BitterandConfused1234
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He's so confusing?!
I answered this same thread you made on the Pisces board .... but, I'll answer again.
It takes two to tango .. and you stand still on the dancefloor, while expecting him to dance around you.
he's tired of dancing around you now
that ^^^^^^^^^^^ is really elementary, I'm not sure why your brain can't grasp it, because you actually typed the description of it out in here.
I have tried that is my point I have been trying to talk to him since before he was great even after.
too late
You had your chance, and you took him for granted.
You are now experiencing a taste of ....... laying in the bed you made
how did i take him for granted I treated like how I always did. He's the one that stopped. I even approached him to find out what was wrong and he acted like nothing was wrong.
There isn't any detail of how things are now, what exactly changed or how things were.
All you've said is that you meet a guy at work. You became friends. He talks to everyone at work, including you. He doesn't talk to you as much as before.
Um.... Does he even know you like him or was it all just office talk? I talk to all kinds of people at work.
Oooooo!!!
Idea, if you want more conversations between the two of you... start one.
Ask his opinion
It's an office, borrow his stapler
Tell him you've been looking for a big pole and ask if he'll take you to the supply closet and show you one
Ask him to lunch
Ask him why it's snowing in march
All you've said is that you meet a guy at work. You became friends. He talks to everyone at work, including you. He doesn't talk to you as much as before.
Um.... Does he even know you like him or was it all just office talk? I talk to all kinds of people at work.
Oooooo!!!
Idea, if you want more conversations between the two of you... start one.
Ask his opinion
It's an office, borrow his stapler
Tell him you've been looking for a big pole and ask if he'll take you to the supply closet and show you one
Ask him to lunch
Ask him why it's snowing in march
Posted by BitterandConfused1234
how did i take him for granted I treated like how I always did. He's the one that stopped. I even approached him to find out what was wrong and he acted like nothing was wrong.
Of course, he acts like nothing is wrong ... because nothing is wrong.
This is so simple, and the fact that you can't get it is alarming.
I can tell you repeatedly, just like on the Pisces board, you are being told ... and it just flies over your head. Nobody can understand it for you.
I would imagine that you're the type of chic who also lays there on her back, and does nothing to participate in fucking ... and then wonders why the guy isn't interested in sexing you.
You're not confused ... you're dense. There's a difference.
Posted by P-AngelPosted by BitterandConfused1234
how did i take him for granted I treated like how I always did. He's the one that stopped. I even approached him to find out what was wrong and he acted like nothing was wrong.
Of course, he acts like nothing is wrong ... because nothing is wrong.
This is so simple, and the fact that you can't get it is alarming.
I can tell you repeatedly, just like on the Pisces board, you are being told ... and it just flies over your head. Nobody can understand it for you.
I would imagine that you're the type of chic who also lays there on her back, and does nothing to participate in fucking ... and then wonders why the guy isn't interested in sexing you.
You're not confused ... you're dense. There's a difference.
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P, you have such a way with people. I missed reading stuff like this while I wasn't here. I'm continually shocked and humored by replies.
Posted by LibraSid
P, you have such a way with people. I missed reading stuff like this while I wasn't here. I'm continually shocked and humored by replies.
In a Jerry Springer, chair-throwin' kind of way, yeah.
Though I think her answers are based solely on bitterness and thin air.
Posted by LibraSid
There isn't any detail of how things are now, what exactly changed or how things were.
All you've said is that you meet a guy at work. You became friends. He talks to everyone at work, including you. He doesn't talk to you as much as before.
Um.... Does he even know you like him or was it all just office talk? I talk to all kinds of people at work.
Oooooo!!!
Idea, if you want more conversations between the two of you... start one.
Ask his opinion
It's an office, borrow his stapler
Tell him you've been looking for a big pole and ask if he'll take you to the supply closet and show you one
Ask him to lunch
Ask him why it's snowing in march
I've done all of those things.
Lunch - Declines or he already has plans
Stapler - he doesnt have one he always takes mine
Yesterday - I made a joke about something i found out about someone he dislikes in one of our offices in another city and he didn't say anything other than "okay" and normally any news about that crabby woman pisses him off.
Today - I needed to grab something in his office and ask him question about something and all he did was nod.
He isn't a nodder!
Posted by MontgomeryPosted by LibraSid
P, you have such a way with people. I missed reading stuff like this while I wasn't here. I'm continually shocked and humored by replies.
In a Jerry Springer, chair-throwin' kind of way, yeah.
Though I think her answers are based solely on bitterness and thin air.
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It is bitterness becuase I do not know why he stopped. When I asked, he didn't say anything. So I went about my day. Then he gets upset whenever I talked to other people but what's wrong with talking to other people? I'm not ignoring him I'm just talking to other people. When I come up to him and talk to him he doesn't say anything.
Unless he's misinterpretting my actions all I wan't to do is have a natural functioning situation like there used to be. It's not functioning because he's not saying what's wrong and if there's nothing wrong on his end then why is it so awkward.
No matter what anyone says to you .... you are incapable of getting it.
He probably realizes how dense you are ... and has decided to take a pass.
oh, and btw ... "I adore this man completely"
As I posted on the Aquarius board, I'll post it here. I think he realizes how you adore him and that makes aquarius people uncomfortable, especially if he doesn't like you like you like him.
He's distancing himself because its awkard, forced, uncomfortable, he doesn't want to lead you on, etc.
You're trying too hard. Go with the flow.
He's distancing himself because its awkard, forced, uncomfortable, he doesn't want to lead you on, etc.
You're trying too hard. Go with the flow.
He lost interest in you over time.
Therefore he has no real reason to continue doing the things that people only do when their interest is running high. If he were to keep pretending like he was into when he truly isn't, he'd still suck b/c he'd then be leading you on. A lot of things stopped b/c it reflects his level of interest in you.
Besides, I get the vibe from you that you hold back a lot. Probably more than you realize. That's def. a vibe/interest killer.
Sounds like he gave you the floor but you didn't keep up the momentum. Or maybe you did, but there was either 1. Something he didn't like about you or 2. Someone else who has more of his interest right now.
Why does he still talk to you every blue moon? Well b/c he's not petty! lol It's not like you actually did something wrong. He has no reason to completely ignore you or treat you like sh***t if all you're guilty of doing is losing his interest in a romantic or sexual way lol Him treating you unfairly all b/c he lost interest in you would be extremely immature on his part.
He chats with you every blue moon b/c he feels that you have good feedback/conversation when it comes to certain things.
Oh & don't you dare sit and start over-analyzing why he may have lost interest. You'll probably never know. And he def. wouldn't tell you the raw truth even if you asked. He might've lost interest over something really small, shallow, immature or something you wouldn't lose interest in someone for. It could be that you aren't aggressive enough, you don't have enough sex appeal, you're too intellectual, you're not likely to go to bed with him, your social skills when outside of work are dull, or it could simply be that you are interesting, BUT just not more interesting than another girl who might have his attention at the moment. It could be anything.
Keep it moving.
Therefore he has no real reason to continue doing the things that people only do when their interest is running high. If he were to keep pretending like he was into when he truly isn't, he'd still suck b/c he'd then be leading you on. A lot of things stopped b/c it reflects his level of interest in you.
Besides, I get the vibe from you that you hold back a lot. Probably more than you realize. That's def. a vibe/interest killer.
Sounds like he gave you the floor but you didn't keep up the momentum. Or maybe you did, but there was either 1. Something he didn't like about you or 2. Someone else who has more of his interest right now.
Why does he still talk to you every blue moon? Well b/c he's not petty! lol It's not like you actually did something wrong. He has no reason to completely ignore you or treat you like sh***t if all you're guilty of doing is losing his interest in a romantic or sexual way lol Him treating you unfairly all b/c he lost interest in you would be extremely immature on his part.
He chats with you every blue moon b/c he feels that you have good feedback/conversation when it comes to certain things.
Oh & don't you dare sit and start over-analyzing why he may have lost interest. You'll probably never know. And he def. wouldn't tell you the raw truth even if you asked. He might've lost interest over something really small, shallow, immature or something you wouldn't lose interest in someone for. It could be that you aren't aggressive enough, you don't have enough sex appeal, you're too intellectual, you're not likely to go to bed with him, your social skills when outside of work are dull, or it could simply be that you are interesting, BUT just not more interesting than another girl who might have his attention at the moment. It could be anything.
Keep it moving.
I don't think this is about astrology.
If you guys were intimate or did things with each other that inspire an emotional/deep connection, leading to him pulling back afterwards, then I'd say oh Lord, he's being the typical Aqua.
But if you guys just casually hung out & if all he's ever done before to show interest was to simply have conversations with you, then I think your assessment of his level of interest in you was off/wrong to begin with
Aquarian men may go about things a little differently, BUT don't get it twisted. Aquarian men are still men! If a man is truly into you, you'll know it. You won't have to question it 24-7. He'll do what he's gotta do to show his interest & make sure you're receiving the signal that he's interested in you. Not even Aquarius men let a woman get by that they truly believe they can't afford to let get by
The astrology excuse doesn't always fly. Sorry
If you guys were intimate or did things with each other that inspire an emotional/deep connection, leading to him pulling back afterwards, then I'd say oh Lord, he's being the typical Aqua.
But if you guys just casually hung out & if all he's ever done before to show interest was to simply have conversations with you, then I think your assessment of his level of interest in you was off/wrong to begin with
Aquarian men may go about things a little differently, BUT don't get it twisted. Aquarian men are still men! If a man is truly into you, you'll know it. You won't have to question it 24-7. He'll do what he's gotta do to show his interest & make sure you're receiving the signal that he's interested in you. Not even Aquarius men let a woman get by that they truly believe they can't afford to let get by
The astrology excuse doesn't always fly. Sorry
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1. Why did he stop when we used to gab and chit chat frequently?
2. How do I recreate that old vibe?