubborn natured kid sometimes and no matter how hard I try to make things work, he always has something to blow it up. I recently asked him about where does he see us? are we in a relationship or not? He said relationships are too difficult for him to handle and he just wants us to go with the flow. I told him I can't be in a casual fling like that. He still messages me sometimes. The problem is I don't know how to deal with this.. Sometimes he makes me feel so unwanted and sometimes he makes me feel like he likes me, he's so curious to know what's happening in my life. But when asked about getting serious, he shows off that attitude and says "he doesn't wanna get serious yet".
Any advise or sugestion is welcomed. Oh by the way I am a capricorn with Aquarius rising sign and taurus moon sign.
Thanks
Can someone tell me what it takes to win a Libra guy.. ?? Like the do's and dont's. I was dating this 20 yr old guy who is a Libra. Well initially it all seemed to go fine until he starting being dominant and abusive. He always wants things to go his way and when they don't he just has this "I Don't give a fuck about you" attitude. I tried being nice and sweet until one day when he was using abusive words at me and I couldn't control my frustration and I blew up with rage. We broke up but I felt bad for having used bad labguage at him and I apologised. Now we talk to each other but we're not in a relationship anymore. I would love to make things work and I am making an effort from side. When I ask him if he is willing to make it work, he doesn't give a yes or a No. If pushed too much, he says "Okay if you wanna chuck it, fine.. Have fun.. Gudbye". Now I have come to a point where I don't bother much about it. He acts like a stubborn natured kid sometimes and no matter how hard I try to make things work, he always has something to blow it up. I recently asked him about where does he see us? are we in a relationship or not? He said relationships are too difficult for him to handle and he just wants us to go with the flow. I told him I can't be in a casual fling like that. He still messages me sometimes. The problem is I don't know how to deal with this.. Sometimes he makes me feel so unwanted and sometimes he makes me feel like he likes me, he's so curious to know what's happening in my life. But when asked about getting serious, he shows off that attitude and says "he doesn't wanna get serious yet".
Any advise or sugestion is welcomed. Oh by the way I am a capricorn with Aquarius rising sign and taurus moon sign.
Thanks
Well initially it all seemed to go fine until he starting being dominant and abusive. He always wants things to go his way and when they don't he just has this "I Don't give a treetrunk about you" attitude.
So you still want this guy in your life?? WHY?? He obviously doesn't care about you at all if he treats you with that attitude.
. I recently asked him about where does he see us? are we in a relationship or not? He said relationships are too difficult for him to handle and he just wants us to go with the flow. I told him I can't be in a casual fling like that. He still messages me sometimes. The problem is I don't know how to deal with this.. Sometimes he makes me feel so unwanted and sometimes he makes me feel like he likes me, he's so curious to know what's happening in my life. But when asked about getting serious, he shows off that attitude and says "he doesn't wanna get serious yet".
that is the answer girl, if he doesn't want anything serious, you cannot win him over. Libras usually sit on a fence when they make a decision. How long that decision takes will depend on them, and they know how to keep a person on the backburner which is your situation right now. I think he doesn't see anything serious with you, but hes just keeping you here for his own ego boost.
So you still want this guy in your life?? WHY?? He obviously doesn't care about you at all if he treats you with that attitude.
. I recently asked him about where does he see us? are we in a relationship or not? He said relationships are too difficult for him to handle and he just wants us to go with the flow. I told him I can't be in a casual fling like that. He still messages me sometimes. The problem is I don't know how to deal with this.. Sometimes he makes me feel so unwanted and sometimes he makes me feel like he likes me, he's so curious to know what's happening in my life. But when asked about getting serious, he shows off that attitude and says "he doesn't wanna get serious yet".
that is the answer girl, if he doesn't want anything serious, you cannot win him over. Libras usually sit on a fence when they make a decision. How long that decision takes will depend on them, and they know how to keep a person on the backburner which is your situation right now. I think he doesn't see anything serious with you, but hes just keeping you here for his own ego boost.
We shared some really good moments in the past and I was falling for him every day. He used to be abusive at times like using the F word every now and then in his conversations. When asked he said, that's just the way he talks. Maybe I thought that was his nature. But I really miss whatever we had. I have had this thought of movin on so many times but every time I do, I don't know what happens I get really weak and emotional. I feel there is some hope left still. Right now we're not in a relationship anymore but and I am keeping my distance from him. I would wanna know what do I do when he texts me.. I find it hard to ignore. Its like those everyday text messages "Hi what you been upto?" "hello what's happening?" Should I ignore??? He is like this crazy lil kid, I have had a bad relationship with a scorpio before I started dating this Libra guy. I have this feeling that I don't wanna screw up another relationship. Whats also confusing is how these men seem sugarcoated and sweet in the initial phases of a relationship and later pounce on you like a wild beast. I just wanna know how to react and deal with it in a everyday basis.. How do I treat this guy in my life? what would make him realise that I really cared but I am not desperate for him.. What message so i send across to this guy?
"I think he doesn't see anything serious with you, but hes just keeping you here for his own ego boost." Exactly. They are really abusive men and they have no idea how to treat anyone with respect. I bet if you had him you'd realize how awful they can be. They can do whatever they want but you can't. They get jealous and demanding but if you say anything about their behavior you'll get your head ripped of. They are never "fair" or equal. My dad is one and I know tons of them as well. They are all pretty much like that too.
Your really pretty too. You could do much better
Your really pretty too. You could do much better
Thanks Sagittarius89. That was helpful. Like I said I was already in a relationship with this guy for a short period of time. He was really demanding and unfair, But he also showed his love. Maybe I'm just being a pessimistic. I am so confused. Everytime he messages me I go weak in my knees which I obviously don't show. Now that I am alone, I feel like having someone I can invest my feelings on. And I tried to meet new people but its really difficult to connect. I wish I get over this soon. Oh and did send me a message recently saying "relationships are difficult for him to handle, so lets ttake things slowly. Don't force anythign on yourself". I wonder what he meant. Do these ppl have a heart ? Shucks.
Sure What is your sign btw?
"relationships are difficult for him to handle, so lets ttake things slowly. Don't force anythign on yourself". It's his way of being able to keep you around with false hope. It's a really mean thing they do. Their self-esteem is so low though they need someone to hang on to until something better comes along. Libra's are love addicts because it feels a void they can not fill for themselfs which is really sad. They don't really have a sense of themselfs. Which makes them really unhealthy people.
"Do these ppl have a heart ?" Ha everyone does. Their's just doesn't have much depth to it.
What is your sign btw?"relationships are difficult for him to handle, so lets ttake things slowly. Don't force anythign on yourself". It's his way of being able to keep you around with false hope. It's a really mean thing they do. Their self-esteem is so low though they need someone to hang on to until something better comes along. Libra's are love addicts because it feels a void they can not fill for themselfs which is really sad. They don't really have a sense of themselfs. Which makes them really unhealthy people.
"Do these ppl have a heart ?" Ha everyone does. Their's just doesn't have much depth to it.
"get yourself a taurus." LOL. They are very nice people.
Thank you Great Bull.. Yep I am a capricorn.. And Capricorn and Librans are two not so compatible signs.. Lol yeah I can see all of it now. Disgusting guy he is.. I don't think I need to wait until he dumps me one day and gets another babe for himself. Oh another characteristic about them is that they love blaming others for the one mistake they might have accidentally made. Like I once had this argument with him and we started abusing each other. He started it needless to say. And even now when we talk sometimes, he keeps reminding me of each and every thing I said and keeps repeating it like a radio station. But the words he used at me means nothing at all.. It should be considered fair whatever he said.. Crazy men they are.. I am gonna be careful in future not to date a Libra man again ever. Hey sagittarius89, what do u think I do next if he tries to get intouch with me? Ignore him or just ask him directly to take a hike? Would you knwo what's the best way of calling it off with these men? Is there a way of getting back at them for all that they've done?
Oh and thank you so much for the valuable advise you've given me sagittarius89.. what's your name by the way ? lol I find it silly to call you sagittarius89 all the time.
Sounds pretty unhealthy from this end.
I've dated a few Libras (still dating one)...they all act like this.
They think they treat people however they want, do whatever they want, etc. & we're supposed to just accept it because that's who they are. But really it's unacceptable. There is no point in trying to change someone - I'm not saying that at all. I'm just saying, if you don't like the behavior let him know you will not be standing for it and you'll go date someone who will make you a priority because you're worth it and you know it and you will not allow him to tell you/make you feel otherwise.
It's that simple. If he cares about you he will make an effort to treat you better. If not - fuck him...let some STUPID girl be his victim. You're not gonna be that girl.
Not like a Capricorn to put up with that kind of shit anyways...I'm kind of surprised.
I've dated a few Libras (still dating one)...they all act like this.
They think they treat people however they want, do whatever they want, etc. & we're supposed to just accept it because that's who they are. But really it's unacceptable. There is no point in trying to change someone - I'm not saying that at all. I'm just saying, if you don't like the behavior let him know you will not be standing for it and you'll go date someone who will make you a priority because you're worth it and you know it and you will not allow him to tell you/make you feel otherwise.
It's that simple. If he cares about you he will make an effort to treat you better. If not - fuck him...let some STUPID girl be his victim. You're not gonna be that girl.
Not like a Capricorn to put up with that kind of shit anyways...I'm kind of surprised.
Thanks Briana.. Yeah that's their typical attitude. What surprised me was how this same guy would do all the sweet talking in the world before we got into a relationship and a few days after agetting into a relationship. And then he started taking me for granted. It wasn't lke he wasn't showing me love, he had his own way of showing love too but at the same time being dominating and abusive is a lil too much to take. And he would tell me how he'd want things to be, what HE feels is right and how it should be., After reading all the posts in this forum, I feel, "What in the world was I thinking? What was I thinking all this while?". Yeah he claims he's dated many girls and enjoyed. Well I seriously pity those girls now and know why all them couldn't stick by him. I think I just need a lil bit of time to move on with life and to get over him. I know I will. Its jst that when he gets back to me I don't know what to do .. This was truly not in my nature and I dont take any shit with any person.. But when it comes to relationships I don't know why I am acting submissive. Il have to overcome that feeling of vulnerability maybe that I feel when he talks to me and keeps acting like owns me even though we dont share a relationship.
Oops sorry bout the grammatical mistakes.. I was typing too fast .. lol
I understand. Some Libras have a way of making you feel that way.
I think it's because they're really charming & at times they even seem too good to be true. And when you see their bad side you want to ignore it and hang on to the good side of them. It can be really draining and can end up causing you to question yourself and feel all insecure.
Seriously, just cut off contact with him.
I think it's because they're really charming & at times they even seem too good to be true. And when you see their bad side you want to ignore it and hang on to the good side of them. It can be really draining and can end up causing you to question yourself and feel all insecure.
Seriously, just cut off contact with him.
Don't let him suck you back in.
"what's your name by the way ? lol I find it silly to call you sagittarius89 all the time." Lol your welcome It's scarlet.
It's scarlet.^ You're scaring me.
Thanks Scarlet !! Hey I am not able to read your previous post .. It says its hidden.
Lol. She scared herself too.
lol was it that scary ?? I wonder what it was all about..
I know I'm twisted blah blah. I don't give a shit. She asked
Nah you're not twisted.. What you've told me so far has been of great help.. And I appreciate it.
Ha good
Oh the only reason it was scary was cause I can tell she's plotted like that before.
& so have I.
& so have I.
Wow You girls rock then !! Hey come on I need to know more about those plotting's. Gimme a good suggestion.. 
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