Home Alone??
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by DyarStra?e on Tuesday, January 27, 2009 and has 11 replies.
I'm amazed at what people will put up with just to be in a relationship...
Is going home to an empty place really that bad?
"From what i have understood i think there are 2 type of people.
1st who is scared to be alone
2nd who is scared to be with wrong people."
really? no inbetween?
Might sound crazy coming from a Libra, but what about those people who are happy to be with themselves? Looking for love, yes, but alone and good for it?
1st who is scared to be alone
2nd who is scared to be with wrong people."
really? no inbetween?
Might sound crazy coming from a Libra, but what about those people who are happy to be with themselves? Looking for love, yes, but alone and good for it?
Is going home to an empty place really that bad?
Nope
I love it 
Even if I whine and cry about it, I still wouldn't have it any other way. My current boyfriend wanted a key and I said ... umm, no lol. No offense but I wouldn't want him there waiting on me lol!!!!
Nope
I love it Even if I whine and cry about it, I still wouldn't have it any other way. My current boyfriend wanted a key and I said ... umm, no lol. No offense but I wouldn't want him there waiting on me lol!!!!
I think it's worse to be miserable with the person you love than it is to be miserable all by yourself. When your miserable by yourself, your partner is supposed to come into your life to bring cheer, joy & to reassure you that things will be okay. But when the person who is supposed to bring joy to you brings pain, then that makes 2 miserable heads instead of just 1.
Some people would rather have someone just for the sake of saying they have someone, but if you're more hurt when you DO have someone than when you're single or alone, that makes the purpose of having someone pointless. It's no wonder people can be in a room of 40,000 people & still feel all alone. And it's because sub-consciousless, the reason for their constant need to have "something" is a void that can only be filled if self-respect & self love is accomplished on your OWN FIRST. But when people are not happy with themselves & believe that others are responsible for their own happiness, it's no wonder why insecurities, jealousy, envy, & that same "void" still shows up in the relationship even though you technically got what you think you wanted. When you're very vulnerable & are not in tuned with someone else, the relationship will never go as smoothly as we all deserve it to be.
If you can't enjoy yourself when it's just you & yourself, how can you expect for someone else to think you're the best thing smoking since sliced bread? It's true, when you refuse to love yourself, it's no wonder others refuse to love you as well. I firmly believe that people treat you the way you ALLOW them to treat you & it's the same with love. People love you the way you love yourself
Some people would rather have someone just for the sake of saying they have someone, but if you're more hurt when you DO have someone than when you're single or alone, that makes the purpose of having someone pointless. It's no wonder people can be in a room of 40,000 people & still feel all alone. And it's because sub-consciousless, the reason for their constant need to have "something" is a void that can only be filled if self-respect & self love is accomplished on your OWN FIRST. But when people are not happy with themselves & believe that others are responsible for their own happiness, it's no wonder why insecurities, jealousy, envy, & that same "void" still shows up in the relationship even though you technically got what you think you wanted. When you're very vulnerable & are not in tuned with someone else, the relationship will never go as smoothly as we all deserve it to be.
If you can't enjoy yourself when it's just you & yourself, how can you expect for someone else to think you're the best thing smoking since sliced bread? It's true, when you refuse to love yourself, it's no wonder others refuse to love you as well. I firmly believe that people treat you the way you ALLOW them to treat you & it's the same with love. People love you the way you love yourself
When I learned how to be happy & have fun all by MYSELF, I found myself sometimes enjoying my own company (get your mind out of the gutter people) more than the company of others. I'm not on this earth just for others to see the beauty in me. I'm here to see the beauty in myself first before I start advertising & putting myself on the market.
It's true when they say, "You're not sick, you're single." What's the point of having a companion that you only have by your side for all of the wrong reasons (whether it's them who is staying b/c of vulnerability & weakness or you)? There are somethings that should be done right or not at all. I want someone who compliments me, not makes me who I am. If the only time you feel you can "shine" is when someone else praises you all day, then that means you've got some serious personal issues you need to work on b/c 9 times out of 10, if you try to ignore your own vulnerability, it'll just come out & be put on the other person & the relationship will break apart in the long run anyways.
Allowing yourself to be miserable in order to be happy is something we like to call "false hope." A partner should bring out all of the strengths in you, not all of your vulnerabilities.
It's true when they say, "You're not sick, you're single." What's the point of having a companion that you only have by your side for all of the wrong reasons (whether it's them who is staying b/c of vulnerability & weakness or you)? There are somethings that should be done right or not at all. I want someone who compliments me, not makes me who I am. If the only time you feel you can "shine" is when someone else praises you all day, then that means you've got some serious personal issues you need to work on b/c 9 times out of 10, if you try to ignore your own vulnerability, it'll just come out & be put on the other person & the relationship will break apart in the long run anyways.
Allowing yourself to be miserable in order to be happy is something we like to call "false hope." A partner should bring out all of the strengths in you, not all of your vulnerabilities.
I'm amazed at what people will put up with just to be in a relationship...
Is going home to an empty place really that bad?
wonder about this regularly...
I mean you don't share the same blood, not family, what makes you stuck? what do you owe them? is it the regular sex? then who taught us to love like we do?
it's all BS really to me
Is going home to an empty place really that bad?
wonder about this regularly...
I mean you don't share the same blood, not family, what makes you stuck? what do you owe them? is it the regular sex? then who taught us to love like we do?
it's all BS really to me
"I mean you don't share the same blood, not family, what makes you stuck? what do you owe them? is it the regular sex? then who taught us to love like we do?
it's all BS really to me"
Exactly. Who started the "rumor" that not being able to love yourself but yet expecting someone else to, is real love? Why do we use the "L" word in the most reverse situations. "He hits me & he's possessive b/c he loves me." or "Even through all he's done wrong to me, I know he loves me." or "I know I'm in love b/c I can't live w/o him (literally)"
it's all BS really to me"
Exactly. Who started the "rumor" that not being able to love yourself but yet expecting someone else to, is real love? Why do we use the "L" word in the most reverse situations. "He hits me & he's possessive b/c he loves me." or "Even through all he's done wrong to me, I know he loves me." or "I know I'm in love b/c I can't live w/o him (literally)"
will be hard to put a % on it... it will be obvious if you ask people in relationships series of questions, that's when you get the ridiculous responses like krys's examples...
look on the boards again, you'll even see it ---- 'i can't or must do this because of sun sign' is a common example
look on the boards again, you'll even see it ---- 'i can't or must do this because of sun sign' is a common example
"will be hard to put a % on it... it will be obvious if you ask people in relationships series of questions, that's when you get the ridiculous responses like krys's examples..."
Speak for yourself. Don't throw me under the bus to make your response seem more credible than mine. Let others decide for themselves if they think my responses & examples are ridiculous. When I respond to something, I not ONCE have to add on to my post that "such & such" doesn't make sense b/c I let others be the judge of that. I can't hate on how you personally feel about my responses, but don't try to throw others under the bus just to make your point seem more valid
Speak for yourself. Don't throw me under the bus to make your response seem more credible than mine. Let others decide for themselves if they think my responses & examples are ridiculous. When I respond to something, I not ONCE have to add on to my post that "such & such" doesn't make sense b/c I let others be the judge of that. I can't hate on how you personally feel about my responses, but don't try to throw others under the bus just to make your point seem more valid
"I'm amazed at what people will put up with just to be in a relationship...
Is going home to an empty place really that bad?
wonder about this regularly...
I mean you don't share the same blood, not family, what makes you stuck? what do you owe them? is it the regular sex? then who taught us to love like we do?
it's all BS really to me..."
Word. I can do bad by my damn self. I understand your point Moon Eyes, in that it would be nice to have a person that you GENUINELY care about and WANTS to be there, as much as you WANT them to be there. With that being said, the grass to some is always greener on the other side. My married and "living with others" friends enjoy listening about my life, but I tell them there are pros and cons on both sides. What everyone needs to do is to be true to themselves and respect themselves; in turn, hopefully they will find someone that is great for them and respectful of them.
Is going home to an empty place really that bad?
wonder about this regularly...
I mean you don't share the same blood, not family, what makes you stuck? what do you owe them? is it the regular sex? then who taught us to love like we do?
it's all BS really to me..."
Word. I can do bad by my damn self. I understand your point Moon Eyes, in that it would be nice to have a person that you GENUINELY care about and WANTS to be there, as much as you WANT them to be there. With that being said, the grass to some is always greener on the other side. My married and "living with others" friends enjoy listening about my life, but I tell them there are pros and cons on both sides. What everyone needs to do is to be true to themselves and respect themselves; in turn, hopefully they will find someone that is great for them and respectful of them.
""Most days I can't wait to get home and be by myself. ""
same here. i've always been like that, and i'm enjoying it while i can. because i know someday (sooner than later), i won't have that luxury. bc i'm looking forward to having a husband and a house full of children, which means i'll have to sacrifice my love of solitude.
same here. i've always been like that, and i'm enjoying it while i can. because i know someday (sooner than later), i won't have that luxury. bc i'm looking forward to having a husband and a house full of children, which means i'll have to sacrifice my love of solitude.
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