How do you feel about compromises in relationships

Share with me your experiences on the topic.

You can't have a relationship, or partnership for that matter, without compromises. If you are in for the long haul, you have to adjust and make some compromises. What kind of compromises are talking about?

A compromise is when a person is willing to bend, or step outside of the box w/o having to lose their dignity in the process in order to contribute to the health of the relationship

And b/c people are different, have different needs, want different things & have their differences with you, it's especially important to compromise b/c doing so allows the other person to not only do the same for you but to also feel understood and that their needs/feelings have been heard & appreciated too

Compromising doesn't AND shouldn't mean changing who you are, losing your dignity, selling your soul or stooping to a level that is not becoming of you. Compromise is your way of showing someone better than you can tell them that although you may have your differences, you still consider their feelings, wants & needs just as important as your own. Compromise to an extent is settling, BUT not in the sense that you're having to lose your dignity, abandon your morals or change who you are for the other person.

When a person knows that you're willing to compromise, it sends the message that you are understanding, flexible, & selfless. These are all things that help the relationship stay afloat, hence the reason compromise is 100% required in any relationship. Compromise is your way of telling/showing your partner that you know realistically that no 2 people will be the exact same & that you're mature & loving enough to still do your part in keeping the relationship healthy as opposed to allowing your differences to separate yourselves from 1 another

Now if you find yourself in a relationship where all you do is compromise, then perhaps there are huge compatibility issues that may or may not ever close in gap.

Examples of compromise

1. A woman wants to spend every weekend with her man b/c those are her only days off. However, her man has always dedicated his weekends to his friends or some important hobby. The compromise: The man making time for BOTH to happen during the span of the weekend. He spends 1 day day with his woman so that her feelings have been acknowledged/heard and her needs have been met AND he spends the other part of the weekend doing what he's always done, which allows him to still feel a sense of freedom & love for other things outside of his woman & his relationship. Boom, both people are happy!

2. A man hates watching chick flicks but his woman hates watching the action/horror films that he watches. As a result, they both end up not spending any time together when either of them are in the mood to watch movies, which just takes away from the sense of closeness & quality time that every couple needs together. The compromise: They take turns watching the genre of movie that the other likes. The woman picks the movie that she likes & the man sucks it up & watches it not b/c he likes it but b/c he wants to give his woman the sense of closeness that she feels when they watch something together. Next time though, the man picks the movie. And from there they keep taking terms. BOOM, everybody's happy

3. A woman only feels the need to have sex once a week while her man feels the need to have sex every single day. The compromise: They both acknowledge that their sex drive is not necessarily reflective of how they feel about the other so neither take their differences personal. The woman acknowledges that he's a man & that most men need sex regularly, & that although she won't agree to have sex every day, she's at least willing to add 1 more day to the list that they have sex. The man acknowledges that his woman may not have the energy or the ability to have sex every day so instead of expecting it every single day, he subtracts a few days & learns how to please himself or deal with the days he's not getting any poo-tang! They come up with a day or two or three of the week that they both promise to have sex, no matter how stressed, tired or distracted they are. BOOM, everybody's happy

In all of these examples, neither person is abandoning their morals or identity, nor are they agreeing to do something that is impossible, undo-able, or unrealistic. And since the compromises made are most likely to increase the strength & intimacy in the rel

... And since the compromises made are most likely to increase the strength & intimacy in the relationship, it only makes sense to do what you've gotta do to protect & cater to the quality of the relationship. That way, everybody wins. Everybody's happy =)

Posted by AnnaPhototaker
Share with me your experiences on the topic.

Compromise comes but only after communication is established. Without communication..you have squat.

*don't have squat

Compromise is unavoidable and absolute. It has to occur in order to have any kind of healthy, even unhealthy, relationship. It is just a matter of how much, for who, and for what.

Can't be the only one doing it.